 Hello everyone, welcome to another NARC survivor live video. So we did an interview yesterday with a diagnosed self-aware covert narcissist, which was very interesting to do. Quite a long interview as well, it went on for over two hours, but it was very engaging and it attracted a lot of viewers. It looks like it's something that people want to see. An interaction with a survivor of narcissistic abuse with a narcissist who is a self-aware and diagnosed a recovering narcissist. So as a result of the success of last night's video, I think there may be similar videos to come in the future. So keep an eye out for that. But anyway, into tonight's message, this is most definitely a very big video today. When the narcissist knows you're gone forever and if this sounds good to you, please hit that thumbs up button down below so that it will help the YouTube algorithm to get this very important message out there to other survivors as well. It will take you two seconds. Just hit the thumbs up button to show your support. Thank you. When the narcissist knows you're gone forever, you have been manipulated, lied to, future faked by this narcissist for such a long time. They pulled the wall over your eyes, you were in a trance, you were under a spell. This could have been for months, years, even decades in some cases, especially if you were dealing with a narcissistic parent. This could have been most of your life, that you were manipulated, used, exploited, lied to, future faked. All of these things were done to you and you were gaslighted the entire time. You didn't know what was happening to you. And then one day you start to wake up, you start to realize what is going on. You see through the manipulation, you realize that the entire time you've been lied to, you've been blamed for everything, for things that weren't even your fault, you were scapegoated, you were abused all of that time. Gears of your life were stolen from you. You could have had a good life with all of that time. You could have done something with it instead of remaining loyal and devoted to someone who was just manipulating and abusing you. Because that's what was happening. And when you get to this point where you're really done, it's because you see through it. You realize that the entire time you were being manipulated and of course you know that if someone's been manipulating you for all of that time, they clearly don't have any plans of correcting or improving anything. Because if they did, they would have done that a long time ago. So that's how you get to this point where it's like, all right, I'm done for good. I am gone forever and I am not coming back because it's like if someone can do that to me, if they can really take it that far and betray me, lie to me all of that time, manipulate me, use me and abuse me and clearly there's no way they're ever going to change. There's no way that things are ever going to be any different if they can do that that entire time. So of course you get to that point after you've seen through the manipulation. You know it's a done deal. It's all over. You can't go back to them. You can't ever see them the same way ever again after what they did to you. After that act of betrayal, you can never trust them again because the entire time they knew exactly what they were doing and they lied to you. They took you for a fool. So now at this point, you've wised up. You've become more aware. You've realised what you were dealing with and yeah a lot of you at this point despite everything you've been through you may be feeling positive, optimistic, confident. You may be feeling quite high and mighty as though yeah you may have lost a large portion of your life especially if it was a narcissistic parent but now it's like it's over now. I'm free. I can move on. I may have lost a lot of my life to this person, this manipulator, this abuser but at least now I've woken up. I've found my freedom. I can become independent and I can make the most of the rest of my life. So at least that's something I know at least. That's what you might think because it may be over for you but it's not over for the narcissist. I don't know what you may be thinking what do you mean it's not over for the narcissist. I was with them for years, decades, practically my entire life. They manipulated, they abused me, they exploited me all of that time. They made to me the future fake. They made all of these promises about the future and I never got anything out of it. I just gave everything I had, all of my loyalty, years of my life, my youth, everything I had. What do you mean it's not over for the narcissist. I'm sure that's what many of you must be thinking. Yes, I'm sorry to say that when you begin to wise up and you see through the manipulation that is not the end. That's just the beginning and it definitely gets a lot worse before it gets better. If it does get better because in a lot of situations they never let go. Once you see through the manipulation you become a threat because narcissists greatly fear rejection, abandonment and of course exposure because nothing is more important to them than their false image and the illusion. They will do whatever it takes to protect it so they can't just let you go off and live your life without them. They can't just let you do that and when you reject them and you figure them out they will take that as an attack on their false character. They will see it as though you're out to get them and they will try to beat you to the punch and not just try. Pretty much every situation they're going to be successful because they are masters of manipulation and it's likely that they have been smearing you the entire time ready for when you do figure them out and try to leave. They will be prepared and they will be seeking to punish you and get revenge. When they let it go they're going to hold a grudge for life and they will really try to destroy you. They will try to get you fired from your job they will target you financially they will spread lies and rumors about you they will start a smear campaign and enforce their flying monkeys they will try to turn everyone against you to take away your support and to leave you isolated because they don't want you to have any sources of influence outside of them they want to brainwash and indoctrinate you into seeing it as though it's you you're bad, you're crazy, you're wrong and you just made a big mistake by rejecting them by figuring