 What can you do if you feel like you've hit rock bottom in life. Yeah, we got to talk about this viral reddit post You know I hope that it's useful for anybody who's going through this themselves or has gone through this as well as the comments section being useful because This is a very serious thing and it is unfortunate and this is happening to young men everywhere But perhaps, you know, it's it's there's an additional layer of relatability when it's happening to a young Asian guy, right? Yeah, so I mean, I think the internet weighs in we're gonna go through some of the advice if you have a friend or you've gone through This or anything like that or you're just interested to see what other people are going through Hopefully this video is helpful So please hit that like button and check out other episodes of the hot-pot boys and let me know if this is an interesting video But yeah, I mean check out smaller sauce at the same time guys If you guys have a chance to it's a really good finishing oil and orders are going out in November Alright, so let's start off this post this guy said I'm a 22 year old male. I'm long I grew up in a dysfunctional family. I was abused when I was young raised by a single mother Barely graduated high school suffering from de-abilitating mental issues. He lists off some of them that he's been diagnosed with severe depression dysthymia anxiety and hedonia agoraphobic suicidal ideation I'm not really asking for advice Recently went back to therapy and currently trying to turn my life around But I just want to know what others have done to change their situation. All right guys Yeah, I would say first of all the last line is hopeful Right because he's already he's already trying to do something. It's like I'm trying to do something I'm going to therapy first of all, you know, so shout out to him, you know for Even just being open to hearing what people on the internet say because it is hard to take advice from the internet Like we always say we don't know that much about you. We can't see your face We can't see your family. We can only go off of what they tell you, you know Yeah, I mean it kind of makes me feel bad in a sense that immediately everybody's born into a different situation in this life, right? Obviously what he listed off it doesn't sound like a good set of cards to be dealt Obviously certainly not necessarily the worst in the world either There's people being born into war zones and things like that Right, but certainly not a an ideal set a very very suboptimal set of cards to be dealt I mean, yeah, but of course, uh, you know when you compare yourself to Only people who are doing better than you or other people who are from a Started off in a better position. Of course your life. It can definitely look bad But you know what the interesting thing is Andrew There are people who are like from very wealthy families that are still depressed like how many stories I don't like really want to say it but I even there's some famous like billionaire fund managers Andrew their kids You know went through some crazy things There's a there's a lot of crazy stories. I don't even want to get into it Yeah, I'm talking about like children of billionaires who's like life spiraled out of control Depression Does not discriminate, you know, it can it can reach anybody For me Initially, I would say, you know, I can't relate to obviously all these issues, you know But for me, I guess maybe at a time where I was a little bit more angry or like ungrateful for the life is like When you're a young teenager and you feel like you're not getting treated the way you want to and you're kind of Ungrateful for even like your life situation or America or this country, you know, and you feel like the world is against you In a way, it's like this country is still really good if you can make a change And I think that the fact that Therapy is that available or that a gym is that available to go work out at or a martial arts class Is that available or all these health foods are that available or the fact that you were raised in America? Which is the English speaking country a lot of the self-help content that's really deep in in-depth available with all the Infographic charts on YouTube and a variety of other platforms is in English. Yeah, a lot of the world's best info in 2023 is available in Yeah, there's a lot of bad content also in English, but there's also a lot of remedies in English too So, you know, it's gladly that, you know, you live in this country. So you have a shot Yeah, have a shot is what I'm saying. I would say immediately I would say definitely take a look at your options for therapy and make sure that the system that you're in that gave you therapy I'm assuming it's government sponsored in this situation matched you up with the right therapist You know one thing I've learned after watching a lot of different fitness gurus or different sort of success gurus Not all of them speak to everybody the same way, right? Like they have some similar information. They have some dissimilar information But the delivery method is always going to be different and different delivery methods are going to connect with different people with different Upbringings like for me. I always like this guy Brandon Carter. He doesn't even get a ton of views I know that he is well-known in certain worlds, but like I like the way that he talks about So you're saying find a messenger that relates to you. Yes. Yes, because there's a lot of people out there Doing self-help material that is generally positive and sort of true But there's just a lot of different ways that they're delivering like for example David Goggins Andrew who's also famous ex Navy SEAL. So it doesn't appeal to me the way he just is like, you know, get up Just run another 12 miles. I'm just like I don't know. I'm not saying it's not for the people where that helped them. That's amazing, but that's not that's not touching That's not the guru that I want to follow for me Um, I just think that I'm also potentially get a blood panel test Like this these are baseline things because there could you know, you never know what imbalances There may or may not be you gotta get to There's a lot of different like issues There's like physical inherent ones and then there's ones that are