 Ladies and gentlemen Tony Gaskins here hold on right quick Right popping in the night now Got to catch my breath a little bit. I had to run my son folder To the kitchen throw up my back out running. I ain't want my baby boy to forget his school fold in here And then I forget it's in here and they're looking everywhere tomorrow for it. So I was supposed to do a sunday sermon today, but um The lord didn't give me nothing the day so couldn't do a sunday sermon That's why I can't be a pastor because you know, I can't really I can't just speak from me I got to be able to speak from What the lord give me so I didn't get a sermon in so I figure I do a q&a Now we used to do these every sunday night, but um life life happens sometimes and The day I was with my 13 year old boy And we talked about the birds and the bees and so I just want to remind the parents All the parents that see this when you see this if you have not talked to your 12 13 year old About the birds and the bees go ahead and have that talk Because the worst thing you want to do is let the world get to them before you get to them Because you think they innocent and while i'm talking to my son The day I realized he knows more stuff than I thought And that's how it be This notification today probably was a little late. I just sprung this on y'all Is it okay to have options when single keeping legs closed? Yes, it's okay to have options and you should have options The only time that it's not okay to have options is when you're sleeping with somebody And when you're sleeping with somebody you should be married to him. So But as long as you're not sleeping with anybody you're not losing Esmeralda. All right. Esmeralda. Esmeralda made it on in here X wants to get me back. He is willing to do the coaching sessions. What else Should he do to know it's real? Well, if he does coaching you should do coaching as well And y'all possibly can do coaching with the same coach, but just individual sessions because If he's doing coaching for you The coach will also be able to tell you if he or she thinks that he's serious and that he's ready and so you can kind of Take that professionals opinion into Consideration when you're making your decision, but Don't just let him do coaching you do coaching because in your coaching you may find out you need to move on with your life What does it mean? He said i'm the smart choice But he chose someone else It means that You know, he's not ready to be smart. It means he's trying to let you down easy It means that you know, he's looking to the go a different route then put my hat on because My head cold sometime i got to get my My head cold make my body Shiver in here. My office cold in here Keep the office cold in front of the The lights And when a man tell you When a man says to you It's me not you essentially that means He don't want you But he doesn't want to hurt your feelings And so you just got to take it as like, okay, he's not ready We're not a fit and he's trying to let me down easy. That's what it is. Like don't keep crying Don't keep pressing them. You know, don't don't don't oh, you're not a real man You can't tell me what it really is because then He liable to say something that hurts your feelings that you may never forget You'll be playing it over in your head the rest of your life What's the difference between? Perfection and doing your best truthfully Perfection is doing your best Because there's no such thing as perfection because perfection is subjective so all we know As perfection is is jesus christ Other than that perfection is progress perfection is doing your best And but when you do your best, you're gonna realize you're gonna surprise yourself How do you know when you are ready to be in a relationship? You know, my daddy told me when he was coaching me my wife made me get coaching um When we first got married two months in I made a lead Because I went back to the street life and when I begged the back one of her stipulations was that I had to get coaching And in that coaching I was talking to my dad and he said son You got a love like you've never been hurt before and I was like wow And when I heard you got a love like you've never been hurt before That right there That blew me away So if you're still hurting from your ex if you start to talk to somebody And then you realize that you're talking to them and you're blaming them for something somebody else did And you're questioning them for something somebody else did and you don't believe them And they haven't given you a reason not to believe them. That's when you know, you're not ready for a relationship That's when you're not ready for a relationship and you got to be mindful of that You got to Know what's real Eight months relationship Eight months relationship boyfriend breaks up with me over argument My girlfriend saw him back on dating site three weeks later Confronted him and he said he wanted to make things work between us Yeah, he just talking he just talking he he want to be where where he at on that day on that day now Tessie. God bless you nine How to know when to give up on a relationship or to be patient when the man really isn't saying much To know where you stand in a relationship That's that's when you know, it's time to leave When when a man isn't telling you much and he got you standing still that's when it's time to leave because he When a man wants you You will know that he wants you there will be no if ands and buts about it. You'll know that he wants you So you got to understand that now Because man is he he about what he about he's gonna be moving he's gonna be moving Why do grown boys that have girlfriends always reach out? You answer your own question because they grown boys I'm 58 years Sad Getting over a crazy marriage Need a mature coach to deal with complicated situation lots of years Married adult kids go on um my mentor dot life. See that behind my head my mentor dot life We've got several coaches on there. We've got several coaches on there And a lot of them over the age of 50. So they'll understand you they right there where you at and Know what you're going through what you're feeling If you click on the filter when you click on find a coach or browse coaches if you click on the filter you'll be able to also um Select divorce And coaches who coach on coach individuals who divorce be able to help you they'll pop up Call my boyfriend talking to someone. We already had issues We already had issues with he says he wants me But it's still talking to the girl because he needs a ride to work. Don't understand How he wants me but still dealing with her. Okay. It's your boyfriend All right. So you got a couple issues in here now. It's your boyfriend And he doesn't have a car Okay He doesn't have transportation So that's not a good thing Because a man need to get his life in order before he worried about juggling women So how are you allowing a man who doesn't have transportation to juggle you See if a man if i'm a woman a man gonna juggle me he need to have three full cars If a man don't have transportation He shouldn't even be able to get on the phone with a woman All he need to be on the phone with is uber and left He shouldn't he had your phone number because and that's why I tell a lot of people, you know They they come and they say oh, I want to uh Do this and do that but If times are tight, I can't afford it right now. I said, okay Well, that's what you need to be focusing on you need to be focusing on Getting that in order So I always tell you don't be with a man for money But he should be a independent person. You can't be with a dependent See, that's a man. He's a dependent. He's gonna be dragging you down. He can be holding you down the whole relationship So not only is he cheating on you and lying to you and dealing with this other woman She ain't driving him to work for free Okay, he putting that pole on him He putting that pole on him. So you got to understand that and On top of him lying and going against the rules of the relationship. He also Can't pick you up and take you on the date Which all masks on You got to go God bless you all smile blessing. I thank you Tony because of you I have a new view on dating and life stay off you by a god bless you Let me see Now let me see Is it weird to research a guy before showing interest like checking their socials, etc Or do guys think it's weird? No, it's not weird Everything that's able to do For free Check the instagram. It's it's a relationship resume. Check the facebook Google your name. I remember one of y'all relationship coaches You know one of y'all relationship coaches. I remember a long time ago People kept saying his name to him and I googled him And he had a mug shot He had a mug shot for domestic violence. I said, I wonder how many people don't google them Now, I know we go through stuff. I went through stuff But when you go through it all the way to where you get The handcuff put on you You went a little too far so It's important that you google people that you google people and you see what's out there Because you might google this man and you find something Up here offender and you got a daughter that's 13 And here he on the offenders list. You might not know that You see what I mean? So check everything you could check because that's the resume Oh, Maria. God bless you now. God bless you. Tony. I have one question, but this one is just to say Thank you Workouts to a day Cut out all secular music been watching and rewatching vids my son my brand my business number one in my life I feel grateful Oh it to you your wisdom reminds me of how my mama was god bless you now, maria now, okay maria in canada And I believe maria is a coach now on my mentor dot life So y'all get on there now, especially in canada Only one Kenny god bless you now Kenny god bless you. I so appreciate you now make sure y'all put the hashtag q in front of your question and Try to keep only questions in the chat for now We'll open up the chat a little later, but I'll try to get through as many Questions, what are your thoughts on the med the stallion situation? I haven't really looked too much into it And so I can't really you