 Let's see if I can get this live together. Got my settings right on here. See what we got here. Here a microphone. That's what this is. Yes, I told y'all I was gonna do a, hey there heaven, do a night shift Q and A cause the blessed tribe is growing. You know the blessed tribe is growing. And I realized that made a promise when you sign up for the blessed tribe, I'll do weekly Q and A's, but I understand that when I do a Q and A, even though during 90 minutes, I don't get to answer everybody's question. So, and the questions y'all be having so many conversations in the chat that I miss so much cause it be flying up. Probably be easy if I do this on my laptop, but my laptop camera, I need to get me a new laptop. Laptop camera a little fuzzy, so that's why I do it on my cell phone. And so it get a little tough keeping up with y'all messages on here. But if you made it in early now, you got a question. Put your question in there. What does it mean if I don't want to get married? I don't know. I don't know what it mean for you. You know, what the media sound like fear. Sound like fear from a lack of knowledge. That's what fear a lot of times come from. How to take advantage of getting to know someone that is interested in dating you while on quarantine since it is best not to quarantine and chill. By the phone, by the phone, FaceTime, you can FaceTime and you can catch that 19 through FaceTime. Talking on the phone and the good thing you can talk all day. Earlier this morning you told me I need to do business consulting with you since I can't come. Yes. Sign up for business consulting. Go on my mentor.life hit find a coach and then go to the T's, you'll see me. Live eight hours apart. Live eight hours apart. He can't move because of custody. Should I move 32 and 38? Both divorce with kids. No, you shouldn't move unless y'all get married. The only way you move is when you got that wedding date set. When you got that wedding date set, move in that week. You can move up there that week or you could go up there, get married, then move. Tony, what about age? I don't know what else you're talking about on the age. So send me a full question on there, Lydia. How do you do that? Okay, you got it. Go to my mentor.life. Now for those y'all who can't afford your courses, you know, just right now up front, that's why you have self-love you, which is also Gaskins University. So you know, I got Tony Gaskins Academy, but I have Gaskins University, which is the other domain for self-love you. That is where you can do a monthly. So you can take your courses but smaller bite size payments. Tony, would you recommend opening a business bank account before taking clients? Yep, open your business bank account because it's free. You know, I mean, it's free to open. Some banks, you can do it right from the app on the phone. And so I definitely recommend opening that business bank account because you keep your money separate. And the only thing with them business accounts, you may want to go to a credit union to where the account will be free. Because if you go to old ragged bank America, like who I'm with, they saw it, but want to charge you every month. Thank you for all you do. WI has me crying tears of joy. Now, I don't know, I don't know if that's a type or a WI. That's, I missed that in abbreviation university. What does it say? If your boyfriend said to you, I want to see you or you don't love me, what you said about something like that. I don't know what you're talking about, sister. So I'll write your question again. You spoke about a man not putting up with women that talk down to them. So why do they stay instead of wanting a woman who speaks with love and respect? To be honest with you, the men who get talked down to and they stay, they stand for revenge. That's why they stay. They stand because they hit their ego. And for some people, they respond to insulting their ego. Leneeta Boykin, God bless you. God bless you. You know, I miss somebody else that sent a blessing. That was speech to speech. God bless you, speech to speech. So that's why some men stay. Since I'm a coach on my mentor, do I still need to have a website and YouTube channel or just drive traffic to my mentor? If you like YouTube, if you like doing videos, then you have a YouTube channel. On my mentor, you really don't need a website because what is a website? It's your bio. It's where you get booked that and it's where you post your blog posts and you do all that on my mentor. So that's really another reason why we created it is so that coaches can have a place that's already designed and it look nice and it bring that credibility and it's simple and easy right there in one place. And you just put that link, your my mentor link, put it on all your social media bios. Dated back in high school, things didn't work forward to 2019. Dated until four months. He mentioned he isn't ready and he was still talking to his ex but said their only friends still reaches out to me. It's just for fun. He reaching out for fun, for exercise, for practice. I remember answering a question like that. Anytime a man is not very intentional in all in, just keep it moving. Just keep it moving. A man gonna be all in and intentional if he want anything with you. My friends found the guy I am with on Bumble. I confronted and he says it's not him. Picture were clearly him. Give benefit of the doubt or run. I don't do dating at run because he ain't nobody for nobody to be still in the picture of. So if his picture on Bumble, that's his butt. So go on about your business and that's what you get for being on Bumble. Then you get on Bumble, you're gonna get stung. That's why it's called Bumble as a bumblebee. You get on Bumble, your butt gonna get stung. I told y'all, stay off that dating. Stay off them dating app thing and just get out the door. Get outside and go on your walk, okay? Go to the grocery store. Go to the gas station. You gonna meet plenty men. You ain't got to get on that online dating. Currently in my single season, I want to enjoy it and continue focusing on my growth. How do you gently turn down men who are interested in you? You don't have to worry about as long as you say it just like what I'm talking. You know, unfortunately, I'm not in a space for a relationship right now. That's how you can tell men that you're not interested in. And just like that, you can't worry about how he take it. Some men gonna get offended, but you can't worry about that. Oh, okay, you don't do the apps. Your friend found them on the app. Okay, good, God bless you. Yeah, he on there cheating around, he looking around. Where can I find a recording from the Life Coach Q&A? It's on Tony Gaston's Academy in the course. If you're in the course, the recording is in the course. I added it today. Tony, I attract young men. Have you coached a relationship that the woman is older than the man? Is this a waste of time? Yeah, that happens. It's typically only a waste of time when the woman is 10 years older or more. That's typically when it's a clear waste of time. When the woman is 10 years older or more. Up under there, you know, inside of five years, you're still kind of the same generation. Get past five years, between six and 10 years, it's starting to get a little iffy. Over 10 years, that's your son. How can I work on letting a man do things for me in a relationship? I'm so used to doing everything myself that no matter how small or large something is, my first instinct is to say I got it. Keep that instinct. Keep that instinct, because that keep a man at bay and a man will have to work to do something for you. And that's what he need to do. He need to be able to say, you know, no, I got it, I got it, listen, I got it, listen, let me carry that, listen, let me pay the bill, I got it. So, you know, keep that instinct. Because when you just sitting there looking like, give me what got me here, and hear what I'm saying, give me what got me here. Give me is what got me here. Will you like that with a man? And that's when he kinda look at your look. Oh, okay, you want it all. So a man actually like a woman who wanna try to do for herself and he gotta really let her know like, no, I'm really serious about this. Let me do this. Met a boyfriend three months ago, says, says his intentions are good and wants to get married. We've been intimate. Is it wise to back off from S now? Red or woman's influence want to give relationship a try. Yeah, it's wise to back off not, but hold on now. Wides the back off. Y'all met three months ago. If y'all already in the bed, then you kinda turn that thing on its head already. So now if you've already been in that bed and you flip the script, you gotta be ready to lose them. Do you suggest audio books or written books for first time authors? Written books, because our audio book is hard to produce as an independent author. It's a whole lot more work, a lot more production. It's a lot of specifications and stuff that it has to be inside of. It's very costly going to the studio cause that's gonna be $55 to $150 an hour. It may take you 20, 30 hours to do an audio book. Then it has to be edited, mastered, gotta fit inside certain parameters, then upload it. So audio book is an expensive and complicated production that a lot of people don't realize everything that goes into it. But writing it, that's a whole lot easier. You write it, it gets edited, it gets formatted, upload it, it's online two days later. For sale on Amazon.com two days later. Make sure you take the birth of your book program. I made it 50% off right now so I think it's only $47 on tonigasinacademy.com. Will a man know