 The Narcissists just played themselves Yes, that's what we're going to be talking about in today's live video as you can see, I'm just at a park coming down and Just swing on these swings As you know, I like to do This helps me to relax And I think it's good for healing It's quite cold out here though I just arrived in Fukuoka, Japan earlier today And then I went to get something to eat picked up my car And I thought I'd come here to do this video today and what we're going to be talking about is how The Narcissists has just played themselves So this video is especially for those of you who feel like you've been played by the Narcissist And what that typically means What it comes down to is that You invested a lot of yourself Into this person You invested a lot of your time, energy, effort, money and resources And you feel like You were treated unfairly You weren't given a fair exchange And that's why I decided to make this video today To let you know that in fact Although the Narcissist thinks they've gotten away And they've got one over on you In actuality The truth is that they have played themselves And I know this all too well from my own experiences Because yes, I have been played on many occasions And to such an extreme You see the Narcissist comes in They gain access to your life They lie to you They manipulate you They sell you a dream They future fake So they're getting all of this value from you Maybe you're giving them a place to stay You're letting them use your stuff You're paying for their foods You're cooking, you're cleaning You're doing everything And they're not really doing anything for you But they future fake And they make you believe that if you just wait around Then at some point in the future you're going to get something back Something of equal value to what you're going to them They use the same trick every time And they stick around until they think they've drained you Until they think they've gotten everything that is good about you And then they just move on, they find a new supply They just discard you like you're nothing Yes, I know what that's like I know how it feels to invest everything you have into a person Because of course you're not seeing it as something temporary You were loyal and devoted to this person So you were thinking long term That's why you invested everything you had into them And they knew that's what you wanted Yes, of course they know They see it They see that we desire a long term relationship Maybe marriage, children, a family I'm sure many of you already revealed that to them And they made you believe that they were about it If they had told you from the beginning That there's no way that's ever going to happen And everything that you're investing in them Is just going to nothing You're not going to get anything back I'm sure many of you would have pulled out a long time ago You wouldn't have stuck around I know I wouldn't have But they made us believe in something long term Where they were going to be there for us Just as we were there for them And then they just drained us of everything we had Left us with practically nothing And then they just went and moved on to someone else They played us They conned us They tricked us And many of us we lose a lot A lot of our time Our energy Our resources We lose it all and we don't get anything back In fact all we get Is a lot of abuse Heartache Grief We're left to grieve this Person of who we thought they were And not only that but this relationship This future That we thought we were going to have And it looks like the narcissist Can just move on without a care So things are just getting better for them But here's the truth And many of you will know it You will realise it if you look back Because I know I do when I look back At the relationships that I've had With narcissistic people They came in and they thought that that was all you had to give So they took it and they ran off To someone else They didn't want to wait around So that you could continue to confront them And question what happened to Everything they promised So they left you Thinking that they got went over on you And a lot of times yes they did But they also played themselves Because in my own experience I looked back And it was the same thing every time Every narcissist that I dealt with They were thinking This is it, this is the end for you This is all you've got to give So they might as well just come in And take it and go off somewhere else Clearly they didn't realise It was only the beginning for me There's so much more to me I have so much more to give To share And yet they were thinking that that's all that it was That's all that I am When I was just beginning That was just the beginning of my journey So I could have been so much more for them And I would have stuck with them for life And we do, we tolerate a lot of the things that they put us through All of the abuse, the devaluation Many of them they lie, cheat, they steal And we still stick around We still put up with it And instead of blaming them we're just thinking How can I be better for you? What do I have to do to make you happy But they really push their luck Because when they see that we're tolerating it They just push us even more We can't take it anymore And then we walk out on them Or they just get fed up and they leave us But that's a mistake that they make Because their lives could have been so much better They thought they would get it when over on us But just look back, you know You will see it You will see it You will see it You will see it You will see it Everything you did for them If they had stuck around and given you Their loyalty and devotion just as you had given to them And they had put just a bit more effort in And reciprocated Something of Somewhat value to you You could have built something incredible together And they would have been set up for life They could have had a really good life with you Everything they thought they got from you They thought they did a good job on you But they could have had so much more If they had just tried to build you up Rather than breaking you down That would have been highly beneficial for them So not only did you lose out Because we have to accept that we did lose a lot But they also lost as well They lost a good person An empath Something very rare Someone who can actually see them And share their feelings and experience That's why you put up with the abuse for so