 just got the new car the new BMW 518i it's a pretty cool car a nice change from the m6 a bit more comfortable so i'm just sitting back here today while there's a horrible storm outside just had to run through the rain to get into the car so here i am now and we're about to speak on this topic which is when the narcissist loses the real one now i'm just going to get straight down to it there is no real one because that in itself is a contradictory statement that's the whole point is that there is no real one for the narcissist they're self-absorbed and they lack empathy they only care about themselves they don't care about anyone else and you will recognize that from your relationship with them they never cared about you they never took an interest in your needs it was all about them it was all about it was all about their feelings it was never about you how can there be a real one for a narcissist they can't be but many of us we want to feel special we want to feel important to someone and so maybe we tell ourselves we're different from everyone else we were the real ones but at some point you're going to realize that if you were dealing with a real narcissist you were never the real one no one will ever be the real one i don't know that might be hard to hear but it's something that you have to accept it's just a fantasy that they fair to you to make you believe that maybe you were something special to them but you know what as long as you think that you're still under their spell you're still playing their game you're still going to be going back to them you're still going to be trying to help them you just got to stop take a step back and look at it for what it actually is you were being used you were manipulated you were abused and you were the victim of their future faking you were not the real one no one was there are no real ones to narcissists there's just people who do what they want and people who don't do what they want and i think at some point we were both of those people at some point we were the people who did whatever they wanted us to do and then one day we woke up and started saying no i'm not going to do this anymore i don't want to be your slave i don't want to be your doormat i don't want to be your emotional punching bag anymore yeah one day many of us woke up and that's what we started to say and it's a big step for you to get to that point instead of thinking all of the time that you are the real one and you matter to them because it's really just an illusion of significance that they fed to you and you participated in that you played a part in it you shared this fantasy that they fed to you about you being more than you actually were to them it was just for recreational use for their own amusement and enjoyment rather than for a serious purpose and this is something that you just have to accept if you were dealing with a real narcissist because if they really loved and cared about you and you really mattered to them they weren't a real narcissist someone who really loves you and cares for you would not put you through that they wouldn't do all of those things to you they would treat you with love and respect but that wasn't how they treated you was it sometimes you just have to stop remembering the good times and look back and remember all of those things they did to you remember all of the lies remember all of the things they promised you what happened to that many of you are sitting alone right now you feel broken and confused like you don't know what just happened they lied to you and they promised you this future but where are they now where are all of these things that they promised you just got to look at it for what it is that's how you know what you were dealing with because many of us we live in denial we don't want to accept it but that's what this video is about acceptance remembering everything you went through they tried to pull the wall over your eyes now people are starting to wake up they're starting to realize the truth and it's about time these narcissists have had control of us for so long they take advantage of innocent people it's time for us to rise up and fight back against this together we are strong we support each other we love each other let's get this message out there please give this video a thumbs up right now it has such a strong effect on whether or not people will see this message and i know that there are millions of people out there right now who need to hear this so please it is very important for you now to give this video a thumbs up it helps the youtube algorithm and then more people will see this video and if you can share this video as well on social media email it to your friends let's get more people seeing this because it's happening every day every day someone is going through this they're being manipulated they're being tricked they're being fed this dream of a fake future and then one day they wake up and realize it's all a lie so let's try and prevent this from happening to other people because no one deserves to go through that it ain't right and if you'd like to book on one-on-one with me you can do that through my website it's narksurvivor.co.uk and check out my instagram as well got more positive and motivating stuff on there and i think it'll be good for many of you have to hear in this message i know it can seem quite negative sometimes but i gotta keep it real so yeah head to my instagram for more inspiring stuff it's narksurvivor youtube on instagram and as many of you may know i do have a new business opportunity now where you can help millions of victims of narcissistic abuse and survivors around the world and you can also earn thousands of pounds from the comfort of your home at home so if that interests you do send me an email it's coaching at narksurvivor.co.uk anyway that's it for this video the rain seems to have died down now so i'm gonna head out thank you all for watching and i'll talk to you in another one very soon