them out that's the whole point of it you need to regret your decision they want you to feel like you made the wrong move as though you were better off just going along with them blindly so that's what happens when they really know that you're gone and you're not coming back that's when they will go all out to destroy you because at that point they just see it as though there's nothing to lose now they're never going to let it go they will hold a grudge for life I mean you could see through them and reject them it could be 20, 30 years later they're still going strong heavily opposed to you and still seeking to destroy you or at that point if they haven't destroyed you that kind of reveals that they're not trying to completely finish you off they just want to keep you down at a certain level where they're able to control you and they'll never let it go the entire time they will just do everything in their power to keep you down because they look at it like you're either with them or you're against them and once you've shown that you are really against them it doesn't matter what they've done to you they expect you to remain blindly loyal to them regardless of what they do to you that doesn't matter they feel entitled to do whatever they want but they expect you to listen to them and remain loyal no matter what you're never allowed to speak out against them but everything they did to you they tend to keep a code of silence they don't reveal any of that to anyone if they do they find a way to justify it so that it doesn't look so bad they minimise everything they do and then they exaggerate everything that your mental have done or they just blow it out of proportion to make it look like it's all you it's all your fault you caused everything they didn't do anything wrong that's what they always do and again they always blame the victim for everything the victim always gets the blame the victim is the one who takes the loss as I've said before you know what it now says because they come in with little or nothing and then they leave with so much more than what they came in with while the victim leaves with a lot less than what they came in with that's how you know who the narcissist is in any situation I mean you know if you were involved with a narcissist and I'll say this to anyone if you were involved with a narcissist and you left with a lot more whether it's money, experiences a house, a car trips around the world how can you think that you're the victim that doesn't make any sense and I'm sure many of you will agree with this you can relate to it in every situation that's how you know who the narcissist or the abuser is every time it is the one who came in with very little or nothing and they left with more the victim always leaves with a lot less than what they came in with that reveals who the abuser is it tells you everything you need to know that's how anyone can know straight away it's so easy to identify it because you can see it straight away the victim came in with so much life energy and optimism the mayor came in with a lot of money and resources a home, a car dreams and aspirations for the future and then by the end of it they lost it all would they have lost it all if they weren't dealing with a narcissist probably not that's just the effects of dealing with one abuser's their predators they seek to exploit people to take advantage of them and you think that after everything they've done to you I mean they may have been abusing you for a very long time they may have stripped you of everything you had everything you worked for your entire life they may have drained it all out of you you had nothing left naturally you might assume that it's all over I mean if you've got nothing else to lose but even then they're not just going to let you move on and start a new life without them even if you don't have anything they will still try to punish you they will go for the smear campaign they will try to isolate you they really do not want you to be good for anyone or anything after they are gone they just want it to be all over for you after that 214 live viewers only 33 thumbs ups please hit that thumbs up button down below it will only take you 2 seconds please show your support thank you but yeah I know a lot of you know that once you decide it's over that's all over and that's how it should be no one should be forced or coerced into a situation that they do not want to participate in but with Narcissus they will do just that they will try to keep you locked in a situation in a condition that you do not want to be a part of they will try to keep you down keep you stuck for the rest of your life to where you just can't move on you can't pick back up you can't put things back together you can't restore everything that they destroyed and that is exactly how they want it the last thing they want to see is you getting better you being happier you moving on with your life that is the last thing they want because they already know that despite everything they did to you they still wouldn't satisfy with that it doesn't matter if they were abusing you your entire life it doesn't matter that still didn't satisfy them it wasn't enough that's how they develop such an entitlement they're still waiting for their hands out expecting some form of compensation even though they just completely drained everything out of you in the relationship already they're still expecting more because they never satisfied that's how I've said in a recent video I've said how Narcissus always losing the end I mean yeah they do all of this stuff they ruthlessly exploit us but are they ever happy at the end of it are they ever satisfied I mean even if you go through a divorce with a narcissist and they take your children they take your house, your car even then they're still miserable they're still not happy they could be living in your beautiful home with their new partner their partners sitting on your couch watching your TV driving your cars taking care of your children and you can't even see them yet you have to pay all of this money every month to support the very children that you can't even see but despite all of that you could just go off to some exotic country somewhere live in the jungle with your foreign wife in a cabin in the middle of nowhere and even then Narcissus will still try to come back to sabotage your new relationship that's how you know they're still not satisfied if someone is abusing