long Because you empathized with them You were thinking that you could do more Because you could see that they weren't happy They were still miserable And it's very unlikely that they will ever find anyone like that again There aren't many people out there who would do what you did for them And yet at the time, look you for a fool They thought you were unwise Naive And you know what, maybe we were I look back and I think Yes, I was naive Yes, I was naive during that time But not because of my actions That wasn't the problem It's just that I gave it to the wrong person I gave my time, my energy, my resources To someone who didn't appreciate it To someone who thought that they could cheat me Get one over on me and run off to someone else When in fact, if they had stuck around They would have seen a lot more They would have got a much better deal And that is something I can 100% guarantee They thought they were living well with me They hadn't seen anything They hadn't seen anything at all If they had just treated me right If they had given me the love and respect that I deserved All of those narcissists that I dealt with I can 100% guarantee that they would have lived a very good life But would that have been enough for them? Probably not Because they can never be satisfied It doesn't matter how much you do It doesn't matter how much you sacrifice your life for them They're never going to appreciate you And they're never going to turn around and do that for you They're never going to reciprocate They don't want to do their work They just want to lie, manipulate and exploit people Because they look at it as though that's the best way that they can get As much as they can with as little effort as possible And they already know that the more they invest of themselves The more you're going to realize that it's just not even a fair deal Because they can't even meet you halfway And I know many of you will see this when you look back I mean you may not have thought about this before But it's very true When you look back at these relationships They really did play themselves They actually did for real I'm not just telling you this to make you feel better This is the actual reality I've seen it myself in my own experience When they came in, they cheated me They tricked me They ran off thinking But that's just as good as it gets When I actually had so much more to give And if they just treated me a little bit better There's a good chance I would have stuck around for life And I never would have left them Because that's what they wanted They targeted specifically a loyal person As they did with you Otherwise there would be no problem If they targeted someone who's not loyal Not devoted, someone who doesn't even care about anything We wouldn't all end up on these videos But this is how it happens Because they challenge this dream They know what we're about And they make us believe that they're about that as well But as I said, if you look back You will see that you could have done Even more for them If they had treated you right If they had reciprocated Even a fraction of what you were giving to them Then you could have done that much more for them But what do they do? They settle for the crumbs They could have had the full loaf But they chose to settle for the crumbs And do they ever realize this? Do they ever realize that they played themselves? There was a time before when I used to think That they do And deep down I know that they do realize that They can try to pretend as much they want But deep down they do realize it Especially when they see you move on And you're doing better without them That's why it causes Such a huge narcissistic injury And they come back and try to destroy you again Because of course, yes, they do realize What a big mistake they have made But they cover it with denial And they play the victim They start a smear campaign And they try to get everyone else to see the situation the same way And it's all just to protect their fragile ego Because deep down, yes, they do know the truth They know that they have played themselves If they had just treated you right all along And reciprocated even a fraction of what you were given to them It would have led to a far better situation for them It really would have and deep down they know that It haunts them It doesn't matter who they are Who they are There could be a psychopath Deep down they still have that shame It's still there No matter how much they try to No matter how much they try to project And shift the blame onto you Deep down they know that they have played themselves Especially when they see you moving on And you're doing better without them That's why they come back and try to destroy you again Because you become that reminder You're making them feel a lot of regret And they don't want to feel that So they come back to bring you down again So this is it, the real truth They do actually realize That they played themselves They know that they played you And that resulted in them playing themselves Deep down they know it But the ego can't take it So they just live in denial And they did play themselves Never forget that You could have been so much more to them You could have given them a far better life Than what they have Than by just coming around Deceiving you and then running off with someone else Because even that isn't going to last And it's very unlikely that they'll ever find anyone as good as you Don't forget to give this video a thumbs up down below If you're finding it helpful Very important as it does help the algorithm To get this message out there to other survivors of narcissistic abuse But let me know what you think about what I've said In the live chat below I will read out your comments and respond to them Let me know if you have any questions as well Insane asks, am I married? I'm actually not married now But as I've said in a previous video I was always that person I mean the first girlfriend I ever had I remember I was just 22 years old That was when I lost my virginity We both did to each other And already then I was ready to get married And then I discovered her entire family were narcissists They were really crazy And then I had a few relationships after that Each time I was still thinking about marriage And having a family throughout my 20s And I just kept running into these Very manipulative people Who were just playing me Treating me for recreational use They