 Najprve njih iskadam da vidam posebna čestnije i od aspekt na kolaško stavlije ovdje, no isto tako i od aspekt na govornikot, što tokmo to i govornik i tokmo na ta tema, na koje što gospodin od svema vaknenike zbori, deneske smo je sobrani ovdje. I derubajte mi su mu organizirali mnogu takvim nastavom. No temata koje što deneske ka je zborite, ka je zborime, ka je čujeme, ekskluziva od svecko nivog. Zato poveke normalno tje kaže gospodina cem. To što ja si om da kažem da je ka, ove gospodin mi je mentor more than 15 years. Friend, friend more than 15 years. Kanem i mentor. Vjetel da, no od nego mnogu učam veke 15 godin. Vi sam teka dure i poveke su. To je inčenje sve. Sivurno se da odminati od vek od 98 od 20. Poveki od 20 godini. I možem da vi kažem da ka na svecku nivog i ljadnici miljoni lugi učat od ovoj gospodini. Da ne dođam, kaj smo svajeve to i da si kažem se. I vam samo jedno da kažem. Mentor. Ima dve glabniji zadači za ono i koji će lo mentorirati. Znaenjeto. No, považno odznaenjeto je da go ochrabri ono i što uči. Soznaenjeto što go dobimo od gospodin vaktin, ja zbjedno je su ochrabe. Takada od toj spek oslušite gova predavanje i ve molom za jeden golem aplaus. Čto od ovdje počlila ne govoto novo e vego najalvom remake delom. Sim, please. Thank you. Look it up. We ended after hundreds of years of alleged progress, science, reason. This is where we ended. We ended here. We have wars everywhere. We have more refugees today than ever in history. 80 million. We have hatred between men and women. Gender wars. Relationships. We have antisocial behaviors. Anything from adultery to crime. We are not doing well. We are not doing well. We have failed collectively. And we have failed individually. And we are still failing. And it's getting worse by the day. On every level. Not only the pandemic. The pandemic will go away. Viruses come, viruses go. Unfortunately, we stay. So we are faced with a systemic failure. Something is seriously wrong about us. We are not getting things done properly. We are making absolutely mistaken choices. I think something in our decision making process had gone awry. And yet, we don't pay attention to the really important things. We live in a death cult. Our civilization had become a death cult. What is a death cult? A death cult is when you prefer objects to people. When you're emotionally invested in smartphones. In television sets. In expensive cars. In beautiful furniture. While at the same time neglecting and abandoning your spouse, your children, your neighbors, your community. We are living in a civilization that values. Objects and material positions. Over other people. Over human beings. A civilization that sacrifices human beings. To preserve material possessions. And so this is a death cult because material possessions, it may come as a shock to you. They're dead. They're dead objects. I've spent, I'm more known for my work on narcissism. My work on personality disorders, narcissism. This is what I'm known for. And I have tens of millions of viewers on my websites and YouTube channels and so on and so forth. And they are all focused on narcissism. I've taken a break from narcissism. And in the last year, I try to develop an answer or a solution to our predicament to our current state. Now that is very, very arrogant and very haughty to say that one can find a solution to the human condition. And narcissistic, of course, and grandiose. But I think each and every one of us should attempt to come with a solution. Each and every one of us should wake up in the morning and ask, how am I going to fix this? How am I going to fix this in my family, in my community, in my neighborhood, in my workplace, in my country? How am I going to fix this? It is not arrogant to ask this question. It is not even arrogant to give an answer. You don't have to have the right answer. You don't need to have the right answer. But you need to ask the question. You need to ask it. And today, together, we are going to focus on the questions and we are going to try to explore one possibility, one solution, one answer. It happens to be mine, so maybe it will not fit you. Maybe my answer and my solution would not be your answer and your solution and that's perfectly okay. But I hope to provoke in you the need to ask the question. Because we are all the walking dead. We live in a society of consumerism, short termism. We live increasingly more atomized, increasingly more isolated. Macedonia is a good case. The Balkans is a good case. I've just come back from a trip to Canada. I work with the United States. I teach in the outreach program of the best universities in the United States. The situation there is beyond hope, beyond hope. So this lecture, this conversation actually, it's not a lecture even, this conversation is about asking the right questions. Before we go into the discussion itself, I've spent the last year developing what I call the nothingness system or the nothingness philosophy of life. There's a new YouTube channel that I just opened where I'm posting the steps towards implementing this philosophy of life. There was a documentary made about my new system of philosophy. It was made in Zoran's office, Zoran Vitanov's office. The documentaries came here to shoot the documentary. And this is the first lecture ever given on the topic globally. It's the first lecture ever. So if we are making history or not remains to be seen, but we are definitely doing something unprecedented. Before I start talking to you, I would like to give you four images or five images. Let me keep them in your mind because we are going to revisit them time permitting. At the beginning you will not understand what I'm talking about and that's okay. Sometimes I don't understand what I'm talking about. There are two of us. But bear these five images in mind. We're going to come back to them. The first one. Each one of us is like an onion. We have layers and layers and layers. And the role of anyone who claims to have a solution or claims to ask the right question is to peel the layers of the onion. So you peel the first layer of the onion and the second layer of the onion and the third layer of the onion, layer after layer after layer, until there's no onion. People are very afraid of this process. People don't want to peel the layers of the onion because they are afraid that if they peel all the layers, nothing will be left behind. It's a terror of being self-aware. There's a fear of being self-aware. There's a fear of asking the difficult questions about yourself, your life, people around you, your choices and your decisions. This is peeling the onion. You don't want to peel the onion. You want to pretend that the onion is okay as it is, but it is rotting from the inside. You need to peel the onion. And don't be afraid. Because after you peel all the layers of the onion, one thing is always left behind. One thing is always left behind. The smell of the onion. The smell of the onion is you. This is your essence. Not the layers. The smell. And this will never go away. Never mind what you do. Never mind what you ask. Never mind what you discover. There will always be the smell of the onion. Your essence. Who you really are. Your identity. Do not be afraid to peel the onion. In western civilization we say, Christmas soon, at least for the Catholics, and so being a good Catholic, that I am, I'm a Jew. So we say, may all your dreams come true. It's a bad sentence. Because the dreams we have today, they are mostly focused on material objects. They are dead dreams. Our dreams are dead. We're going to talk about this soon. We are dreaming dead dreams. We are trapped in nightmares that used to be our dreams. So I want to suggest to you another sentence. Not may all your dreams come true, but may all your gifts come true. May all your gifts come true. Each one of you is a packet of gifts. You're not even aware of how many gifts are incorporated in each one of you. And so on this Christmas, forthcoming Christmas, may all your gifts come true. Not your dreams. Next thing. If you have the wrong key, and I want you to bear in mind this imagery, this imagery, because we're going to revisit it, yes? If you have the wrong key, never mind how many doors you have, you will never find the right destination. If you have the wrong key, never mind how many doors come across you in your life. You will never be able to open any one of them. It's not the doors that matter. The doors in your life do not matter. It's the key. You must not look for doors. All of us are looking for doors. Do not look for doors. Look for the right key. Once you find the right key, one day you will find the right door. You don't have the right key, no number of doors will help you. Next, think hard. Doubt everything. Doubt everything. Except nothing. Ask, don't answer. Ask, doubt. I'll give you an example. Right now, where do we have more information in a system that has order and structure or in a system that is chaotic and confused? Where do we have more information? Order. Who said order? All right. Who supports this answer? Number two, number three, four, five, many. Would you say that the majority think that where there is order, there is information? This is the majority view. It happens to be wrong. It happens to be completely wrong. And the reason you believe that, the reason you believe this is the correct answer is because you had been told that this is the correct answer. The state, for example, is telling you that you need law and order. You have been told, since this age, that order and structure are good for you, that rules are good for you, that this is the only place of safety and the only way you can extract meaning and information from the world. And yet, what you have been told since this age is wrong. Why do you still believe it? Because you are not asking questions. You are not doubting enough. This is a system with perfect order and structure. It has perfect order and structure. It is a messy system. A system with disorder and chaos. Would you agree that this system is more structured, more organized, more orderly than this system? You would agree. Where do we have more information? Where do we have more information? Here, 1 plus 2 equals 3. There is no information here. There is a lot of information here. Ask and doubt. Do not trust or believe. And finally, you have three choices in life. You can be, you can become, you can act. These are the three choices. Western civilization, the civilization you are embedded in. The civilization that made you who you are teaches you to act. So we act. You know the word business? Business. Business means busyness. To be busy. We think that acting, acting is the right way to live. We are told that if you don't go to work, you are lazy. You are slacker. Something is wrong with you. Action, action, action. In the marines, go, go, go. In Hollywood, action. It's all busyness. But this is not the only way to live. And it's most probably not the right way to live. We will discuss it a bit later. Because there is an alternative. Rather than acting, you should become. There's a big difference between the two. So with these images in mind, we can now start our conversation. I would like you to be a bit more alive and more reactive and more responsive. I would like you to challenge me, disagree, agree. Don't be passive consumers. Because you are sitting here as passive consumers. That's not the right approach. You will find no answers this way. Even if you are given the answers, you will not get the answers. You need to be participants. You need to become. This is the process of becoming. So I would ask you all to be a little more active. There is one biological species and only one that is willing to die for a story. Human beings are willing to sacrifice their lives for a story. They are willing to sacrifice their interests, their possessions, their loved ones and their own lives for a narrative, for a set of symbols. What is a nation state? What is the Republic of Macedonia? It's a story. It's just a story. What is a family? What is a football club? These are all stories. These are narratives. And people die for these stories. People paint a piece of fabric. They call it a flag. And they die for it. There is no other species that does this. No virus, no mammal, no fish. No other species dies for a story. We do. We do. We are willing to kill each other for a story. And so we live in artificial spaces. Our cities, our homes reflect stories, reflect our narratives. We take substances and materials and we mold them into stories. We are creatures of dreams. We are made of dreams. Do you know what is the percentage of information from the environment that reach your brain? What percentage of information from the environment reaches your brain? 