 Good day, I'm 840 here So I don't understand something. Why is it when I ask people who've been sick or have had the flu who've been Gone due to terrible back pain or something like that when I ask people how are you I? Usually elicit a defensive response of why why are you asking me? Like to me it seems like the most innocent inquiry in the world. How are you? How are you feeling? What's going on? I haven't seen you for a couple of weeks. I haven't seen you for three weeks or You know, I know you had that had the flu, you know, how are you feeling now? How's your recovery? I don't get it. Why why does this question elicit a defensive and sometimes an aggressive response like oh, are you monitoring me? Is there something weird about me? Is it me? Is this something I'm doing wrong? Am I off? Am I am I being intrusive? And I people just tired of being asked how are you when they've been sick and do you have this experience to like What's wrong with asking people how are you or why do you think I'm always going wrong? It seems like when I ask people how are you? I just elicit this defensive response like why why are you asking and Like a few days ago. They tell me I've got this killer flu or I've got this killer back pain Or I've got this killer, you know, a physical problem and you know, I'm just absolutely down for the count And I'm just lying flat in bed. And so I follow up, you know a few days later. So how's it going now? How are you feeling? And it's like why do you ask? So one day they're telling me about like the pain that they're in and the discomfort they're in and what they're struggling and what they're fighting through and Then when I follow up it's like oh, why do you ask? I mean, maybe it's just because we forget so easily, you know suffering So we were suffering one day, but the next day we're feeling better. So we forget how bad it was And when Luke asked how are you people here, would you like to have sex with me? All right, so Is it mainly women who react this way to me does anyone else have this problem I Mean, I may just be weeding people out. It is this intrusive Whatever it is, how are you just does not seem to be a good question To ask or how are you feeling it just and so what's a good alternative like when you run into someone I mean someone's been It's confided in you that they've been in terrible pain and suffering And this is what I don't get they confide in you how much pain and suffering they were in Like three days ago and then you follow up three days later. So how are you feeling? And it's like, why do you ask? like There's the confiding in one minute and then there's this defensive why do you ask two three four days later And I don't get it one moment you're confiding and and then the next moment's like You know, why are you bothering me? Why are you imposing? Why are you intruding? So So I think that's that's better. So What's up bro? That's just too many words and sometimes half the world are not bros So I I like sir. So a lot of people that's how I greet himself And that seems to work much better than than how are you? And so tell me is this just me or does this happen to you too? Because maybe I'm just reading a situation. Maybe there's a better path Maybe I'm waiting people out. Maybe I have to look at myself And do a complete inventory. So I ask you how are you? What's going on? How you feeling?