driven by the environment in some combination of the two right, so I think there's a lot of things to do it and Yeah, anyway guys, we're just gonna get into the comments section Like we said everybody's situation is unique But I think once you start to see what other people went through and other people's recommendations You have more options in your mind The first one says listen as much as people ish on the whole go to the gym trope That's exactly what I did after my divorce and it helped immediately. Yeah, and I think luckily America is a place full of gyms. Maybe the most gyms in the entire world, right? There's a gym down the block man for sure And it could be there's cheap gyms. There's middle-tier gyms expensive gyms low-tier gyms gyms for whatever Is your tribe this guy Jim quick? Shout out to Jim, but he calls it small simple steps and he always asks you what's the tiniest Step you can take to achieving your goals right now like ask yourself that question what's the tiniest thing you can do to start making a change and Sometimes just getting a gym membership even if you don't use it right away Getting gym shoes ready and you put them by the door That's like even if you don't do it that day or the next day or the day after it's like You're ready to go once you're ready You know what I mean, right? And here's are just some of the benefits of the gym and you know I'll tell you this I never believed in these until I started going to the gym five times a week Right, and I was against the gym. No, it sounds Kind of like a gym bro tech just good buff dude And I think that when you just say oh just work out it does sound stupid But once you go there and you do it and you you know what they're trying to say You got to find somebody who goes to the gym that you relate to that has lived your life Or as an aspirational image and for me maybe being more of a technical person I needed for people to break it down for me in this way and we're going to the gym reduces your body fat Which is correlated with depression like that's literally there's a lot of signs behind it I'll pop up some of the charts behind it. I don't want to get too much into it It releases dopamine which affects all motivation levels and it also releases more testosterone as a guy You need testosterone right it stimulates norepinephrine which regulates emotions It produces BDNF which creates new neural pathways. It improves serotonin production, which helps us stay calm It in releases endorphins which elevates mood and of course like we said it increases testosterone which may treat depression It also pushes more oxygen to your brain Like you imagine if your your pipes to your brain are clogged You know, they're still flowing, but they're not as flow You know that the pipes are not as wide open as they could be It's like getting the pipes clean because you're you're just speeding up your system Other people are talking about the serotonin you're releasing serotonin when your muscles have been burnt and you are Enjoying a relaxing shower to come back down and then now your muscles are torn and your muscles will need to rebuild themselves That actually releases serotonin throughout your system, right? Um, I think one thing that really helped me Andrew trying to get into working out is I realized that like I'm not speaking for everybody because some people may have like we said, there's blood imbalance issues There's a lot of genetic things in the in the double helix going on But a lot of people don't understand being happy to some extent or a large extent It's just a release of chemicals, right? dopamine But but the thing is a lot of people they want to take for example pills Drugs to to force open those chemical buckets to release into the body. That's why you almost Inevitably feel happiness when you take certain substances, right? Yeah, there's a really good book It was an audio book that I listened to okay to be fair I listened to the summary of this audio book But it says it the mind the body goes and the mind follows And it's about how being physical doing physical activity. It's walking running jogging yoga Sitting there meditation stretching it actually can help work out trauma by By releasing dopamine and getting your blood flow differently and controlling your body And it just may it can actually help your mind versus the other way around where most people are like, oh The mind controls with the body and this goes back to my initial point Where I was like make sure you get a therapist that understands that that's checking in with you on your exercise schedule Because if somebody's like I'm not just saying I'm just saying if your therapist maybe they're not end up working out or whatever They're out of shape and they're not adding that element into it. That could be the whole missing element Yeah, it could be and different people are different some people are more physical people And some people are more mental people But I think regardless anybody will tell you anybody who's gone on a run or a jog Will tell you that doing those things help Yeah, and you might not like it at first because you know you're pushing cortisol through your body because your cortisol is Stress levels, but your body needs to feel some measure. It's like cortisol is not too like Too high Unregulated levels of cortisol are bad But you need to push your body to some extent right and pushing your body will cause stress Somebody was saying listen your brain will ultimately All the chemical talk and all the science aside your brain releases stuff to make you feel good like endorphins Which is what causes a runner's high So basically like when you push your body Your body will want to reward you with things that'll keep you alive and healthy and getting stronger will do that Because that uh and andrew human been talks a lot about this it all kind of goes back to our core as like cavemen Right like what we were doing like the way we some people in modern society are now You're sitting in a dark room in front of three screens No human generations in previous uh Like you know eons or millennia did that right but it's like we're in that situation now So we got to do what we can break out of it. Um, this guy had a really interesting comment Andrew He related to it. He said listen. I went