know, I don't like to speculate on stuff where the details not out there enough but I heard the young man is Yay big and so when you hit when a lot of time when you dealing with a man that's yay big They have a lot of other issues And so I don't a lot of times women say oh, I want a man six four six foot now I don't necessarily condone that like just won the man just because he tall But a lot of times men have different Issues and it might be because he looks challenged that that that gentleman Uh lost his hair and I don't even know if he 35 he had lost his hair had to go to the hair doctor And then I heard he yay big so see this how I look at people if somebody if a man is five three And he didn't lost his hair before 35 I don't want to be nowhere near him. I don't want to be In the same car. I don't want to be anywhere especially if he don't know god Now if he five three And he didn't lost his hair and he knows the lord Then I could be round But if he five three as a grown man and he didn't lost his hair and he don't know the lord He's shooting up everything. He's he Is every woman he'd have been with he got the carnival Gregor He jumping off the bed. He jumping on the bike. He jumping on the bike because He's gonna have issues And that's how you got to look at people too You got to realize that a lot of times people act out of what they've been through So I don't know all the details now, but just from what I could see I believe I believe I believe he did that So y'all for god bless you Hello, I'm a teenager trying to start early in life All right now I don't know if you want to I don't know if you're supposed to be on here now. I hope you're 19 I'm a moderator in some discord servers. I am wondering if I can maybe moderate your lives Thank you. How do I contact you if I okay? All right, I finally got one of them name now your name is uh, it's not american name so I see you got some culture in you And come from a cult culture, you know Hustlers go get us God bless you, but you got no picture up. So for one me personally I read people And um, I can look at person in their face until they whole life story And so Me personally I need to see a picture first, but but the other thing is too Is the people who moderate in these chats, they didn't ask me could they moderate I just saw them serving. They was helping and they was helping in, you know And then that's why I just kind of Pressed pressed it one day and it showed me oh make moderator So that's how that happened. It wasn't like a hiring process or nothing like that It just supported us and so You know, I think we've got five of them now. So I think we might be capped out. So, uh, It's because it's not a paid position. Okay. All right God-given God bless you X asked if I needed some Because I expressed something I didn't like Regarding our daughter. He stated I was angry. Why would he say this? He's just talking He's just talking. He just he's still the grown boy that you left He's just talking it just attacked it to Make you feel crazy. So it's like Men do it all the time. We'll we'll you know, say to a one is your is it your time of the month? Like do you need some Like what you get the vibrator? You know, sometimes men are do stuff like that Just to mess with your head to make you feel crazy to make you kind of you know Chill or change your story. It's just a tactic grown boy tactic Pretty Taurus God bless you left the grown boy. He watches every IG story likes every post He sent a message then unscent before I could open. What's up with his behavior? Well, you left the grown boy. He struggled Because a man's ego A man never wants to lose so When you leave a grown boy He's gonna chase you Because what he want to do Is get you back or have you come back to him so he could get that last laugh so he could get that last lick in So if you go back to a grown boy He's gonna hurt you worse than he did the first time around and then he's gonna leave you before you leave him So really Also, what you got to realize is when you deal him with people you form a soul tie so He has a soul tie and when I say the soul tie strangling what i'm talking about is He starts to Miss you because he's thinking about you and he missed that toxicity He missed having you as his fan girl as his, you know, dude girl as his You know punching bag test dummy He missed that that role that you in so it start to tug on and that's why he's coming to try to play mind games Now when you leave a grown boy, truthfully you ought to block you ought to block them Truthfully you ought to block them Hey, tony when a man says you think you're too good for me or something Does he feel she is too good for him or he's just talking? Well, it's up to you to know how you treat them You know, if you treat them like you too good for him then he means what he's saying If you're not treating them bad and y'all cool and y'all just talking to y'all kicking and all that then that's just conversation That's just conversation But you got to pay attention to it though because if you don't want him And he's not on your level and so you are giving him a little distant energy But yet you're still talking to him eventually you're gonna fall for him and you're gonna fall on your back Gonna be on your back. He's gonna Put that thing on you And then he's gonna have you hook and then he's gonna dog you out and he's gonna drag you through the mud Because you used to treat him like a real head step child. So Whenever you dealing with a man make sure you want that man. Don't be with no man that got to grow on you Oh, you know, he's real nice, but You know him and tori lane the same height They both five three And so it's just it's trying. I'm trying but it's like girl He call me name. I look and I'll be looking over his head. I got the oh there you go And it's just hard for me If if a man got to grow on you go on about your business Go on about the business. He don't have to be drop there. Gorge. He ain't got to be the man of your dream But you least need to Like him, you know, he looked good, you know, handsome nice well spoken You know chivalrous polite at least need to be some attraction. It shouldn't be no man that you got the Lord, please give me the strength lord just soften my heart For this man, you made him like this. Please All that right there because when you when you fall He gonna get you Um pinkie god bless you now. Hey tony. How are you? I was just wondering if you noticed the rise of at hell And what do you think about it now? I don't really know what that is But I kind of I saw a video one day that somebody sent me And it had them words. I don't like to say all the word because I don't really know what it mean And words have power and on hell. I don't know if it's a word that they Don't like so I don't say all them words, but I don't really know what that is Now what I gathered from the man He sounded like he was bitter towards women And he looked like the video I seen was a Caucasian gentleman. He looked like a Mad scientist. He he looked like he used to get punched in the eye for no good reason I remember it was it was a young Caucasian brother I went to school with and my homeboy Rodney who was a black dude You suggest punch the boy in the eye Like every week he does punch the boy in the eye and I was like, why you keep hitting that boy in his eye The boy's eye is black. Why do you keep hitting the boy in the eye? Oh man, I just I don't know man. I just like I don't like where you look at me. I don't like where you look Get that man in the eye So the red pill the excuse me. I said the word um Okay Come Okay, that's what I felt like it was one of them movement the guy I saw during the video He looked like he gives a punch in the eye And so what you got to realize about these men that's pushing these things if they just butt hurt They just butt hurt they Typically what it comes from is being overlooked by women Or they shoot they shot at a woman that they know how they lead They get the woman give them a little bit of play Get some free meals off of them and then they find out the woman sleeping with their ex-boyfriend Or go back to their ex-boyfriend or cheat on and then from that day forward These men hate women And that's that's really what the movement by so stay away from it. Don't be watching the video give them views It's just ignorance And if you do watch the video watch it with an ad block on there. So you ain't seeing no ads Barbara god bless you. 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I just started really paying youtube some attention Late last year even though i've had it Since 2011. I really just started consistently doing youtube last year So social media mastery is for coaches and authors and speakers who building their brand and it's on tonigashonsacademy.com Maria god bless you now toni. What would you say to 21 year old young man not motivated Smoking daily now with a young woman Two kids who is not elevating coaching with you number of sessions He was at event in canada. Well, if he 21 You know The work with me that's a little costly for a 21 year old now if he gets if he getting to it, he got a good job Then Okay, or if he got somebody sponsoring him I first of all, I wouldn't recommend him doing coaching with me because it's a better use of his money Because my rate is for really Established adults who working and getting a good income Now 21 we got younger coaches on my mentor that life like cala who y'all saw on my channel cala We got a few other young men on there. Um, teddy and vernin and it's another brother on the home page. I can't name Skip missing me right now But have him go on my mentor that like look through some of those men First and if it absolutely come down to it the way he got to work with me I really don't know what I'll say to him to be honest with you because Whenever i'm talking it's literally a spirit flow. I don't have really a can answer And so I have a million questions for him And essentially we'll get down to the root of why he's lost A lot of times these young men when they look at Where they smoking started and they drinking started they'll see it started in an insecure moment when