 Whenever we talk about human adjustment, one of the important things in life is always to identify the issues which really concerns you, stuffs that you realize that they should be given priority in life. And therefore, who are the people who matter to you? What is it that really matters for you? What is it that you always take into account when you have to justify your existence, you have to justify your action. So, these who and what needs to be identified. Right now, we will perform that exercise wherein you just have to very clearly spell out who matters, what matters and if you want to elaborate why it matters that also would be very nice. So, according to me, like first of all, what my public image is, how the people think about me, that matters to me. I may be willing to do a work and I may also start it, but I will always end up doing it the way people want me to do it. Even if I am not in the favor of doing that work, just because people are willing to see me do that work in a particular way, I may do it. One is I am always result-oriented, like I never believe how the task was achieved, what were the difficulties that came, that never matters, all it matters is was the task completed or it was not. Because it is not worth explaining to all the people what all difficulties came and why you could not achieve the task, it is always that you have to complete it and then say whether it was completed or it was not. And then third is like self-esteem and ego also matter to me because I cannot do a work in which my self-esteem is at stake and like I also said that what people want from me, so I go in a very balanced way, like my self-esteem should never be hurt or at stake and also that if the people are willing that I should do that work, so I will go on with that work. Again what people matter to me are obviously my family members, my father and brother and I always listen to my friends but to be frank I never pay much heed to what they think about me but I never let them know so that is the way I work and I always maintain a good relationship with people, I never I heard them too much too often and even if I do I am very frank and tell them if I was offended with some behavior of theirs, so that is how it goes and I am a bit selfish so that was all about how and what people matter. Take care about what actually they think about me, not the general public in overall sense and what matter is that whether they are believing in me, whether they have faith in me, they trust me, so these kind of issues which matters to me. For me most importantly my family matters and I tend to have a few close friends other than a large group of friends, so what my family members and close friends think about me, what they want from me is important to me, not what other people like the society or what the world wants for me is not that important to me and secondly I believe in doing things in a methodical way, so again if my family wants to me to do a particular thing in a particular way that is important for me and apart from that I believe a career of first is important for me, so I look for a career where I can fulfill my potential and something which I will enjoy doing. Family matters early mentioned, apart from that I also feel that I am concerned about the weaknesses of the society and as a result I want to do something which would directly impact their lives, so in a sense not entirely family and friends but some other sections which I am concerned about like the weakest sections, talking about even money matters to me, I want a job where not only a potential get fulfilled but I also get sufficient amount of money so that I could fulfill my future goals and aspirations. Then the people regarding the thing that matters, I think public image is one thing which I pay more attention to, I want that people should think good about me and obviously the friends and family they will love you especially what you are but I think somehow I do things just to get attention from others like you can say that I want to have an introvert traction sometimes and money I already mentioned that is it. So, for me being happy matters the most for me and my family and whom I care about and I do not know if it is relevant I am the weather also matters to me, if the weather is good my mood is good and if the weather is not, so it was written in what matters so I was saying this. To me my family matters my friend matters and what I care about would be like happiness of people like not only my happiness I would also care about that I make others happy. To me family matters a lot and I always want to do work so that makes me happy and I do not care about other people I only care about what my true friends or family thinks about me. So who matters to me I will say probably my loved ones my friends are the people who matter to me a lot and with that at the same time probably the society is also what matters a lot to me what people think a general perception is what matters to me a lot regarding sorry who matters to me regarding what matters to me I think I am a pretty goal oriented and my aim is pretty to be pretty successful in life that is probably my aim is so one of my main aims in life is probably being remembered so that is even after life so that is one thing that I really look forward to. So to do this what really matters to me is how much I utilize my potential in whatever I do and my aim is always whatever I do I do it the best I can so that I just try to stand out of the herd and do something which will be remembered for quite some time. Family and friends mostly for me and the happiness their happiness and my happiness also and good image good social image is matters for me and what are the challenges in front of me and how should I approach it is also important. The family and friends I want to keep them happy what matters is the honesty, morality ethics after breaking one of them I feel self-discussed and guilt yeah I am little concerned about the little concerned about what people think about me I am worried about the fulfilling the expectations that people around me expect from me. So what matter who matters it is obvious my family and very few friends and I also care about the people which are just live in our society and what matter it is really my goal I try my best to fulfill my goal and sometime I get disheartened if it is not fulfilled. To me relationships matter be it with people or animals because if my neighbour dogs is barking then really matters to me and experience matters a lot to me. What are your experiences means any experiences means like doing work and all means if I am I have done that work and if I have to do that repeatedly then it is really matter means earlier how I did and what fault I made that time that and ego matters to me okay the person who matters a lot in my life are my parents first of all and then my friends parents because they have sacrificed a lot in bringing me up and raising me up and friends because they have helped me to improve my nature now what matters the most in my life is my behaviour with my friends there have been some incidents where I have been harsh to them I do not want to discuss the incidents on camera but there have been some incidents and I really want to control my behaviour with my friends so what matters a lot in my life is my behaviour and also the goal oriented nature I want to achieve whatever I think I can that is within my potential and secondly I think that if I am able to do something then people should appreciate it it is not that okay they should let it okay he is doing this then it is fine they should appreciate it so in some more in another way you can say that I seek attention I want to seek attention. I think the people who matter are the loved ones and the things which matter is what you have achieved in life and what you have made out of your life well obviously for me friends and family will matter because well they love you and we would like to return the love they have presented to you and next I