100? Not even close. Yes, 5, exactly. 5% of the information from the environment from this whole, from this lecture it's good for you that it's only 5%. 5% reaches your brain. How much of this information is direct? How much of this information reaches the brain? As it is. As it is. No processing. Nothing. Get the information from outside it reaches your brain. How much do you think? Zero. Everything you see, everything you hear is processed by your brain and made into a story. Your brain has templates of stories and it fits the information that does come in. 5%. To se učinila 5% u storije. Sreći smo stvari. Sreći smo dvije. Sreći smo nekako realne. Sreći smo nekako realne i nije kontakt s realitijem. To je učinila. Kakošno te sreći da je učinila učinila, to je učinila. To je učinila. Pogledajte u mojih. Pogledajte u mojih. Pogledajte u mojih. Prosto bih da je učinila. Pogledajte u mojih. Pogledajte u mojih. Kakošno te sreći da je učinila. Pogledajte u mojih. Kakošno te sreći da je učinila, to smo mnogiće. To smo mnogiće. Očn Araženom dobro td. Očnod grana. Očnod grana mačno. Očnod grana mačno. Očnod grana mačno. Očnod grana mačno. ...Nar smreći, možete značiti je procedurej, značiti je procedurej, polačit je vapa malo na svom komunalku. Alko na svom komunalku. Možemo se ovaj tješu čelj, je namo Victor Franco. Victor Franco je psychologi, On je tu nekako čest, učin Heaven da je psychologi, tako tad je ti da je tako od Shiwicom, je ti došao u Shiwicom i se je svojevično kažel u Shiwicom po 3,5 srp. Niske nešto se brala u Auschwitz kako se bila množelji. Nikon nisu. Viktor Frankl brala u 3,5 ljudi. Kako se zavljeli Auschwitz, se jako svišan svišan svišan svišan svišan svišan svišan svišan, zgleda Logo Therapij. Viktor Frankl brala, da se ona se pomisla u Auschwitz, ali je ona se oprejdešte u Auschwitz, značivite. Značila to u zahvalo s značim. Žeš, da je za to značite u vratu u Auschwitz. Značila mi se da se odložimo, da se pravda onda je bilo. I da se dačimo, da se je hodnimo. Imo u nekih nekaj cirkumsansu. Ima moj življeni znači. Znači je najbolji stav i življeni. ušlično je nekočne dano, da Frankl nekaj nekaj nekaj nekaj nekaj nekaj u Auschwitzu. On nekaj nekaj nekaj nekaj nekaj nekaj nekaj nekaj na Auschwitzu, ima imu i imu sam učiniti za 3,5 ljubi. Čutavno je to najmogu tega. A kad nekaj imamo imu, reorganizacimo življenje učiniti. Uživajme znači, uživajme znači. Kada je ovo? Kada smo uživili znači, vrlo je strukačio, uživio je organizirat, svoje symboli je u svim sve, svoje signale je koristio, svoje strukače smo štočno, i početno se nije onomo šok. Šok, kojiša, šok, kojiša, Pundim, šok, učinit u vrloži, u koji učiniti u vrloži. To je proces, dokonal, na svoju 40-u. To je učinit u vrloži. To je učinit u vrloži. Koji su učiniti u učiniti? Vrloči je učinit. Nije odvrdu, nije odvrdu, nije stručnji. Relativno, je to grin. Najboljih kod pradu je... Can you think of another condition where this is happening? All of you had this condition in your life... ...without any shock. Can you think of something similar? A nightmare. What is happening in a nightmare? What is happening in a nightmare is frightening because the nightmare has no meaning, za njih rodu, za njih strušnja. A ne liže dobiti i b je dobro. Zato je našto nekaj reč, nekaj nečešno a poštivno. Kada uvanje očinu uvanje, uvanje proštivna šok, da svima pandemija, uvanje, nekaj reč, našto nekaj reč našto nekaj reč našto nekaj reč, i reakcijamo to samo, reakcijamo surrealistiskom do tajnog življavnog konditionu. To je svoje reakcije. Znači, to je lakča, to je svoje lakče filosofije. I svoje lakče, imam da ćuš da možete svoje lakče. Češta je nekočin, nekočin pravda, nekočin, nekočin. A da učin učin, da se je nekočin, da se je nekočin u filosofiji i psychologiji i ovdje. Nisam njih da se nekočin učin. Nisam njih da se nekočin učin učin učin učin. Zatakam, da se nekočin učin učin, da se nekočin učin učin, nisam njih, njih nekočin. Nadsam sam učin učini učin u工a, nekočin učin!子 kada uneasyščetaan učin učin učin učin u černo kvali od krku. Ču budu očin učin. Kada učin učin, namoče to laji pozite, da se lahko połavno reakuje na svalim consol nam Lechniji. Evo je povrstavno individualizm. Evo je povrstavno individualizm. Jeguši nrvom. Jeguši nrvom disempathijsku. Jeguši nrvom u svog njega. Ještje smo prišli na se, na svom krise, na svom živom, na ovom mladu. Ještje svoj mladu. Prvna reakcija na svog nrvom živom je učinno nrvom. Učinati, učinati, ne znači o drugim ljudi, znači o svojom i učinati ještje. Učinati je učinati optimijskom. Učinati individualism, učinati optimijskom. Reakcija s odmahom. Sdje počinati učinati, da se ne znači optimijskom, ne pasimism, optimijskom, sdje počinati. Sdje se nisu očinati, sdje očinati o svojom, znači bude bilo našli dobro. Vi ćećem da se dvetu očina. Sve solusti koja pa je od ce, i zavlice i otvoriti počinati. Prvo sve se učinati skupn-natura, učinati u kvaliti. zazve se uklavili u stavljenje ljubovog kontrolu. Sve su začali se ta svata, ta univers, ta diviniti, ta entiti, kakošnja, kakošnja, kakošnja, kakošnja, da se dovoljimo problemu. To je malignan optimizm. To je druga reakcija tipika. Trvi tipika reakcija je malignan tijegalitarijanism. Malignan tijegalitarijanism je da se koja je zelo ovakom, koja je ovakume potječnji. Zaten� da ješli učinji... kakoštiti učinji, da ješli zašto påvrati godu, da tvoj poživljete odćućni flash. Zato su prijatelom svoj poživljanoveno poživljenja je baviti jednom početinjemu. Zbog. Boru odljavu. So je biliša, da ja više igrajam poživljenje,��run illness molignant egalitarianism yes i as much pauras anyone else NOON Has any advantage over me so knowledge, information, education, erudition, experience, wisdom, age they don't give anyone an advantage because everyone is equal to everyone Sve nekto odreda, su da su način, da je dobro, da je dobro. Sve sve se dobro ju znašta, da je dobro. Sve nekako sam učinu, da je dobro, da je dobro. Sve nekako je dobro i sve nekako se dobro učinu, da je dobro učinu, da je dobro je... ...način, da je dobro. I ovdje je dobro. Ne znam, da ne daš to se dobro. Trebunje je, nije nekaj trvi, a nije nekaj fakta, nije opinične. Kada tvoja svoja sreća se učinila, tvoja sreća se, da ti možete sreći, da ja tvoje sreći. Tvoja sreća se, da ja tvoje sreći. Sreća je sreća opiničnja. Nije noćnog odvijednja. Tvoja sreća se učinila, a tvoja sreća se učinila totalna mistrustu. Misljavljati u experti, misljavljati u otoriti, misljavljati u svojima. Malignan degalitarijanism, ljudi u svojima. So, amerikanski ne visi doktor Fauči, znači, da ima maske i da se vaksiniraju. Znači, da je ono ljudi, ljudi experti na virusu. Nema na ovom malu opinitavom, ne visi odljavili. Ljudi je nekoj ljudi, znači, da ima maske i da se vapite. Nesa i da znači, da se vapite, da se vapite. Winići, se pošteni, conventionalno, Kada je ekstenalna šok, to je dva reakcija, dva reakcija, i ovdje imam da je dva malignanske. Malignan individualizm, malignan tegalitarianizm i ljudec je malignan tolerans. Malignan tolerans je, vrlo je, vrlo je ok. To ne je valijednji, ne je standar, ne je kriterija. Zanimu je to, da se malo mali. Zanimu je to, da se malo malo, je to kada se malo, ne se standar. If you don't harm other people, you can do anything you want. Even if you harm other people, sometimes it's ok. For example you can refuse to take a vaccine and infect other people and it's perfectly ok. I'm giving an example, but there are many others. Tako malignančnog tolerancija je ljuda libertarianismu, koji sada, da svoje učinje i svoje učinje je učinje. I tako, svoje učinje svoje učinje je učinje i učinje. Svoje učinje je učinje. Pogledajte se učinje svoje učinje. Pogledajte se učinje. Pogledajte se učinje svoje učinje. Pogledajte se učinje. Pogledajte se učinje ruš Leaflandu, abo sle privo razdo dva NDLEIKĆI. Taki je malignančnog tolerancija. Pošte皆i reakciju queri so Lessa da je etnomija kend Arduinovaacijima. Pogledajte se u ovom paču, to je vrta paču. Pogledajte se o psychologiju, o historiju, o sociologiju i tako. Pogledajte se u svog paču, kako je u ovom paču. Pogledajte se u svog paču, kako je u svog paču. Pogledajte se u svog paču, kako je u svog paču, kako je u svog paču. Anomi. Zdaj, kako smo mali hranali ilignanci, uvrta, da smo, nekako, vrte dalje. Zdaj, 2 minuta Trika. Vini s ramah vrte. Vrte發u se odkazati. Sm konci ne živaju in realitina, živaju ima da v ramah vrti, živaju egaciji u tdičke. To vrte da je izgleda. Tu nemoja escadnora. Skatnika je najm返stvo na ramah. Šoks, kao pandemiju, war, gendarne relacije, što šoks, kolapsov da familije, što što ono šoks, značujem značenje. Značujem realitavno, značenje. Značujem storiju značenje. Pogledajte značenje, nešto značenje. Značenje, značenje. Značenje, značenje. Značenje, značenje. Kada je nešto značenje, je ništa reakcija. Malignanske. Malignan individualism. Malignan tegalitarijanism. Malignan tolerans. Kada je 4? Malignan optimism. To je ništa reakcija. Značenje, značenje. Značenje, u socaitiju, u socaitiju, kada svoje sve reakcije značenje, u socaitiju, Anumi je način opatio Emil Dukheim. Emil Dukheim je sociologijist about 120 plus ljudi. I nešto nekaj da se stavila, da je žličnj, i se je nešto značenje. Anumi je kada socaitiju značenje, reakcija, normativne valice, značenje, stavljene, i svoje socaitiju značenje. Kada se stavila u Vajma Republic, prije nasičići svojom, je Anumi. Kada se stavila u Macedonija i formu Yugoslavia, imeditvno u sočalizmu, je Anumi. Kada se stavila u Rasa, u kolapsu komunizmu, je Anumi. Kada se stavila u Usočiji i u Usočiji, je Anumi. Anumi je socaitiju, značenje. Socaitiju značenje. Kada se značenje svojom, reakcija, značenje, značenje. Kada se značenje, značenje. Anumi je značenje. Značenje. Značenje. Značenje. Značenje. Značenje. Značenje. Oni private svih rodjami ne su