 So are you shy about your looks are you shy about taking pictures and stuff? If you're are you not sure if anybody really thinks if you're hot or if you're cute Well, it's very possible that you may be missing Some of the signs that show that you're actually a lot more attractive a lot cuter a lot hotter Than you think you are and so today I'm gonna go over seven signs That show that you are hotter than you think that you are so sign number one Let's talk about it. So people stare at you or look up when you walk past them So people look at people who they're attracted to and so this doesn't necessarily Mean that somebody likes you or that they're in they're into you or something But if you're attractive with like people look at things that are that are unique that are different, right? And for men, at least if they see somebody that's attractive to them They'll look at them and so anytime you see a guy that that turns his head and looks over at you It's probably that he's attracted to you that doesn't mean he's gonna approach you or that anything's gonna come from it But it does mean that maybe you haven't noticed as much that you're more attractive than you actually think that you are So here's my suggestion If someone looks at you look at them back and smile, right? That will make you even more Attractive it's really attractive when people smile people like people smiling Just a suggestion look back at them and smile could start up a conversation if you're looking for one of those number two Is that you get weird compliments? So some guys will try to compliment women in kind of strange ways and the reason they do this is because They're they're trying to make it look like they're not like actually hitting on you or or whatever because they don't want to be Rejected they don't want to look like they're needy They they don't want to you know if they're friends with you and they're attracted to you And they're just kind of thrown out some bait there to see what happens They they don't want to end up losing their friendship or something like that over the fact that they're attracted to you and and so if If he gives you some kind of weird compliment He almost certainly likes you in a romantic way and if I were you I would just assume that that is true By the way, if you're here right now And if you're watching this make sure that you say hi in the chat and let us know where in the world You're watching this from it's cool to see all the women from all over the world watching these live streams So my suggestion is that you call out this behavior if a guy gives you a weird compliment And you actually are attracted to him and you like him what you can say is Is just first you accept it and then look at him and say You like me don't you and Then if you whatever he says if he kind of gets like nervous or whatever and if you do like him just say it's okay It's okay. I like it right and basically all you're doing here is you're just giving him permission You're letting him know that you like him too and that it's okay, and it's fun, right? So it's it's fun. It's fun and flirty. You're just having fun. You're just flirting here That's it. Number three is people seem genuinely confused when you put yourself down. So Maybe you talk negatively about yourself Maybe you have you do that thing where people do like self-deprecating humor or whatever well, if you do that and somebody's like what is she talking about like She's totally attractive or she's not that weird or she's you know people don't Think that way about you or whatever, right? Basically, you probably Actually think some negative things about yourself Which a lot of people do most people do that other people don't think about you, right? Otherwise they think great things about you But you have all these kind of negative things that you have going on in your mind And so here's what my suggestion is if you're the kind of person that does do that and you experience these things my suggestion is that You stop doing that completely and instead get into the habit of talking about yourself in a positive way and and Just talking yourself up and looking at the positive ways that you exist in this world because that is actually even more attractive and And you'll actually feel better about yourself most likely as well. So number four Let's get to number four is you like to laugh so One of the most Attractive things that a woman can do is she she can be Playful and fun and joking around and enjoying herself, right? Like it's really really attractive Especially in this day and age a lot of people aren't really enjoying themselves or it's kind of some people have kind of this fake like Friendly happiness thing going on especially in the United States And so if if you actually enjoy yourself and you own that and you're having a good time It's very possible that you're a lot more attractive than you realize And so my suggestion is that you find more things to laugh about in your life find things you enjoy in your life What's great in your life spend more time laughing spend more time? Just watching comedies and just getting yourself into a playful fun and enjoyable mood because it's incredibly attractive So number five what's number five and by the way if you get what we're talking about here Say I get it in the chat if you don't get what we're talking about Just ask me a question about it or you can ask me any kind of question you want to and I'll answer all the questions here at the end So number five is that you don't receive compliments very well And so people tell you that you're attractive and you shrug it off or you reject what they're saying and so This happens with a lot of people I actually used to be this way and I used to have a really hard time Taking compliments because I had some self-esteem issues and whatnot Although I've been working on them. They're a lot better now And so here's my suggestion whenever someone gives you a compliment Just receive it fully just take it fully in if you're not sure what to say Simply say thank you and that's one of the best ways that you can receive a compliment And that's actually even more attractive is if you fully receive it and just allow it to come in And if you don't it actually tells everybody that there's something weird going on with you So so you don't want people thinking there's something weird like bad weird going on with you You want good weird good