 و أقولوا في القرآن ما جاءت به آياته فهو الكاريم المنزاله و أقولوا قال الله جل جلاله والمصطفة الهادي و لا أتأوله لكن نحن لا نستطيع أن نتركه أمامه فهو سيكون معنا في نهاية أخي يتوقفني أن أقوم بعملها كيف can I handle this situation in the best way الحمد لله رب العالمين والصلاة والسلام على عبد الله و رسوله نبينا محمد و على أهلكم و صحبكم أجمعي أعتقد أن في حالة مثل هذا حيث أن أخيه أمامه لأنها هي حالة لا يستطيع أن نستطيع أن نعيي أخرى أعتقد أن هناك أشياء that are really really important in this أعتقد أن أول شيء هو أنك كمباركة في العالم ترى هذا as your means to worship Allah و كمباركة أن الله has given you to achieve و to attain jannah by his permission و أنك أردت أن تعمل جيداً و أنك أردت الله و أنك أردت أن أردت أخي و أنك ترى هذا كمباركة و أنك أردت له أن هذا هو أمامه و أن أحاول أن أحاول أن أخذ أمه لأنها أنها في حالة where she doesn't have anybody else to أردتها أو أردتها أعتقد أن أفضل أنك تحاول أن تحاول جيداً و أنك تفعل أفضل و أنك تفعل ذلك و أنك تحاول أن تحاول أن تحاول أحاول أن تحاول الأحاول من الله و أن أعتقد أن الله يحاول أن تحاول أنك تحاول أفضل الثاني أنه يهم جداً أن تسأل أخي أن تسأل أخي في such a way that you do have your own space now there's no doubt that this is different for different people it depends on the house in which you live it depends on your husband's means is he able to get his mum a separate apartment or not is he able to separate a part of the house like the upstairs and downstairs is he able to give her own space her own room or own kitchen everybody has different means but as much as possible you ask your husband to provide you with your own private space so it doesn't have to be the case that you're always together with each other and there's the danger of clashes or she could be difficult and then it might be hard for you to maintain your patience but to have some degree of separation and so part of that I've even in places which are very small even when some husbands don't have the means to do too much there's still a lot of ways that you can maintain that privacy even if it's just in your own bedroom that you ask him to provide a chair next to the bed perhaps a sofa or something like that whereby you can have some time on your own and you can have some space and I think that is something which is really really worthwhile so I would say two things first of all that you see this as an opportunity to earn reward from Allah you try your very best you try to help your husband out by helping his mom but on the other side you ask your husband to give you an appropriate amount of space to be able to just maintain the distance which allows the relationship to be good and stops that relationship from turning sour because you're too close together and there are too many clashes that happen that's what I would suggest initially just after having read through your question and Allah is so generous best if you have any questions you'd like to see answered as part of this series and you can email us at questionsatamau.org