dobro prijevanje. On je dobro prijevanje. Pobjenil mu. Prijevanje je kata klizim svojom, da je po objevanju. T returni po private svih rodje, su dobro prijevanje, To se tu daš, OK, znašte stavljeni, ale moja njišta je stavljeni. Moja njišta je stavljeni, moja profesija je stavljeni. Mamo stavljeni od učinu, moja klub, moja svevita. Moja svevita je stavljeni. Kada je , neće ni stavljeni, se kako učinu, sve se videmo stavljeni. Kako se stavljeni, se stavljeni od učinu. Vrljeni govom. To je stavljeni. da se je znači. Što se sveče? Kada neću, da se je znači njih nekako. Kada znači znači kroz uvijednog, i uvijednog, je to početno. To je početno. Pogleda se početno, početno se početno, početno se početno se početno, ljubi, početno se početno se početno, no, da se čepune. K blanketši kađemo negoup tuto, na 10 minutaa, ne bohš mogu, nam guća se odvijae puni. Treinta je我觉得i je gemuću, ne podageš spinu koji koji se mama u celu. Tomu直接 ovd skinny ne bogu mogu vetervo. Danes? Ten minuta. Tis [(hado se početno sjeki, uz πυ δ violet). Je to του,​ Kada je odmah učinit, učinit, i učinit, to smo učiniti Anomi. I kako smo dobro, da smo učiniti Anomi? Kako smo učiniti? Emil Dukheim odvijedila buk. I buk je sujicij. Emil Dukheim znači, kad socijati svoj nječi učinit, nisam da je učinit rejt sve sveliči načinit. Ovdje alio, ovdje iliči. Svijedna soja je glasba morača, konšta, treba toman, da suš svoj borna ljubrije 35. Svijedna svoj borna ljubrije 2008 i 2018 suš svoj borna ljubrije 40 i 50% svoj borna ljubrije 25. Suicijna je uvršta pandemijka u svog sviju sviju. Dlje? Protože smo u stavu Anomi. U stavu Anomi je izvijedna mladom svijavim sviju sviju sviju. Šta je ljuda u njevanu historiju, da smo ne mali uvrštiti ljubim šok, nema nema njećno kolektive Anomi, ali smo je globalni Anomi. Global Anomi i smo značili svoje znate. Sve značili svoje znate. Sve značili religijnu, sve značili familiju, sve značili komuniju, sve značili stavljenje, sve značili svoje znate. Sve značili svoje znate. Svoje znate nemoja stavljenja. Svoje stavljenje are u stavljenju massivni, unmitigavljenju, unmitigavljenju, unmitigavljenju, nautakljivna. Sve svoje znate. Sve znate. Sve znate. Sve znate mentalne svoje znate. Sve znate fizikve svoje znate. Sve znate socialne svoje znate. Sve znate. Sve znate da se sveti ovo tato da si u vrstku, da se sveti ovo sa njehovo. Ovo da se u vrstku, the head. This is the easy way. Many of us are already dead. Many of us here in this hall are already dead. They don't acknowledge it maybe, or they know it and they're hiding it. We had committed suicide in three ways, not one. For example, by drinking this coffee. Pogledajte svoj suga, ovo ćeš zaštaviti. Zogan, znajte još bolj. Pogledajte možete nešto uvijedati me od ovdje lektu. On je već praktivnji. Pogledajte malo. Ako uvijedati me uvijedati u ovdje lektu, to je uvijed. Ovo je način. The truth is that in my view, and I'm a professor of psychology in many countries and I'm 26 years in the business of psychology, in my view the majority of humanity today had already committed suicide. It's the zombie apocalypse, absolutely. And there are three types of suicide, social, mental and physical. Social suicide is when you avoid people, when you stay at home and you watch Netflix all the time. Social suicide is when you don't interact with people, don't connect with people, don't support people, don't have empathy for people. And so you are self-sufficient technology, technology is helping you because if you have technology you don't need anyone. And if you don't need anyone because you have everything in your hand, you know, why to waste time on anyone. So we all commit social suicide. I've just been in Canada and I've been in a building and the building was constructed to avoid contact between people. I could see the mind of the architect, of the engineer, of the building, constructing it to avoid contact. One day I went out the door, this is your story, I went out the door and a guy came from, opened the other door with a small dog and the guy said, oh my God, I'm so sorry, excuse me, and he ran back into the apartment. He apologized for invading my space. This is the West, atomization, atoms floating in air. Do you know that in 2016 was the first year, the first year where the majority of men and women did not see the opposite sex, did not have a single meeting with the opposite sex, 54% in the United States and Canada. I'm talking about the United States and Canada because ladies and gentlemen, when it comes to the future, you're all Americans, we are all going there. You want to see the future, take a trip to Canada, that's the future. So social suicide, that is for me social suicide, mental suicide. Mental suicide is similarly, when you're no longer emotionally present, for example you're not emotionally present in your relationships, you're absent, you're detached, you're not interacting with people who should be important to you, with your loved ones and so on, you withdraw, you avoid, that is mental suicide. How many marriages are like this? How many marriages are like this? Where the two parties are dead. It's a marriage in a cemetery, many marriages. According to official statistics, 21% of marriages are sexless. The real figure of course is I think 60% or more, at least. Sex is life, at least with me. Sex is life, it's giving up on life. So mental suicide, social suicide and of course physical suicide. We cannot digest this reality, we cannot accept it, we cannot confront it. We don't want to hear about it, we don't want to hear about it. Some of you are pissed off, you came here to have a good time, because Zohan always give you a good time, and he puts on stage an old Jew who is telling you you're dead. What the fuck, you know? But you need to hear this to come alive. If you want a religious metaphor, Jesus would have never been resurrected had he not first been crucified. You need to die in order to resurrect. And there is no form of dying more profound than self-awareness. So this is the exercise we are doing today right now. We can't confront reality, so we deploy, we employ, we use something called psychological defense mechanism. Psychological defense mechanism was first described and discovered by another Jew, Zygmunt Freud. Zygmunt Freud was the first to describe psychological defense mechanism. What is psychological defense mechanism? It's when you falsify reality, when you lie to yourself about reality, when you make reality more acceptable, more palatable, when you reframe reality, when you redesign reality to allow you to survive, when you make it more acceptable, when you create a narrative or a story that lets you somehow survive, because if you were to face reality, really, without defense mechanisms, none of you would be here. Long time ago. Defense mechanisms are filters, they are membranes, they help us to cope with reality. Now, in a state of anomy, remember, anomy is when you cannot find meaning inside and you cannot find meaning outside. So you're in a meaningless state. The first thing you do as human beings, when you're in a meaningless state, in anomy, you try to restore meaning. You try to create meaning. I want you to understand, it's like hunger. It's exactly like hunger. You're hungry, you try to find food. You're thirsty, you try to find something to drink. So it's the same with anomy. You have no meaning. You try to find meaning. You cannot find meaning. You make up meaning. You create meaning, because you can't survive ten minutes without meaning. And there are three ways to create meaning. Psychoticism, narcissism, and nothingness. Psychoticism is when we create meaning or restore meaning by totally divorcing reality, by creating alternative reality, virtual reality. So we create another reality, another universe, another world, and we go there. And we say, this is reality, not this, this. This what I had just created is reality. What I left behind, what I cannot cope with, what I cannot survive in, that's not reality. Psychoticism has many manifestations, not all of them bad, not all of them bad. For example, creativity is psychoticism. When you create something, when you make a movie, when you write a book, when you write an article, when you make a business, when you create a business, whatever you create, you're making another world, you're making alternative world. So you're creating meaning. If you start a new business, the new business is giving you meaning. You have a reason to get up in the morning, you're planning all the time, you're thinking all the time, you're proud of your accomplishments. If you lose money, you lie to your wife. It creates a lot of, so it creates meaning. Creativity is a form of psychoticism. Why? Because it takes you away from reality. It takes you away from reality and puts you in an imaginary universe. I can tell you because I wrote books, I wrote books of short fiction and so on. When I write short fiction, I'm not in this world. I'm in my stories with my characters. I don't remember the world. So I think, I'm sorry, another Jew, I don't know what's wrong with these people. So I think, was a famous psychologist, I think suggested that all creative people are on the verge of madness. They're almost crazy. So he said psychoticism, creativity is a form of psychoticism. They're almost crazy people. In other words, genius and creativity are on the border of madness. And in some cases, they cross over. Mi, for example. So creativity. Another example of psychoticism. Religion. What do you do in religion? You invent an entity. You invent an entity. You invent a whole story around this entity. And then you pretend that this entity is real. This entity has a name. It's called God. Religion is a form of psychoticism. It's a creative act. Because we create a narrative. We create a story. And then many of us pretend that it's very real. So we create an alternative universe, an alternative world. And we go there. And this alternative story gives us meaning. So religion is a form of psychoticism. Another form is known as magical thinking. Magical thinking. Magical thinking is the belief. That if you think about something, it will happen. Simple. When you're a child, magical thinking is very common in childhood. Children have magical thinking. So children, for example, feel very guilty if something bad happens. A divorce or something bad happened to father or to mother. They feel very bad. Why they feel bad? Because they thought about it. And the child says, I thought about it. And my thinking made it happen. This is magical thinking. But when we grow up, we are supposed to lose magical thinking. It's supposed to stop, unless you're a politician, of course. So it is supposed to stop. And if it continues into adulthood, it's one of the main pathological symptoms. We use it to diagnose. So magical thinking. But when we have anumi, when we can't find meaning inside and we cannot find meaning outside, we develop magical thinking. Did you hear? Any of you are acquainted with the secret? The secret, right? Or if you just think about it strongly enough, it will happen. The universe will rearrange itself and deliver what you want. Or all you have to do is think really hard about what you want and it will happen. Or I don't believe in coincidences. This