 and once you've integrated into each other's lives, it becomes much harder to end something because you feel a sense of connection with this person. Now listen, I said earlier, attraction is the top of the water line, but compatibility comes with shared values, blendable lifestyles and emotional maturity. You see also in this equation is you have to show up as a grown-up in relationship. If you act in title, if you act with contempt, if you're not giving the relationship, it's necessary time together. And by the way, this is true for men and women alike. I'm not singling you ladies out here.