 One of the things in the, especially people who are in counseling that a lot of the parents they complain is they talk about their children because they don't know how to deal with them. And one of the things that the children complain, they talk about their parents because they don't know how to deal with them. So it's this dilemma where we have a breakdown of communication. Now in Islam, the family doesn't start when you have kids, as a matter of fact, the family starts when you're looking for a spouse. One of the reasons when you look at a woman as a man to get married, you're like, is she going to be a good mother? That's one of the main reasons, is she going to be a good mother for my children? And that is essential within the Islamic tradition and has been. When somebody got wanted to marry, if a woman wants to marry a man that would say, would he be not just a good husband, but a good father? If the relationship starts like that, it's a good start and they will have a good end. And whenever you have a good beginning and have a good end, the middle is always good. When we look at the Prophet s.a.w. and the Quranic principle of a household, of life, Allah s.w. called Surah Al-Rum, the European chapter of the Romans, which really are what we call the European now. These are beautiful verses, all of the verses are beautiful, but there's an interesting thing in this verse. Amongst the signs of God is that he has created mates for you, male, woman for man and man for woman. Right? Now, there's a word here used, so dwelling tranquility. And tranquility is not earthly, tranquility is not earthly, it's heavenly, trials and tribulations are earthly. That's what we give. This is one of the great advice of the spiritual masters, that this world is a place of fitna, of civil strife and of trials and of tribulation, of war and of deception. This is what the dunya can give you. But what comes from the heaven is tranquility. And this is why most of us, when you go to sleep, you're in state of tranquility unless you get a nightmare. It's just complete peace and ease. Right? And Imam al-Haddad, the first time a believer experiences real tranquility is in the grave. It's just complete peace without any anxiety and any worries. Where did this tranquility come from when Allah says, that go live with this tranquility in sakina? Well, it's a mekan, the place for this, it's called in Arabic, it's called maskan. Maskan is where sakina comes. So everything has a place. So if you have a cup, you have a saucer, you put the cup on it, right? Everything has a place. You have a rack there where the shoes go in there. So that's a rack and you put your shoes there. So where the sakina comes to, it comes only in a place called maskan. That's is a mekan for it, the place sakina comes down to. And maskan is your home. That's if you have a functional home. If we build that house that is functional, then you experience that sakina, that tranquility in your house. But if that house, there's no sakina because it is not prepared for this sakina to come down because you come to the masjid, you have your shoes in your hand and there's no shoe rack. You don't know where to put it. So sakina comes down and looking for this maskan that is pure so it can come down. If it sees it, it will come down to that house and that's the house what we call the abode of happiness. That's what happiness comes down when there's sakina in that household. Then Allah says, in this household, if you build a functional household and my sakina comes into that house, by the nature of that sakina, love and mercy will enter your hearts, the husband and wife. And from that love and mercy that comes from Allah in a house that is built with sakina, those are you get children that are what, that are beautiful. And that's why when Imam Ali asked the Prophet SAW, I want to name my son, his firstborn son from Bibi Fatima and he said, what do you want to name him? And he wanted to name him water, harb. Arabs, you know, they had tough names like Hamza, Lion, you know. He said war because he wanted to be a warrior. The art of shiverly unfortunately is lost now. But the Prophet SAW said no, his name is Hassan. So he named Hassan. He named Hussein and he named Muhsin. They threw each other. Muhsin died at a young age. So those are the names that the Prophet SAW gave because they came from a household that was filled with tranquility, with love and with mercy. The output of that was completely just beauty in Ihsan. And that's why you have Hassan and Hussein, the two Shabab Ahl Al-Jannah. These are the two superstars of paradise. Just like in the dunya you have superstar and paradise you have superstar too. But the superstars of paradise are Hassan and Hussein. Why? Because they came from these two people that built a functional household. And then the love that came from Allah in mercy that came from Allah entered their hearts. And that's the functional household. Now, how do we know if our house is dysfunctional? You know, Ahmad Saqr, Rahimullah, he is a beautiful man down south in Alayh. And he did a lot of dowel work in the 80s. I remember having pretty much all his books and he would release a book every three months. But it was just things that we needed at that time. He was a beautiful man. And one of the things that he did, he wrote a poem. I don't know if you guys remember when we were in college. What if the Prophet SAW visited your house? And when I read that poem, I used to live by myself in Hayward. When I read that poem, did I do a house cleaning? And because he was real, he said, so what if the Prophet SAW walks into your