they was around guys Or women that they thought were cooler than them and they wanted to fit in And when they evaluate that and get to the root of it, they realize that they're ruining their life For the sake of people who may not even still be in their life So, you know, you could help them though, maria. You a coach Breathe god bless you. I'm 28 live with parents And my child I want to buy a town home because rent is too high In the state and I don't feel comfortable standing in an apartment as a single mother Bad relationship with mom buy a home or tough it out well Unless your mom slapping you in your face or the word she's saying to you is really tearing you down Then I would tough it out until you at a position where you really can go ahead and and buy that town home But buying a house ain't necessarily the easiest buying a home is not necessarily the easiest thing in the world Because you got to have a down payment in most cases. And so that's a lump sum and then you got to show last two years of income which shows that you can get that home And depending on what that is at 28 years old as a single parent That could still put you in a home. That's in a not so good area So unless you can afford a home in a good area because that sounds like that's your concern But you also got to look at where you at too. I think a lot of times we'd be worried about things that really not an issue So if it's if it might, you know, might not be the best neighborhood But if it's not a lot of crime there, you know, when I say best meaning costly So sit still Sit still for now till you can truly make that move and understand that family sometimes that's like Training that's training for the real world. You learn how to deal with your mama That's the person who loved you more than anybody else in the world So if you can't deal with your mama You got to ask yourself how you're gonna deal with people that don't care nothing for you That did not give birth to you if you can't deal with your own mama Because the world gonna be a whole lot crueler So I would stay there as long as she lets you stay there and see that as training until you know You got your money right and you ready to move now when you ready to move money talk So you do whatever your money allow you to do My child father lola god bless you now my child father was the first and only man I've been with Do you think the next man will feel intimidated by that? No, he won't feel intimidated by that He'll be extremely happy He'll be Hey, you don't have one man. Oh, yeah I'm glad You get high five in your your your child. Hey step daddy step daddy call me step daddy call him what you want to call him But um, your mama's been with one man. Hey A man really feel intimidated when you'd have been with several when you'd have been with several men because now he's thinking about The soul ties the bacteria the different sizes That then you know entered and exited so he thinking about All of that and and men being territorial Some women struggle with it too with a man who's been with a lot of women It's just less likely for women to really trip over that women just have a little bit more emotional intelligence than men in that area But men men wake up having nightmares dreaming about you being with your ex So the less The better You should be all right if you the one for him if you're not the one for him It's gonna bother him more than it should God giving God bless you. Hey Tony one more question. Why is That a man jumped from one partner to the other Then lives with every single woman. He's been with He's a grown boy. That's a grown boy. That's it's really a soul tie You know, it's really just a man who he doesn't know who he's it who he is And he's scared. He's afraid of the world You know, I used to be that man a lot of men in that place, you know, a lot of men with women That's what my wife was telling me the other day she was talking about how She making sure our sons know how to wash clothes You know fold clothes know how to make a meal know how to clean Because she's because she said to me the other day She said I don't want them to be with a woman because they need a mom Because they need somebody to do they cooking and cleaning I want them to date and be in a relationship because they want to date and be in a relationship not because they need help And a lot of men is with a woman because they're looking for a mama But don't know how to be a man. So literally they're looking for a mom that they could sleep with That's what a lot of men are doing and when you recognize that you just got to put him in his own little You know his own little situation. That's the wrong boy. That's not something that You really could spend time trying to understand and think about Ms. J. God bless you Our old lady told me that a man wants a woman that needs him financially in the whole nine yards. Is it true? Want to feel like a man it is true for for A lot of men it is true for a lot of men um Is that the man you should be with? No Is that a mature man? No My wife she you know my wife has a personality like She liked to get stuff done. So like right now while i'm doing this she working on the house. She working around the house like She changed door hinges and stuff. I was talking about this the other day. She liked to just do stuff And she beat me to taking out the trash. She beat me to doing stuff And then when there's something she can't do she'll come to me and ask me Hey, can you help me with this like she just had me help her put up the shower rod And ironically it was not hard And so but just certain things it just out of her You know round it wasn't hard for me But then i'll see her change all the door knobs. I tried to get the door knob off. I was struggling I was struggling. She couldn't get it off. She had me take it off Things took me 30 minutes to get that door knob off. I'm on youtube. I'm looking at videos I'm like, oh, I didn't go to handyman university So I paid people to do this stuff But she liked to do a lot of this stuff pain touching up And so I was sitting down one day and she was working And I got in my feelings. I was like, man I say, well, I could imagine how a grown boy feel so I was joking with I was like, man Hey, let me do it. Let me do it And I try to raise to the beat of the stuff and then she erased and beat me to it But it just it helped me understanding that moment how If a woman is very independent It can make a man feel useless Because it's like if she could do everything else and all she really need him for That third leg To reproduce he can't get to a place to where he kind of like He worn in his head. He got to be emotionally intelligent to understand that that's a good thing that she don't need him for everything Hey, all right. Now y'all got the help now these questions flying in here. That's why I'm gonna try to shorten the answers up Crypto God bless you now. Thank you, Tony. Because of you I left the situation ship healed from a soul tire focused energy on me and my kids and never been happy I'm 45 and look and feel so much younger because I have no stress. God bless you And your family. Hey, God bless you now. Bless you Let's see MR bless you How do I break off a friendship without any bad feelings from that person? PS thank you for all the advice and lessons. Well You can't control How somebody else feels, you know, you can't and you can't worry about that You got to do what you got to do and how they feel that's on them That's between them and God Like I tell you, um, my daddy told me don't be mad scratch a booty. Get glad you can't really worry about that This single mom and a lot of people say that to me too Uh, ergo 86. So God bless you. A lot of people say that to me too and say, hey, how do I break up with this person? How do I let this person go without, you know, hurting a feelings came word about that? um now My boyfriend recently called things off during a heated argument and stated that he can't continue in a relationship without Sleeping together, but he keeps saying he wants me back, but he wants to focus on himself Whoo Uh Now that man wasting your time that that man wasn't lose his phone number lose his phone number go ahead and block him Go about your life He's trying to confuse you so that you just stay stuck standing still Go about your life. Please trust me list him go about your life. That man gonna be dragging you through the mud that you're gonna be Over asphalt rocks dirt go about your life. That man don't want nothing to do with you Lady say so God bless you now night. Hey now when I just said that y'all got to forgive me Um for how I be answering questions talking sometime. I try to be gentle with y'all, but You know when you're answering a hundred questions a day Sometimes you get a little tough saying everything pg And I some of y'all getting y'all feelings Tony. It's you sound like you're talking down to us You sound like you're talking, you know Can you change your delivery? I can't okay? You might need to go on somebody else page because Everybody ain't for everybody So if everybody ain't for everybody And I remember one time I was in the streets and I left a little paraphernalia in my cousin car And he called me and with the way he talked to me It had me in tears. I had a till run down my face That thing hurt his voice just the the trouble in his voice Hurt my feelings so bad. I was a grown man. I had a till so it's like that's what I come from I come from just straight shooters from just really, you know, with my and that's how my mom is My daddy not like that. He he go all around the bush Without saying what he needs to say He know how to deliver it in a soft way the way you could feel it But I'm more like my mama and so y'all got to understand that when I get y'all answer a I'll be trying to say it as nice as I can so y'all understand understand that Lady say so god bless you now some men have good hearts, but can't dress Should women tell men how to dress? What should women look for on a man's outward appearance appearance? Well, see that right there. That's one of the things that That's one of your least worries because that's something that you