weird not bad weird and speaking of weird Let's move on to number six, which is that you have a unique fashion sense And so unique taste is actually attractive because it makes you stand out from the crowd It makes you different than other people, right? You have unique parts of your personality and so my suggestion is that whenever you can find something that Gives that expresses your unique taste just wear it with pride and just bring out your personality Whenever you can and have your unique Taste on display because it one it actually gives people to things to kind of come over and start conversations with you about and to it kind of displays some of your personality and Makes people feel like there's something different and unique and interesting special about you. So That's that number seven. We're gonna go over number seven and then I'm gonna talk about something That's even just as important here And so number seven is you focus on signs or clues that people Don't like you and you do that way too much So if you're always focusing on what people don't like about you or how things didn't go, right? Or how someone isn't doing all the things that you want them to write He didn't he didn't message you and and you thought well It's the weekend and he's supposed to message you and and we were hanging out the other day And I thought things are special But you know, maybe he doesn't things things are special because he's not contacting me It's a weekend and all these things right not only are you gonna drive yourself completely insane But you're also you're gonna put yourself in overthinking mode and all those kinds of things But you're also going to miss out on the things that are actually great the things that are good the things that are awesome the things that Maybe people like about you, right? So Oftentimes people who are attracted to each other. They will end up missing each other, right? Or they won't end up Continuing to see each other after the first date or the second date or whatever and they don't end up together because of one very simple thing Miss communication, right so You don't show interest so he thinks that you don't like him Miss communication He doesn't take you on the kind of date that you want So you think that he's not really that into you but he's doing that because He doesn't know what kind of a date you want right or he thinks that this is the kind of date You're supposed to take somebody on But you don't and so you guys go your separate ways miss communication or He doesn't text you as soon as you want him to and so you think he's not really interested But really he's just trying not to turn you off or do something screwed up and creep you out or make you think that He's too needy and desperate or whatever and so all of a sudden you guys go your separate ways and don't get together Miss communication right communication is so so vitally important. So here's my suggestion on what I think that you should do in these situations and Here's what it is shift your focus to One people who appreciate you care about you and say good things to you, right? So you can fill up more of your life with that spend less time Trying to chase down people that aren't that into you that aren't giving you the time and attention and the things that you do want and Become more aware when someone is Giving you compliments appreciating you caring about you doing all those things and start to Appreciate those people so it's kind of a three-step thing here Right shifting your focus to the people and the situations of the things that are that are right that are good That that are our people and things that you appreciate and who appreciate you to is becoming more aware when someone is doing those things and then three is Consciously remember to thank and appreciate someone when they do give you compliments So that's it if you have any questions about anything put them in the chat I'm gonna go back over the signs real quickly one more time and then I will get to your question. So sign number one is People stare at you or look up when you walk past them sign number two is you get weird compliments, right? It's sign number three is people genuinely they seem confused about When you talk yourself down or put yourself down number four is you love to laugh number five Is you don't receive compliments very well number six is you have a unique? Sense of fashion taste number seven is you focus on signs or clues that people Don't like you and you do that way too often. All right. Let's see what kind of Questions and comments and stuff we have over here Hello, hello, hello, everybody's saying hello. Do you have any questions make sure you put them in the chat? I'm totally butchering your name says I love your teachings. They all make sense. Well, thank you. I appreciate that I'm glad they make sense to you. They didn't make sense I would be incredibly concerned for my own welfare and what is going on with me Also, make sure if you don't have my program yet go visit the forever woman formula dot com I always forgot to pitch my own program. It's free. You can go check it out for free Go to for the forever woman formula dot com watch the video there and then you can sign up for the program for free So go do that make sure you do that So Lori says I was staring at a man with a bunch of tattoos one time and my ex slammed on the brakes and asked me if I needed a better look Yeah, well, there you go There you go All right, so lots of highs lots of highs Elaine says I'm beautiful. That's awesome Elaine Hi Matt from the Philippines hello South Carolina lots of people from all over the place. Let's see. Do we have any do we have any questions here? Do-do-do-do-do Lots of trues true true Elaine says I'm Completely nuts but attractive to men as soon as they get close I push away because of my mental health issues. Well Okay, I don't know what to say about that Carol says you're right so right on love the laughter. Absolutely. There you go Linda says how can I help get over my feelings of embarrassment over being dumped out of the blue? Committed long-term Relationship so how can you get over your feelings of embarrassment over being dumped? Well, first I think the thing that you want to recognize is that there's nothing really to be embarrassed about you know if you get if You get dumped it. I mean Kind of depends on what your situation is. How long were you guys together? I