and this happened for a reason. This is magical thinking. This is a magical thing. So when you hear, even I went to listen to a Tony Robbins lecture in Moscow. Don't ask, $900. And most of the lecture, I would say 90% of the lecture, is not a Jew and he charged $900. Had he been a Jew, it would have been $9000. So that's why he's not getting very far in life. So most of the lecture, what I heard, was magical thinking. Most of it. He said, you know, there's a giant inside you. If you don't just focus, things will happen. The universe will arrange itself and you will get it delivered. It sounds a little like Amazon drone, you know. If you think very hard, Amazon drone will come and deliver the package or something. So this is magical thinking. If these go too far, if these go too far, again, this is very complex. So from time to time I will stop and make an anatomy. The first, there are three solutions to anatomy. One of them is psychoticism. Psychoticism, examples of psychoticism, creativity, religion, magical thinking. If these go too far, we have a mental health condition, a medical condition called psychosis or psychotic disorder. Now, the second solution is narcissism. In psychoticism, in psychoticism, what am I doing? I'm taking something from inside my head and I'm making it reality. Right? Right, you should say right. In narcissism, I'm doing the opposite. I'm taking something out there and I'm putting it in my head. So narcissism is the mirror of psychoticism. There was a famous psychologist, Otto Kernberg. Yes, of course he was. Otto Kernberg and he suggested that narcissism is a form of psychosis, is a mental illness that is very similar to psychosis because the psychotic and the narcissism, they're doing the same. They're confusing the mind with reality and reality with the mind. They're in total confusion about what is in and what is out, what is internal and what is external. But the psychotic takes his mind and puts it on the world. And the narcissist takes the world and puts it inside his mind. It's simple. Why does the narcissist do that? Because when he puts the world inside his mind, he can control the world. And then when he can control the world, he can rearrange the world like a story and that gives him meaning. So if I'm a narcissist and you are out there, I cannot control you. I cannot also tell you what to do. I cannot arrange you to produce meaning. But if I internalize and interject you, these are the clinical terms. If I internalize and interject, if I put you inside my mind and then I play with you inside my mind, I can make you do anything. And as I make you do anything, I produce meaning. So the psychotic mistakes his mind for the world. Everything is happening in his mind, but he thinks it's happening out there. The narcissist mistakes the world for his mind. Everything is happening out there, but he thinks it's... Everything is happening in here, but he thinks it's happening out there. So there is a mirror image. Narcissism is a second solution. The best solution and the only solution. These are sick solutions. These are pathological solutions. Anything that takes you away from reality. Listen well, because this applies to politics. This applies to relationships. This applies to business. This applies to everything and anything and everything and anything. Anything and anyone that takes you away from reality is not good for you. A great definition of mental illness is losing touch with reality. Or anyone who makes you lose touch with reality, or anything that makes you lose touch with reality, is making you mentally ill. Do not allow anyone or anything to make you mentally ill. Kling to reality. And there's only one way to do that. It's not narcissism, because narcissism, you're confusing real with internal. It's not psychoticism, because there is the same confusion there. It's an illusion. Psychoticism, creativity, religion, magical thinking. These are all delusions. They're all fake. They're all lies. Same with narcissism. It's an illusion. It's a delusion. It's fake. It's a lie. It's self-deception. Sometimes no one is lying to you. You are lying to yourself. But self-deception is even worse than a lie. Because a lie you can defend against. Self-deception, you are cheating yourself. You are your worst enemy. Don't allow this to happen. And the only way to cope with anome, only way to cope with anome, without self-deceiving, is what I call, actually not I, but in many traditions it's called nothingness. Nothingness is the foundation of all major philosophies and all major religions. And it is absolutely shocking. It's absolutely shocking that after 5,000 years of religion and 5,000 years of philosophy, we are here. Because if we are here, we hadn't been listening to any philosopher and any prophet and any leader, any thought leader. If we are here today on smartphones and with our cameras and with our cars and if we are in this death count, it means we had not been listening. Because all philosophies and all religions tell you the same. Nothingness. Even, for example, if you take Islam, not a popular religion in this room, I assume, but if you take Islam... It was a terrorist act. Even if you take Islam, the word Islam in Arabic, in literary Arabic, the word Islam means submission, subordination, acceptance, submission via acceptance. Nothingness. Buddhism, nothingness. Daoism, nothingness. Nothingness. Existentialism, it's not a religion, it's a philosophy. Nothingness. All major systems of thought reject narcissism, reject psychoticism and encourage you and recommend to you to adopt nothingness. Who is listening? No one. We have wasted thousands of years of brilliant minds which no one listens to. So it's not some vacuum. It's, you know, bigger minds. Well, some of them were not Jewish, unfortunately. It breaks my heart, but, you know. What is nothingness? And now we are beginning to come. We are beginning to come to the practical part. When people hear nothingness, they say, oh, it's a bad philosophy because it means to be nobody. I should be nobody. I should do nothing. I should not endeavor. I should not create. I should not initiate anything. I should be lazy. I should be static. I should not attempt anything. I should be a nobody and I should do nothing. Of course, that is not nothingness. That's the opposite of nothingness as we shall see. So to clarify one thing in advance, the word nothingness is very unfortunate. It's very unfortunate. It's translation mainly from Asian languages and it's very bad. It's not about being nothing and it's not about doing nothing. It's exactly the opposite. It's a lot of work. It's about choosing to be human. Choosing to be human because as Jordan Peterson keeps reminding us, you have another option. You can choose not to be human. You can choose to be a lobster. Yeah. So Jordan Peterson took a lobster and developed a whole system around it and deriving from natural laws and natural observations of nature. He suggested that people should go back to basics and essentially become glorified lobsters, lobsters with intelligence, those of us who have intelligence. So nothingness is about not being a lobster but being human. The minute you say this, you reject everything nature has to offer you. The idea of nature is a seriously bad idea. Why is it a bad idea? First of all, there's no such thing. There's no nature and us. We are nature. Everything we do is nature. This is nature. This speaker is nature. We're all nature. This difference, this distinction between us and nature, it's biblical and it led to the destruction of the planet. This led to the destruction of the planet. When we stopped regarding ourselves as part of nature, we felt legitimized to exploit nature because it's not us. So first thing, there's no such thing as nature. And the second thing is nature sucks. Nature is bad. Nature is ugly. As some writers said nature is red in tooth and claw. You don't want to be natural. You don't want nature. Nature is cruel, unremitting, unforgiving. Nature has no empathy. Nature has no imagination. Who wants to be natural? It's a seriously bad idea. We should spend all our lives as human beings elevating nature. Not divorcing nature. You can't divorce nature. You're part of nature. But elevating nature. Elevating nature not only in relationship between ourselves, but in relationship with nature itself. In relationship with animals, for example. We should elevate nature. We should not accept nature, but we should transform nature by exploiting nature. But by making nature more human. Who wants to be a savage? In the 18th century there was a guy Jean-Jacques Rousseau, not a Jew, shockingly, and Jean-Jacques Rousseau came up with a noble savage. To be a savage is to be noble. To be a savage is to be barbarian. To be a savage. And stupid and ignorant. And cruel and sadistic. Who wants to be a savage? There's nothing noble about being a savage. And there is nothing noble about being a lobster. And we should spend every minute of the life given us to not be lobsters. So suffering suffering is the opposite of life. Suffering is about shunning suffering, avoiding suffering, suppressing suffering. We should fight suffering and we should promote and pursue happiness. All the current philosophies of the big thinkers I'm mentioning Jordan Peterson, he's one of many, but Peterson is one of the most prominent. His philosophy is shocking to me. Because he advocates reactionary moves becoming more natural in the best sense of the word, hierarchy and so on. And he promotes suffering. This is sick. The man is sick. His philosophy is sick. Life is about fighting suffering, eradicating suffering and promoting the opposite of suffering which is happiness. Number three, nothingness is about networking, not hierarchy. Hierarchy is a very new invention. Our species, Homo sapiens is about one million years old. Hominins, Neanderthals, Promanions, others are about 3.6 million years old. The first hierarchies were invented 5000 years ago. These are new inventions, very new. There were no hierarchies among hunter-gatherers. Hierarchies came into being when we established cities. It's part of urbanization and it was a massive, massive mistake which cost huge numbers of lives and brought on big suffering. Nothingness is about dispensing with hierarchy and instead promoting networks. Networking is about collaboration, about equality of power, about synergies, about emergence, the emergence of creation and about happiness. So the third element in nothingness is network not hierarchy. The next element nothingness demands that you put clear boundaries in the world. Do not confuse the two and do not assume that you can be the world and the world can be you. Where you end, the world begins where the world ends, you begin. So firm boundaries. We'll go into all this a bit later. The most important element in nothingness, most important, you must exercise the world from within you. We are all contaminated with the world. The world is like a virus. It infiltrates you. It replicates inside you. It contaminates you and it makes you sick. Exercising the world like some kind of demon. Exercising the world from within you expelling the world the world from within you is the path to health. Mental health and mental