you are his wife if he has not healed from the past relationships? Yeah, he can know you're his wife and it can induce healing. He'll start to heal, he'll start to grow. Hey, God bless you to the new members. To join the bless tribe, I think the link is in the description. I see some of y'all found it, God bless you. Me and husband is on 72 hour rule but he stopped contacting, should I be worried? Nope, shouldn't be worried, can't worry. Even if you are worried, can't let him know you weren't. Boyfriend saw that I was watching your live and got so upset saying I ain't messing with no female who listens to you. Saying all you do is bash men. Ask me, am I gonna listen to you over him? Thoughts, you need to run. You need to run, that's a grown boy. Especially this your boyfriend, this ain't your husband who treating you right and doing you right. And he ought to know better than talking about I'm bashing men. All I do is tell the truth. So if he doing the right thing, the truth ain't gonna have nothing to do with him. If he doing the right thing, it'll actually make him look better. You'll actually realize you got a rare man. But what it sound like to me is you got an average man. You got your old average man because he's not comfortable with himself. He insecure. And the only time when a man get like that is because he know he ain't doing what he's supposed to be doing. And see, because he giving you or can give you the vitamin D. Okay, the vitamin D. And because he know you want a husband and he know I can't marry you. That's how he'll use that leverage. But your man should never be intimidated by you getting knowledge. You feed in your spirit. He ought to be happy that you doing that. It's really more so a red flag of a woman who don't want to expand her mind and get knowledge outside of herself. And so, but see what grown boys do, they want to keep you in the dark. They want to keep you in the dark because if you see the light, it's going to expose them. So what you have to realize about what grown boys do, grown boys want to isolate you, put you on an island so nobody can hear your screams because he know that if you listen to me, ain't nothing he do gonna get by you. Ain't nothing he do gonna get by you. You gonna catch everything and that's what he knows. And that's what he's scared about. So, you know, tell him, man up, play boy. Tony Gaston said that, get your life together. My boy, let him hear this, get your life together. If you living right and doing right, you ain't got nothing to worry about because I'm already married. So I don't want your woman, but all I gotta do is, all I'm here to do is bring the truth to the light. So if you already in the light, then you ain't got to worry about nothing. But if you operating from a spirit of darkness, I'm here to expose you, absolutely, absolutely. So treat your woman right and she ain't gonna hear nothing on my page that's gonna make her, in fact, your woman gonna be, wow, I got a good man. I can't worry about eating grown boys out here. That why I keep the tool on me now just in case one of them get froggy. Let them know I ain't your lily pad. Should you pay for your name of your business, before you get started? If you got the money, yes. If you don't got the money, then get started, make the money, then buy your name or your LLC. It should be only $125 in most states. It'll be 125 or less. If you go to a site like legalzoom.com, they have their fees in there so you could get up round to $300. Let me see. Amen, God bless you. God bless you for that blessing. Pour out in your life, Lord. Will a man wait till marriage for S if a woman is a single mother with two kids? Now you gonna struggle with that one. You gonna struggle a little bit with that one. Now he can't wait now but let me tell you what he gonna wait on. If you his dream. If you his dream, he gonna wait. But ain't no man gonna try to hear about walking if he see you know how to ride a bicycle. If he see you know how to ride a bicycle, he ain't trying to hear no walking, okay? So the fight that you gonna have too, he know you didn't been on your bike plenty of times. So he know you know how it go down. So for him to wait until marriage, you got to be what he looking for. You hear me? So this my point of example, when Megan Good say she was waiting till marriage, one friend sat down and wrote a book about it because that was his dream. She looked like his dream. When Sierra said she waiting till marriage, Russell Wilson could have wrote him a book about it because she looked like his dream. That's when a man who then already has lost his virginity, wait on a woman when he feel like you are his wife. If he don't feel like with a hundred percent of him, you his wife, he ain't gonna wait. So Tony if a woman is making less money than him, is that an issue for the guy? I feel I should stay single until I make 50K or more. Nope, that's not an issue for a real man because a real man anticipating taking care of his woman anyways, especially if y'all gonna start a family, he really kinda want you to be home with the children because from like zero to, from zero up to three or four, a man who can afford it and who working hard, he want them kids to be home with you still at the daycare getting hand, foot, and mouth disease or whatever that is that the kids be getting, playing hand, foot, and mouth. But them daycare is so nasty that that's your last resort. You only do that if you're a single mother and that's what you gotta do because you know how you could get frustrated with your own children. Imagine somebody else who hate their life, who hate their life and your child in there at the daycare, your child, that daycare worker thumping all outside your six-month-old baby. And guess what, the baby can't say nothing. And this person who hate her life, she enough doing like this to your baby scout. That's why when they turn that camera on, you see all of that going on. You see all that going on. So a man, he relaying word about your money, he word about your heart, your integrity. Can I do the book coaching with you for a poetry book? Started writing last week. That'll take one session. It'll only take one session. Now if you take the birthday of book course, yep, that'll help you too because it'll teach you about your writing schedule and then it'll teach you how to publish. So it will help you. And it's a very small investment. So I would go that route. And if you don't get what you need on there, on the course, then consider doing a one-on-one session. No self-worth, 48 years. The last boyfriend for two and a half years. Bought him a car. Okay. Bought him a car. I helped start his business by buying licensing biz cars. After I got him a job, he got fired in one year. Happy life now. Stay like that. Yep, stay like that and get yourself worth. Get yourself worth. What I need to tell you, I can't tell you on here because there's too many people on here and too sensitive and people take one thing you say and run off on your butt. When I seen all that you did and I looked up on you, looked at you, I already know. Yeah, you got to get that together. You're gonna have to get yourself worth together. I met a guy two months ago. He keeps asking me to come over to his apartment. Is this worth pursuing now? Nope, not worth pursuing. He need to be asking you. Now see, right now in this 19, you don't need to be going anywhere. He need to be trying to FaceTime with you. He need to be trying to Zoom, meeting you, Skype you. If he asking you to come over this house right now in the midst of this 19, you go over there and he coughing up along and I got you with the 19. And then don't mess around and be asthmatic because it's gonna be a really, it's gonna be a long day. And so that kind of man, you let him know, look, playboy, by July, I'll be able to link up with you and it will not be at your house because I don't know if Ted Bundy, your uncle. So we can meet in July at the movie theater or at the bowling alley or at the skating rink but not in behind closed doors because I don't know you like that. So let him know that now. Lisa God, chosen God, God bless you. Poor little life, Lord. He says, I'm an amazing woman but he can't offer a relationship. Spent lots of time together before 19 and now we talk on the phone daily. Still shows interest, has mentioned he's afraid. Back away. Yup, go on about your business, let him go. See when a man tip, when a man wanna do all that talking but he say he can't give you a relationship, listen to him. If you want a relationship, go on about your business. If you're looking for a male friend that's gonna have you on your back in a few months, then keep on talking to him. If you're looking for you, old splacker valley. Now, if you're not looking for a splacker valley which is basically a friend with benefits, a man that's gonna have you on your back, spread ego in a couple months, then go on about your business. Don't deal with a man who say I can't give you a relationship if you're looking for a relationship. Strict Christian, it's hard to find a man, same denomination, who is okay with divorce and one child advice. Well, see what you have to realize is it's becoming a little harder just to find a man period. So then when you are strict Christian and you have a child it is, the pool is gonna get a little smaller but what that means is if you're a strict Christian that means you gotta increase your prayer life. You gotta increase your prayer life and you gotta increase your faith life. And then when you do that and then you gotta increase your work, meaning working on yourself, producing what you need to produce, doing what you need to do. And when you do that, then that's when God can deliver but if you're not meeting your man it's because you haven't done the work you need to do. Is it possible if a guy was going through financial hardship when in a relationship, the first time, back together, is it possible if a guy was going through financial hardship when in a relationship the first time, back together, he's back on his feet, will he be a better person? Seems stress was taken out on me so I left. It's possible, it's possible but you just gotta take your time. Stay off your back, stay off your back. And keep your eyes open, keep your eyes open and your legs closed and you will know within three months if he's a changed person, if he a better person. Six months at the latest you'll know. Currently I have a coaching session scheduled with you on the 30th. Super excited, trying to heal from my divorce. 