mean really what you want to do is shift your focus more than anything else, right? You want to stop focusing on the fact that you're embarrassed because what you focus on you feel and what you feel? You end up receiving and so if you want to feel more embarrassed just focus on Embarrassment if you want to feel excited about your life focus on the things that are coming up in your life and the things that you want Do you want to feel love? Focus on the ways that you are loving yourself and that you're giving to yourself and the love that you have between other people in your life Whether it's with plants animals people whatever you whatever creator you believe in if you believe in one of those things and So you want to shift the way that you focus? that's the number one thing that you want to do number two is you want to start getting busy doing other things in your life and Depending on how long you guys have been broken up You probably want to go and start getting connected to some new people and some new situations Hannah says don't like fake-friendly people. I don't like fake-friendly people either. I don't like those fake-friendly people Yolanda is giving lots of virtual hugs away right now So if you guys need a virtual hug, here's you Yolanda and her hugs I hope you if you needed one you got your virtual hug Got your virtual hug Amy says it took me a long time to accept compliments. Yeah, it happens sometimes Deb says I'm weird and proud of it. Yeah, that's right weird power. That's what I'm talking about Yep. Yep. Yep. Yep Celia says hello guys. Hope you're all staying safe. I hope everybody's staying safe as well That's it's an important thing to do is stay safe Doop-de-doop-de-doop Misty says I got told by a narcissist that me saying I am who I am was a very bad thing Well, I guess it kind of depends on the context of when you're saying I am who I am if you you know Light somebody's car on fire it explodes and they're like, why would you do something like that? You're like, I am who I am right that might be a problem And so it's one of those things, you know, it just kind of depends on what the scenario is as to whether it's a good or a bad thing Doop-de-doop-de-do Let's see what Teresa says here Teresa says I am 64, but I don't look my age My son is 46 his friends that are his age try to hit on me and admit They always had a crush on me when they were younger. Yep. Yep. Yep. Yep. Yep. Yep That is something that's going on a lot right now Carol says I can get an apology out of the rudest person just by being nice back. Yes Yes being nice is a power. It is a superpower if you do it Well, it can be a great superpower Autumn says you are so right Matt. By the way, you are so hot. Your girlfriend is so lucky. Wow Sure, she'll be happy to hear that Deb says narcissists are people who just aren't happy with their own life and enjoy controlling others They aren't worth my time. I move on from that negative energy. Yeah You want to move on from that energy if it comes that you just want to be like Yeah Do some like karate moves or whatever you have going on, right and just fight that energy back out and be like no thanks God was that nerdy Sat nerdy. I don't know Probably all right. Let's see what Michelle says. I wasn't fully open with a guy and he made assumptions I'm like looking over like do the ninja right here I wasn't fully open with a guy and he made assumptions and then quickly before I could really tell him he pulled away Because he didn't think it would work. I afraid one of us would get hurt I now want to share with him. He is friendly talking and on and off and Don't want to scare him but open Us both up to real potential How do I know? When he will be open enough to listen so I can fix the mute miscommunication on my part I would stop trying to fix the miscommunication on your part is what I would do and I would just be open with what's going on right now, right? Like stop thinking about like oh There's this thing that I'm trying to fix that we had this conversation about in the past and instead just bring up new Conversations and new dialogue instead of trying to make it about kind of fixing that thing and How do you know when he'll be open enough? I don't know how open of a Conversation do you need to have? I mean it kind of depends on the subject matter that you're talking about here, right? Like if it's something that's really kind of intimate and deep that It you just need to have a conversation where you kind of weave your way into that And most people are at the point where they're either ready to have that conversation Or they're pretty much never ready to have that conversation and so you want to just be aware of that and just you know have Having normal flow of dialogue that goes into that direction and don't worry about whether he's Open enough to listen to it or not because if he's not open enough He's not going to be getting open enough to it anytime in the near future most likely I mean, I don't know for a fact I'd have to know more about whatever it is that you're actually talking about here because I'm just making Tons of assumptions about things that you know, you haven't really told me much about so All right, so Maria said or Marla says if you have Known a guy for seven months and we're hooking up with this guy for a while and it seemed like you were getting closer but You haven't heard from him in over a week is it best to just wait for him to text you first He has told me not to take it personally if I don't hear from him because he just gets immersed in his work But it's best not to text him, right? Well, it kind of depends, right? It depends on the flow of the conversation that that you've had up into this point if if you've had Conversations and he's always kind of moving forward and doing things and and all that kind of stuff And he's usually the one reaching out It's not a problem if you reach out once in a while, right? It's not a big deal yet what what I say Generally speaking is that If you can have like an 80 20 ratio Or a 70 30 ratio where he's initiating conversations 70 or 80 percent of the time and you're initiating conversations 20 or 30 percent of the time That's those are good ratio numbers What you want to watch out for is getting past the point of 50 percent where you're initiating more than 50 percent Of the conversations because then all kinds of weird things can start happening there Where