would like to add that freedom matters to me a lot because so the ability to do things that I believe in and if you are able to do that that is what matters to me and also the sense of righteousness that I have sense of righteousness and what I think is right to be able to do that to be to be able to persuade people to do that around me that matters to me and most importantly learning in life whatever you go through experiences you learn a lot you change yourself to the for the better of yourselves and others and regarding who matters to me it is the same like the people who are close to me but what matters to me is the way the people are thinking their philosophies of life how they take things in their life so this is the thing which I would see in a people in any people and regarding the kind of work which I would like to do the thing that would matter me matter to me is if I feel that I deserve that position then only I will take that position and otherwise if I feel that if anybody else is more competent then I would not be happy to take that position so if I am 100% satisfied that yes I deserve this position then only I will take that well each and everything matters to me it's just that the degree to which they affect my life for example family is the foremost thing that matters to me then comes the other loved ones the difference is that I put my family's happiness over mine my personal happiness no matter what happens I'm committed to them for the rest of my life but in case of other loved ones and friends I most of the times it's my happiness that I rate first then theirs then comes the freedom yeah I prefer freedom in both my personal and professional life and the thing that matters to me is that the I want a respect in my I want to respect for my own whether it is I mean it's in I mean it's mostly the public image that I want but sometimes I do things that and sometimes I do things that are not good in public but I restrain them from others so I don't want to be identified as a bad guy whether but I do sometimes things that are not ethically very good so I want an image of my then comes yeah one thing that Tushar mentioned that I want to be remembered that's one thing that that is my goal so I want to make people happy I enjoy with them and I cheer them just because I want to be remembered so let's add on to what matters to me again so one more thing that will matter to me is what eventually whatever work eventually I do is something that I'll really enjoy so I don't want to be bogged down by some work due to some reasons which I won't really enjoy in life so I want to do something which I'll thoroughly enjoy and the same time what happens is many times in life we try to look at very short-term goals for example in the coming four months six months that is what we look at my aim would be to probably look at long-term goals and not get bogged down by these short-term goals in life I think who matters are my family and my friends the self which I am my ego and the public image but what happens most of the time I think my the way people want me to do a thing and the way my my my perception is there is a clash between them so I mostly prefer myself and what matters is obviously that makes me happy anything that makes me happy be it ethically good or not but most of the time it's ethically good so happiness matters to me a lot and that's it I was now I was just trying to make a list of know the things that really matters and if you really see you can very easily know make broad categories of them first and foremost relationship matters okay now within the domain of relationship relationship with whom is important and priority by majority goes to the family okay in fact somebody also mentioned that know the happiness of family comes first compared to my personal happiness okay friends matter but then it's again once again it's a selective number of friends know all friends don't matter okay but what is very interesting is that some of you said that society at large matters some of you said it directly most of you said it indirectly okay when you say that my image okay matters it basically means that others matter okay because the others are the one who will hold the image for me okay so when I am worried about myself image actually I am worried about others okay but then I am only worried about others with respect to how much they satisfy my goal my need okay compared to different viewpoint which was that fine I would like to serve others okay because I want to enjoy the name I enjoy I want to enjoy the fame I want to be remembered after death okay and many things know the whole construct of whether I am doing something which is ethically correct or not and interesting viewpoint was that even if things might be ethically incorrect because I know get good image out of it therefore I will not hesitate doing it okay so what I achieve is something that matters okay the route I take to achieve it is secondary and of course one very interesting viewpoint was that whether induced mood okay it's very interesting in a sense that in psychological literature you will find the description of something called SAD okay it's not sad but it's season affected effective disorder okay that there is a variation in the condition okay weather condition which actually influences your mood state okay so usually you do not find a SAD being talked about very commonly okay but if you go into the details of the clinical literature there you will find the details of it so it was nice that somebody you know mentioned that also and then of course there were no series of things okay but primarily identifying my potential fully utilizing my potential enjoying the sense of autonomy achieving my goals okay once again route doesn't matter final success matters that was very glaringly clear okay and then relationship was something that really mattered a lot okay in this description so in fact if you try to understand the whole psychology of adjustment okay it's basically you know the stuffs that you have shared right now okay that these are the primary issues which matters okay and the whole dynamics of no behavior that you attempt that anybody attempts okay to attain a state of stable interaction with the society with the self with the family okay somewhere revolves around these core issues okay so that way it was really interesting anybody who would like to add I want to add one point the physical health also matter to somebody if somebody has some kind of physical problem you may have to away with family friends and many of you may have to sacrifice happiness many all points so maybe that this is the one of physical health matter to somebody he may give first preference to his physical physical health and then some other points like as most of us mentioned that we do things just just to get attention or do good things just to be remembered after death well it's not entirely true many times we do things just for ourselves because we seek happiness not by getting attention from others or getting appreciation from others but but from within we get a self of sense of satisfaction that we have done something good for the society in general so it is not only the the good thing that others talk about to that matters is also something which comes from within that is faction and as none of us mentioned but money is also an important thing which matters because in the long term we just can't live with just relationship we need something to survive upon thrive upon so money is also an important thing that has to be taken into consideration so I think that satisfaction is most important thing that you get out of doing something which matters the most apart from anything you get so to add what I said earlier honesty matters among others so and I want to life enjoy my life to the fullest that also matters and now I want to try everything like you say jack of all trades like after coming to campus I wanted to play every game and I wanted to explore the campus to the full extent so it doesn't matter