20 years with ex and also still dealing with daddy issues at 41. How many sessions? Well, start with the first but it sound like two to four. Sound like four is typically the average. A lot of people have the misconception that a life coach tries to hold a client forever and try to keep a client in there forever because that's how life coaches get paid but it's not really true. That's more so counseling therapy you be going to for years. Coaching is about progression and you graduate from coaching and then you just check in every now and then if you need to or want to but coaching is not about being in something forever because we're not gonna be discussing the same thing forever, it's forward progress. So most of my clients do on average four sessions. Some will do, I think the most I've seen is up to 18, 20 sessions but on average it's about four sessions. I have coaching with you in May. Can we go over relationship and purpose? Yup, if we could do it in that hour now when it come down that 59 minute mark. Well, you know what, hey, it's been great speaking with you and whoo, this hour flew by fast. So yeah, you definitely might need another session. So if we can get through it in that hour then absolutely, we talk about whatever you wanna talk about. Tony I was talking to a guy and he told me he was by a family member. Glad I saw that video, thank you. Hey, God bless you, God bless you. I don't know what video are you talking about but God bless you, that's a tough one there. Hi T, single one and a half years. He was the most manly of all, had an attitude of willing to support but sometimes wanted me to pay. Withheld but would come sleep over. Together one year, ghosted me, kind of mutual. Move on with your life, move on with your life. Move on with your life. Mr. Gaston, you said that we could promote our businesses on here but yet when I try my message does not post. I don't know, I don't know what's up with that. Now YouTube does censor comments so if it looks like promotion, they will censor it. Question, same as K-Mac, low self-esteem, working on losing weight, lost over 80 pounds, God bless you, in the past two years I just found out I have been being scammed. How can you know when someone is being authentic? It's gonna take you getting a lot of knowledge, you getting the knowledge and really learning the traits and the behaviors of a real man and being able to get that in your spirit and really sit with it and understanding that a man who is serious about you, I got some video I think called how to know he's interested in you, really sit and study those type of videos and it'll help you. Let's learn and cooperate, God bless you. You helped me a lot during a coaching. God bless you, hey bless you. Can you make a relationship official before a meeting? Talking for nine months, never met. I wouldn't recommend it, I wouldn't recommend it unless y'all was talking on FaceTime, unless you were talking on FaceTime and you really got to see him, feel his vibe, kind of read him. But if you're just talking on the phone and you know where he's at, where he lives at and things like that, I wouldn't recommend it, making an official before meeting somebody. Because if y'all ain't close enough to meet, then what's the sense of being together? Cause how you gonna go to the next level? Can be, God bless you, watch your videos on how to make a relationship work and how to become love, very impactful, thank you. I am learning a great deal from you. Hey God bless you. If you open to an outside perspective, you gonna get something out of it. A lot of people come with spirit or disagreements looking for something to argue and debate about, not realizing I'm the wrong one cause I don't argue and debate about what I know. So when you come with that spirit you got, like my daddy used to tell me, chew the meat and spit out the bones. Chew the meat and spit out the bones. Get what's for you and let the rest go. Mr. Gasson, I thought you said we could promote, okay, this is the same post on here. I was in a relationship with this guy and started shouting and cheating. Thank you for your blessing because I get a lot of knowledge from your video and your book. God bless you. Tony, if a man or woman is still in their parents' home, should they not be in a relationship? Nope, you could be in a relationship. You could be in a relationship and if you have a situation to where your family believes that you should stay in the home to work and save your money, then that's cultural. That's your family situation and most people are understanding that. Most people understand that so it's nothing wrong with that. But if you are living with them just because you don't have a job, you can't earn any money, your life is in disarray, then in that sense, then no, you shouldn't be in a relationship. You should be focusing on getting yourself where you need to be. Apart from completing the life coach certification course, is there any other personal requirement or recommendation you have before starting to offer coaching sessions? I would say do one to four sessions yourself even if it's with a coach who charged $25 an hour just so you can get an idea of how a real session is ran and maybe if you can afford $100 for coaching, then do a session with four different coaches from my mentor.life that charged $25 an hour so you can see how it's done. I would recommend that. Latisha, thank you Tony for your live chats and videos. Hey, thank you, God bless you, God bless you. Tony, would you recommend starting an LLC before a non-profit to get your business license sooner? You don't need a business license if you're talking about doing coaching. The LLC is enough and a non-profit, it just depends on how you choose as if you wanna charge the person for your services or if you wanna raise donations. So if you wanna charge the people that you're working with, then you need an LLC. If you wanna raise donations cause you got some connections to rich people, wealthy people or giving people and you wanna raise donations and then pay yourself to offer your services for free, then you start a non-profit. Or if you just want a non-profit to raise donations so that you can give and use the money to give stuff away, you know, products or what have you. When should you introduce your significant other to your family? When engage? No, when y'all serious. When you are committed and you say we are in a committed, exclusive relationship, then that's when it's time to introduce your significant other to your family because your family may see something or sense something that you can't see and that will give you the knowledge to not get engaged but you don't wanna get engaged and then go and then introduce them because your family may not approve of it and now you didn't did all of this and your family don't approve and now you're having, you know, second thoughts. Tony, what are your thoughts on letting friends and associates play matchmaker for you? It's fine, as long as you got your own set of standards and rules so that even if they match you with somebody that's a bond, you know it and you able to go on about your business. Hello Tony, I'm in the 14 day challenge due to man not being ready to commit. It may go longer than 14 days, maybe indefinite on my behalf, he's reaching through my daughter now, what do you say? That's not when you use the 14 day rule. You use the 14 day rule when you in a relationship with somebody and y'all are committed and he is ready and he has committed and you are in a relationship and then he commits a deal breaker that means like if he cheats or if he is exhibiting something that you like, listen, this cannot happen, this cannot fly and you've told him once before or twice before, then you leave for them 14 days to send him that final message to say, look, we done and so it's 14 days for you but he doesn't know it's 14 days and that's when you see if he gonna chase you, if he gonna beg forgiveness, if he willing to change and he willing to do things differently. But if a man says he can't give you a relationship, he don't wanna commit then you need to keep it moving anyways. Lay, God bless you, part of your life, Lord. A guy keeps trying to pursue me and ask what is it going to take to give him a chance? I told him consistency but he still is not consistent enough with communication. So why did he ask if he's not doing that? It's because he is looking for a roster filler. He looking to fill his roster. So a man who fill in his roster isn't gonna be consistent with you. He gonna hit you every other day, every few days because he knows typically a woman gives a man credit and is fantasizing and thinking about that man even when he's not on her