through a lot of that stuff myself I grew up in a dysfunctional family. I had an abusive drunk father. I had terrible siblings I had depression. I did not go to therapy. I didn't even seek help. I just worked a really bad job I was unhappy at I didn't graduate college. I felt like I wasn't going anywhere Anyway, I got to the point where I started to work on myself a lot I started eating super healthy with nothing but whole foods I started working out four or five days a week in the gym You'd be surprised at how transforming your body morphs you into a new person Um, this guy started watching all this stuff He goes as cheesy as it sounds even simple pick up help my social skills Like because that's what spoke to me and I ended up taking action I reconnected with old friends and then I met new friends I basically just slowly but surely pulled myself out of the gutter And um, I think here's the thing about like when you work on yourself There's a lot of like cascading effects because you're now not only are you lifting right where we already just went through all the chemicals The good chemicals that it's releasing organically through your body right into your brain and the rest of your body But you're managing your sleep schedule. Yeah, you're managing your nutrition A lot of people don't know that Andrew even your nutrition can cause brain fog and things like that, right? Hey, man, you know what happens when you work out really hard that day You go to sleep early and you know what happens when you go to sleep. You can't stay up On the dark corners of the internet and you can't even stay up because you've already depleted that bucket That you need to replant this and recharge your battery, but you've depleted it in a valid way, right? Um, somebody said please delete social media fix your diet and sleep and then hit the gym in that order Of course somebody who said, you know, it's just a trial and error and balance of having fun Figuring out how you want to spend your money and working out. I feel like this, man A lot of it is like you're juggling a couple things, right? And and being disciplined means you're juggling things and you're like sort of sacrificing and things like that But occasionally you might want to splurge And that's almost like uh, if you're juggling using like a turbo boost cheat code Where like maybe there's a gust of wind that like throws everything you're juggling up in the air Holds it up so you can kind of get like a break Like if you're juggling everything and you're having trouble handling it and you feel like you're about to get wobbly Just hit that turbo boost button. Maybe that is taking a vacation Maybe that is buying something that you really wanted that like doesn't make financial sense You know what I mean like these little you have to like I guess You're juggling you're being disciplined You're making the right sacrifices that a man needs to make but occasionally give yourself some leeway Right, right, right. Um, somebody was just saying like you said and a good mindset doesn't be it be get good behavior Good behavior begets good mindsets. So it's more about it can either or can affect each other, man Somebody said I hired a pt I got in shape and that I booked a three week trip to europe that helped me tremendously to see a different world Other people were talking about going outside of america taking a trip going back to asia going to latin america Just seeing something different seeing a completely different society. Yeah, bottom up Yeah, maybe maybe you want to go to a country that's even safer than america one that's even more better Like you go to a city in Sweden Iceland, you know I don't know. It's just something. Yeah different things for different people I really recommend taking a look at different success gurus and success channels and find the one that speaks to you Yeah, even listen We can sit there and be like, yo these success gurus some of them are fake some of our embellishing Exaggerating how what their networks are their struggles, but they're all using the similar information Nobody's they're not doing their own research coming up with their own facts You're saying nobody said eat chips watch shows all day and these are all things that most people agree with It's just the delivery message is different now. However to facture. I wouldn't buy their courses I'm not investing in their coins, but I'm saying a lot of their information is essentially on point Yeah, I would say for myself, man cleaning up the diet was huge Cleaning up the diet you for me Maybe it's because I had a very messy diet. So I had a lot to clean up but I would say you'd be surprised that The different chemicals your body releases when you when you eat different foods I think the key the cheapest thing The easiest thing is to work out do some exercise cost you no money and then Like if your life is really that bad, right? I mean sometimes the only thing you can do is leave You know move out of your situation, but I'm saying that's that's down the line Because not everybody can do that right away, but definitely should think about uh, yeah Anyway guys, let us know what you would recommend to the uh the op the original poster And I just want this to exist as like a really useful video because I realized man There's a lot of people that are going through a lot of things and when you don't have systems You don't have cousins that you're close to or that you relate to or same age as you and sometimes In an Asian family sometimes you're not even close with your cousins anyway Like in the Asian culture you people don't even feel comfortable verbalizing this type of like Older brick boat bro coaching and they may may be concerned with their own lives or going not have gone through it themselves Um really really useful advice there obviously like I said, I can't comment on anybody's specific situation But uh, you know, I think that these posts are good. It's good to get the info out there guys, uh wish the best for everybody And uh, yeah, let us know what you think this guy should do in the comment section below Or what you've been through or what you've seen other people go through and how do they get out of it What to do if you feel like you've hit rock bottom in life until next time we to hop up boys. We out. Peace