could change and you could change that rather easily When I when I look at some of my old outfits My wife she was jokingly say to me. She'll say boy, I'm glad I ain't know you then If I know you then We would not be together. You know, I used to wear dicky shorts, you know, dicky shorts It's like a it's like a straight leg short, but it's like a cardboard Cotton material y'all know what dickies is now I used to wear the dicky shorts With the belt with the big belt buckle with the g unit tank top You know the g you know when 50 cent came out with the tank top because I used to be swole I used to be rock silent all muscle because I was college football player So I had all kind of muscle you hear me And so I used to wear that g unit tank top tucked in to the dicky short with the belt with the belt buckle with Uh, nikes. That was too big I wear nine and a half I used to wear size 11 shoe Because in my head my foot was 11 Because I was a ladies man And although the lord had blessed me. I knew women was judging men by their shoe size I'm like, I'm not gonna put this nine and a half on I'm afraid to put this 11 on so I literally She was just clapping and I remember my wife pointed out to me like she said what what size shoe do you wear? I said this 11 She was like, do you realize your whole He'll keep coming out of the back of it. I'm like, that's just that's because they untied We went to the mall and they put my foot in that thing. I was an I'm a nine and a half I said, well, you couldn't told me no different because I could have swore I was 11 I could have swore I was 11 and So I say that to say now my wife she helped dress me Because when I come from I come from Polk County Polk County is similar to like What I see in like Columbia, South Carolina or making Georgia, you know Montgomery, Alabama is certain areas to where people just dress a certain way And to the rest of the world them them outfits is like Where you got that from But to them Fit it. You hear me fit it and you have some people that are not that could dress universal So understand this if you meet a man and all you got to do a change the way he dress That's a good thing. That's a good thing. Tiffany Lane. God bless you Hello, mr. Gas and when a potential husband is battling inner lust Slash abstinence stay away or offer direction and communication And pray legs close Shows he wants the relationship first time in abstinence supportive godly family Well, I'll tell you what that's you're in a good situation with that right there Because you know that he's battling So when you know that he's battling that means you're dealing with a man who communicates And he's open and he's honest. That's a great thing So you want to pray for him? You want to encourage him uplift him? But don't ever try to relieve him From his frustration Do not do nothing Okay Sanging on the microphone. Somebody asked me what is singing on the microphone? all right And later asked me what is singing on the microphone in the comments. I'll say Y'all got to read between lines. Okay oral mouth All right So do not try to relieve him not with your hand not with your mouth not with your body You just let him lean on the lord. That's what the lord is for let him lean on the lord You lift him up in prayer you call your prayer war your prayer tea how everybody praying for him But see that's a good thing. See because if you did not know that then that wouldn't mean That he's Pleasuring himself and he giving into it and he trying to make you think everything fine But every man every man you meet is going to struggle with that if he's if he Has already experienced You know being with a woman then he's gonna struggle with that every man Gina god bless you shout out Oh, you know what I think I thought that says shout out that you so that's a significant other Has a small startup business Very entrepreneurial spirit wants to do everything. I don't agree with every idea How can I express discontent without sounding like a dream crusher? Well, you got to ask yourself, you know, what is it going to cost you? You know, we doing stuff around the house right now and I just sent my old school to get painted And And I sent Alabama. I live in florida. I sent Alabama to get painted my wife looking at me And then I saw me a little piece of land today that I want to buy the next month And a little piece of land that I want to build a little single family home to rent out to a single mother or a small family and wife like Okay But at the same time she realized that I'm gonna go get it That I'm that I'm gonna make sure that I'm walking with the Lord and that Needs are met And if I got the script I'm gonna be down there on that pole She know I'm gonna go get it and so she'll she'll let me So you have to ask yourself. What is it going to cost you? If he got an idea and it's gonna cost you money And it's gonna hurt you Then that's when you got to speak up. Am I right? She speak up on a lot of stuff She do speak up on a lot of stuff. She's now things a good time Now some things don't think it's a good time But if it's on my spirit And she know it's on my spirit and I'm serious about it Lisa god bless her now blessing then she'll go ahead and she'll Trust me as the man as the head of the household because she know I'm entrepreneurial And she and I got a proven track record If he don't have proven track record if he don't know god If he don't have checks and balances in his mind, then you need to speak up You need to be like a siren. No, I don't think that's good. No, I don't think it's good Whatever he call you dream crush or whatever Is what it is Don't let somebody run you in a ditch Christ of god blessing now. What are some things that I can say when a man asks me What do I look for in a man? Because some men pray and pretend to be something that they are not Based on a woman's response You got it exactly christen sound like you them been here before on my page When a man asks you what you're looking for in a woman you tell him I don't know But I know it when I see it You don't ever give a man your playbook Don't ever give a reader man your whole story Don't ever tell a man everything You let him show you who he is And so you got to be aloof on some things I I I know when I see it I'm not gonna give you a list if if you are him. I will know you're him If you're not him, I will know you're not him And I'm sure the same goes the other way around so you got to go on here to have your answer And don't let a man Don't let your need or your desire Or your desperation or your frustration for a man allow a man To put you on the interview seat To where he interviewing you and you auditioning for a role in his life. Don't ever do that You got to understand that you the prize too That you you the prize And he got the show and prove for you too Joy god bless you. What's your biblical view on divorce? Been with a cheating man for eight years with one child emotional toxic and draining relationship I want out he convinced my family his he's transformed and religious now. They want me to give a second chance I'm not interested joy. If you're not interested go ahead and leave Go ahead and leave. Don't worry about what he convinced in your family. He needed to convince you If you're not convinced then go ahead and leave It's been eight years and he did all that cheating And now when his butt dried up now he wants you to Stay with him. No playboy. You should have been thinking about that the last eight years and so Biblically you the bible releases you from this relationship because of infidelity So biblically, but at the same time we serve god in spirit and in truth So god Also reads your situation. He know your heart and with a man that's cheating on you like that God ain't tell you to marry him anyway They ain't the man god sent to you. You see what I mean? So you witness the devil sent to you So when you leave him god, hey good job daughter good job finally I don't know why he was with that man eight years Now i'm gonna bless your children because I love you and you my daughter But I did not send you that man So what you need to do is get to know me better so that when you meet me You can see if he from me Because if you know me then you'll know what I look like in a man. You see what I mean So that's what god told him my tiffin the god bless you. Thank you. Hello. Well, I won't yes. He's been open and honest That's a blessing now Now i'm looking for the question to say hashtag cue in front of him I see a lot of stuff getting deleted So only questions in the chat only put questions in the chat So when y'all put something in there and they get deleted that because they're trying to keep it clear for me So I could see the question Tony does older man go through menopause like women and mood swings and lower Drive Now I don't know if it's called men menopause Now for a woman menopause. All right, but That mean you need to pause on the men When you're going through yours, but for a man, I don't know if it's called that but yes From what I've noticed from men in their fifties and sixties. They do have mood swings midlife crisis depending on their health too. Me and my wife was just reading about um hypothyroidism and uh And how it can cause depression, you know and so It's a lot of health issues that then turn into A depressed state. So yes men do go through their own set of stuff So if you feeling it and you noticing it, that's what it is That's what it is Coach chris will a man stay with a woman he wants She's what he feels is his type looks wise and financially No matter what she does calls him out makes him mad lies talks down to him um Yeah, he'll stay now He'll stay if he's not a real man If he doesn't really have a backbone if he lacks integrity himself Now if he's a good man A man with integrity and he's honest and You know a good guy then no he's gonna leave But a man who you know, he kind of got a little scammer in him Then yes, he will stay with her. He will be cheating on her all the while all the while Because there's two things that matter to men and that's money And Okay It's two things and so what you have to do is You have to see You have to see that