you don't know where he is and what's going on with him from a mental and psychological standpoint I will say as well though that I do not suggest that you just hook up with guys And not have some kind of framework of what you're trying to get into here. I have a program It's called the forever woman and you can get it at the forever woman formula.com There should be a link above or below this video about that And my suggestion is that you make sure that you're getting yourself into a good situation from the beginning because yeah Absolutely, you should be leaning back and you should be letting him kind of chase and pursue you as much as you can But at the same time you you want to make sure that you're getting yourself into a good situation And it kind of worries me a little bit that you're like I've known this guy for seven months and we were hooking up, right? And you you're not talking about him Doing anything else other than hooking up with you which if you are then you can't have any expectations about anything that he does and You you know, you're just going to have to do whatever you want to do and hope it ends up working out because you're You know lost in relationship limbo and you have no idea whether this is going anywhere. It's not and I suggest you don't do that ever in any situation And if you want to make sure you're getting in a good situation get a copy of my program You can get it for free at the forever woman formula dot com So shadowed says so when I get weird compliments about my art from my friend matt That means he likes me. It's possible It's very very possible that he likes you and that he's saying it like that Because he doesn't want to directly say things to you and if you're attracted to him I mean Here's my suggestion for almost every dude that is talking to you and friends with you and Is generally in conversations with you and and your friends My suggestion is that you just assume that they like you because they probably do They they're probably attracted to you. They probably like you in a romantic way Many of them are probably settling for not being in a romantic kind of situation with you because They're worried that they're going to get rejected and that maybe they're not really good enough for you and you know all kinds of other things and and they still want to be around you and so Absolutely, he probably likes you. I mean, there's a really high probability chance And so if you're attracted to him the way that you build up that conversation You can start kind of shifting the conversation from friendship to Romance, I had a conversation with a client not too long ago where this was her situation She was in a situation where she was in this friendship with this guy And she wanted it to go somewhere past kind of friendship and into romance And one of the ways to do that is to call it out and to call him out and to Put kind of the onus on him and make it seem you know and call out his attraction because when you do that All of a sudden it gives him permission to start opening up and start having conversations with you Where he starts Being more romantic because he knows that you're interested now Joanne says I always get nice compliments. Awesome so Misty says very true deb. I learned that very soon with him and walked away But due to him I was able to do a lot of soul searching and figured out who I really am I love myself for who I am. That is awesome to hear. I love I love to hear that Deb says thank you so much for your advice. You are absolutely welcome Thank you for sharing your awesomeness and your authenticity you are welcome You are absolutely welcome Ellie says, how do I start a conversation regarding how I feel about the guy I'm seeing We are spending more time together and feel a real connection. So It depends on what you mean by that right like a lot of times what women mean When they say, how do I start? How do I tell him how I feel is they want to do this kind of dump? Right and that is not a conversation that you want to have right instead You want to kind of smooth things in and and allow him to start getting more attracted And for him to start trying to like open up about himself and and for that kind of world to merge together like this Because if if you're a lot more attracted to him than he is to you and you start opening up What's going to happen is you're going to start feeling more invested And the the only challenge with that Is that if he's not that invested yet and he's not that interested yet and you're You know just spewing out everything that you're in love with him And you think that you'd have his the best babies of his ever and you know, you you want to get married and You know, you want to lock him down and have a white picket fence and you know You want to have 30 babies and live on a farm and you know all that kind of thing, right? And that's like that's like the conversation that you're talking about having right now You might you might want to slow down a little bit, right? Just chill out slow down Let things progress a little bit more and a little bit more and instead of trying to have a conversation Where you can spew out your guts about how you feel about him Just you know connect with him in in different ways and let it come out through compliments through appreciation Through things like that right through connecting with him in ways so that it builds Instead of kind of throwing the metaphor that I have for this is throwing a giant log onto a Itty bitty fire, right? If you're trying to throw a giant log onto an itty bitty fire, you're just going to Smother it and instead what you want to do Is you want to You you want to grow it and you want to build it up and you want to give it Twigs and leaves and little sticks and stuff like that until it grows and grows and grows and grows And then at some point it can get really really big and it's fine If you start having conversations like that because you're not going to put it out anymore But if you're not at the point where you're having conversations like that you want to build it up slowly because otherwise you might end up freaking them out and and kind of tipping the The The weights right of of power and in the relationship Which I know a lot when a lot of people hear that where they like freak out and they're like no power You know, but every relationship has a power dynamic to it Whether you like to believe so or not