 And that's going to be exhibited in a number of ways. In a lot of cases, you need to do this interviewing process, this screening process, and avoid some of the more common pitfalls. Now, the reality is, I respond to these things. And I know it, can't help it. It's ingrained. Don't respond to it when you're having to make decisions. And there's nothing wrong with saying, I don't want a relationship, I want pretty women in my life, and I want a lot of sex. We can do that. The pickup community has been phenomenal in developing, fostering this sort of content, fostering the community that way. I think there's more to life. I think there's an enormous market out there for coaches, whether it's lifestyle coaches, pickup artists, or any number of aspects, to sit down and say, the real market is not on getting late. We talked about it last night, about the narrow market niches as far as what a lot of pickup artists should talk, whether it's text game, whether it's stripper game, whether it's day game or whatever, real narrow category for a very short period of time. What happens when you actually get the girl, when you actually get the relationship? I think there's this huge market out there for guys that want relationships, want better quality relationships, want wives. How do we get them there? How, as men, do we evolve that when we don't have this as far as fathers, brothers, and society helping to teach us, when we don't have these elements to where we can learn and express it? I know I have gotten in verbal altercations with females, female friends of mine, that were very, very upset with the notion that I'm actually speaking to a group of young men on how to be better men. Why does it have to be a men's issue? It's not, it's a person issue, it just happens to be men's in this issue, and we also don't have the resources that a lot of women do. For example, at all universities, you'll probably find a women's department. Study, history, culture, whether it's literature, studies on these things. We don't have that for the males. And I think it shows in our society. I think it shows in our divorce rates. I think it shows in our failed marriages, whether they've separated or not. I think it shows in our failed relationships. I think it shows in how we respond to the sexes. I think it's atrocious. Uh-oh, got one from Anthony, that's gonna. Ball buster one, kinda. Tim, last year, when he gave a speech, top 10, six, point 20s, right, I meant, front years, he talked about marriage specifically being a potential mistake, and I think specifically in a legal context of kind of the law, legal system being set up for men to fail and kind of get bucked just to put it bluntly. Do you have any thoughts on that? Maybe you start conveying that or how to deal with that? I can. I've never been married, never been. I was curious too. Yeah, so I don't have personal experience. I can sit down and say in many states it's a contract, a legal contract, not necessarily, you know, obviously a religious one instead of Florida believes that. I think that when you partner your ship like that, you are taking incredible risks. I think people vet business partners that they have the same contractual obligations for in a much better way than they do a marriage. Often in business we don't put, we're not emotionally at stake. We don't project our sense of identity the same way we do with marriages, so in that particular way, I think the costs are much, much higher. I think it's a terrible risk. I mean, the running joke literally is that, you know, marriage is the leading cause of divorce. You know, I think that's true. I also think it's an institution people fall into too readily. I happen to be a believer in it, but I think we do it too fast. You know, again, I think we end up with people. We end up in marriage. We end up because we are pushed into it by peer pressure. It's not a conscious decision. The notion to sit down and say, I'm gonna be financially, emotionally, physically responsible for another individual for life is one hell of a commitment. And as a man, you're making that commitment. And as a man, you have an obligation to fulfill that commitment. Doesn't mean you have to be held hostage to it. I think it's appropriate to have divorce, but I think we do it too often. And I don't think there's a responsible or accepted cultural alternative to other than hooking up. I think it's a shame, but you know, it's convoluted. I know Tim got hurt. You know, I know about that personally. I've seen the ramifications of it. I've seen how he's treated women. I've seen how he's treated himself because of it. You know, and they leave psychic scars. He's not emotionally available. And unfortunately there have been a number of people in his life that I've met and enjoyed that he wasn't open to, that his life probably could have been changed had he opened up to it. And unfortunately this individual is killed. She died in a car crash. And there's no getting that back. And that'll wake you up. That will wake you up. You know, and make you realize some different things. So I don't think necessarily marriage is inherently bad. I think it's a terribly risky. There's a lot of risk involved. I think there's some rewards too. But I think it's a noble effort. And you know, an institution of will caught. I've been to every 21 convention event since its, I guess inception prior to 2007. I encourage you to take the stage continually on this, I guess, content. I think it's a great direction for the community. And I think there's more power with what you're saying than probably a lot of the men in this room, especially young men realize. And I think it also underlines the why and why this event has potential to really help men become ideal men. Steve Maida says a lot that men have forgotten how to be men. And I think that statement is incredibly powerful. And that doesn't always necessitate or mean that we go to a club and we can walk in and bang the first chick we see within 20 minutes. Is that really a definition of a man? If that is the definition for you, the community has given you the house to do that. But I think the larger aspect of men and the success of a greater society does not fall in that definition of men. No, I would agree. And I'm glad Anthony invited you. And I applaud him for having you and I agree. Your speech has been one hell of a speech. Thank you, thank you. It's been meaningful to me because, again, I consider myself a rank amateur. I've tried, I failed, I picked myself up and I tried to learn on every account. And then you join a community of men, guys like yourself that are doing the same. You share and open yourselves up and I put my content out there. Good, bad, and ugly, it's still there. And you learn from it. And one of some of the best aspects I've learned is when I'm thinking a particular way and I have a close friend that knows the information can read it and sit down and go, yeah, but here's something else and that opens up other doors in a way that you