you Are with this man and if he's wanting you for money Then that that will keep him because men worry about their financial security And that's what you have to see And when you realize that that's when you know He'll put up with anything and everything but When he get to where he want to be he's gonna give his butt to kiss Was speaking to a guy He would get mad That I don't message or call him But when I would He would take long to respond or not return calls Then why complain? Well, he was complaining because you was hurting his ego And then he was doing what he was doing in return to get you back out of ego So that's what that was And so you got to realize when we play mind games everybody Everybody When we play my game everybody loses 49 married 17 years What to say 49 married 17 years 14 kids four together He cheats had a baby 10 years ago found out in 2019 left two years ago He won't sign a divorce paper wants to reconcile because he's found out that I started dating comments Sis, I'll be I'll be honest with you something like that really ain't worth my breath your breath your time You need to be trying to run fast you can get whatever law you need to get They let you go around him Without him signing them papers Because I know there's some laws out there. I don't know the word what the term for it is But you go ahead with that divorce without his signature now Drew god bless you now man I get good advice and a laugh on your vids bro. Stay positive and keep the faith. Hey god bless you drew I appreciate that now You'll let god bless you now Tony man is not my type You said we can dress him up, but pick me up for a date 90 degree temperature No air conditioner and the car was gross dirty lots of food crumbs on the floor He's christian job in a house. Hmm Hmm that man ain't no air condition and pick you up in 90 degree With no aca he trying to see if you really if you really a rider You're gonna pass out on the ride, but he trying to see if you're a rider Now to be honest with you. I hear that a lot. I see that a lot And typically that's a man That's that's some men without a woman in their life Because they mama took care of or the group home mama or the foster mama took care of them and so when that happens They be looking for a woman that's going to help them tidy up and stay clean because Some men some men not all men but some men could live Like a wildebeest you said I mean And that little dirt that food on that floor don't bother him in the lease But you as a woman Women typically a little more, you know neater and cleaner like to tidy up and men Live like savages sometimes So if he's not your type go on about your business if it gonna make you feel a throw up in your mouth But if you could stomach it and he has a good heart and he's a good man Then a lot of times as a woman you become that stability You become that person who You are what he isn't and then he is what you what you aren't So he may be a hustler go get her make it happen. Kelly. God bless you now and You may not Be able to do that The way on the level he can but then you may be the neat person The person that organize everything so now He go get to it He take care of your whole life He he'd get all the finances together And you organize everything so yeah, let me see God bless trying to make sure Miss Phillips. God bless you. I I miss miss Phillips question whole thing Should I break up if he says he's okay with not being intimate until If if he says He's okay With not being intimate until commitment Then he reveals later That during dating he was sleeping with another woman That's a personal choice, you know, so it's kind of like Do you see it as he's clearing the air? And he's being honest with you and you appreciate the honesty And you're able to forgive him and move on with him Without holding it against him Or do you see it as He's trying to tell you that To to hurt you and to see if you're willing to put up with that And if you willing to put up with it, then it's gonna happen again in the future now me As a man, I don't believe that a man will tell you about something that you did not know Unless He want to hurt you And he want the power and the ego boost From telling you that some men try to say oh, I want to be honest and I want to oh And I hear that a lot and for some guys that may be true to me He They don't make any sense Doesn't make any sense to bring something up to somebody That you did in your past and that you got grace for Meaning you didn't get caught you learned your lesson and you didn't change your life And then you come just telling somebody that you did it and now they got to live through it and suffer through it When god is the one who gives you forgiveness because he sees what People don't see so if a person didn't see it You're just causing pain by bringing something to their Vision that they didn't even know nothing about That the world would have continued to spend without them knowing that And that's I think a lot of times we do that because of guilt And then sometimes it's a it's a power trip See when I used to do it as a man I used to do it With girlfriends because I wanted to see if they'll stay with me knowing that I did that And if they would stay with me then I'll be like, oh Okay, I could keep doing it But if I really like somebody and I made a mistake I made a stupid choice And I changed my life god forgiveness I'm not gonna bring that up because nine out ten times they did something too that you don't know about And so now you come telling them what you did And now they got that but they don't tell you what they did And so you got to really kind of process this and see what's the real reason behind this Pinky, let me see I saw your name already, but I don't know if I answered this question They did a guy who I guess isn't into titles I knew his parents been married for over 30 years But I didn't know until recently that they Weren't boyfriend and girlfriend beforehand. Is this the new age of dating? I don't know what you're talking about sis because that don't really go together because if his parents been Married for 30 years, then that's not a new age of dating If that was 30 years ago that they weren't boyfriend and girlfriend So I don't know if you talking about him Now I tell you this right here on the titles part because it's a lot of guys It's not in the titles and the only reason why a man ain't in the titles is so that he can leave you without repercussions Because if a man got the title of a husband and it's legal He got to go through something to leave you. He got to jump through some hoops. He might have to pay some money He might have to do alimony um spousal support whatever it is And so, you know, lawyer fees divorce Fees and all of that might have to split up assets or he got to ask you for a pre-nump before marriage So guys who don't believe in titles is because they don't believe in until death Do us part They don't believe in a woman getting half if he cheats and they get they get a divorce They don't believe in If you marry a woman and then you ready to decide wake up and decide you want to leave her That you got to now give spouse support or alimony. They don't believe in all of that It ain't that they don't believe in titles. They don't believe in accountability They don't believe in giving a word and being a man of their word. That's what that's about So you got to understand that Azula god bless you now. How can you heal? A relationship with the father if the relationship is one sided and you put it in the work But he's not it seems like he's closed off. I took a step back advice Um, you did the right thing You did the right thing. You can't heal something if if he don't want it to be healed So you did the right thing now. See some of y'all. I think I saw a couple of questions in here Me or more I'm pregnant. He pushed me to leave at three months. I'm now six months Said he didn't feel loved anymore because I shut down from his mean words. How do I move on? You're gonna have to start at square one and You're gonna have to get a new knowledge I got a course on soul ties. I believe on tony gasses academy You got to get to find the videos for you And make your playlist and listen to them all day This to them all day get them in your subconscious get in your conscious mind And just get the knowledge and when you start to realize just how trashy he is Just how sorrow of a man he is just how much better of a woman you are Just how much you deserve that new knowledge going to boost Your confidence and that confidence is going to allow you give you the strength to keep going Ms. Phillips. God bless you. Should I break up? Hey, y'all got it's a lot of questions here now I said y'all got to understand if I miss a couple of Hey, it ain't I ain't doing it intentionally. It's just y'all y'all Flood me right now Ms. Phillips, should I break up if he says he's okay with not being intimate until commitment Then he reveals later that during dating he was sleeping with another woman now I think I answered this question now. Ms. Phillips I don't know if I answered it up here already. Oh, yeah, I did answer that So my bad. Maybe I just read that again Ms. Angel kids dad still has me blocked because he is mad at me Should I still update him on the kids like if they're hurt or sick and sports I have to email him only he says I can use kids devices grown boy Uh, yes, I I would not update him. I would not update him if he if he that childish Then let him let him stay where he at when he want to know let him call you Don't your god bless you now Because he might be using that block As a way to win some favor with the grown girl that he dealing with see men are do stuff like that See look here. I got her block. I blocked on text. I blocked on Instagram block on everything because she's so toxic I don't want nothing to do with her like I don't know how I was ever with her All I ever wanted was a woman like you and it's like I don't want her to come in between us because She's still trying to get back with me and that's why I blocked them See a man and go through all of that right there just to get the grown girl She's like, um You