right and your power is basically your ability to get whatever it is that you want And the more invested you are in the situation the less of a power That you have in that situation if they aren't the same amount invested Right, so if you're really invested and he's kind of like I'm not really sure that I want to be in this You know, I don't I'm not even sure if I want to be swimming with this woman yet Right you're you jump in the pool and he's like on the edge and he's hanging out there and you're like Hey, I'm swimming around right and and he's he's he hasn't jumped in right all of a sudden He's like well, what if he wants to go somewhere else or if he's like I don't know if I even want to go in this pool, right? And then you're like totally committed to it and he's already gone And so you don't want to be in that situation You want to have a situation where you both get over to the edge and you put your feet in and you know You kind of get in and then you know you're swimming around a little bit and then you guys are in right you're in together And it's really easy to have those conversations then and so you want you want to do it slowly. That's my suggestion Joanne says thank you for your message today. You are absolutely welcome. Misty says love your advice Well, I am very grateful for that Anjana says in India things are different. Have any idea how men behave here? Well, I think that there's some things that are that are innate to human biology, right? There's male masculine male biology and if you're working with a man who's got male biology There's certain things that are absolutely innate that all men have all over the world Right and then there's some things that are cultural things where men do certain things a little bit differently because They are in a cultural setting and so There are absolutely differences for sure. No doubt about it I've spent some time in India before and I've hung out with Indian people and there's definitely some some different things going on over in India for sure But there's also some things that are absolutely the same because they're men and you're women and There's a lot of biological things that are absolutely the same So facebook anonymous user says how do you keep a long distance relationship? Fresh amid the beer the beer virus the beer the beer bug The beer bug I'm just going to call it the beer bug from now on because I'll get demonetized if I if I call it out by name And so what you want to do? So first off I just made a video one of my last live streams was all about long distance relationships and long distance situations And there's a lot to be said about that. I have an entire program about it It's called long distance allure. You can get it at my website at commitment connection.com And so there's a lot to be said about it. I suggest you go and watch that video I'm going to be doing some more live streams here pretty soon about long distance situations and relationships So just look for that So marissa says hi, I'm confused why guys show interest and then just disappear Stop texting or calling everything is great. And then it just stops. I don't get it Yeah, I mean it kind of depends on the situation. It depends on the guy Could be a lot of different things it could be one So one of the things is that he might not think that you're really that interested in him So one of the things I talked about earlier in the video was this miscommunication thing Right and miscommunication thing is a big thing in dating because a lot of times what will happen Is women will hear this thing. They're like, oh lean back Right and so they lean all the way back and they're like falling out of their chair And the guy's like is she even interested? She doesn't seem like she's paying any attention She doesn't seem like she cares that much and unless he's a super confident guy who's like every woman's into me, right He he might not continue to try to move forward, right? So there's different ways that guys test right because guys aren't confidence machines guys have insecurities They have issues. They have they're afraid of rejection And so if a guy is interested in you and you're not showing him That you're interested in him in a way that makes sense to him He might not continue to pursue you because he doesn't want to end up in the friend zone And so if a guy feels that way He he might he might decide to pull away and just disappear because he didn't think you're that interested And I hear that from women all the time. There's a thing that I talk about in the forever woman formula I think it's in the advanced program where I talk about attainability And attainability is all about making sure that a guy understands that you still like him Right because what ends up happening is a lot of times when women take my materials they take it to the extreme, right? And I was just talking about like the 80 20 like 70 30 Communication well a lot of women will take it to a 100 zero and they're like I'm not contacting this guy ever Right and so he's like she never puts any effort into contacting me I don't think she's that into me right and so he's like well I don't want to end up in the friend zone And so he'll end up just leaving the situation and going finding somebody else because he doesn't want to end up Stuck in the friend zone because that sucks for guys. It's like one of their biggest fears and so That's one of the reasons another reason is his own insecurity a guy might have his own insecurities where he Is just like not he thinks that he's not worthy of you or he screwed up He feels like maybe he can't really handle you or deal with you or he's not he doesn't think that He's financially in a situation where he can provide for you and take you out on dates and spend money on you And if he feels like it's going to cost a lot of money to be with you And he's like trying to build his life and build his business build his work or whatever He might pull away because he's like I can't afford this woman You know, I'd love to date her and be with her But I simply am not able to afford her and so I'm just going to go and be single until You know because women are expensive right and and so that's what a lot of guys will think There's a lot of other things that could be going on there Another one has to do with cultural things So it could be I get women all the time that are like, oh Guy ghosted me for three or four days, right or