wouldn't expect. And to be able to take all this information, put it together and put it out there is kind of a gift back to me because I know I stole most of the content to begin with. I didn't get here because I was just a smart, savvy guy. If I was a smart, savvy guy, I wouldn't have been in that position to begin with. And so it's been a wonderful experience for me to be able to sit here before each of you and be able to express all that information and convey that and to give it to you. And I hope you guys found it of worth and some merit. Thank you. One more. I really enjoyed that. And I just had one question, how do you transmute your values? Let's say you're in a relationship, like I'm with a woman that I absolutely adore, great relationship, open relationship, kind of long distance, we see each other every five weeks, like six weeks. And as far as keeping things growing and aligning our values, because there's, like I said, we help each other to grow a lot. So on the few things that you don't really see eye to eye or just different for us, how do we go about mingling those or should we? And again, it's gonna be a judgment call. The question is how out of alignment are you? Are they minor issues? Are they significant? Are there things you can live with? I'm not gonna sit down and say you're gonna find a perfect match. You know, that idea of you complete me, that's a fairytale. You know, we're dealing with people. They're gonna have fallacies. They're gonna have errors. You're not gonna see eye to eye. Is it a growth element? Is it something that makes you a better individual? And that, I think, is terribly telling. If it's an issue where it's not gonna be surmountable or it's gonna become an issue again and again or bother you for a while, it will fester and it will start resonating in the relationship. It'll start coming out. The question is I sit down and say if it's a concern, also look at why are you staying in it? Is it because you're too secure? Are you being too complacent? Are you really respecting your own possibility? For example, a stock investing analogy would be just because you bought in at a stock and it's lost some money, doesn't mean you hold out until it rises back up. When you can actually transfer that amount, switch boats to a stock that actually will perform, that will break out and to get you where you want. The other aspect is you sit down and say how much do you value it? Is this something you're willing to live with? You know, are you really that compromised or is it just a difference? You know, I've dated vegetarians. I love meat, okay? We didn't see eye to eye on it for a number of different reasons. Doesn't mean we couldn't live together. Doesn't mean we couldn't have a relationship together. You know, I don't know to what degree that lies but it would be a source to investigate. Look into it, ask, talk to her. I mean, that's gonna be kind of an odd one. Bring it up. Have that open discussion, bring it to the forefront. But one of the sorryest things I'll say is that sometimes love isn't enough and that that is a horrible, horrible situation to be in. To be emotionally tied, to be emotionally in connection, to be involved with somebody to that degree, okay? And not be able to be able to live with somebody to have an honest, healthy relationship. You have to let that one go in that case and it's gonna suck. It doesn't mean you don't stop loving them. It's just that you can't live with them. You can't maintain that relationship in that regard. It'll be toxic. And that toxicity ends up poisoning the soul and that's not what you want. It's better to love somebody and not be involved with them than it is to live through a toxic event like that. Bonus question. All right. I just, first off, I wanna second what the camera guy said. You know, I was a few years ago kind of started to get into the PUA community and got turned off because it was like no soul. I didn't see it. And like what I'm coming across or what I'm getting from what you're saying is like you really care about the people you're with, the relationships, as well as yourself. And so my question is like the specifics. You talked about a friend of yours that ended a relationship and he showed up at this door and he said, I love you. I care about you. I'm ending this relationship. I'm gonna miss you and thank you. Yeah. And you called it brutally honest. Yeah. Raw. Very raw. Incredibly raw. And I know him both. No one, no one like him both. Yeah. And so what my question is, is with the intention of caring about the other person and taking care of them and the intention of caring about yourself and taking care of yourself and doing what is the best or the ideal. Is brutally honest the ideal? Do you feel like that is the ideal? No, no. I would hope that you wouldn't have to be brutal. That you could live an ideal, recognize it when it starts to change and of course correct either into it appropriately or out without having to be brutal. Unfortunately though, a lot of times you don't know those inflection points. You don't know when it starts to go over and tell it's too late and the only way to correct it is to make a harsh correction, such as ending and terminating a relationship fairly decisively. And that one was. And it was decisive from the standpoint that they had done it a number of times. That they had parted amicably tried to be friends, spent them, something happened and she came back an emotional event appropriately. She was there for him and then you're invested again as well. But the problem is just because again, you love somebody and you're mostly invested and connected with somebody, doesn't make the relationship right. And in this particular case, the relationship wasn't right. They didn't necessarily have the same views. They didn't necessarily have the same life objectives. He was vastly more social, wanted to travel, see the world, live a little bit more bohemian, take some risk over, I say risk. Travel the world and actually put himself in a foreign location and get lost. She was vastly more conservative. That's a hard one to get over and she wasn't gonna change. And he ultimately wanted somebody that he could share that with. Consequently, he got to a point and realized, I can either live with this individual the rest of my life and it was likely they would. Or make a harsh decision to say, I want something different for my life and I need to pursue my life for me. And unfortunately, you're not gonna be happy doing that. And she probably would've been drug-along if he insisted. Or if he coaxed her into it. I have no doubt she would've gone. I don't think she would've been happy. And so ultimately, he took a guy's responsibility, took the integrity aspect of it and sat down and said, I need to end this. And I needed to do it in the following way. I can't have contact with you. I wish I could, but I just can't. Any questions off camera? We gotta wrap up. We gotta go to lunch. Yeah. So guys, that's it. Thank you. Thank you.