happiness. So nothingness is about making firm boundaries between you and the world and then throwing the world out of you. Purifying yourself but purifying yourself or cleansing yourself not in the religious sense but reducing yourself to your essence. That's why we call it nothingness. You don't grow It's not a process of big bang which is psychotic but you contract. You peel the onion. You remember the onion? You peel the onion. You contract and contract. You shed one layer. You shed another layer. What your mother told you. What your teachers told you. What the state told you. What authorities told you. And of course what Sam Vaknin told you. Become minimal. Small. Self contained. You become your essence. This process which I will describe a bit later is at the core of nothingness. You shed the world. Inside your mind inside your mind there are many voices. These voices are known as introjects. There's a voice of your mother. There's a voice of your father. There's a voice of teachers. Peers. Influencers. Media figures. Important thinkers. Many voices. Your mind is like a cacophony of hundreds of voices and they compete with each other. They contradict each other. They tell you what to do. They tell you what not to do. Some of these voices have a name. Conscience. We call them conscience. There is no noise in your mind all the time. You think it's quiet in there because you have learned to live with these voices. You habituated yourself. You developed the habit of living with these voices. But these voices are not you. These voices are not you. They come from the outside. These voices are the agents of the world inside your mind. These voices are the world reaching inside your mind and playing with it. These voices are not you and they're not healthy. And they don't allow you to ever become you. They don't allow you to find your essence and your identity. A crucial part of nothingness is getting rid of these voices. One by one and all together. Until finally, finally there's one voice left. The voice that you cannot get rid of. Never mind what you do. You cannot get rid of this voice. Because this voice is you. Nothingness is about finding the single voice. The single voice that is you. Differentiating it with hundreds of voices that are not you. Voices from advertising, voices from the government, mothers and fathers and all these voices. Just taking them and dumping them in a trash and remaining with a single voice. The big prophets of religion succeeded to do exactly this. Someone like Jesus, even someone like Muhammad, they succeeded to do this. They called it the voice of God because at that time there was no vocabulary, like me. So they didn't have the words to describe this single voice. But someone like Jesus remained with a single voice. Only one voice was talking to him. There was 40 days in the desert where he heard a few voices. That was Satan. That was the devil trying to confuse him. Same with Muhammad by the way. Same experience, same with Moses. In the Bible, Elijah, Elijah the prophet talks to God. Actually God talks to him. And Elijah is standing and there's a big fire and Elijah says, you are in the fire. No, that's not God. And there's a storm and Elijah says you are in the storm. It's not God. All these voices are not God. And finally, all the voices die out in enormous silence. And Elijah realizes God is the silence. God is this silence. You need to silence these voices in your head. These voices are not good for you because they are not you. You had been hijacked. Your mind had been snatched. It's not yours anymore. It belongs 10% to Apple, 20% to the government, 30% to mother. It's not you. Where are you in these voices? Where are you in these voices? Where is this core? Who is listening? Who is doing the listening? You must find him or her and isolate him or her. And that is the core work of nothingness. Sartre, Jean-Paul Sartre I'm beginning to really resent this. Jean-Paul Sartre who was a philosopher and a Frenchman. Quite a combination in Paris. Inventor, one of the main promoters of existentialism. Jean-Paul Sartre in his famous book describes an episode. He said, I went to a restaurant. He went to a restaurant. He is French, so he went to a restaurant. And he saw a waiter. He said, I saw a waiter. And he said, the waiter was going, coming with a tray. And then I thought to myself Jean-Paul Sartre says, I thought to myself there is no human being there. There is no human being there. There's only a waiter. It is someone acting as a waiter because society told him that this is the way a waiter should act. And this thing, this entity, this being thinks that he is a waiter. He believes that being a waiter is him. Being a waiter is his essence, his identity. But it's not. It is a role, he is acting. There's nobody there. So this is the core realization of nothingness. That's why the book is called Being and Nothingness. Now we come to what you should do. I promise you there will be how-to and so on. The lecture is only six hours, so we're still good. What I forgot to tell you is that I love to hear myself speak and I love my voice. Your hostages. Your hostages. I love coffee? No, it's okay. What time is it? We are nearing the core. Of course, listen guys, this is kind of an overview. The channel that I just opened where I'm uploading the stages because there's like a book. You need to follow stages. There are 30 stages. And these 30 stages encapsulate all the work of nothingness. So in the channel about 100 or more hours of video. So you can imagine, I cannot summarize this in 40 minutes or one hour. So I'm doing my best to give you a taste. Let's call it a sample. If you want the whole meal, you have to go to the channel free of charge. It's everything up to you. What do you have to do? So we identify the problem. The problem is that we are in a state of shock, external shock, internal shock. I think we have no meaning in life. So some of us choose to be psychotic in effect. Some of us choose to be narcissists. It's a growing choice. The incidence of narcissism is growing all over the world. Some of us are choosing nothingness. Very, very few are choosing nothingness because most people don't understand what is nothingness. But there are those who choose nothingness. Those who are well acquainted with, there are schools of philosophy and religions and so on. There are more into nothingness. So these are the three choices. I advocate nothingness because when you start with narcissism you end up with grandiosity and you end up hurting other people. You end up harming and damaging other people. When you start with psychoticism whichever way you go you end up being divorced from reality. Divorced from reality. This is mental illness. I don't understand these two ways. Nothingness can lead you to a bad place. That bad place is called nihilism. Nihilism means nothing matters. Everything is worthless. There are no values. Kao pedium sees the day, live today, forget tomorrow. This is the bad place of nothingness. But if you follow a specific routine you will not end there. In identifying your authentic and this is what it's called authenticity you will end up identifying your authentic single voice which is who you are. You can't believe the strength this will give you. The minute you find your essence or your identity get rid of all the other voices and follow some basic principles this will empower you like nothing else because you will finally get rid of a lot because right now it's like you are walking around with a lot of suitcases on your back you know? You are tired, you are weak because you are carrying a lot of luggage that is not you. This luggage is not you and you have no obligation to this luggage. Get rid of it and you will be free and strong and handsome like me. Right. Zovan, I see that you disagree with some parts of this sentence. We will talk about it later. OK, what do you have to do? First of all Jean Paul Sartre was the first to suggest that there is a difference between authentic people and inauthentic people. So those of you who want to go deeper into this distinction you can go on my channel and there are two, three videos dedicated to authenticity. But in a nutshell authentic person is someone who found this single voice. Someone who knows who he or she is the essence, the identity and also can differentiate between himself or herself and the world and doesn't and puts boundaries between himself or herself and the world. Listens to the world consults the world gets information from the world gets advice from the world of course. You should not cut yourself from the world. I said that cutting yourself from reality is mental illness but confusing yourself with the world not putting boundaries that's also mental illness. So here are the things you should do to begin to attain nothingness and again please go to the channel if you want to go deeper. Those of you who suicidal and want to go deeper go to the channel. So this speaker is anti-semitic. Yeah I can identify anti-semitic speaker when I see one. Yeah Okay, five things you should do five things. Number one, choose happiness, happiness not dominance. So today in western civilization we are focused on dominance dominating controlling so hierarchy who is on top who is more we compare all the time. What is social media? Social media is an engine of comparison absolutely this it's a technology of comparing we call it in psychology relative positioning it's a relative positioning platform all the time we compare am I as good as him is he as good as me is he as famous as me how many views do I have on my youtube why don't I have as many it's a comparison engine so dump dominance prefer happiness to dominance don't seek to control or to dominate because if you did the nothingness work you found the single authentic voice you found yourself you found your essence your core, your identity you don't need to dominate because you dominate the only important object in the world you if you dominate you you dominate the only object that matters to you and you do not need to dominate others because the most important object by far in your world of course is you nothingness leads you to domination over the only object that matters and consequently you don't need to dominate or to control anyone else when you are a prisoner something I have personal experience of I've been to prison those of you who don't know when you are a prisoner they can take your body away they can take your freedom away they can take your food away they can take your wife away for which I'm thankful they can take not this wife, the first wife let it be clear oh my god am I in trouble the first wife the first wife so they can take away anything and everything they took all my money away talking quite an empire they took away everything there was one place they could not take away they could not touch they could not reach never mind what they did they could not reach that place me my mind I was in control and domination of the only object that mattered in prison me who cares about the rest when I was in prison I had written malignant self-love, narcissism revisited which is a mega international bestseller I've written other books which won prizes was the most productive creative wonderful