a guy ghosted me for five days where they don't realize that A lot of people for a lot of people that's normal dating behavior where they don't contact Somebody and go out on date with them once but once a week, right? And so that might be normal behavior. You think he's pulling away. You think he's disappearing He's just like, oh, you know, I've I've got things that are going on in my life I'm a busy person and so I'll see her again in a week or whatever And so he might just have a completely different mindset about dating and relationships than you have And so he's just in his head. He's like, hey, this is what's going on He's thinking I don't want to screw it up with her right because he doesn't want to come off as needy or too into you And then and then freak you out and you end up not being that interested in him, right? And so he might be trying to play it cool, but you're interpreting it as him not being interested in you So that that's another huge thing that can happen another one has to do with hormones So if you have gotten intimate with a guy sometimes guys kind of disappear and pull away after getting physically intimate together because they have They're their tester their testosterone actually goes down And they don't feel that drive to pursue and go after and get physically intimate with you again And so they get distracted with other things and you don't become their priority anymore And they're just focused on other things until they start pulling that drive back up and they're like, oh my god Where's that beautiful woman that I was talking to marissa? Oh, I liked her so much and then he contacts you and you yell at him because it's been five days and and And you feel like you've been treated badly and he thought that it was just a normal situation And so, you know, that's another thing is is that a lot of guys know That if they don't contact you within a certain period of time And all all women have different kind of time frames that they feel like a man should be contacting them after a date And if you don't contact them during that certain if he doesn't contact you during that certain period of time Most guys realize that most women are going to freak out on them and yell at them and be like All right. And so if he feels like it's been too long, he might just be like, you know what? I don't even care, you know, I liked her But I don't like her enough to get yelled at and so if he thinks that you're the kind of Woman that will yell at him and freak out when he comes back Then he might not come back and that's one of the reasons why I tell women That if you want to connect with a guy and he pulls away The time to have the conversation about him pulling away is not When he comes back that is not when you want to have that conversation You want to welcome him back and make him feel Like being away from you is worse than being with you And you may want to make him feel like coming back to you is better than staying away from you Those are the feelings that you want him to have and you can't have Make him feel that way if he comes to you and you start yelling at him and all that kind of stuff And so maybe that's more information than than you wanted to hear. However Those those are some of the reasons why guys will just disappear stop texting and calling all that kind of thing Even if they show that they like you and they they're really interested in you There could be there's a whole plethora of reasons why he might not kind of continue Seeing you or trying to date you or any of that kind of stuff And so you want to be aware of those and some of the ones that you can do things about There's things you can do about and some of the ones that you can't you can't and so and there's also one where he's just not He's he felt that way in the moment But long term maybe he didn't see you as long term relationship material or something like that or somebody that he'd want to be with Long term or your values weren't aligned or or maybe there was a deal breaker there that he saw And he was like, oh, yeah, I really like her but you know because he's got his own issues too, right Men sabotage themselves just like women sabotage themselves, right and good guys will be like they'll look at a woman Who's just amazing and they'll be like well, you know, she's great Except you know, there's this like thing that she does You know where she like kind of snaps her fingers every once in a while and that like drives me crap I can't tell you how many dumb things I've heard from guys where they've like been like, well, you know This woman she was really great But you know, I saw her toes and then after I saw her toes. I just I couldn't date her anymore I mean, how can you date a woman with those kinds of toes, you know, and you're just like, oh my god Okay, man, whatever right and women do that as well, right everybody does that and so it's it's just one of those things I mean, there's there could be a whole I mean, there's a laundry list of reasons why He might end up he might tell you that he really likes you and then just disappear and not talk to you anymore Right there there could be other things too, right like work issues I mean, there could be other priorities that end up taking over and he's just like this is more important than Hanging out and talking to her Carolyn says I have gone through a lot of emotional abuse and hurt Due to my husband cheating and lying throughout my marriage I don't know how to be attractive to others, especially males. So that they compliment me well first of all, I would be There's a whole bunch of different things going on there and really more than anything What you need to do is you need to heal and you need to work on yourself And you need to shift whatever your mindsets are and your beliefs are I talk about this in detail in the forever woman program You can get it at the forever woman formula dot com That's something that you should listen to over and over and over again I have a thing where I talk about belief systems in there and that specifically my suggestion Excuse me is that you listen to that over and over and over and over again so that you get those beliefs ingrained in your mind And that you emotionalize them and you say them over and over and over, right? And you start looking for evidence that guys are interested in you and you stop making about Guys complimenting you right because because compliments