phone line. And so, and if he just does that long enough, a month, two months, three months, the woman builds up feelings for him that he didn't even earn because she's thinking about him on them in between days and then he finally comes around and he able to get on her bike because she desperate for love and she been fantasizing about love and she's falling in love with the idea of a relationship even though she doesn't have the reality of a real relationship and commitment. So that's what he's doing in that case right there. He looking to put you on the roster. You need Queen, God bless you, block my ex and been doing the work. It's been three months, no contact at all. It was very hard at first, but now I'm doing much better. Watching your videos has changed my life. Thank you for your wisdom. Hey, thank you, God bless you doing the work. That's where you got to be. That's where you got to be doing that work. Missed and lost both parents within 10 months, very close to them in a deep lonely depression. I ended up marrying a man in prison that will never get out. If Mr. Right ever comes, do I have to tell him this huge mistake? You definitely have to tell him, but it'll take you probably three months to six months to know if it's Mr. Right. So don't just go telling the man on the first date. It'll take you a little time to know him, but at the same time, you marry. So what you need to do is do a consult with a lawyer to see how you could get a divorce. Cause yeah, you need to go and get that divorce. You married a man in prison who ain't never getting out and you know you did it for the wrong reasons. You did it from a place of loneliness and brokenness and hurting. So you need to nullify that right there. And I'm sure an attorney could help you. Sash is royal, God bless you. Thank you for that blessing. Bless you. Pernonka, God bless you. Pull out in your life, Lord. Pull out in your life. Tony, your messages have taught me a lot about men and your wife's emotional intelligence that she exudes so effortlessly has inspired me to work on mine. Thank you and don't stop being obedient to God. Hey, God bless you. I really appreciate that. I really do. What are you supposed to do if you're super curvy in all directions? Keep wearing them curves. Keep wearing them curves. There's a lot of men like curves in all direction. Do I need an LLC for each entity of my biz if each one is under the same main business name but each entity's name varies slightly. For example, ABC Publishing, ABC Apparel, ABC Coaching, all under ABC Company. You don't need a different LLC unless they're in just, you can do enterprises. Your LLC could be like mogul enterprises LLC and then those other companies can be a DBA doing business as and you can file it's only certain types of businesses that needs to be in its own LLC. Like if you get in the real estate investing, then that may be its own LLC. But if it's all products and services, then that's something different. Nikoya, God bless you. God bless you. You showing that pull out in our life, Lord. Pull out in our life. So on the sea for blessing you and the queen, for the blessing you and the queen have been in my life via a woman's influence. Thank you both. Thank you so much. I'm getting great feedback from a woman's influence. If you have not ordered the book, it's on audio. If you don't like to read, it's on ebook. You can download the Kindle app or the Nook app which is owned by Barnes and Noble or you can get the print version. But please, you know, grab that book if you're looking for something new to read. And Nikoya, God bless you. I pray to the Lord, pull out in you. Nisi Harvey, bless you, bless you. Pull out in our life, Lord. I've turned into the crazy woman after dealing with a lot of bad men. Now I'm dating the complete opposite. I have been doing way too much. Overanalyze and do way too much. I need help, sir. You got a healer before you deal. A good thing for you will be the soul ties course. I reduced it by 90%. So instead of it being fitted all this five hours, it's on tonigasinsacademy.com. Take that soul ties course cause that's way deeper than what I could give here right now. And you need to spend the time with it and really go through it and let it help you, let it bless you. Vintage, God bless you. Pull out in our life, Lord. Wanted to thank you and your beautiful wife. May God continue to shower your sacred union with blessings. Awesome guy found me. He is open to relationship coaching. He is successful and Christian. If he opened to it, then encourage him that he do it. If he opened to it, that's a good sign and it will not hurt. So encourage him that he does it. And he could go to my mentor.life. There's a lot of coaches on there. Candice Ward, God bless you. Pull out in our life, Lord. Thank you for being a blessing in my life. I love your work. Hey, I really appreciate that. I really appreciate that. Keyleth, now here go my vice president. Now Keyleth, I might have to make you the vice president of the company. Here go my vice president, blessing him with a dividend check. God bless you, Keyleth. Thanks again, Tony, for all you do. Using your past to grow and be the man God meant for you to be and helping us is priceless. You are a family and a blessed child having the power and Easter. Blessing to you all. Good night. Hey, now, Keyleth, you something else. God bless you, Lord. Let her hit the lottery or something. Even though I'm saying I won't believe in a lottery, but I'm running low at moving your life some kind of way. Fitness mom, asking the question for King. I can't get past men commenting on my body within the first few minutes. I'm a mom so I don't wear a booty shorts or anything, workout clothes mostly. I'm automatically turned off. What am I doing? You ain't doing nothing. You just wearing what God gave you. But, you know, I tell you this right here, just just a compliment. You know, it's just a compliment. When a man come up to you and he just go to give you a compliment about your body, the way he can't help himself, that just let you know that it's just otherworldly in his eyes. And it also mean that he honest. As long as you know that he can't touch your body without being your man, then that's all you got to worry about. But you can't get offended unless he come at you just disgusting, you know. But if he come and he's like, wow, you know, you are beautiful, amazing, you know, shape everything head to toe, like God showed out on you. It's just something he can't help, you know. So don't be too sensitive about it because it's the same thing for some men. You know, first thing somebody say to a man is give him a compliment about something that he got on or his cologne or the way he look or one of his features. And, you know, if he got offended by that, like, man, that's the only thing you care about. I remember when girls used to get mad at me in school. Oh, the only thing good about you is your eyes. That's the only thing you got. I was like, hey, man, mistreat me. This is how the Lord made me. So, you know, it could go both ways. So I wouldn't worry about it. Super chat is for Miss Gaskins. Hey, I'm gonna bless her with it. Lord, hold me to it. Have a blessed weekend and I am enjoying the audio book and I do plan on getting a hardcover for the household. Hey, God bless you. Thank you, thank you. I really appreciate that ratio. Renora, hey, bless you. Pour out in a light, bless you. Emotional intelligence, please advise where to start. With emotional intelligence, what you have to realize is what emotional intelligence is, is feeling like doing something, like when you feel like cursing, you feel like yelling, you feel like, you know, going off, you feel like crying, getting stressed, worrying. With emotional intelligence, you taking, you pause, you think about what you're about to say or what you're about to do, and then you do the opposite. And when you do that, you literally are rewiring your brain, like you creating new synapses in your brain and you're training your brain to respond differently to that stimuli. So you have to understand that. So, and I'll give you an example of how emotional intelligence can work out. Hold on right quick. Jasmine, God bless you. Hey, Tony, what advice do you have for single women with no children, dating men with children? My advice would be, make sure you're not his daycare. Make sure you're not his daycare. Make sure that he taking care of his children and you can see that they taking care of and that when they need something, they mama there or they grandmother there. Make sure that he's not recruiting you to be a daycare director. And that's what a lot of men with children do is they're just, they're looking for a woman to be a daycare director. So that when they got their kids, they put it on this woman because they know she has a nurturing nature. Now what I was saying about the emotional intelligence is I used to be the type to where something going wrong, I'm going off. I'm going off quick. You know, like with a car dealership, I'm going off. You hear me? You know who you talking to? Listen here. And man, I'm going off. But I've got to the place to where I go and then I sit down and I'll be cool, calm and collected. I could read and man left to right, let them know where they went wrong getting all this. And I recently got $9,000 worth of service done for free because I was emotionally intelligent and I talked like I had some sense. No, Jessica, I don't have a video on it because it's not really my lane to be speaking on that there, but I'll do what I can when I can. Kimberly, God bless you, God bless