 an unusual filming location in this one at these sand dunes as you may know I do like a good sand dune as you've probably seen in my other videos or on my Instagram as well I'm from in Wales in the United Kingdom we actually have the second biggest sand dune in Europe there's not so much like the sand dunes here we do have sand dunes like this as well but the one in Wales the second biggest one is just like a mountain of sand that's covered by a lot of grass so you can't really see it so much yeah that's meant to be the second biggest one in Europe and it is very big it takes a while to walk to the top of it but I did manage to do that as well I walked to the top of the second biggest sand dune in Europe back in my country in Wales let's get into the topic of this video today which is when the narcissist knows you're on to them. Yes, when you're beginning to catch on, you're starting to figure them out telling you that when that happens when you're beginning to figure out that narcissist what they're doing they're going to become very cautious around you they've never seen them acting this way before they will become such they can to avoid revealing anything maybe a favourable form up to you because you're already beginning to catch on and figure them out they don't want to reveal anything more because they fear the threat of rejection abandonment and of course exposure as well the terrified of being exposed because their false image of reputation is everything to them all they have is their false self the image the illusion and they need people to validate it but if you reject or abandon them and you pose as a threat to their false image and that's going to put them at risk and it'll cause them to lose all of their sources of supply that is why typically as a last resort what they will then do already spearheading against you and enforce their flying monkeys in the hopes that it will save face that it will prevent them from being exposed or even if you try to expose them no one's really going to believe your story because they've already believed a bunch so that's what it really is for them it's all just about their false image and their reputation they have an excessive need for attention admiration and validation they need people to support the false self the false image the illusion very different to someone who's a little higher on the spectrum yes they're on it let's do this there is a spectrum of narcissism you got like the lower level nox not very intelligent they really know what they're doing after time to be honest that's how they're doing you got the mid range you got the higher the upper narcissist then you go more into the malignant we know exactly what they're doing they understand the effects it's having on you you find pleasure at your pain and they may have some level of intelligence there as well it's where they can be very cognitive a lot of the things they do it's thought out as planned as predetermined and then the malignant narcissist and even when you go even higher up the spectrum into the sociopathy they're still very concerned about their image their reputation that's everything to them that's why when they fear abandonment or be exposed they will become more covert try to hide it once you go to the highest part of the spectrum of narcissism you go from the lower end of the narcissist to the mid range the upper higher range but like then the sociopaths and then finally you get to the psychopaths in all honesty most of them they don't really give a shit about their image their reputation that doesn't really mean much to them they kind of give it down if everyone turns against them if no one likes them that's fine with them maybe most of them they spend most of their lives alone anyway by their own choice so they're not really bothered about that if anything they just see it as though that's more power to them that's what makes them far more dangerous because at least with everyone else who's lower on the spectrum including the malignant narcissist, the sociopath they're at a much lower level than the psychopath those types of narcissists they're very concerned about their image their reputation so certain things they're not going to do they're not going to put their image, their reputation on the line they're not going to risk it all but I can tell you a psychopath will I mean there's really no telling what they might do especially the higher range of psychopaths they can even go out and kill someone they can go at a kill and rampage many of them are serial killers as we know so yeah they can be very dangerous even though when a psychopath knows that you're onto them they may not seem particularly angry or distressed about it I mean they don't tend to feel any fear but even then they can really catch a person off guard I mean it may look like they don't even care and then in the next moments there's no telling what they might do it's like you never know what they're going to do next there can be a completely different person from one moment to the next in one moment they can be smiling and laughing just joking around in the next moment who knows what they might do the gas for everyone else who's lower on the spectrum these types of knocks their false image is everything to them it's the only thing that really matters it's the only thing they've got the only thing that makes them feel like they are something that worth something so they're going to hold on to that for their lives and if they feel like you're threatening that image then they are going to come after you and they're not going to be able to leave you alone because their entire identity revolves around how other people perceive them especially if you're the one person in that situation who doesn't validate it and you see them differently to how everyone else sees them and that's going to pose as a serious threat to them and they will see it as though they've got to manage your perception they've got to indoctrate you and get you back into their control so that you don't spread well as they see it the disease because to them it's like this infection they don't want you to contaminate other people with the truth because everyone else is blinded they don't really see what's going on they may not really understand what they're dealing with with an narcissist because as I said they are very preoccupied and focused on their false image and I like the psychopath who just can't really give a shit I mean if you injure a psychopath if they feel hurt by something you've done they will go all out to destroy you especially the highest spectrum psychopath that's the kind of person who will just even just attack you on the street in front of everyone without any fear of being arrested going to jail for the rest of their lives but luckily it's very unlikely that many of you are dealing with a psychopath I mean that's only 1% of the population that's about as rare as an empath if not more and then of course there are levels to the psychopath as well the lower range psychopaths are not killers they're not murderers they're not rapists, they're nothing like that that's more the higher end those are the ones where they can literally do anything there is no telling what they might do and pretty much anything they do is still supplying they just see it as though that gives them power over you it's not something where they ever feel bad about it or they feel scared that they might get into trouble they're never thinking that way and in fact a lot of their crimes, a lot of the moral things they do to them those are achievements and it doesn't matter what you think it doesn't matter even if you expose a psychopath to everyone they're going to still see it as though it's you and they have power over you because of the things they've done their achievements so with a psychopath there's really no where and with them they always