you they're punishing you trying to get revenge for whatever reason if they are satisfied you will know you will know when they're satisfied with what they've done when they feel like it's enough because then the abuse will stop they will leave you alone they will forget about you so that's all you need to know right there that should reveal to you that they're never going to be satisfied they're never going to be happy with anything in their lives it doesn't matter what they do to you it doesn't matter how they treat you it doesn't matter how bad things get for you they're never going to be happy but for you I don't know it may not seem this way right now but I can promise you even if you've lost everything even if you have lost your house your cars your business your money, your children, everything to this Narcissist that doesn't mean it's all over for you that doesn't mean you can't be happy I mean just look at it like this I mean I know myself and my own experiences I've done all of that I've lived the millionaire lifestyle I've had the billers the super cars all of the girls and I can tell you I wasn't happy even then even then I was smoking cannabis every day trying to numb the pain because I achieved all of these things that I thought would finally make me happy I just can't understand why am I still miserable why am I still seeking something more why do I feel like I still need a bigger villa, a bigger house an even better car even more money even more girls why am I still feeling like that and that's just it these things do not bring us happiness so even if they do manage to destroy all of this in your life don't worry about it too much all of this superficial nonsense it's really just a distraction from what really matters and what really matters is on the inside and not just that but it's projection what we need to focus on is our authentic ourselves instead of trying to cover things up and that's really the problem that a lot of us make we think we can just move on things get better we live our best lives without them they won't allow that to happen they will come back and try to destroy it they will try to ruin your life they're not just going to let you move on and forget about them if you're dealing with a real narcissist you know I've been through so many different smear campaigns throughout my life and I think the mistake I made every time is that I made my intentions clear to them I let them know exactly how I felt about them after I figured everything out I realized what they were doing to me all of that time and that is the worst thing you can do I've said it before do not even confront them as soon as you do that it's going to cause a narcissistic injury and they will come after you so what I advise for you instead is to stay undercover do not reveal your intentions plans or motives to the narcissist even though you may have figured them out you're no longer under their spell you know what they're about now and I know you may just want the satisfaction of seeing the look on their face when you bring it to them you confront them you let them know just how you feel and what you're going to do how your life is going to be so much better without them yeah I get that but that is going to put you in a very dangerous position instead the best thing you can do if you really want to move on and live a good life without them you just got to play along just act like you're not on to them nothing's changed just go along with it and then one day you don't tell them anything and you just disappear like a thief in the night and that's not to say that you steal anything from them that's just an analogy of course I do not condone theft but I mean you just take your stuff and you just get out of there and walk away you don't tell them where you've gone you just disappear and maybe just move to another country if you can because there's no telling what they might do if they know where you've gone they will try to destroy your new life so that's really the best thing you can do never let them know that you're done or that you're gone for good just be gone and take time to plan things out carefully it doesn't have to be overnight you've got to be patient I know it's difficult dealing with them if you're still with an narcissist you're living with one now I advise you to just keep it quiet don't let them know that you're watching my videos that you're on to them that's the worst thing you can do then they're really going to give it to you I had a client I was speaking to her a few years ago I can't reveal her name on you of course but she was my only so far Japanese client and her English wasn't very good I believe she was living in Japan at the time funny enough I'm in Japan right now as well but yeah I remember speaking to her and she had to hide in a room and lock the door just so she could have the session with me and that's really how you've got to do it you've got to hide everything you're doing and I haven't cured from her since then but I'm hoping that she managed to get out without the narcissist knowing that she managed to just move on with her life following the abuse following everything she went through I mean that's what I wish for all of you normally I would be completely against that type of behaviour of course I mean if I was with someone and I thought I'm building a relationship a future with them and then they just disappear one day yeah I would think that's really bad but it's very different with narcissists isn't it because for one thing we're invested in everything we have into them they're not investing anything into us they're abusing us they're using us they've got other people on the side so by all means keep it quiet and plan your escape by all means do that you are just and fair in making that decision because if you don't what do you think is going to happen if you stick around if you stay in it of course it's just going to get worse you're going to be abused even more they're never going to treat you right they're never going to appreciate or respect you you're going to be giving more and more of yourself you're going to lose everything so although I would not normally condone that of course in these types of situations what else are you supposed to do because they're never going to listen to you they're never going to try to understand you it's not a normal situation so you can't play fair you can't play by the rules with someone who wasn't