 All right, guys, 21 convention, Melbourne, Australia, 2012. We have our second speaker, and we just met for the first time just a few moments ago, or actually a couple hours ago. But Damien Dica, he is a dating, lifestyle, and executive corporate coach. I'm actually really excited to hear what you've got to talk about, because he explained his speech a little bit. I'll let him do it. But I actually, I personally feel it's stuff that we need to be focused on a little bit more in this whole realm of personal development and everything the 21 convention is about. Damien, come up. Woo! What's up, man? Thanks, buddy. Pick it. All right, guys. Hello, everyone. Look, I've got to say something. I've met James a couple of times. I've, you know, we cross each other on our paths, we have a similar line of work. I've never actually listened to him do a talk. And today was the first time, and this is only a small talk. His real talk is going to come tomorrow. And I've got to say, I'm really impressed. I think this is a guy who's really switched on. This is a guy who really knows his stuff. And what he says resonates with me in a really good way. So I'm really keen to hear what he's got to say tomorrow. So before I get started, guys, one thing you need to know about me is that I'm quite a geek. I'm quite a nerd. I pretty much burn through a book one or two week. I get through one or two books a week. They're always on the topic of human behavior. Right now I'm following a Stanford University course on human behavioral biology. So you're going to cop a little bit of that for me today, starting right now. So what I want from you all is I want to get you all in exactly the right chemical state in your brains, in your body. I want the right chemicals in your brain to best facilitate brain plasticity. That is neuroplasticity, your ability to learn quickly and take on new learning patterns and behaviors as quick as possible. How am I going to do that, guys? I'm going to do that by showing you a picture that's going to get your attention. Because there's something interesting about it. Matt, wait, wait, take a minute. Because we all have to work out which ass we prefer, right? Good, now that we've all got looked at. What has happened now, guys, is we have a new set of hormones running through our body. Those hormones are going to help us learn why. Because oddly enough, a man's brain doesn't learn nearly as quickly as when he's got sexy women on the mind. So who am I, guys? My name's Damon Deaker. And I am a dating coach. I run a dating coaching company in Sydney and I coach men and I coach women. I run these courses in Sydney, in Melbourne, in Perth, in Brisbane. And I was just over in Vegas a little while ago, heading off to Thailand. But guess what, guys? I'm not talking to you about dating coaching today. That's not my thing. What is going on with these slides? Come on, you. Hello, there we go again. Apparently these are filtering through all in the room. That's okay. I'm also a qualified life coach, by the way. I'm certified diploma, NLP, hypnosis. You get it. I'm not going to be talking to you guys about life coaching. I'm not going to be talking to you about NLP. I also run corporate events, okay, as was mentioned to you in the beginning. That's actually one of the reasons that brought me down here outside of the 21 convention. I had to come down for an event. I had to come down. I had to have an interview with guys about what happens is I don't advertise. I don't advertise to run these sales and marketing programs word of mouth spreads and what happens is they fly me around and I do these corporate training things. But guess what? No, I'm not talking about sales. I'm not talking about marketing today. What am I talking about, guys? I'm talking about how to be happy. Why am I talking about how to be happy? You guys are here. You're here to learn a whole lot of interesting things. This is an epic, epic event. The reason why it's epic is because it's a chance for guys to learn a whole lot of important skills. Learn a whole lot of things. It's gonna improve their lives. It's gonna do something for them. And you're all here because you wanna learn something. You wanna learn, ooh, how am I going to be more successful with women? Ooh, how am I going to be healthier? Ooh, how am I gonna be more fit? How am I gonna improve my body? How am I gonna improve myself as a man? What do you want that? Okay, you all want that because you believe something about what you're gonna learn here. Something is gonna make you happier. Okay, the more of something that you're getting here is gonna improve your happiness. And this is big because all of you, okay, have 20 plus, 30 plus years working hard to become happy. All right, but I guarantee most of us if you ask us, are you feeling happy, happy enough, I want more of it. That's our key thing. We want more of that in our lives. And I'm hugely passionate about this. I see this as being a cornerstone to what we all need in our lives. Doesn't matter what you want. If you're a guy looking for women, if you're a woman looking to be successful financially, you need to be happy. If you're not happy, you fail at life. So being happy is big to me. And I'm gonna subject you to a little bit more education here. Who's heard of epigenetics before? One, two, three, ah, great, there's a couple of geeks in the audience, fantastic. Epigenetics, guys, is to give you a bit of a basic lesson. It's where we can inherit certain traits from our parents, but they have nothing to do with our genetics. They're inherited traits that do not follow, that have nothing to do with our actual genetic code. Let me explain and let me explain in a way that'll help you understand why I'm so passionate about being happy. So if I have a look here, I wanna have a look at my great-great-grandmother. And my great-great-grandmother lived in Holland. I'm Dutch, my background's Dutch. And she was married to a landscaper. And this landscaper, he lived on this property of this incredibly wealthy Dutch family looking after their gardens for them. And so, you know, these guys weren't wealthy, but they were quite comfortable. And by every account of anyone, every account of met, and there were a lot of accounts, this guy had a face and temper. He was violently, violently aggressive, okay? He was a very, very unhappy man. Okay, and you can imagine the impact that had on my great-great-grandmother while she was pregnant. So while my great-great-grandmother was pregnant, okay, with my great, with my grandmother, my great-grandmother, pregnant with my grandmother, what happened is all these hormones flushing through a system, all these stress hormones, they're called stereotypically blue-coca-coins flushing through her body. While this baby's in her tummy, what's happening is this baby is learning, okay? Not cognitively, but it's body is learning. Ooh, the world I'm gonna go into is dangerous. There's a dangerous world out there. I have to be the kind of person, after going to the kind of person, that's gonna be very, very sensitive to danger in my environment. And so, when these two relatives of mine, hello, had a child, my grandmother, she too had a terrible temper. She was very easily stressed by her environment, okay? Any little thing could go wrong and she would get mad, okay? My mom was frightened of my grandmother as a child. And she inherited this, epigenetically, from her mother. And so, when she was pregnant with my mother, she had a whole bunch of stress hormones, glucocorticoids flowing through her body, telling her life is tough, life is difficult, any small thing that goes wrong, make a huge deal out of it. So, my mother was born, and she too, bit of a temper, bothered by things in her environment, very difficult to find happiness in life, very difficult because any little thing that goes wrong, it's a disaster. Now, her temper wasn't nearly as bad as her mother's, which wasn't nearly as bad as her grandfather's, okay? And so, I come along and what I'm receiving is a slightly lower dose of glucocorticoids, stress hormones, which were in her body when I was a child, when I was a baby, when I was gestating in the fetus, in her tummy. And guess what? I have high levels of glucocorticoids naturally flowing through my body. What does this mean, guys? When I was 19 years old, I had a breakdown. I was trapped in my bedroom, okay, with panic attacks that didn't let me out of the room. I suffered with horrific depression. This is my background. This is kind of the thing. We've all got a moment, if you talk to James, I'm sure he has too, a moment in life that was so tough, that was so difficult that we had to bounce back and make something of ourselves and just fix it. This was my moment. This was my point that, holy shit, my life is falling apart. This is not who I am. I'm gonna make something happen.