are just one way of a guy showing that he's attracted to you There's a huge list of them right the most important one to you might be compliments right because your love language is words of affirmation and so you're just like I I need men to compliment me But it might be that he's doing other things to show that he's interested in you Like he's spending time with you and you're one on one and he's really engaged and he's asking you questions and all this stuff But you're blocking that out and you're like, oh, well, he's not complimenting me so he's not interested in me when In reality he is interested in you but He's just not complimenting you and so you're not recognizing the fact that he is interested in you And so my suggestion is that you open yourself up to other possibilities that a guy might be interested in you in other ways And if you want specifically guys to start complimenting you guys that you're seeing To start complimenting you there's other ways that you can do that The number one way is through appreciating him and appreciating or just saying things right like one of the things that i've said on some of my live streams Which kind of cracks me up right is is i'll say things like you know what i really like compliments and then next thing you know Well, like there'll be the the chat over here will be like filled with Women saying compliments to me and i'm like, oh, thank you. I love compliments like thank you so much Right and when i that that's it's literally the same thing Like if you are talking to a guy and you're just like, you know what? You know what thing i really love is i just i love to get compliments It's like one of the one of my favorite things in the world right and then And then just leave it there and move on to another subject and don't even talk about it anymore He will get the message in his mind And if you're and if you're not expecting it and you're not trying to force him to do it or anything like that Then he'll become a lot more open to it and he might start doing it in ways that that That you want him to do because he knows now that you really like compliments or or if a guy does compliment you You can appreciate him for that and all kinds of stuff like that right? I go over that in great detail in my love frames toolkit program Do do do So anonymous facebook user says what do you do if your husband makes you feel unimportant? My suggestion is that you have a real conversation with him So if you're in a marriage if you're married to each other and your husband makes you feel unimportant It could be a whole bunch of different things right one It could be that he doesn't know that he's making you feel unimportant And there's certain things that he's doing that triggers you feeling unimportant And he doesn't know that And so you want to have conversations with him about that So he's aware of what makes you feel unimportant and what makes you feel important The next thing that I suggest that you do is spend time making yourself feel important because that is as important As your husband making you feel important because if you make yourself feel important and you feel great and you're You're constantly like looking for ways that you are important And you're you're doing things for yourself that make you feel important And it's really easy to make you feel important It won't even become as big of a deal for you Whether he does or doesn't make you feel important in those certain kinds of situations There's other things that you can do too right like reframing What he's doing and finding out like just having conversations with him right like so for instance If you have a conversation with him and he does something and it makes you feel unimportant right like Let's say for instance That's something that you need in order to feel important is for him to take your your dish You know your plate after you're done eating and for him to take that from you and to go wash it off Right and he doesn't do that. And so you feel unimportant Well, if you con if you have a community a conversation with him about that And you're like, yeah, you know what and and he's like, oh, I had no idea like that didn't even register to me I I think you're incredibly important and That like that didn't have any reflection on that and I'll do that whenever I can think of it and whatever Right, you can reframe that in your mind instead of trying to force him to do it It's like well that might not actually mean that I'm not important Right, if you reframe the fact that you know taking a dish might have nothing to do with your importance at all, right and that Your importance actually comes from a feeling within yourself And that he definitively isn't maliciously trying to make you feel unimportant It can actually come be really powerful for you to kind of break Those ideas of what makes you feel unimportant that way you're not feeling unimportant when he does things And instead you don't get your importance from external sources or your feelings of importance from external sources and instead you get it from yourself and again a great way to Kind of ingrain this stuff in your mind is to get the forever woman formula and I talk in detail about belief systems That you need to in order to feel like you're an important valuable amazing woman And so you might need to I talk all about you know shifting beliefs and and things like that in there as well And so that's a really powerful thing that you can do and like I said the program's free My suggestion is that everybody gets it We have it works with women who are married who are single who are you know in all kinds of different situations So I suggest you go and check that out So amy says hello matt. Well, hello amy Ah Thanks for the hello Joanne says when men give me compliments sometimes I begin to wonder what their motivation is What is what is their motivation? I'm gracious, but try not to be too encouraging. Yeah, I mean if you don't want them to be You know hitting on you I mean it would right it would see at least joanne you are aware of it, right like you are Aware of the fact that these guys might have other motivations romantic motivations Because they are giving you compliments. So absolutely Absolutely Absolutely Let's see if we have any other questions here Quick questions quick questions So marla's clearing things up if you have known a guy for seven months and have been hooking up and