you. Pour out in a light, Lord. Married 25 years, feel like we're roommates. I can understand it. Have an eight year old daughter. I have leveled up, educated, no romance, et cetera in the marriage. I have discussed with him. He does not want divorce, good provider, but I want a loving romantic marriage. Thank you. Kimberly, when it comes to marriage, what you're going to have to do is do about four sessions or less with me so that we can really talk about it. Marriage is something that's real deep and you can't really apply a blanket statement to marriage. I can't really generalize with marriage. And marriage is so real, it's something that you really want to fight for. If it was your boyfriend, I'd say, just take on off. But with marriage, you got to sit and you're going to have to exhaust all options. Now, what it sounds like he's going through and there's some time you got to seek to understand then be understood. So what you're going to have to do is you're going to have to start sitting down by him and just asking him a question. So how was your day today? What did you do? And then let him answer and then ask him the next question. Ask him the next question. Ask him the next question. Talk to him like he the most interesting man in the world. What that's going to do is start to stimulate his mind and then you're going to start to be able to see where he's at because he's either going to open up or he going to get snappy and shut down. If you get snappy and shut down, that's when you got to look a little deeper because that's when you may have to check that iPad, check that cell phone, look in the glove compartment, pop up at a job, look in that desk, see if he got a back phone at the job. See, that's when, if you being nice and you asking questions and he go to snapping, that's when it could be another woman or a nasty movie because now with these sights, all these different little nasty sights, a man could get so wrapped up in that to where he's sleeping with his fantasy through Angela. See, Angela is the tool and then he got oil or some lotion or he barehandled with Angela, but he on this screen with, you know, Bambi XOXO. And you wondering why you don't have a road mask and it's because of Bambi XOXO. Loose booty nine or one that's on the screen. So that's when you kind of got to start looking a little deeper. Or sometimes it is, little Jimmy then went to sleep early. And he's struggling with that and it's affecting his self-esteem. So I understand that. Hold on one second, let me get these. Teresa, God bless you, God bless you. Lorenza, God bless you. Now, A.E., I'm gonna catch you on here real quick, but these other ones, they'll disappear on me. You have inspired me to start my food blog, catering and coaching business. So although I don't have much right now, I want to show my appreciation and bless you with something. Abundance minded. Hey, God bless you. Lorenza for that blessing. Now that right there, Lord, pour out in our life. Show what you do when you're abundant minded. When I got off here the early of the day, I'm gonna tell y'all about something. When I got off here early of the day, I went to a mastermind group. I got a mastermind group. And you ain't supposed to tell about this kind of stuff and you don't tell about what you do, but it's a teacher moment. That's to help y'all about abundant minded. I come on here and y'all bless me. And I got off here, I went to my mastermind group. If anyone of them in here, they can attest to it. And I say, I want to send y'all a blessing. And send me a cash out. They all sent me, they cash out. I sent them all $100. And when I got done with that, I wrote my family. I say, I want to treat y'all a lot to some takeout tonight. Now, I may say you be safe, you don't get that 19 in your food, but, and I sent my sister a hundred dollars, I sent my mom a 50 dollars. And that's how I do. Sometimes my wife will look at me like I'm crazy, but I believe in thinking abundantly because see when you give, and you give from a good place, you ain't giving for a return, but a return gonna come because it's a universal law. So when you give, it's giving back to you, press down, shaking together and running over. And when people look at how blessed I am and how favored I am, the one thing that anybody who know me can say is Tony got a given heart. And that's the one difference that is between me and anybody else I meet who is not blessed and highly favored on the level that I am is our heart different. Some people selfish and some people jealous. And when you selfish and jealous, you block all of your blessings because you can't receive blessings when you selfish and jealous. Now, when you bless me, I don't necessarily need the blessing, but the reason why I don't turn it down is because I understand that if I turn it down, I'm blocking your blessing because your harvest is in your seed. So you got to plant your seed in order for you to reap a harvest. And that's why people cash out me $1. I don't send the dollar back. I accept the dollar and I pray over and say, Lord bless and pull out in their life because that dollar, $100 gonna end up coming back or $1,000 gonna end up coming back. So my wife used to look at me like I'm crazy, but now she don't question my giving cause she see how God be pulling out and blessing. A.E. God bless you, A.E. God bless you. That's a mighty, mighty blessing you sent pull out in their life. Hi, brother Tony, I don't believe in coincidences. I believe that your videos and your recent book A Woman's Influence has caused my broken heart to heal. Note, 72 hours equals three days for Jesus' death and resurrection. Anyways, continue blessing. Hey, God bless. I ain't even put that together now. I ain't even put that 72 hour rule. I ain't even put that together. You tie that thing on together now. God bless you. God bless you. Caramel, no, my mentor is the code for the life coach certification on tonigasinthacademy.com. On tonigasinthacademy.com for those of you who wanna become a life coach. The coupon code is my mentor. I appreciate you, Caramel. A, Caramel and share. Two bella, be help me out. Natural girl, God bless you. Single mom who shares custody with my four year old's dad. Trying to rebuild my finances and professional life from job loss and debt. Will I still attract a financially stable man who's successful? You can if your heart is in the right place. And if you are ambitious and you working. Now, see if you sit idle and you get complacent and you waiting on a rescue, you waiting on Superman, then no, you wanna attract that. But a man don't care how broke you is, as long as he see that you ain't waiting on no handout. If you willing to work, and that's the problem with a lot of people, is a lot of people don't wanna do what they got to do. But if you got to work in a call center for $10 an hour, if you got to do temp work, whatever you got to do, as long as you show on, if you got to start to a business on Etsy or Shopify selling t-shirts, as long as you showing that you have some ambition and a go getter about you, a man ain't worrying about your money. You can make a dollar hour, he don't care. Thank you for being a blessing to all of us, Tony. Sherry, God bless you. Sandra, God bless you, $10. Thank you for all you do. You have helped me understanding men in their wrong boy ways. Hey, bless you, poor out in her life. Let me grab this question from fitness mom, fitness mom looking out for somebody for Beverly Johnson. Tony just found out that my boyfriend of three years, I'm praying a blessing for you fitness mom, how you be doing people. And I believe that you getting some blessings in some kind of way for you to keep doing this cause you be doing this every time you on here. So, hey, bless you. Just found out that my boyfriend of three years has been cheating on me. The worst part is I saw it. He acted just like he didn't care. Why do men act that way? Did he ever love me? He love you like the rug on his floor. That's how he loved you. He loved you like the rug on his floor, which you walk over. That's how he loved you. And the reason why he act like he don't care is because he does not care about you. And that's the cold reality that you gotta wake up to and smell that Folgers in the morning and go on about your life because he's showing you. Now what's gonna happen is when you leave him, he gonna be hurt. And what he did, he gonna reap what he sow because while he chasing wild tail, he out here chasing wild tail, loose booty, he gonna meet his match. And that woman gonna dog him out. You hear me? That woman finna do him nasty. And he gonna look back and realize he had a good woman and you gonna be already happily married. He ain't gonna be able to do nothing about it. Jessica, God bless you. Oh, they go for a new little dog. I bought my family a little dog. Is that my office dog standing up on her hind legs looking at him? The dog get too smart, too fast. Jessica, how did you evolve to this higher level of thinking regarding emotional intelligence? Did you follow someone in particular? Nah, nah, nah, nah, I'm telling you, nah, you ain't gonna want to, it is, you ain't gonna want to, it is. I'm telling you what I follow. Okay? The person I follow is Jesus Christ. Ooh, you don't wanna hear that. Y'all don't wanna hear that. I follow Jesus Christ. And so when I what I did is I read the holy Bible and I studied the life of Jesus and Then after reading about Jesus I went on through the New Testament up until the book of revelations and I learned about the characteristics of Christians and I learned about being the Bible say be slow to anger The