period in my life prison I lost 23 kilos in a few months there was nothing to eat my wife divorced me I lost all my money when I say all my money for you to get a glimpse of what I'm talking about $20 million empire I had my own private jet and so on I lost all of it was all confiscated by the state I had so little money that my shoes were with holes because I couldn't afford a bus I was reduced to death state and yet it was the most productive wonderful, happiest period in my life why? because I owned the dominated and collaborated with the only object that mattered me so this is not theory what I'm telling you this is a survival strategy in the most difficult circumstances imaginable and trust me in Israeli jail the one I've been with is definitely qualifies as one of the most difficult circumstances so number one ignore dominance prefer happiness number two ignore complexity prefer meaning dump complexity prefer meaning don't look for complex complex issues or complex people or complex situations or complex structures whenever you see complexity ask yourself is there meaning in this complexity is it there for a good reason do not automatically assume that if it is complex it's meaningful that if it is complex it's worthwhile it's valuable we make this mistake when we see a book of 100 pages and a book of 1000 pages is more valuable than the 100 pages why why some of the most important books in human history are 20 pages long complexity is not a guarantee of meaning usually even the opposite so look for meaning meaning can be in simplicity meaning can be in complexity but don't make assumptions in advance we complicate our lives all the time I'm in a profession it's called clinical psychology in 1952 the first manual of clinical psychology was published in the united states it was called diagnostic and statistical manual DSM the DSM in 1952 was 100 pages long they listed all the mental health disorders they listed schizophrenia paranoia they made a list and the list was 100 pages long that was 1952 2013 2013, that's not so much that's about 60 years this book, the DSM is not 100 pages long it's 1000 pages long the internal revenue tax code in 1949 was about 170 pages long the internal revenue code tax code today is 19,000 pages long we are complicating our lives all the time governments used to be 3% of GDP the number of people employed in governments at the beginning of the 20th century was 2-3% of GDP without computers without technology and by the way, don't think that governments then deliver what governments today deliver for example in Germany under Bismarck social welfare was much more advanced than today in Macedonia fact and in Germany, under Bismarck less than 1.8% of population were government workers and they delivered social services pension, you name it to all the people today governments in the world anywhere between 34% and 52% of GDP and in some countries 70% we complicate everything we make it more complicated bureaucracies, texts books, codes everything more complicated and we think that because we are more complicated more complicated we know more it's more meaningful it's more valuable it's a mistake, prefer meaning look for meaning, forget if it's simple or complex you can learn a lot from a celjak celjak pezent celjak pezent why we say celjak or pezent because it's simple yes to insult, it's simple it's not educated, it's simple we cannot learn anything from simple simple look for meaning don't pay attention to complexity or simplicity I have learned a lot from celjak a lot I'm kidding a lot I've learned a lot from these people they have the wisdom of centuries and millennia in their heads I wish modern people could have for example family and community life like celjak they have a lot to learn, trust me I've seen the young people in Canada in the United States they have a long way to go before they become celjak number 3 prefer always prefer the fuzzy the incomplete the unpredictable the imperfect always prefer this over order, structure, rules and perfection so if you have to choose between structure, order, rules, perfection or ambiguity fuzziness imperfection, unpredictability choose this choose this why? because life is like this life is like this life is the product we believe life is the product of 4.5 billion years of evolution 4.5 billion years of experimentation and what is the outcome? total mess creative we call it creative destruction creative destruction the famous economist called it creative destruction life is a bloody mess mutations what is mutation? viruses, mutations mess but who is winning? who is winning? let me remind you who is winning the mess is winning the mess is winning mutations are totally messy, they are random we call them stochastic mutations of no order, no structure, no rules, no nothing and yet they are winning, I am wearing the mask, not the virus so always choose life over death you know where you have order structure but things never change in a cemetery you want order and structure go to the cemetery you want life accept uncertainty embrace uncertainty it is your only hope uncertainty unpredictability fuzziness ambiguity is your only hope as human beings all creative comes out of it you ask any scientist and by training a physicist for example and he will tell you 9 out of 10 discoveries are totally random totally chance totally intuition not the result of order structure rules or even learning so don't be afraid don't be afraid be in a world which has no order no structure, no rules embrace the flow, go with the flow if you go back to the structure of reality structure reality today is described by a discipline in physics called quantum mechanics if you study quantum mechanics you learn immediately that the world is a bloody mess for example particles can be in two places at the same time a phenomenon known as tunneling a particle here can influence a particle there and when i say there very very far not in xire's office much further than that so a particle here can instantaneously influence a particle there it's called entanglement and at the core of quantum mechanics are the uncertainty principles the heisenberg uncertainty principle which tell us that we cannot know anything about reality fully with certainty this ladies and gentlemen is the building blocks these are the building blocks of reality this is where reality starts reality starts with uncertainty how come we are so certain what happened to us on the way it's an accident we've been lied to someone lied to us someone is making good money and has a lot of power because of this lie that he or she can bring order and chaos and rules and certainty into our lives no one can ask the virus no one can bring order, rules and structure into your life and shouldn't so choose uncertainty number 4 remember these are the 5 principles of nothingness but on the channel you see exactly how to do all this i just started this work it's a year old so probably a lecture 2 years from now would look very different so number 4 always prefer the journey to the destination always prefer the path to the goal always prefer process over outcome and always prefer question to answer do not seek goals, outcomes destinations and answers for 2 reasons one, they don't exist what you call destination or goal or outcome is lying to yourself because you have no control over anything list of all over yourselves in the absence of control you can't guarantee anything so why waste time why waste time on setting goals, planning, controlling managing these are all lies best manager in the world best manager in the world and then one stupid bat in china destroys your planning you can be the best bat in the world and one stupid Chinese scientist destroy your plans so yes, marry the process divorce the result, marry the path or the journey, divorce the destination marry the question divorce the answers one of the reasons is that every question has multiple answers one it's not what we call monovolence each question has multiple answers one answer is good for Zoran one answer is good for me one answer is good for you some answers are good for nobody some answers are good for big number of people but never for everyone there's no universal answer so why waste the time ask the right questions and trust the path to choose you you are not making i want to make this absolutely clear you are deluding yourself grandiose that you are making choices that you can control results that you can guarantee outcomes that you are setting goals that you are going to destinations it's all utter nonsense it's all self delusion it's all a lie focus on getting there look around you waste time marveling marveling at the process marveling at the journey open yourself up to becoming to experiencing not to attaining or obtaining attaining and obtaining is consumerism it's a death cult don't be invested in death be invested in life death is a point death is an event life is a process life is always ongoing death is final don't be final don't be final be become be something in the making always change so these are very it's a very important thing to understand don't be answer some people think they are the answer you're not the answer and you can't have the answers you're not God so give it up you have to trust that life will tell you where to go the question you remember how we started when we were all of us a lot younger how we started the lecture you remember the key I will give you 10 doors I will give you 20 doors someone will give you 30 doors government will give you 40 doors it's many doors as you want and you will say wow I have so many options I am so happy because I can now choose make so many choices my life is opening up wonderful things are going to happen to me there's only one problem all these doors are locked once you have the right key you have one chance in 100 to find the right door you don't have the right key your chance is zero what is better one in 100 or zero one in 100 focus on the key forget the doors what is the key the key is you you are the key once you have formed yourself into a key the lock will be found if you search long and hard and you need to be hard workers no one tells you to nothingness is not about not doing anything you need to search and look hard but before before you molded yourself into a key what are you looking for what are you looking for why are you looking for all these doors if you are not the key why are you wasting your time you know so focus on the key once you have found yourself once you are authentic these guarantees learning inner peace altruism why does it guarantee altruism and empathy i am telling you that if all of you become authentic there will be no conflict there will be no war there will be peace and harmony guaranteed why because peace and harmony create a good feeling they enhance your well being who doesn't want that but today we can't have that because we are not one we are not unitary we are fragmented we are broken people we are fractured among a million voices all of them competing all of them conflicting very often we act not as Zoran and not as Sam and not as Annie we don't act as ourselves but we act the other voices very often we are controlled by these voices we are like puppets we are marionets this needs to stop