 I'm out here on the beach, beautiful day. It's really sunny today so I can hardly see myself on the screen. I'm not completely sure what you can see. I'm hoping that it's clear for you. Alright so in this video I'm going to be talking about how the narcissist is going to come back. It's maybe difficult to believe for a lot of you because they devoured you, they gave you all these reasons why you're no good, why you'll never be good enough for them and they blamed you for everything. They did everything they could to hurt you. They appeared as though they rode off into the sunset with someone else after they had discarded you. So you may assume that it's all over. You may think that you're never going to hear from them again, but that is not always the case because many times they do come back and the reason why they come back is because eventually they get bored of the new person just as they got bored with you and not only that but things come up as they always do for everyone. We all have issues in our lives, in our relationships, that's normal. We all have arguments or disagreements but the way that narcissists handle those confrontations like conflict, the way that they do that is very toxic because they will deny any responsibility, they will try to blame the other person for everything, they will devalue and degrade you. People don't want to deal with that. So when they started doing that with you, you responded to them differently. You stopped treating them the way that you used to. You stopped giving them your love and respect. You took a step back, which is the right thing to do but they do not like it when you do that. And inevitably when the new person starts doing that, when they start to realize what they're actually dealing with, then the narcissist won't want to deal with them anymore. And that is when they're gonna come back to you. Even though they may have said all these things, they may have done all these things to you, they may have ruined your life. They will still come back like nothing happened because they don't care about anything they've done to you. They don't care about anyone. They only care about themselves. And that is the reason why they will come back. It's not because they love you. It's not because they miss you. It's because they see an opportunity to get something out of you. And that is the only reason why they will come back. It's because of what you can give to them or how you can make them feel. It has nothing to do with a relationship, intimacy or connection or anything like that. They can't experience that. If they could, then maybe they wouldn't have devalued and degraded you. Maybe they wouldn't have discarded you. Maybe they wouldn't have left you for someone else. They wouldn't have done any of that. I mean when you look at it, this all comes back to one thing. It all comes back to their inability to feel genuine love for anyone or anything, including themselves. They lack self-love. And that's really why anyone does anything harmful to anyone. It's because they're insecure. Because they do not love themselves. Because if you really love yourself, all you can do is love someone else. You can't hate anyone because you haven't got any hate to give. Let this hurt helicopter go by. It all depends on what you've got to give. Because you cannot give something that you do not already possess. If you have a lot of hate in your heart, then that's all you can give to people. If you have a lot of love for yourself, then you can pour that out into someone else. And yet we wonder, towards the end of the relationship, we wonder why they're spewing out all of this hate trail at us. We wonder why they're doing that. We identify with it. We think that there's something to do with us. But no, it doesn't. It has everything to do with them and how they feel about themselves. As I've said it in many videos before, how they treat people is a direct reflection of how they feel about themselves. Anything they do, that's all you need to know. That's all you need to remember. If you remember one thing, out of all of the videos you have watched on my channel, if you remember that, how they treat you is a direct reflection of how they feel about themselves. So if they want to be mean to you, if they want to insult you and put you down, if they want to devalue you, discourage you, and leave you for someone else, if they want to shoot and do lie to you, steal from you, whatever it is that they're doing, whatever it is that is harming you, if they're going to go and do that, you need to know that the reason why they're doing that is because of how they feel about themselves. It's because of how they feel about themselves. That's when you realise that. And I don't mean you just listen to what I'm telling you, but you take it and you really analyse it and examine it from within. When that really sinks into your mind, then you are free. You're free after that. You remove the attachment, you remove the pain, suffering, because you no longer identify it. And they are trying to disown these parts of themselves that they don't like and assign it to you. But if you don't identify it, then it cannot have power over you, it cannot control you. But yeah, they are going to come back. You can be sure of that. At least, I would say, in 80% of situations, maybe more, they're going to come back. Unless you have really shown them that you're not susceptible anymore and they know they haven't got a chance with you, they know you've moved on. But maybe they completely burned that bridge for the things they said and did to you, where they know it's impossible for them to come back now. But you have to understand that some of them are completely arrogant and delusional, you know, they could have done anything to you. And still, they were thinking in their minds that they could just come back when nothing happens and you will take them back without question because some of them are completely delusional, that's why. That's why they do that. You should not compromise with your self-worth and self-respect because that is all you're doing. If you take them back, that's all you're going to be doing. Don't use self-respect. You can do much better than that. It looks like the tide is starting to come in now, so I'm going to end this video here. Just a short video today, but I hope it was helpful. If it was, please give it a thumbs up down below. And as always, share your thoughts in the comment section. I'd like to know what you think about this video. Has the narcissist already tried to come back to you? Have they already tried to move you? Or are you expecting them to come back? Let me know what's going on in your situation. I'd love to hear from you. Let me know in the comments down below and share this video if you can. Hit that subscribe button down below for coaching sessions. You can go to my website, it's Narc Survival at the Cuddle UK. And my Instagram is Narc Survival YouTube. You pictures and videos on there every day. Thank you all for watching and you all have a great day.