Bible say love your neighbor as you love yourself See the Bible say when you give it'll be given back pressed down shaking together and running old See the Bible say don't cover it the Bible say don't lie the Bible say don't steal the Bible say don't kill See when I read all of this stuff and I started to live it I realized that it is the bi BLE basic instructions before leaving earth So when I put that in action I Realized that this the guidebook for life When you get you a new product when you get you something new it have a user's manual The holy Bible is the user's manual for humans When you read it, it ain't gonna lead you astray if you keep the commandments and you live the way it tells you to live So that is why I am the way I am today and how blessed that I am When you see my business creations like self love you dot com and my mentor dot life and Tonic actions academy calm and character university calm that come from being centered and at peace and Operating under the direction and inspiration of Jesus Christ and a lot of people don't want to hear that because in this world We want to think that's a fairytale, but I'm living proof to let you know it ain't no fairytale It ain't no fairytale I'm trying to tell you I run circles around anybody in business because I got Christ I mean blessed and highly favored. I can't tell you about the blessing You'll throw up in your mouth if I tell you about the blessing on my life You hear me? I'm trying to tell y'all better get with it better get in that holy Bible and start living right The goddess came how to change communication skills When in confrontational conversation, I tend to not say what I feel until after Feel like it's not as effective. Don't want to say the wrong thing want clear thoughts First you're gonna have to help the person you dealing with understand how they need to communicate with you So it shouldn't be confrontational. You need to let the person you know who you dealing with Let them know a don't raise your voice at me a don't use curse words a don't stand up Why are you talking a don't cut me off? So you got to bring it down to a healthy Communication so in my book make it work. I got a whole chapter on communication with a list of rules When you implement that and you teach the person you communicating with how to communicate with you Then that's gonna bless you. Yeah. Yeah black money. God bless you. I'm learning how to give I'ma tell you That's the secret right now the secret to Abundance is giving when I understood that when I start when I tapped into that My whole life changed Siobhan God bless you poor in her life fitness mom now fitting mom is Blessing y'all she bring y'all questions up here cuz see the VIP line got long up there So fitness mom she see the question that she liked and that y'all keep asking and she are grabbing and she sent a blessing Now don't do no charge bikes now fit them on I want you to block your pleasure now Stephen in my ex drove One and a half hours just to see me for an hour. He said he needed to see my smile We shared pleasantries at the park while watching my dogs and then he went home. What was that about? What it was about is he should have been doing that when y'all was together So now you can't give them credit for doing that after you didn't left them. That's your ex So what that was is that soul tie? Had him like this Let's see that's old time. That's old time had him like this right up and when that soul talking like this He got to come see you The loosen up that soul time when y'all hear me say his soul tie strangling them That's what I'm talking about and that soul tied and got so tight on him He can't think he can't breathe. He can't live because he need that fix from you because see your energy your conversation It releases chemicals from his brain So it give him that dopamine release that serotonin release and so when he missing that he got to come back and get that fix That's why a lot of times. It's not love. It's an addiction to the person And the feeling that we got from being in their presence and that's what we call a soul tie Jessica best advice ever. God bless you. God bless. I can't remember what I said to you And I've been told I overanalyze how do I know if it's true or just a tactic if the person who you analyze Analyzing telling you you overanalyze then it's a tactic If a friend or a family member telling you you overanalyzing about something you talking to them about Then that's when it's true If you talking to them about something else now see me I overanalyze I overanalyze a lot and but I know when I'm overanalyzing But sometimes you can't convince me. I'm wrong Renita Cove Hi bought the burp your book course. I'm dating a pal egg. Thank you for that. God bless you I'm dating a pastor, but we met Right before my then boyfriend Proposed marriage after three months Because my ex is his drummer We are in secret to protect integrity bad news That sound definitely that sound messy to me that sound messy to me now The cash and now that sound messy to me. I'm gonna tell you that though Because it's it's too many women in the world for him to be dating his drama ex-girlfriend and he the pastor That nasty to me. That's nasty. That's just too much Concoction too much crossing other waters. And so me personally I really don't I Really think y'all in the wrong. I don't think God gonna move like that Not in the house of the Lord not in the house of the Lord I don't think God gonna pass no woman around in the house of the Lord Past the woman from the drama to the pastor. I don't think God is in that I think that's y'all lust and I think that pastor nasty and that's something he's doing for for power He might have heard something from the drama By that aquafina down there and not pastor want to get him a dip so yeah, I don't really trust that and jelly Tony God bless and jelly Tony. Thanks for the video on co-parenting with a complicated ex It really spoke to me Dealing with my current situation when the co-parent is a boy in blue How do you go about placing your boundaries? Well, see when it boy in blue You actually got more Leverage because you can let him know. Hey listen You want a job that requires? integrity If you step out of line one more time, I'm calling the chief. I'm calling your chief I'm calling your sergeant Because you cannot be out of line in your job so Please try me if you think I'm playing with you So when he is in a position that has some Accountability you actually got a little more leeway than just a little random man off the streets Sierra Simone God bless you. Thank you for your content. I am only 25, but I wish I had info like this much earlier Just finish a woman's influence. I needed this knowledge. Hey God bless you God bless. I'm glad that you were able to get this knowledge. Hey y'all. I got about 24 minutes on here now 24 minutes on him trying to get off here look my wife and her face for a few hours before she Fall asleep on it. Oh What are some practical things we can do in quarantine after cutting off a friend's with benefits? To build self-confidence and foster self-love You're gonna have to get the knowledge. So literally do you a marathon? Why are you cleaning while you cook and be listening to videos? Be listening to videos of your favorite teachers and it's just gonna fill you up It's gonna restore you when you tired of listening the video listen to some music good music Now that booty-shaking nasty fornicate music put you some gospel on Some contemporary Christian music put you something that's got some good lyrics to it That's gonna fill your spirit up now. See what this knowledge is gonna do is this gonna replace the old It's gonna replace the old knowledge that you thought you had and It's gonna renew you because when you replace old knowledge with new knowledge Knowledge is power because it builds confidence. So that's what you're gonna need to do in this time Harriet God bless you. How do you build the courage to record yourself on IG and YouTube to speak your truth. I have a hard time recording myself You can't record yourself unless it's your calling Unless it's your calling. It's your purpose. You want to do it to help people That's where I do it because I'm shy. I've seen anybody meet me in person. I'm shy I really don't say two words the people who know me In my city from from my kids sports my kids school They probably see me on here and be like, who is that? Who is that person? He don't say a word. Well, nobody hear me say a word at my son kid soccer games at the school They don't hear me say a word any time so only time somebody got a hill song from me And when you try one of my family members and I got to come get you I got to come read you to feel Head to toe left right and similar that's the only time somebody gonna hit me say something but other than that I don't say a word and so for me This is my purpose and that's where I get the strength and the courage and the energy to do it But I'll tell y'all a little secret. I don't watch any of my videos When I do it, I can't remember what I said and I don't go back and watch it I don't listen to it study it to see what I said right or wrong. I Couldn't do it. I can't do it. That's why I don't edit my videos because it probably never go up Pretty energy. God bless you Working on a business plan and a name for my business any advice on where to go tools to use You only need a business plan if you're looking for funding if you're gonna get a business loan Other than that that plan don't really matter because it's just for you So you just write out your notes on what you want to think about and as far