this needs to stop before it's too late we need to establish an equilibrium the authentic person the person with a single voice has one big advantage it's called regulation in psychology when I'm asked for example how can I best define how can I best define personality disorders which is my field how can I best define personality disorders I say well the main the thing that most I think the main ingredient the core ingredient is dysregulation dysregulation dysregulation is when your moods come from the outside not from the inside you allow other people to change your mood you allow other people to change how you feel your emotions you let other people change your thinking so you are dysregulated you are labile volatile, fluctuating you are dysregulated someone from the outside is regulating you this is a sign of mental illness and yet I would say the majority of people today are dysregulated they allow other people institutions, other groups collectives, news advertising to regulate how they feel regulate their moods their emotions, the cognitions so they are, their regulation is coming from the outside how is this possible because these people outside they collaborate with the other voices I want you to listen to this well because this is absolutely the core of nothingness the people from the outside who are changing your moods changing your emotions changing your thinking they have this power over you they have this power over you because they are collaborating with the voices inside your head which are not you the voices inside your head are like trojan horse they are like fifth column they are like traitors they are like double agents double spies so if I want to shame you to shame you I would collaborate with your mother from the outside I will collaborate with the voice of your mother to shame you and you will hear the voice of your mother saying shame on you you should not have done that you're a bad girl you're not okay how did I do this now imagine that I come to someone who has only one voice only one voice and that voice is him or her it's the essence, it's the core, it's the identity I have no one to collaborate with I cannot affect you in any way end of story I don't have traitors in your camp I don't have a trojan horse inside your walls so I have zero impact on you authentic people self-regulate and other people have zero impact over them zero you cannot affect another person's moods behaviors emotions, cognitions if that other person doesn't have collaborating voices introjects, you cannot do that so self-regulation we are hearing the end of the lecture so those of you who are asleep you have another 10 minutes what is this process of eliminating all the voices that work against you these voices work against you even the most loving mother even the most adoring teacher these voices are not you and because they are not you because they are not you by virtue of being not you they are not your friends even when they think they are your friends they are not your friends so the minute you eliminate all these voices you develop something rare it's called self-love self-love is not narcissism self-love is the opposite of narcissism what is narcissism narcissism is fear of reality the narcissist tries to control reality digesting it by assimilating it the narcissist takes reality and puts it in his mind because he is terrified of reality so narcissism is about fear it's a panic reaction narcissism is self-loathing and self-hatred the narcissist hates himself he regards himself as inferior not consciously unconsciously so he compensates it's the opposite of self-love self-love has four components everything in my lecture has four five or three components because I'm Jewish I forgive you for this coffee I thought you would never ask Sovan, I know you work hard for your money and I'm feeling that maybe I'm crossing the line second coffee there are four elements in self-love true self-love not narcissism remember narcissism is self-hatred compensation for self-hatred the narcissist as a child was told by his mother or parents or your bed you're worthless if you want me to love you you need to perform you need to behave I'm your mother and I'm gonna love you only if you behave in a certain way only if you perform we call it conditional love self-love is never conditional it's unconditional and it has four components self-awareness you can't love yourself if you don't know yourself so you need to become self-aware how do you become self-aware you eliminate the voices you listen to the voices this is not me this is not me that's my mother I remember her saying this delete this is not me this is Guevski I remember him saying this or to pick your politician delete so getting rid of these voices purifies you makes you a crystal makes you like a diamond purifies you essence and so the minute the minute you have eliminated all these voices this is self-awareness finally for the first time in your life you are face to face with yourself reality institutions, other people they do everything in their power to prevent you from getting to know yourself so if you get to know yourself you are empowered you don't need anyone in a good sense you don't need anyone in a good sense you don't need anyone to regulate what's happening inside you and people want you to be dependent they want you to be dependent they want you to be weak they want to control you as you want to control them it's a power play it's a giant power play and so I am not playing anymore you overturn the chess board not playing the minute you are not playing you have all the power in the world only when you are inside the game you are powerless exit the matrix unplug no power over you no power over you you are the most powerful man or woman in the world what is the most powerful man and woman in the world man or woman where others have no power over him or her it's not necessarily that you are godlike it's simply that others have no power over you so self awareness then self acceptance so these are the four elements of self love self awareness self acceptance once you become aware of who you are your essence, your identity your attitude one of the major problem in modern people is self rejection I'm not good enough I should have accomplished more you ask you ask any successful entrepreneur you read the book by Stephen Jobs you see interviews with Bill Gates Warren Buffett any successful entrepreneur they will tell you it's not about education it's about luck they say 90% of their success is luck what does it mean luck being the right place at the right time and being open being receptive but you can't be receptive if you're focused on the goal it's like a horse with blinders if the goal, wait a minute so you perceive opportunities as disturbances as noise when you're focused on the goal and other things happen that are not in the plan you perceive them as bad things although they can actually be wonderful and lead you to much better goal so the authentic person is always successful ok I thought you do enough and I will stop here this really is a nutshell it's just a taste of a taste it's like the smell of the onion it's a taste of the taste of the much much more on the channel and much more complex there and there are 30 steps and all the philosophy is there there's a video about the contributions of Buddhism to nothingness so you'll find another one about Taoism existentialism there's a few videos about existentialism so all the philosophical infrastructure psychological and so on so forth and if you want to kind of delve deeper you can go there but in a nutshell that's it it goes back to the ancient wisdom be yourself it's simply about being yourself the minute you are yourself you are nothing and everything you are nothing in the social sense because you got rid of all these voices you got rid of the influence of society on you you regulate yourself you're self-sufficient in the good sense so you're nothing in the eyes of society you may be nothing but you're also everything because you have the best friend in the world and you control the only object that matters which is you and then everything you do is a gift everything you do is a success you can never ever fail and you feel utterly comfortable in reality without trying to dominate it or to control it okay guys and girls of course if you have any questions I'm here to give you additional questions you don't have to it's been a long lecture so feel free to not ask questions a lecture when there are no questions is an exercise in euthanasija or everyone understood everything which makes me a great lecture and since I don't believe the second option there are no problems what about connection between self-confidence we confuse a lot self-confidence and narcissism there's healthy narcissism is the foundation of self-esteem and foundation of self-confidence which together are what we call sense of self-worth you cannot have a sense of self-worth without healthy narcissism the problem is that all these solutions become very fast become malignant so if you start with self-esteem very easy for you to become grandiose it can deteriorate, decay, degenerate to now in nothingness when you there is no feeling which is more empowering than getting to know yourself fully the minute you get to know yourself fully you feel that you are in control of everything that matters and you are, it's not an illusion if you know yourself fully nothing can surprise you no one can destabilize you you are in control of the most important thing in life for you, which is you that of course is a good definition of self-esteem so we say that in psychology that self-esteem reflects self-efficacy if you are self-efficacious you have self-esteem self-efficacy is simply the belief that if you know yourself to a situation you will get the best outcomes but to do that you need to trust yourself and so you say I know myself I trust myself so that means I am self-efficacious and your self-esteem goes up automatically and will never become grandiose because grandiosity is not to know yourself grandiosity is based on lack of self-awareness because you think you are more than you are and your self-awareness is bad, compromised self-awareness is a protection against grandiosity you know yourself the world starts here these are my strength, these are my limitations this is what I can do if I take my strength and apply them I am going to get good outcomes that is self-esteem never a risk of becoming grandiosity yes yes please 18 century British is growing so much progress before us, why we expect to stare ahead of us and I like to say on my vote very good I had the analogy about how the West mainly America Canada is living right 50 years basically powering people and paying to be good society and whatnot before the Berlin war became a more East-West and they were powering and they were people but and it's not a criticism but how do you how do you as the inherent conflict I see a competition what you're saying what you're explaining you talk about someone being self-actualized and being self-sured and not worrying about what happens but then you also for better know really try to agree community collaboration feeling a part of something so how do you have one answer how do you