know what you're right. You're right. That is so toxic. Just I cannot stand these toxic baby moms I would never be like that And she she's buying into it And so you got to realize when a man trying to play you like that and this by his kids and he's so childish That he block you That he can't even hear by the kid let let them sit right over there and wonder and let them call you Lola asked god bless a single mom of one boy boy toddler Want to move out of toxic home and family members And family members to apartment People suggesting to save and buy home thoughts Now I saw the question just like this earlier today Um stay as long as you can stay and until you get the money if you when you get the money to go Then go if you ain't got the money to go then you ain't got no other choice but to stay So stay until you get the money to go if you got the money to go leave Because good to be independent. Shayla god bless you now Let me see if I Miss any question that was up there. All right Was in a relationship and he left to try to make things work for his kid He says he loves me He's done this before and it didn't work. He calls a few times a week, but I'm moving on. Why does he keep calling? well That's grown boy isms and and you know It's not going to make sense to you But he has a soul tie With her he has a soul tie with her But she's not who he wants to be with She's not the one for him. He's not the one for her So he's keeping you as his bench player So that when he mad with her he can call you When they fussing and fighting when he needed a little break from her he calls you He think you done he think you boo boo the fool So he want to keep you right there and keep you stuck So that he can use you when he needs you So you got to remove yourself and you got to cut him off cold turkey got to cut him off all together because if you don't cut him off And you keep allowing him to call you and he's not blocked You're going to meet a man that you really like and y'all going to be hanging out one night and then this other clown Going to be blowing your phone up And this man going to be looking at your phone your phone going off and he's like what is going on So what you need to do is cut him off All the way and get some distance so that he knows it's completely over Then you can get back in the dame field and meet the man that's for you Princess diamond god bless you now Stephanie bless you. How can my ex completely stop talking to me when he had something very real Focusing on my schooling, but not sure how to fully let him go Well, you got to let him go because he let you go And it was real to you, but it was not real to him So that's how he could let it go because He's not the man for you and you're not the woman for him So although you were invested and you were taking it serious, he just was passing through He's still looking for himself. He's still trying to find himself. And so that's all that is Lola god bless you now Some of y'all need to sign up for a coach session because I keep seeing y'all question pop in here for this 499 y'all need to go on sign up for a coaching session Because see when y'all pop up there put on my screen, but y'all you know y'all asking all the question But ain't that ain't that humans won't be canned by nobody else I'm just keep sending what I got tonight. $50. All right. That's 10 questions I can ask I'm finna run them off 499 499 499 everybody. I'm trying to get everybody question y'all keep sending the question Y'all what's this out 300? I'm finna spend 50 tonight. Get me 10 questions in if you ask a question Please let me answer some other people question And I don't just want to be having to answer the paid question that keep coming in and they pop up on my screen I really want to be able to get over here in the chat and answer the questions of you know The other members who may not be in a position to Send that super chat. So y'all if you ask the question Just let that be it and then let me get to some other questions. All right. God bless you um Lola Meant to say do you think it's wise to buy a town home slash house or just rent? I remember you once telling the young woman to rent because she's young and not married So lola if you remember me telling her that Then why are you asking the same question like it's gonna be different for you? You That y'all be trying to do like okay, let me all right tonic being real patient with these questions Let me hit them with this one You don't man come on I lola So what I was saying is when you young like that It's better to rent because you don't know where you're gonna be And if you're not married then you could go buy a house and then A man get with you just because you got a house And he coming to live with you and you think it's love and he just needs somewhere to stay The other thing is is a lot of people want to move by every three years So until you get ready to buy your house the way you know, you're gonna be there 10 years 20 years, you know, then You need to rent Because with ownership it comes a whole lot of other costs. I own my house And right now I happen to fix stuff It costs It costs so it Owning a house is not an asset That's a liability That you own It's a liability that could appreciate But it don't necessarily means an asset because you spend a lot of money on it And you could pay your place off and you still got property taxes. So you could you could pay your place off Lose your job have no way of earning Can't pay your property taxes and your house get foreclosed your house get taken from you Because you can't afford to pay taxes. So really when you buy a house, you don't own the house You never own the house as long as you got property taxes where you live Because and then you don't pay them taxes. Yep somebody buy right from up under you see what I'm saying So when you rent not all that is on the owner. They got to pay the taxes. They got to fix the roof They got to fix everything. So until you get to a place to where you can afford a down payment You can show the last two years that you make enough money to afford this place And you've got money to do to fix up and upkeep of that place That's when you get your house Pinky god bless you. Okay. So y'all asking questions the wrong way and then coming back to clarify lola clarifying pinky clarifying Now y'all see what I be dealing with over here Y'all think it's all gravy I said new age of dating only because I've never heard of that Normally people are boyfriend and girlfriend then marriage. It's clear because his parents weren't Him and guys like him Want that these days no title till marriage Um Yes, that it is a lot of guys that's like that today That's a lot of guys that like that today Christ of God bless you red Just the first name or read just the first name Okay, read just the first just your first name crystal. Okay. You just to see the last name I have a new job. I love and work from home I do not really leave home. I want marriage, but not sure how I try online against your advice And those men are quite crazy help Well, you're gonna have to do what you don't want to do if you want to get what you don't have You see what I mean? So leaving out the house you might not want to leave out the house But God ain't gonna send a man to your door stop to your door Now if you pray hard enough, it might be the UPS or FedEx or wherever you live the delivery man. It might be the delivery man. I'll be a little Uneasy if I was a woman and a man who come to deliver a package Shoot his shot at me because now he know where I live at So I'll be a little uneasy So I wouldn't be praying for a man to come knock on the door So you have to do what you have not done to get what you have not got Which is get out the house Get out of the house and get you a routine and stay off that online day Miles god bless you should a woman be mad If she dated a guy four and a half months and then break it off and said He thought he was ready for a relationship, but not after 20 year marriage No, you should not be mad four and a half months. That's a perfect time. It's better than four and a half years Like a lot of women sit through All right, let me see her now Hey, I got about 15 more minutes on here now A guy was talking to would say things like You have game and you are trying to trick me into a relationship. I had to cut them off But what was he talking about? I was genuinely interested Um What he was saying is that You've been listening relationship coaches And what he's doing You ain't falling for it the way other women fall for it So you're playing your hands different and he realized you played chess not checkers And so that's what he was saying Like in in manglish basically he's saying wow, you're not stupid and dumb like the other women that I deal with You actually helped the game and you're not falling for the little stuff I say and do and give me what I want You actually know a little bit of something about yourself and you love yourself or respect yourself That's what he was saying College relationship ex-boyfriend would never offer to pay for dinner Dates and most would split if asked never bought any presents for v-day v-day Was he just broke or using me for money or both? Uh, he was using it for money. He was using it for money Ladanya god bless you now tony gasman. What's the difference between a piece of a man versus a whole man? right ladanya Okay All right piece of a man whole man. Okay I'm about that. I have to bring somebody in and answer some of these questions for me Hey, you want to take that question? Take that question. Come on You two need to have a thing with the request to go live. I like how instagram got that I could just let one of my coaches come on here um, but essentially what that means is When a man is all yours And he's faithful to you and you're with him. That's a whole man He faithful to you you faithful to him as a whole man A piece of a man is when you friends would benefit. So are you off and on relationship or you got a situation ship He lived with his baby mama or he you know still talking to his ex. That's a piece of a man And some women okay with a piece of a man versus a whole man Is