as your name You could watch videos on that you could look at names of other companies, you know and and get the knowledge there But don't don't think too much on it. Don't think too much on it. Thank you share. Thank you somebody say I'm a Comedian I won't be telling no jokes so that let me know I always tell y'all if you laugh at anything I say that means your spirit in the right place Is my donation showing up for the book? I tried to do the donation on this live, but I don't see it. I Also email support this morning. I didn't get an email back. I wanted to donate one book Well, it's Saturday. So support really don't work on Saturdays and Sundays So it might not be till Monday that you get an email back, but um, I Did feel like I saw your name up here on the donation, but Yeah, you should get an email back by Monday though Once Tony answers your question and you ask like he didn't answer I will feel like you are a trolling Hey, I'll be listening to Caramel now. So y'all got to be listening while y'all posting a question over and over and over and over and over now Um, I think what it is sometimes is this a lag on the video So I'd be the answer to it and they listen and it's behind as a coach How do you deal with challenging personalities of those who've spoken negatively to themselves for so long? They are hard to encourage keep working with them or pass to another pro Sometimes I'll pass coaches to another pro, you know, I pass them to my dad a lot of time because my dad is he's much more patient than me and Much more emotionally intelligent than me. So if a client is too much for me, I'll pass them to him and Because yeah, I struggle with that as well somebody who they just got money So they just pan but really ain't trying to grow ain't trying to learn They just want to talk about their problem, but don't want to solve their problem That is very annoying and it's hard to do and I used to fire clients, but then my dad started telling me he said listen son Longer they willing to pay for your time Then let them do what they feel they spirit need to do because eventually they're gonna get it So I start to realize it ain't about me and how fast I want them to grow Everybody growing their own pace and as long as they're not taking advantage of my time and they honor and that I'm a professional I'll take a little more time to work with The toy park. No, I didn't see that one. I didn't see that Alicia. God bless you I saw that Sometimes if it comes in the chat like if you do it as a sticker I don't see it because it goes in the chat and then it might I see pretty energy Right there with a blessing bless your pretty energy I think that's what that said See Harriet Yeah, sometimes I don't see them if they go into the If you do a sticker, I think they have a super chat and they got stickers So yeah, sometimes I don't see The stickers Let me see I'm looking for a question on here. Hi, Tony. I got your book in audio I sent my sister your video on riding die check. She got offended We don't talk no more She's still holding on to her deadbeat husband. How can I help her just keep loving her keep loving her keep supporting her keep sending her the truth Let her get offended Apostle Paul in the bible says sorrow leads to repentance Miss Jones god bless. I thank god for you. Tony. I bought a woman's influence You helped me realize I expected my fiance to love me the way my dad did and that isn't realistic The burden has been lifted off me and my fiance. Thank you so much. Hey God bless. I'm glad that you that you got that Um, love to see me do comedy. I'll probably be terrible at comedy because I don't know how to write jokes or tell jokes Everything I say on my video. It come off top of my head. I couldn't I probably I couldn't write a joke to save my life Hey, I'll see y'all trying to get a blessing to some of the blessed tribe members. God bless y'all for that God bless y'all for that Well, look like I don't see any questions unless I'm missing it. Simply Pete. God bless you. What's your name? Simply Pete. God bless you. What's your thoughts on casual dating for people who don't want to be in a relationship? Don't casual date Don't casual date the the purpose of dating is to be in a relationship So if you ain't ready for no relationship, it is no sense in creating a soul tie No sense in creating a soul tie Because it's nothing casual about dating because see while you dating you could bump into somebody that's cuckoo for cocoa puffs So you bump into this person and you just want to be casual and this person might You know be somebody That got screws loose and now why are you out there just playing? They serious and not not your life on the line So you cannot play with dating because when you dating You're dealing with the heart and never play with the heart Why do you recommend llc versus s corp? S corp is only if you're going to have multiple employees That's so that you can cut yourself a w2 But if you just a single member if you just one person and the people you pay independent contractors That you can give a 1099 to and you don't need an s corp You know it's and with an s corp is rules and regulations that you got to abide by And it's a lot of little things that you got to stay with inside of Certain stipulations you got to adhere to and that you got to meet So that's what you got to realize by the s corp but talk to a cpa and they could help you You know, they'll break it down a little more for you Is marriage like a business? No marriage is more so like a sports team You know you you teammates It's more so like a a joint venture It's not like a business because see you sometimes with business Business is just about money Sometimes business is just about the goal at hand and you Doing business with somebody that you dislike just because they help make you a lot of money But see with marriage you can't be enemies behind the line You got to be teammates instead of being opponents. And so marriage is you can't see marriage like a business Per se, but you can't see yourself Like a business like a brand just meaning like you're not going to merge with somebody That's not an asset. You're not going to merge with somebody. That's a liability So in that sense, yes But in the sense of like just doing it just for the sake of put pooling your money together Or just doing it just for the sake of financial security or just to have a warm body Then no don't do it for that reason LT or it god bless you hi, tony. I met a man online The first video chat I had with him. He showed me his johnson He told me if he didn't show any physical attraction for me I should be worried is that normal should I move on you ought to move on 100 you got to move on You got to move on rat nine. You got to drop this phone and you got to run Put your track shoes on and you got to run That man is slap crazy. You hit me if that man taking whip that thing out on the first video call that man is Crazy, you hit me. You will be chopped up in a little piece and be in a deep freeze or somewhere You hit me. Don't you ever in your life talk that man again block his number and twice on sunday Don't let him sniff you you hit me. He can't reach you with a thousand foot pole Run run run run that man is shot out Look can you hit me? He is slap crazy Look like who shot john and forgot to kill Man is in prison Two years together and been there for him. He yells at me and calls me out my name He says it's because I make him upset and he's stressed out. Should I leave him or stick it out? Leave his butt. Absolutely leave his butt and listen to me and when you leave him Now make sure he ain't crazy now because if he's crazy and he's behind bars for a violent offense Then what you need to do is when you leave him make sure you move Make sure you move and he don't know your new address when you move Don't send him another letter that he got your address and don't get nobody your address that know him But what you need to tell him is listen, man You you is out your rabbit mind To be yelling and cursing that somebody that's for you That's sticking by you and you a jail bird You behind them bars and can't do nothing and here I am out here in the free world With a million men at my disposal and you got the nerve to be behind bars locked up without freedom Can't do nothing for me, but be a pen pal Can't do nothing for me, but be a pen pal and got the nerve to be yelling and cursing at me You can't play with no man like that. You can't play with a man. That's unappreciative that you there for him And while he locked up and he there trying to you know Use and abuse you just because somebody in there tan his booty hole like the frame. That's really why he's stressed Somebody in there wearing it behind and so he's taking it out on you. You can't play with it If a guy choose the FaceTime to have a combo is that a sign that he is interested? Not I mean it's a sign, but it don't also don't mean a whole lot Sometimes guys just want to look at who he talking to and that could just be the freak in them He just could be nasty, but he don't have to FaceTime you so I wouldn't read any more into that than him calling you on the phone Bears Drop the phone and run that last rant was ridiculous. I had to bless you lol. Hey. Hey god bless you Um brother look like a brother though God bless you. I don't receive many blessing from the brother Delaney for god bless you. Hey, Tony. I've heard your messages about men Who don't want a serious relationship? But what do I do to separate my feelings? Can we still be friends? No, you can't be friends Because if you ever been in something that was kind of almost