 How do you find out what is material to a relationship to someone? Um, well, let me let's see material. What's important to them? Well, you first you ask them questions What what does a relationship look like for you? What does commitment look like for you? Do you want to get married? You want to get remarried? Do you like the institution of marriage if yes or no? Why see if someone says okay, let's think about the okay. I didn't say this earlier Why don't you like the institution of marriage? What bothers you? Well, you could take half my money You know, I don't want to be tied down. I want the freedom. I want to move on Why would you want to be even dating someone? Who who is fear is fear-based? Why would you want to date someone that's fear-based?