 Hi, I'm Matthew coast head dating coach and founder at commitment connection comm and today We're gonna talk about how to get the guy that you want So if you're if you know a guy that you really want and you're struggling to figure out how to be more attractive to him Then this is what you need to do. So There's I read four things here for you to do and the first one is that you have to get his attention So if you don't have his attention He's not going to you're not gonna ever get him Because he has to that's the first step is you have to get attention, but I want to warn you about something here Don't think that attention is the same thing as attraction. So a lot of women. They're like, oh, you know guys go for that, you know Dancing around bimbo girl that you know is out at the club, you know But what they don't realize is that a lot of those You know types of women aren't women that actually get the guy that they're looking for And so if you want to get the guy don't confuse attention with attraction But the first step is getting attention and the second step is creating a sexual frame around the interaction So that he doesn't think that it's just a friendship type situation And so there's there's a lot of different ways that you can do that, you know, one of the best ways is to Just start looking at masculine behaviors or behaviors that he does that you like and just Sexualizing them, you know telling them that it's attractive, you know, tell them that that it's hot You know if he does something that you like go, oh, that was hot, you know or or compliment him You know in ways that show him that you're sexually interested in it, you know say things like You know your butt looks really good in those pants, you know Or something like that where you you are giving him a compliment, but you're doing it in a way that there's a sexual undertone to it That's pretty obvious So the next thing that you want to do is get him attracted to you emotionally You know, there are a lot of women out there They try to like convince a guy to want to be with them and that just never works, you know A guy has to feel attracted to you He can't be logically convinced to be attracted to you and and so the way that you Emotionally connect with him is by connecting with his heart and to connect with his heart You have to be in touch with your own emotions and you have to Express them to him in an attractive way and the best way to do that is to just You know express how you're feeling with no expectation, right? A lot of times women will They're trying to get some kind of reaction from a guy, right there They tell a guy how they feel with some kind of expectation that the guy will react in some certain way And that's incredibly unattractive. What's what is attractive is just expressing yourself just getting in touch with them You're emotions and just talking about how you feel, you know, and that's to a guy That is not drama and that is incredibly attractive. It's very feminine It's a world of mystery to a man and being, you know Having mystery can be incredibly attractive and so the last thing That you want to do is show him that you're in alignment with where he's going in his life, so A guy if you want to get a guy into a long-term Relationship he has to be able to see you as someone that he could be with in the far distant future If he looks at you and he doesn't think that you're somebody that he could be with and you know in the distant future he will He'll only want a casual or sexual relationship with you And that's where a lot of women get stuck and so you have to show him that You are a great match for him for the far distant future And that's another one of those things a lot of women, you know They get attention, but they ruin their possibilities of being in a long-term relationship because they sacrifice This alignment For the attention and you don't want to do that You want to show him that you're in alignment with him with his values with where he's going in his life So if you want more information on how to do that and you know how to attract a quality man into a committed lasting relationship Make sure you go to my website at commitment connection calm and take the quiz there I'm Matthew coast and I'll speak with you again soon