playing by the rules with you from the very beginning of course by doing that it's going to put you at disadvantage that's all that it's going to do and it's going to leave you wide open to being further exploited in the future so don't keep yourself in that type of situation most of them I mean pretty much everyone who is watching this right now the narcissist you're dealing with they're never going to change it's highly unlikely it's extremely rare that they ever do change and that's why you really do just need to focus on saving yourself they may play the victim and try to get you to stick with them and give everything you have but honestly by doing that you're going to lose it all and when that happens they're not going to be there for you while you would have been there for them no matter what which is why if you're dealing with someone who is highly narcissistic you've just got to worry about yourself honestly when I look back at everything I've been through I've been just worried about myself just focused on getting myself out of there walking away protecting myself things would have gone a lot easier for me everything that went wrong for me in my life it's when I cared too much and I tried to help and save the narcissist and by doing that it never went well for me it never does it never goes well for anyone by doing that if you're helping a normal person of course that can work but we're not talking about normal people these are narcissists people who only care about themselves people who you might give them your hands come out of a ditch and then they'll just turn around and push you in there this is why you need to be so careful so it's not all over as you may think when they know that you're gone forever they're going to hunt you down and try to pull you back into it because while it's over for you it's not over for them they still have unfinished business they feel rejected abandoned they feel the threat of exposure and they feel injured because they feel like they're bad or they went enough for you so now they want to make you feel that way which is why I say be very careful don't reveal your plans or intentions to them they're not going to do that with you I mean all of this time they've probably been talking about you people behind your back planning their smear campaign and they haven't told you anything about that your thinking of going to them and revealing your plans and intentions just so they can then be two steps ahead of you and try to sabotage your efforts because that's all they're going to do they don't want to see you moving on, they don't want to see you being happy they don't want to see you being good for anyone or anything else after they are gone and in fact they don't ever want to be gone they want to be there agitating you for the rest of your life that's all that they want to be doing so be aware of that and protect yourself because honestly that's all I want for you and that's what I get on here everyday nothing hurts me more and to see innocent people being hurt and abused being tricked used and manipulated by selfish exploitative narcissistic people especially when something could have been done to prevent it and I do see it as my duty as I have the information to get on here to do my best to try to prevent these things from continuing I want to save you the time the energy the resources I want you to have plenty of time left in your life plenty of energy confidence money so that you can move on independently and just be happy and live a good life a comfortable life that's really what I want for all of you and honestly nothing brings me more joy and to see victims moving on becoming stronger having healthy relationships maybe you buy a home together you get married you have children honestly that's what I want for all of you nothing would make me happier than that to know that the victims have won the victims have become survivors and thrivers that's why I do this because the last thing I want is for these dogs to win and honestly happy, successful confident people that makes me happy too even though I may not have gotten to have the happiness the future, the success that I wanted that was robbed from me many times but at least if I can make it happen for you to see you succeed where I couldn't but I wasn't allowed to if you can do that then my job is done and I can find happiness through witnessing your future, your success I don't need to experience it on my own I used to think that I needed to achieve my dreams my goals but if I can just make it happen for you and I get that response somewhere down the line you send me an email that's what I want you send me an email a picture of your new home your family your husband or wife, your children you're happy, you finally found love joy fulfillment after narcissistic abuse just to know that that would make me happy more than anything else and that's really what I want for you just keep it quiet don't reveal your plans and intentions to them go along with it make them believe you're still susceptible continue to validate them as you were doing before don't let on then plan your exit walk away, disappear go far away delete your social media change your phone number just go start a new life because I'm telling you if you're dealing with a narcissist they're not just going to let you go they will hunt you down and come after you and they will try to prevent you from ever having any sort of future without them and that is the last thing I want for you I want you to be happy I want you to be successful I want you to have a future after this so that's it this message for today I hope you found it helpful and I hope it encourages and motivates you to get out of the abusive relationship and move on and begin a new life free from abuse life's too short for this shit as I've said before life is meant to be enjoyed not endured quotes and I stand by that we didn't come here to endure misery pain and suffering we came here to be free and to be happy so let's take the steps so that we can achieve that thank you all for watching 243 live viewers please hit that thumbs up button down below it will take you 2 seconds and it will help to get this message out there to other victims who may need to cure this and it could prevent so many problems in their lives it could change everything for them if they just see this video so please do your part and just hit 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