it ever okay for a one nine? Let me let me tell y'all something A lot of people a lot of times you hit these questions And I had to remind myself all the time like okay this question this question make perfect sense. Like I understand it perfectly The answer But a lot of times things sound different to different people And people hear stuff and just really don't be known And so y'all have to bear with me when I answer a question that you know the answer to And you just ready to jump out your skin like whoa What kind of question was that why you ask that question because everybody you know Learned differently and experiences things differently queen vv god bless her stayed away from God dealing with toxic relationships trying to be a woman With integrity and fine purpose any suggestions on how to get closer to god Pray every day and read your bible every day You know pray every day read your bible every day you go to the book of Proverbs And that's a book of wisdom written by Solomon Give you a lot of application for life You know then then you read new testament And then you can get you an old testament Or you could just google you know scriptures on faith scriptures on Scriptures to help me get closer to god and just read old bible plans from the bible out But when you spend that time with god When you spend that time with god you start to learn the attributes of god and what god wants from you and how god mold What do you know? What do you want us to do and that's what really helps you? Um jasmine god bless you now bless you hi tony. I recently Just got engaged to a guy that is now yelling and screaming at me When I point this out or want to talk to him about something hurtful. He blames me Says he's offended. I've discovered i'm pregnant. What can I do? Thank you Jasmine that's a real deep question now. You're probably gonna need some coaching and uh with myself or with somebody on On my mentor dot life. You're probably gonna need some coaching, but you're gonna need to Come up with an exit strategy. You're gonna go ahead. You're gonna need to exit You're gonna need to exit and when I say exit that might mean for good But you've got to exit so you'll know It it may mean three days. It may mean seven days. It may mean 14 days With no contact only contact is the emails. He's sending the text. He's sending the voicemails. He's leaving The messages other people leaving that he even called them But you got to pull away you can't stay right there in that same place with him You're gonna have to pull away. So you're gonna have to go To stay with a family member or or if you can afford a hotel You're gonna have to go somewhere that he doesn't know where you're at so that he knows That you're willing to leave because if you stay right there in them trenches with him Verbally abusing you you teaching him how to treat you And so you teach people how to treat you by what you stop What you allow and what you reinforce When you stop this behavior And you leave and you go somewhere and you get some distance Now he realized that you willing to leave Now he's gonna show you that he's gonna change elizabeth god bless you now Elizabeth god bless you now Sent to it all he's gonna show you That you showing him that you willing to leave and now he's gonna show you if he's willing to change If you come back if you leave You got to let him beg you beg you beg you to come back if he don't beg you to come back and say what he's gonna do And give you a plan of action or what he's gonna do Then that means a relationship over and you got to start reading books watching video again coaching therapy Whatever it is get accountability partners. That's a friend or a family member Whoever and you got to start healing to move on with your life Because he may be getting cold feet right now And he could be trying to sabotage the relationship intentionally trying to make you leave Chevelle god bless the general question How can you test a man to see if he truly loves you if you already showed your hand? Can a man love you and not verbally say it? um You can't really test a man and that's not that wouldn't really be smart to test a man Men test women. That's not smart either But you shouldn't really test people and But what you have to realize is If a man loves you you're gonna know he loves you You're not gonna be confused about if a man love you If he loves you because love is so strong like I tell y'all Squirrel showing love dog showing love Slug showing love, you know a leaf show love It a man can show love so if if he's not showing you love That means he does not love you Tonya god bless you. Whoo. You have patience of joe Bless you for serving your purpose god bless you now. See good. I read I read the bible now I know they say job. I know all the I know all the non-bible read you have patience a job Well, this is job. She said joe All right uh, chris Cristana god bless you Tony. Hey bless you Bless you. Gianna Do you believe god blessing our gianna? Do you believe in special connections or are all Relationships built Thanks for all you do. I know you hear it a lot, but you've helped me tremendously god bless Um, yeah, I believe in special connections meaning the person that's for you Meaning if you meet somebody and y'all got the same foundational beliefs and y'all got a lot of chemistry That's a special connection But even with a special connection you still have to build the relationship Because he love isn't really found Love is created And we create love by the way we treat a person the way we talk the way we communicate So although my wife and I are good and our Relationship is what I call perfect. I I call it perfect. Now that don't mean that Every that we agree on every single thing and all of that But I call it perfect because I'm speaking that and I'm claiming that and I'm 100 happy with my wife And so that's why I call it that but we still have to work So just because we get along You know If people read in the stars and they read in horoscopes It'll tell you That we ain't supposed to be together That's how I know love is created That's how I know that if you have the actions and the attributes of love then you can have a healthy relationship Susan god bless you nine tips for setting expectations and boundaries From the beginning while showing a man interest and a safe Person to talk to getting past small talk Um Now when you say setting expectations and boundaries that that literally is what it means so You have to have rules. You got to have principles for your life And so what that means is you can't answer the phone any time of day one example is I a lot of times I don't answer the phone on sunday. I don't talk to people on sunday So they know give me my time give me my space every now and then I break my own rule, but most of the time I I won't answer the phone at a certain time I typically don't do not answer the phone without an appointment If you ain't text me and told me a when can we talk and I say a we could talk at full I'm not available because I'm doing something and so you got to have some Your own boundaries and then when you do that what that's going to do is make that man inquire within It's going to make him want to get to know you more. It's going to make him want to you know Get in position and get on your calendar and talk to you and really go past that small talk That's what it's going to do Um christy god bless you now. I told you no question. Just blessing you and charie with starbucks coffee tomorrow God bless a bless. I wish starbucks was open right now And some of these uh questions. I don't know if it's the likes of these questions You got got me a little headache on me Ruben L. God bless you. Hope the back is better brother. God bless you a ruben not last time you came on here And you prayed for me you prayed for my back. I'm gonna take the honest truth right now. I don't feel no pain I don't feel no pain right now So a when you pray for my I received that prayer. I said lord a Let that prayer all right and remember I told you ruby. I say a don't be praying for me If you're living in sin ruby and you said no I ain't living in no I'm not fornicating But I don't he feeling no pain right now. No, you know, so That prayer must of word If a guy always makes sure you see him and his accomplishment Does that mean he really likes me or is it just his ego? It's his ego because if a guy like you he's gonna try to be with you He's gonna try to be with you a guy ain't just worried about you know showing you Um Showing you what he's doing if he like you if a man has moved on and is over you Why does he make co-parenting so difficult by being so nasty and neglectful of our child? Because he has not moved on and he's not over you So see what y'all got to realize is the proof in the pudding and if The actions say something different than the mouth Then the only thing that matters is the actions and so When you look at this, it's like He can't be over you if he's still making your life miserable He's making your life miserable because he got a soul tired and he's angry that he lost you He's angry that he ruined the relationship He's angry that he failed at life as it is concerning that relationship And that's why he's trying to get under your skin because he wants you to be angry He wants you to be stuck So you got to see his attempts and you got the upper one What I mean by that is you got to see his attempts And you got to just let it roll right off you like ward off the the bike of a duck It like he he don't see you can never If you got to carry a towel never let a person see you sweat Don't ever let nobody see you sweat And because when he see you sweat That's how he know he work in you That's when he know he's winning But when you still pleasant and you smile and you happy if you got to talk to him. Hey, how are you? Oh, yeah, you got your other voice on you got your real proper voice on. Hey, how are you? Yeah, everything's going well. Um, you know the she's doing great or he's doing great I have a letter for you. Why are you talking like that? What do you mean? Why are you talking like that? They ain't how you talk? Well, I mean This is how I