house? What would you hide? What don't you want him to see? Would there be magazine that you would be like, oh my God, please, please, Prophet, don't look at those magazines. Would there be things in there? Would there be frames in your room? That was, what is, who is that man? Who is that girl? Like, why you have these idols on your walls? So it was, what I appreciated from that poem was it was real. It actually talked to me as a young man. I did a house cleaning. And I think that that's where a lot of the people, when we are struggling with these things, we don't know the source is the house. That's where the source is. That you have to now take it back to the original source. So that's the source of the Juliet. But the original home is the heart of the human being. And that's where everything starts. We have to change our hearts. We have to purify our hearts. We have to wash our hearts. In these, everything rusts, the Prophet said. And they said, everything? What about the heart? He said, even the heart of the human being rusts, like the iron that rusts. And one of the great scholars said, is one of the beautiful zikr that removes the rust from the heart of the human being to through zikr you remove those rusts. This, this, a lot of people in this country, they said, what are you in pursuit of? The pursuit of happiness. This is everybody wants to achieve happiness. This is Aristotle's, the, you know, he and his Nicomachian ethics. We are all in pursuit of happiness. Everybody wants to be happy. The reason why we work so hard, we want to get educated, we get married, all that. If you ask at the end, what do you want to do in your life? I just want to be happy. We want money because we want to be happy. We want family because we want to be happy. We want friends. Everything is in pursuit of happiness. But Mawlana Jalla did in the room, he said something really amazing. He said, it's not that hard to pursue happiness and become happy. He said, what is hard is for you to become happiness, that you are happiness. Wherever you go, any house you enter, that house you turn it into a house of happiness. And this is why, because there were so many people around him, they would go ask for counsel and say, we're so depressed, Mawlana, how is it that you're so happy? How is it that you're always so happy? He said, I'm happy because I turned my heart into a boat of happiness. And I stayed away from everything that is depressing in the world. I don't deal with things that are bitter. I don't deal with depression and sadness because I am happiness. And that is contagious that wherever you go, if we walk into a funeral, automatically you start crying. Sometimes you cry, you don't even know we died. People go with their friends, I don't even know the person, I just came with a friend. And then you shed tears because everyone is weeping because it's contagious, depression is contagious. Because they ask him, why do people feel depressed, why do people feel lonely? He said, the reason why you're depressed is because you're hanging out with depressed people. And that's the nature of this world. If you hang around with people who make money, you learn how to make money. You be good at it. If you hang around the mechanics, you will learn how to fix cars. If you hang around, you know, the person they have a proverb, they said, if you said what else, you become one of us. But if you sit like with the people, there used to be these people who used to get the pots because they used to cook on fire and they used to get all black underneath the pots. And they used to come, these people used to clean it and make it bright again. He said, if you sit with the people who clean those pots, you're going to have some stain on your clothes. It's going to get it dirty. And that's the nature of the companionship. Who are your companions? So the household, the human heart, and then the companionship that you keep, those are the three elements that you can be on the prophetic path or people can be on the path of shaitan or on the path of, you know, the person is on the religion of his friends. And if you think that your friends don't have a factor on you that they're not going to influence you, you're just fooling yourselves. You're not fooling anybody. You're just fooling yourselves. I'm telling you because this is the nature of friends that they will influence their friends. And I did give a khutbah here on the friendship a few months ago, but yawr abad, but tarbwa does more abad. One of the best advice ever given about friendship, and it's in Zernuji's ta'alim and mu'ta'alim, that a bad friend is worse than a poisonous snake. Because a poisonous snake only hurts your body. And a bad friend hurts your body in your faith. That's the nature of bad friends. So keeping the companionship that are beautiful, that are, you know, this prophetic household that you're trying to build, it requires us to change our hearts, to purify our hearts first and foremost, then to build that house, a household where sakina comes in, tranquility comes in, and it's filled with beauty. And then in our social life, we keep the company of the people who are beautiful and they can only, it's like, you know, if you sit with a perfume seller, the least you will go home with is a good scent. Even if you don't buy anything, because this is the nature of a perfume seller, you go home, you just smell good. Just like when you go to Shawlimar, you go home, right? The chicken tikka masala smell, right? So that's the nature of friendship and companionship. So in shalom with that, we'll open it to discussion and we'll let Sister Hosai take over.