feel like they have the last laugh in the end even if you manage to get them arrested they get caught out and they go to jail for the rest of their lives I can guarantee you that even in prison especially the high-spectrum psychopath they're just still laughing until the very end joking about it with their inmates bragging and boasting about their crimes which they see as their achievements and believe it or not but they're probably actually having a great time in there too sorry to say that but that is the reality when we're talking about psychopaths that is how it is there is never a time where they feel bad, they feel regret or they feel like they did something wrong and then they feel sad, they feel depressed it just doesn't happen with them I mean there might be that brief window as it is with an narcissist but it doesn't last long even when they're alone, isolated in prison with no support they're still just laughing until the very end regardless of what you've got on them, what you've done to them as for the narcissist, it's so easy to get to them to irritate them, to scare them to make them afraid because their image is everything to them so their image becomes their weakness because of course they've got to hold on to it for their lives but as for us when they try to expose us and they run a smear campaign on us the best thing you can do is just let it go and not care what other people think because as soon as you do that, you are the one with the power the person who cares the most about what other people think they are the ones with the least power in that situation because they're so worried about what people think about them they can't even really be themselves they can't even think for themselves or do what they want to do everything's just where they're thinking about other people first and that's why it's really, if you just let it all go you are the one with the power in that situation even when they run a smear campaign on you it can already really affect you as with anything in life anything a narcissist does or anyone does to anyone these things can only affect you if you care if you don't even care then how can it affect you you've got to care about it first and it's the same thing with these smear campaigns if you just don't even care about them you don't even care about the people you know that all the people are fake what difference does it make to you? it only makes a difference to your life if you care if you don't care then there's no harm done it doesn't matter so that's really my advice for you if you are your own type of narcissist and then they've beaten you to the punch if you run a smear campaign against you just care less I mean you've got to look at it like what difference does it make when you deal with nox you can care as much as you want it's not going to change anything it's going to affect you because they don't really care but then they do care about their image of course the reputation so as soon as you just stop caring you take back your power because that's all they really want from you is to care and to fear some form of loss but yeah when you're on to them I can put you in a very difficult and dangerous situation you do need to be very careful although they may also be walking on eggshells around you and afraid of exposing themselves even more than they already have it could go either way really I mean you may see them just trying to hold on to that mask as much as they can so that you don't see the real of them and expose it or they may just think you've already seen me if you're going to expose me you're going to do it so they may just rip off their mask completely and show you exactly who they are in an attempt to fear to provoke fear in you and intimidate you to try and get you under their control as a means of preventing you from exposing them if you're too afraid to do it so it could go either way I mean the best thing you could hope for really is that they do just try to keep their mask on and prevent themselves from exposing themselves to give it in the future if it goes that way then you should be alright especially if they don't run the smear campaign against you and then you can just go and continue with your life forget about them a lot of times they will try to come back they will try to run the smear campaign as well so you do need to be aware of that you do need to be very careful be very careful about what you can find of them and the information that you reveal to them because they are taking notes they're keeping all of this information in their back pocket to use against you at a later date they will weaponize any information that you give to them that will later become a weapon that they use against you you cannot trust them with anything so yeah when you're on to an arsacist it's usually not the end it doesn't mean that you've caught them out about all of their shenanigans stop it's typically the beginning of something else where it all starts again which may not be what a lot of you want to hear but yeah I mean the best thing you can do is just avoid them cut ties, go to contact especially if you're not married if you have children if you fear them do you think they may be dangerous just try and move away if you can change your phone numbers your social media everything make it difficult for them to contact you or to find you so that you can then just move on and just live your life so yeah I hope this this information is helpful for you you do need to be very careful when you are on to them if you see it's a threat to their image it can put you at risk so even if you are on to them you don't want to let them know don't confront them that's not going to change anything if you're confronting an arsacist it's not like confronting a normal person they're not just going to be like oh right I see I understand so I've done this wrong all of this is bad I need to change this I need to improve it they're not going to think that way they're just going to look at it like oh so you're saying I'm bad I'm wrong and then they're going to fear the threat of exposure so they're just going to try to beat you to the punch expose you first I've spread all of these lies and rumors about you so that they can discredit you and then your opinions, your experiences of them don't hold any weight so you are wasting your time confronting them nothing's going to change if anything by doing that it will just get worse keep that information to yourself keep a record of it document everything if you decide to take it to the police or go to court that's up to you I can't give too much information about that of course I recommend speaking to a lawyer but in most cases Robert Roth just leaving them alone walking away staying quiet because remember their false image their reputation these things are far more important to them than they are to any of us I mean we don't really care about fake things as much as they do to them it's everything it's all they've got to be willing to do a lot more than what we might be willing to do to save their image or to elevate their social position because it means that much more to them that's why whereas for us we could just walk away we're not really that bothered about it because these kind of things like our social status our image these things aren't really that important to us I mean if it was then we'd probably have a much better chance at fitting that our success at their game that they're trying to play but the reason why it doesn't usually work out that way with most empaths it's because we just don't really care that much about it it's not really that important to us as it is to them all of this fake stuff this fake life fake people fake love just means so much more to them because that's all they really got so yeah anyway I hope this was helpful to you if 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