talk. We have not been together And this is how I talk I got to go Well, if you say so, all right, bye You ain't got the phone you see what I'm saying Now a lot of times people push your buttons and then we get out of character I'll be the first one to get out of character. We get out of character Oh my goodness. Why do you treat me like this? Why are you doing this? And so now he knows he still can affect you So he knows that if he can affect you you can't move on with in your life He knows he owns you He knows that you can't be a full woman for the next man because anything he says or does he gets a reaction out of you So that's what you got to realize Barbara M. God bless you now more starbucks for Mr. Gaffer. Hey, not no with me Gaffer and me Gaffer ain't nothing else at all Even if you're sending me a starbucks It'd be No, but God bless you now. I'm gonna give my wife a $10 frame Just finish my book. How should it how much should an is being cost? Um, it's it's 125 dollars on is being dot org and so you could go directly to is being dot org and um Or if you want it for free, then you just can go to to publish it, you know through amazon's company And you could they'll give you one for free and it'll just say independently published on the book But if you wanted to say your company name as the publisher like if you want to start at llc Then you buy your own is being on is being dot org And um that free game that's actually in a course, you know to birth your book course But God bless you If you're dating If a guy you're dating allows you on his ig and snapchat And not his facebook red flag Well, he might not use his facebook like that. Now if he uses facebook like that every day Then yes, that's a red flag Because facebook might be where the x where the x is at Coco God bless you now facebook might be where the x is at Hey, let me go on cut this off so I could go on Close out let me go on close out y'all don't send me no more quests. I got a headache now y'all Oh my goodness, but y'all don't hurt me tonight Whoo boy y'all be hitting me with them Tony. Um, will you let me know why? Is the sky blue? I And one and one more question Tony one more question before you go. I've just been wondering why is water wet No, hey Now let me tell you what I know It's a couple guys who do not like me So so I bet it's a couple of them guys That got them old side channel and they will send a dollar They'll send a blessing to ask me A question that is not really a question. I know somebody doing me like that. I know somebody Some some of them questions some questions. I'll be getting trolled on I already know it But I'm gonna answer it just in case I'm not getting trolled on But let me let me um help y'all understand something This one thing that I'm seeing that I'm noticing and this what you got to realize Is pay attention to the signs It gotta go together. You got to pay attention to the sign everything got to go together So if I say I love my wife, she gonna see that I love her She gonna see that I'm sacrificing that I'm making things happen that I'm there that I'm trying to spend time I'm trying to be there. I'm trying to speak her love languages But if I say I love my wife, but I'm getting mad at her every day I'm cussing out. I ain't I ain't speaking no love languages Then I obviously do not love her And the one person asks you say can a person love you and not say it? No Because that's not love if a person loves you and they won't say I love you and they can talk Then that's ego and there is no ego in love Because see love is bigger and greater and stronger than the ego So even when a person mad if they love you they're gonna make up with you Even when you make a person mad or they're going through something A person could lose a family member if they love you they want you to be their constellation They want you to be their pillow. They want you to be the shoulder they could cry on So you have to look at what the person is doing and and you got to be able to feel in your heart See Helen Keller. She couldn't see Helen Keller say a lot of people have eyesight But no vision And that's what's happening is a lot of times you Look you've got eyes and ears, but you ain't seeing what's happening. You ain't hearing what's happening And you're not paying attention So look at this thing and understand this A man can show love a man is capable of love And if you're not getting love, um jay, take god bless you now god bless you Tyra god bless you. Hey, y'all ain't got to send me no more blessing now I'm just wrapping it up You have to understand that a man Is capable of love and don't treat him like an imbecile don't treat him like no child Don't treat him like an animal like don't treat him like he's ignorant Men are very very smart. I'm looking at these men coming to my house doing their work And all this stuff they're doing. I'm like, man, how in the world you learn that How in the world you learn that but they probably may watch my q and a and say, man, how in the world you learn that Men are capable of learning And if you keep treating a man like he a child and like you got to teach him everything like you got to hold his hand Like you got to walk him the third base second base third base You got to walk him the class if he's gonna let you do that And while you're doing it, he's gonna be cussing you out linda linda. Please linda listen When the lesson he's gonna be talking to you like you trash While he treating you like you trash While you treating him like he is an innocent child that you got to raise That's a grown man That's a grown man and he can't do right and show up and show up and and be a man and be faithful And be honest and be open Leave his butt because it's another man that's waiting to show you that he a man And that's what you got to realize and vice versa if it's the other way and these men you dealing with a grown girl It go the other way. I'll just be talking To women because 95 of my audience on youtube is women and that's what y'all see That's why I get the question from we had one brother in here tonight And he was just you know saying a key gone. God bless your brother But y'all see the hottest numbers and this the thing is y'all women y'all I don't know what y'all thinking with You're not thinking with your head But at the same time I don't think you thinking with what's between your legs See a lot of men think what's between they led But what I'm noticing is a lot of women. Maybe you thinking with your heart You know, but a lot of y'all just be If it be all kind of signs and you just be In the relationship All kind of signs he And you just be uh, what's that? Oh, it's mosquitoes out here. Oh my goodness You see I'm saying you have to get to the point the way you looking at what's happening And you say oh, this ain't love this ain't love this ain't how somebody treats you that love you Somebody that love you is not gonna say i'ma call you and then don't call you And then don't have a real reason for why they didn't call you Somebody that loves you is not going to curse you out Somebody that loves you is not gonna Send mixed signals and have you Telling you they love you but then cheating on you and you keep catching them dealing with other people That's somebody that loves you is not gonna do that to you You have to understand that love is or love isn't there is no in between love Love is or love isn't love love is black and white. Ain't no gray area in love if black and white It is no gray area you if you Have to wonder if somebody loves you they do not love you and then hit hit now here you go now here you go Oh Oh Some people show love differently Just because he doesn't say he loves me doesn't mean he doesn't love me. I know he loves me Oh That is love and if you don't understand that that is love Wow, let me get my ice That is love and relationships go through that. Do you see the entanglement that will and jade is having? Do you see that cookie stayed with magic johnson after he got? My phone had about that after he called HIV you don't know what love is tony Love is pain Love is suffering. You need to read Corinthians 13 Corinthians 13 was not telling you to let this man keep cheating on you Keep putting hands on you keep lining you keep deceiving you keep spending all your money Keep treating you like an option. That is not what Corinthians 13 talking about It is not talking about your raggedy relationship That's on my love For god god's love for us our love for mankind talking about how we treat the world Talking about what we're gonna have to deal with what we got to suffer through in the world That this love is long suffering that you're gonna be talked about you're gonna be persecuted As a christian it's talking about what you're gonna go through He ain't talking about this your man and they're like connor McGregor on you and you keep oh, this is love Listen, that's not love If you hurt him if you crying That's not love That's not love. That's self-hate That you got and it might be self-hate that he got so understand that though. Hey God bless y'all And um, we'll talk soon. I've been trying to shoot these videos I try to shoot me one every day, but life happens, you know, life keeps getting in the way Got a lot of real stuff going on They're working and um, but god bless you appreciate you for being on here Thank you to all the moderators who helped me keep the chat clear Thank you for everybody who everybody you see That show up in the chat. They're a member of the bless tribe and um We got a good amount of members in the bless try I need to go back and check But I thank y'all you know for supporting the channel I made it just a dollar 99 Just because you two kept sending me emails about it and I was like, man, let me just try this And I didn't want to make it a price to where it's going to break you But it's just for true and genuine supporters who able and I really appreciate y'all for that support And for those of you who even send in an extra blessing um And when you're asking a question because you can ask your question for free But you send in an extra blessing and ask a question So, hey god bless you and we'll talk soon