relational With a man, then he gonna have relationship He gonna have Situationship energy and that situation ship energy will block your blessings Of a man who has husband energy So if a husband come near to you and he sniff you And you smell like a situation ship he gonna go on about his business So when when you talking to a man and the goal witness man was to be in a romantic relationship and then he tells you No, you have been demoted to friends with benefits or to roster player Then that's when you got to demand a trade get on off his team and go on about your life So you can attract the man who got husband energy And so don't ever Turn a situation ship into a friendship Because really why men do that is to have a friend with benefits So they'll hold you there in that space Fantasizing about being with them while they got you on your bike and you stuck but like Chuck But then they'll go and get in them a whole another relationship And then when they fulfill there they'll drop you like a bad habit and you like what in the world was going on I thought we was friends. Nope. You played yourself Shawna god bless you God bless you Let's learn in a blessing. Thank you for that. Thank you for that blessing for that support We need to start a book club y'all with tony gas and books That'll show enough be a blessing that y'all starting a book club now go and get on there Do with some more q&a um Stephen moo God bless you my ex did drive one and a half hours every week to see me while dating tony I left his butt because he lied about some serious stuff and he is immature Thank you for explaining fitness mom. I need your cash out, please Hey, thank you and and hopefully fitness mom's still on there and give you that cash out Tony, what does your mom think about your ministry? She love it, you know, she just she baby keep on going baby. Keep telling the truth She she try to chime in sometimes and she'll tell me stuff That video too long. Ain't nobody gonna watch our long video. Don't nobody do a video that long and I say mama Hush No ye not What god has called me to Like jesus told married woman. No ye not that it's not my time. I have to tell my mama sometime No ye not what god and call me to I say this is what I do I said, just because you ain't got time to watch our long video because you raise me don't mean somebody else Don't need an hour long video So but she support me though. She's one of my biggest supporters And um, she don't say too much now because she don't want to cut that check off because she know I'll be sending her some blessings and she know if she if she get on my bad side I got I get distance I create this I create distance from anybody Not in a negative or spiteful or hateful way But anybody who come the block what the lord got me doing They'll get put on on hold You know a don't get in the way of the lord work So keep your opinions to yourself. So she's supporting it all quay god bless Soon to be ex-husband is a pen pal now. He wants to reconcile after he cheated multiple times three kids Divorce question mark 12 years three years married how to co-parent if divorce still begs not to divorce Uh gone gone divorcing. He done broke. He done broke You know the marriage vows in the bible and in real life, you know outside of the bible He done broke the marriage vows. He cheated multiple times. That's the key word multiple times when somebody cheat multiple times That's a habit. Okay. That's not a mistake. You got a mistake. Then you got a choice Then you got a habit He got to get left the other red flag in here is that you're all together 12 years But only married three years So that mean he never wanted to marry you to begin with he never saw you as his wife But just ran out of options because he was a sorry man And and realized anybody else going to put up with his mess except for you So nine years in he married you So he married you as a last ditch effort a last resort And then still took you for granted and cheated on you multiple times So you got the gone about your business gone about your business. Let him sit in his mess Let him sit in his mess and deal with it I look forward to your hour-long video every day as part of my daily routine. Hey god bless I really appreciate that. I really appreciate that Please give more detail on why men won't wait for a divorced single mom of one Young child. I'm working on building new income streams Though I struggle with letting go Of the cakes I don't know what you mean by letting go of the cakes Um, I say the reason why a man won't wait on a divorced single mom of one Is unless you are his wife unless you are his dream And when you say wait, you mean wait until marriage because what that means is this whether this what i'm saying Is that you say you struggle with letting go of the cakes or maybe you mean okay sleeping with him um What I mean is If you have children You being abstinent don't make sense to a man. He's like, how in the world are you abstinent and you'd have been flipped and tossed Like a pizza in new york and then you coming to me Because your ex was sorry and did you wrong now you coming to me telling me I got to wait So that's why i'm saying it don't make sense to a man Unless he sees you as his wife If he sees you as his wife He will wait So what i'm telling you is a man who'll give you a whole bunch of problems And he trying to force you and coerce you into that bedroom and you telling him no i'm not ready for that No, i'm not doing that then that's not your husband if he keeps pressing you If he your husband, what he's gonna do is go ahead and marry you So that he can go ahead and have you all the way because he already knows you're his wife anyways Hey, I got two more minutes on here now Talk nine months live nine hours apart never met Communication dwindling. I think we won't make it. Is it okay for me to keep talking if I plan to move and then cut ties Um Well, why are you doing that man? You trying to use him for talking And then you want to move and cut ties you might be playing yourself So you might end up You know Up the creek without a paddle So I wouldn't play I wouldn't play with it Somebody say at all saints He doesn't recommend dating apps, but if you meet them online, it's different So what that means is yes, stay off the dating apps Stay off the dating apps Now if you meet somebody on facebook and instagram that's different than meet somebody on bombola tender But stay off them bombola tender and eharmin and max.com stay off all of that stay off all of that get outside And walk to the store you'll meet your husband How do you know when you're completely healed from your last relationship? When you can love as if you've never been hurt before You are healed my daddy taught me that when you could love as if you've never been hurt before So what that mean is you don't go into your next relationship given the person Two strikes when they ain't even stepped up to the plate yet I struggle with cakes like ashable cakes Okay, okay, like eating cakes you try is you saying you're trying a little weight Uh With the cakes or you struggle with baking cakes, you know, you got me a little lost Advice, please s o s o god bless god bless advice Please for those of us who do not want to wait till marriage to have But are dating with the intention of marriage That's like gambling When you go in and you don't want to wait until marriage just understand you taking a gamble And sometimes when you gamble you lose your shirt Okay, so I I took that gambling For several relationships. I lost my shirt Finally, I met my wife and it happened to work out But I had a lot of damage a lot of soul ties So you got to ask yourself how many soul ties you want Because while you're not waiting for marriage you risk and every time you lay down is getting up with a std and uh spiritually transmitted Demon spiritually transmitted disease sexual transmitted disease every time you lay down So just understand that you taking a gamble and you're risking your life You're risking your future because you could wake up pregnant And then now you're tied to somebody For the rest of your life through that pregnancy that you ain't even gonna marry And now you meet the person you want to marry, but you got to tie to somebody else That treats you like trash Because you got on your bike Hey last question here now come a phone about down y'all too queen On drill god bless you Pour out in our life. Thanks tony for the work you put in To pour wisdom into our lives you allow god to use you to expose the truth that we otherwise wouldn't know god bless you and your family Yeah, I thank you so much and thank you for that blessing. Hey y'all god bless y'all I got to get going try to relax my body now tomorrow at 9 p.m. Eastern is the normal Is the normal Q&A for the bless tribe these here I do on Saturdays is Bonus Q&A's the bonus Q&A's um Sheila your first book should be on your coaching category Which also could be your experience in life because even if you telling your experience in life you tell a story and make a point So hey god bless y'all. I really appreciate it um Sonya that's fine But you got to realize if you break up with your man that you meet at work Work's trying to be a hard place to be up to be at so don't don't do that unless you're gonna marry the person And y'all listen to share when she say rate the book y'all five stars So if you bought a woman's influence now make sure you go where you bought it from and give us a five star review And I'll be reading them five star reviews and I really appreciate you god bless you And we'll talk soon I'm gonna phone about to die on me You