 Sometimes being neurodivergent or having a background of trauma means that we've been exposed to parenting approaches that were never meant for us. They really weren't. And we blame ourselves for that. We turned on ourselves because the tools that we were pressured to use in our parenting didn't work for us or our children. And that's not something that we can hold ourselves responsible for. We can acknowledge that we made mistakes and we tried things and they didn't work. And then we can move forward. But remaining suspended in that self-blame and that shame just cultivates this continuous output of energy that further contributes to the disconnection and distress in our families.