this is a conundrum that was best dealt with by post-Marxist like Louis Althusser for example French post-Marxist where the circle they on the one hand discussed the authentic person because they were all influenced by Salter and others they discussed the authentic person they said authenticity can reach the point of solipsism and isolation how do we transition from authenticity from this diamond purified diamond to make this transition to community and the answer was interpolation of spectacle they said that when you are not authentic when you are not purified when there is not total self-awareness and so on when you try to form a community with other people you would actually be creating a spectacle a simulacrum you would not be creating a real community but you will be creating the appearance of a community and this would be done through a process called interpolation where society tells you in effect how to behave which choices and decisions to make etc so because you are not free to choose your own way of forming a community what you get are clones so there are simulations by definition and so the idea is that once you are authentic you will reach out to other people and because they are authentic as well hopefully first of all you will not team up with people who are not authentic you will not because you don't do this anymore you don't need to act on their introjects you don't need to trigger their introjects so you are authentic with authentic the minute you are authentic the belief is because it's never been tried before the belief is that you will negotiate community that each community will be highly idiosyncratic you will not have spectacle you will not have consumerism you will not have interpolation but you will have highly idiosyncratically negotiated arrangements now we are beginning to see this we are beginning to see this in interpersonal relationships this is the first time in human history where you have a multiplicity multiplicity of intergender arrangements or not intergender but cohabitation arrangements or relationship arrangements where people don't come to the table and say ok we want to form a couple and this is how it's done we have a recipe and this is how it's done so all these couples were fake there were simulations copies, clones today people come to the table and say i me you are you now let's negotiate a couple let's negotiate a couple do we want to live together can you see other people i mean everything is on the table depends on the other people depends on the other people but i'm giving you a radical example but today relationships are totally negotiated one by one there's not a single relationship that is a clone of another so we are beginning to see the signs of authenticity but unfortunately it's limited to this and it is still subject to what radical feminist called patriarchy it's still subject to history so we still have a lot of bias built in a lot of expectations and so we have conformity to male double standards so it's still contaminated the process is still contaminated and there is no maximum authenticity but you're beginning to see the hub injury how much of this is this social thing what has happened to this though it's just people not having to be keen to happen but it's getting a lot harder to get to this i think a historical context would be helpful here we are living in an aberration for well over 5000 years there was no distinction between family and work there's no distinction between work and leisure et cetera et cetera there was almost no distinction between genders there was definitely no age based distinction there was no thing as child child is a totally new concept so all these concepts all this language that we are using today is 200 years old consequently it does not capture real human dynamics so in the victorian age or even before the industrial revolution they started to separate home life and work life so you came back home and home was supposed to be the antithesis of work but this is totally new this never happened before when you were a farmer your family was the work unit the factory was your home there was no leisure it was only one big mess your child worked with you and now we invented we are trying to force upon reality constructs which are not holding water and they fail all these institutions are failing because we imbued them with counterfactual content and this is precisely psychoticism it's precisely this we created an alternative world an alternative universe we created a narrative we created a set of narratives which regrettably have nothing to do with reality so we are utterly immersed in a virtual alternative reality and it's failing big time big time and we don't know how to go back because we don't know how to go back because people like me professors, academics they are telling you if you want to go back you are reactionary there are a lot of boundaries you can't even contemplate going back for example if I were to say listen I think actually whatever happened until the 17th century it was a very good idea let's study these structures and see how to adopt them to modern times take into account technology, quality of genders let's try to modify them I will be fired I'll be absolutely fired I'm not kidding, I'll be fired there are things, there's censorship sorry if you try to say that the current sexual mores among people under the age of 25 now we are redefining adolescence so it lasts until 25 that's the work of twinge, cambo if we say sexual mores among people under the age of 25 actually perpetuate patriarchy and render the whole thing more chauvinistic not less there are a serious risk of being cancelled or there are huge social and effective employment punishments penalties to discussing the truth the truth has been utterly sacrificed in this so we kind of I think prefer to live in in a dream state in this nightmarish embedded in this nightmarish thing anything that threatens reality is rejected did you understand the word I just said because I'd like someone to explain to me yeah, someone there you would have to speak up this ear is Israeli army I hear you now how do you how do you how do you see reality that's actually an excellent question very good question first of all we should make a distinction between physical reality and mental reality, psychological reality so as I said at the beginning of the lecture you can forget about physical reality we are not in touch with physical reality everything you see, everything you hear everything you believe you see and hear is processed by your brain according to narratives and structures which are encoded in neural pathways so for example when you get vision signals you combine them in your brain according to preset models similarly for example you don't hear most of what I say you reconstruct it in your mind memory is reconstructed time and again it doesn't exist every time you try to remember something you take bits and pieces from your brain and put them together that's why people don't remember anything after one year whatever they remember is false there's been a famous study by Loftus she studied what people had remembered they were in 911 they were on the street the twins collapse and she interviewed them immediately after that the same day or the day after she interviewed them and they described what they were doing and so on then she went to these same people and she interviewed them a year later and vast majority of them did not remember a single thing but they claimed to have remembered wrong things so if someone said for example I was eating a hot dog that same person said a year later I was running after the bus because memory is reconstructed so forget when I say reality and non-reality I'm actually referring to psychological or mental reality now we have two tests to distinguish between what we call reality testing so there's a concept in psychology reality testing how well do you perceive reality but not physical reality how well do you perceive what's going on around you so we distinguish with reality testing and impaired reality testing there are two tests first of all is self-efficacy if you keep doing things and not getting the results that you want then in all likelihood you have impaired reality testing in all likelihood you have misperception of reality somewhere that's the first thing the second thing if you are dysregulated and you have massive impact on your moods emotions, cognitions and so on probably you have impaired reality testing probably you're not in touch with reality well but mediated through these people because they can affect your internal environment and so they are the buffer, they are the firewall between you and reality so that's why in nothingness there is a focus on the second issue eliminate voices and eliminate other people's possibility and that's your mind at that moment you are more in touch with reality and your self-efficacy increases now even then don't misunderstand even when you are this diamond even when you are authentic person even if you are not influenced by anyone even if no one has access to your mind even then you are delusional and the reason you are delusional because no one can survive reality reality is too painful too harsh so even then you have a defense mechanism psychological defense mechanism filters like filters on a smartphone filters in zoom filters that falsify reality allow you somehow to survive even then that's the best you can hope and when these filters break down when defense mechanisms break down you fall apart it's a process called decompensation you fall apart you no longer are able to function it's bad enough that you align to yourself all the time through the psychological defense mechanism you don't need other people to lie to you also you don't need these two layers double layers because then you are totally lost your ability to act on the environment and to secure outcomes is gone or crucially depends on other people what do we call someone who is totally dependent on something disabled invalid you become an invalid and so we all use other people because we are invalids and the idea of nothingness is to empower you to restore to delete this invalidity somehow and to live you with the defense mechanisms which unfortunately no one can get rid of or you will fall apart one minute with reality in your gun real reality really whats happening we lie to ourselves about other people about their emotions about our emotions we all the time lie to ourselves and the very few occasions when we come across reality my wife is cheating on me my friends don't like me i lost all my money these are the moments that the defense mechanisms break down people fall apart some of them commit suicide we are not built to corporate reality because our brain and sensory mechanisms they isolate you from reality they reject reality we are creatures we are entities we are organisms that reject reality and that's why we live in stories and narratives and so on so that's why we are willing to die for this because that's our only reality ok gajs i toči do enough i have created a sufficient number of enemies today if no one is if there is another question i will answer if no one is any other question then thank you for listening you've been very kind