weren't taking me seriously So insane that's why Even now I'm 34, I'm still not married But you know I haven't given up hope And I never will give up hope because I know myself, I don't think I'm a bad person I really tried my best with a lot of people Maybe I gave too much more of myself than I should have In a lot of situations But it just reminds me If I'm this way then There's got to be other people out there in the world Who think the same way And aren't always Calculating what other people have And thinking how they're going to get So without them I like to think that there are Still people who Can just be themselves And have authentic experiences And not rushing things Just taking things slow And how it pans out I'd like to think that Because I'm that way And of course I want to give everyone else hope as well What I don't like is When I see in the comments sometimes People say that they have given up on dating I don't really want anyone To ever completely give up On love and relationships Because we should remind ourselves Of how we are How we were with these narcissists And we've got to think that There could be other people out there Who are like ourselves Rizwan Farhan Hamid asks Do you support Israel or Palestine? I can't really say I am completely Against war And any forms of unnecessary violence I'm a vegan I've been a vegan now for over four years And of course Even when I eat plants Vegetables It's still doing harm to the earth So even when I Eat vegan food I still pray in my mind So I don't really support anything to do with war Of course I understand There are wars going on And some countries out there Do need to defend their countries I don't really know too much about it But one thing I can say Is that I am anti-war And anti-violence Chris asks How do narcs feel about other narcs? Now that is a very Interesting question I mean I could probably do An entire series of videos Just on that topic My research Because Narcissists are very high In Cognitive empathy Although they don't feel Other people's pain or emotions As if it was their own What they do do Is They can read into other people They can read into their emotions Without feeling it So they already know straight away Yes believe it or not Despite what they may have Tried to get you to believe They already know who is The empaths Who is the narcissist They are already completely aware Of that information Of course that is how they Manage to coordinate So effortlessly with Other narcissists Other predators Because they already know Who is exactly like themselves And they already know Who they need to target That's how they do it so well It's the same dynamic No matter what part of the world You're from But you're asking how do they feel About other narcissists And I don't think they typically Like them so much They're kind of just objects That is pawns in this game of chess And I mean sometimes they could Idealize some narcissists And other times they could also Evaluate them as well It depends whether or not If they're doing What they want Because that's all the narcissist Really wants Is for people to do what they want And to act on their behalf So that will typically determine How they feel about them But as I've said before A lot of narcissists And quiet monkeys They won't be regular But believe it or not They don't actually like each other anyway They're just bonding over your destruction A lot of big questions In the live chat I'm kind of wanting To answer them But then I don't know If it's the right time I mean I just came here To this park Just been On the swings So I'm actually in more Of a light heart Than to get too deep Into some of these Questions Because some of them Are quite big questions here So my Carnature asks What is my astrological Sign When I was born in January So I am a Aquarius And actually I've seen Some comments before Some viewers already guessed That I am an Aquarius And their guess Was correct John Tracy Says their cold Can't wait to die Give the game away You know that's actually Very true And their eyes It's more It just seems like Dead But when you're dealing with someone Who is more empathic It's like you see a lot More life A lot more feeling In their eyes They just seem more animated And do you notice that In videos as well I say that Because I've seen it myself With some YouTubers That I'm subscribed to I can just look in their eyes And straight away I know exactly What type of person They are But I wasn't always So attuned to it And that's how I ended up Getting involved with So many narcissists And also because At that time Even though yes There were occasions In the past What I could look into A person's eyes And recognize That I was dealing with An empathic person At that time I wasn't actually Attracted to it I wanted to be the one Who is doing all of the work But now it has changed I am Looking for Relationships, connections That are more reciprocal And I believe that's what You should be looking for too Relationships should be 50-50 In terms of Effort Love Of time that you invest It shouldn't just be One person Who is doing all of the work It's good to see more People from India Watching these videos now I actually added some subtitles In Hindi To one of my Recent shorts And since then It has attracted a lot more Indian people to the channel Which is really good Because as I've said before I welcome people From all parts of the world Male, female Heterosexual Gay, transgender Under any age as well I accept everyone But it's getting late here And it's actually very cold At this time of night In Japan So I'm going to go And get something to eat And check into my hotel But there will be a premiere Beginning in a few hours And hopefully I will see you there as well So if you found this video helpful Please give it a thumbs up Down below Very important And let me know your thoughts In the comment section And reach a commentary day And hit that subscribe button And click the bell icon So that you will Receive notifications For my future videos And if you would like To book a one-on-one with me I am available to you You can go to my website It's Narcseviver.co.uk And also Follow me on Instagram You can send me a message It's Narcseviver YouTube I also have pictures and videos That I upload of my travels Every day on there Thank you all for joining me On another Narcseviver Live video And as always I look forward to talking with you In another one