 You won, but you lost something in you, someone in you that is really valuable to you. You won, but you were unkind, you were unloving, you were ungrateful, you were arrogant, you were proud, you were ecotistical, you stepped on someone else. So you won, but in the process of winning, you compromised a call or value somewhere. You did something, said something, behaved in a way that you only did to get what's called a win. So you won, but you did what I'm calling shallow winning. Jesus, one time said this thing, this phrase about life, he said, what does it profit a person to gain the whole world winning, but lose their soul? Shallow winning is what I think he was talking about. So you get the job, you get the girl, you get the guy, you get the car, you get the promotion, you get the dream life. And everybody would call you in the Western world, don't we? We call that winning when the guy is driving his new car or having his third vacation this year or wearing a bit of bling or whatever it is. We so judge externally, don't we? Our definition of winning is so skin deep, so external, and so we consider him her a winner because we don't know what it costs them to have that status that cued us. And if it costs you something valuable, something, if it costs you your mental health, if it costs you your happiness, if it costs you something deeply valuable to you as a human, then you won't shallow.