it's over a week Oh, I think we already answered that question Yes, I did So shana, this isn't a quick question, but I will answer it in a Quickish kind of way shana says how do I communicate effectively when he hurt me By cheating and how do we move on from this point? Well, it kind of depends on What kind of a relationship you guys have right now, right? If you guys are in a relationship, which I'm just going to assume that you are the The real there's a lot of different problems here, right first The problem is that you are I mean if you if you're really dedicated to this and he's really dedicated to making things work and It sounds like you know that he was cheating and that it's open And so I mean the best thing that you can do in a real relationship is have a real conversation about this And moving on from this point. I mean it he has to be Here if if I were you this is what my criteria would be for even thinking about continuing To have any kind of a relationship with this guy at all First off, I would absolutely address this and I would address it powerfully and I would address it Matter of factly and have a real conversation about it and not let it go without having a real conversation about it And making sure that he knows that it's it's not only that it's not that it hurt you But that it's completely not acceptable behavior and that if He ever does anything like that again that you love him and that you care about him But that you're not going to put up with it and that you value yourself too much And that you're going to walk away from this situation if it if you even think that something like this is is happening again and and if And my suggestion is that you get a full commitment from him, right? He's already cheated on you Which is a huge problem But get a full commitment from him that he is fully committed to making this relationship work And that he's never going to do anything like that again and if he doesn't Then my suggestion is that you don't stay with this guy and Because that's what you want you want a guy that's fully committed and that is You know going to apologize and own up to the fact that he did something that wasn't Healthy or good or you know that hurt you that is destructive to the relationship That's something that's not going to do happen again, right? And it probably will right something like this will probably end up happening again because people have patterns And if he cheated on you one time, he's probably going to cheat on you again. And so I mean people can change right and But most people don't The people that do usually change are people that are very dedicated to their own personal growth And development and the people that don't change are people that aren't and so you want to look at that You know and and get get it have a clear Strong conversation about the fact of what happened You know make sure that he's owning it and taking responsibility For it make sure you have a communication not only about how it hurt you But how you you believe that you're a valuable woman and you're not going to put up with it ever again And if it does happen ever again, or you think it's happening ever again That you're walking out of the relationship and and value yourself enough That you will walk out of it Let them know that you love him and that you care about him and that you want to be together with him And that you want to have a great relationship with him But that you're just not going to put up with this because this is beneath you. It's beneath him It's beneath what you're willing to be in in terms of a relationship And then make sure that he Verbally commits to the fact that he'll never ever do that again with you And if he he's willing to do that then you can give him another try if he's not willing to do that I would suggest that you don't ever Meet up with him again and just don't you know just Break up and go on your way. Otherwise, you're just going to be in a Abusive situation where you're hurting a lot and he's apologizing a lot and That's not that's not a situation that that anybody really wants to be in and I don't think it's a situation that you should be in so Most women who come to me come to me because they want to attract A man who loves them and sees them and cherishes them into a committed lasting relationship They want to turn the situation that they're in around and get into a situation Where the guy commits to them and cherishes them and makes them a priority and absolutely loves them But we have a huge problem where we're in this world of the hookup culture where guys aren't committing where Guys are pulling away and disappearing Guys are making up lots of excuses It's become the norm for men and women to just hook up a lot of women aren't committing either a lot of women aren't Getting into relationships either. They're just doing the hookup culture thing And and that's fine. But what ends up happening is a lot of women end up feeling confused They doubt themselves. They doubt their own self-worth and their their own value and many of them feel like they just want to give up and If you're having a hard time with men and dating right now and relationships, it's really not your fault We live in a culture that encourages just crazy things like superficial relationships like, you know Hooking up with lots of people all at the same time. They discourage anything. That's really meaningful There's kind of a war on relationships and marriage and in kind of real connection right now And in some ways, that's a good thing because men are craving and they're absolutely starved for real connections And in some of the ways it makes things really really difficult And I believe that there's a better way for men and women to get into and stay in Committed relationships that last and that's why I put together a proven path that will help you get into the relationship you want Here's what it is You have to believe in your own value You have to position yourself in value and you have to communicate your value And if you do those three things you will put yourself in the best possible situation Whether you're single and you're dating right now or whether you're in a relationship or you're in a kind of casual situation You want to do these things so that you put yourself into the best possible situation that you can be and You can do this with my new program. 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