 We are here for our lovely Thursday coffee chats, which I love it's sunny in the UK for once We're making the most of it and I've got my lemon and cucumber water. How are you doing fries? It's sunny in Atlanta, Georgia We're not caught hot Lanna for nothing But I'm so happy it's sunny for you I love when I get to talk to you during the day and I see the Sun coming through you guys have no idea how much of a Rockstar Catherine actually is because we're dealing with like a Thousand different time zones sometimes and poor Catherine sometimes it's like late at night And you're in your office doing these these interviews and so and that's hard to do and your family's like chilling out and watching Do you know and you're doing and so you guys Catherine is truly a rock star and it's a pleasure to see you in the sunny day light I was just I was just talking today from Danny the spiritual therapist who you and I are gonna be doing a round table with and because Trying to work out all that we were trying to work out all the time zones and everything but actually I'm going to do a channel update probably next week for all our listeners because you know, I'm changing Well, I'm moving into you know, continuing with the new direction that I've been moving into which we're gonna talk about today But it's interesting to bring up the family because I'm going to try and make sure I keep You know a bit more balance in there because the family times in the evenings are really important But we've got something where you know, I had the most amazing chat with Nick Alvia from good line TV yesterday Which we love didn't win. We've got a follow-on the subject from that chat really. I that was one I actually sometimes one of the most beautiful Aspects of running these in why I started my channel to begin with is to be able to Listen and talk to other people too. And yeah, he I've had so many people contact me I have not loaded it to my as you guys know last night. I got kicked off. So Catherine had to send it to me. So it should be up on my channel later today but So many people have messaged me today that they watched it on your channel and a lot of their questions They had regarding meditation were actually answered last night questions Some of them didn't even know they had and that's the beautiful thing I think Nick Nick brought to the conversation too was his experience and the teachings and some of them as and he brought up like, you know how different aspects of the meditation and I would I love to do a follow-up with him a part too because It's totally a side to him that I don't think a lot of people have seen and and now you guys know why he's so chill and calm and cool And collective is because he's really worked on himself and and it shows So I I just had so much fun last night and it it brought up what we're gonna talk about today Because Nick talked a lot about finding your sovereignty Which is something you and I have spoken about and why I think we're trying to move more in this direction is because We've been in such a weird Matrix for so long that I think a lot of people have forgotten what their sovereignty is and Have a allow people to control them and Part of the spiritual practice is learning how to put up boundaries sometimes and so that's why we're gonna go a little deeper in that today Yeah, it's such an important subject and one that you and I talk about a lot because You know following up from what you were saying about Nick's experience and because he's actually done the So much of the work and now he's able to bring it into all aspects of his life I was having a conversation with my daughter today when we were out walking The horses about this and and it's so interesting because there's so many things that we can learn from From watching how animals to respond to that Watching how we apply these principles in all different areas of our lives So I think this is a really important conversation to have and I think people will find it really really useful I hope you will find it useful. I'm sure you'll tell us in the comments below whether you do or not So yeah, what we're gonna talk about is the bite model and I'm gonna give you guys I know you some of you guys know that for me. I went through a an abusive relationship in my early 30s a Narcissistic it was really really bad. I almost lost my life one night. It got really bad and As I've told stock to with our friend Shanti about the alchemy of turning lead into gold I would not change that for the world what happened to me because I went through trauma therapy and through trauma therapy on Top of my yoga practice. I learned a lot about myself and I also learned a lot about mind control And when we're looking at cult specifically, that's what we think about when we think about mind control But we also see it in individual relationships as well And one of the most concerning thing we're at a very crucial point right now in Humanities collective consciousness and you know as our friend Shanti says we have to transform or die And what I'm seeing at a lot of people, especially being on this side of the YouTube battlefield will say is this Almost like this hero workshop when it comes to certain truthers in our community I know we've talked and that makes me uncomfortable with myself because I'm just a girl from Georgia Like I am just a human being riding this roller coaster with you all and I opened my platform to have a place I like weird stories to share these stories and communicate with everybody I don't want to be like I don't want to be seen as a Just that makes me uncomfortable when people start to put their whole Opinions and identity into somebody else to lead them. This is how we got into the position we've gotten with the mainstream media and We know how that's worked out for us And so there's this man named dr. Steven Hassan now dr. Steven Hassan Created this what we call this bite model, which is like a it's like a model You can use to kind of check yourself and he created it for cult so you can be able to see if somebody is in a high Control religion or whatever now the one thing I'm gonna say first about dr. Hassan is that he is not a fan of mr. T He thinks all of the things that we know to be true are Not true However, as I was telling Katherine I don't like to throw the baby out with the bathwater and because dr. Steven Hassan was in the moonies. I don't know if anybody knows about the moonies They're a big group here and he got himself out of it. Hence why he is now Kind of a behavioral specialist when it comes to this stuff I think a lot of in my opinion his own trauma from being in an organization has has kind of fed into his fear of Maybe the great awakening. I hope that makes sense So I don't want people to freak out about that because again We don't want to throw the baby out with the bathwater because in my opinion the bite model is amazing and again this model isn't isn't just about Organizations this can work for people in your life, too If you have highly Controllable people in your life and so I just pulled up this one website because this guy does a really good job Kind of summing it up and the bite model stands for behavior information thoughts and emotional control Okay, so these are according to dr. Hassan. These are the four pillars which puts you into a position of being vulnerable to a Person that's going to try to control you or an organization now. I want to make it perfectly clear I think a lot of people who are cult specialists Or specialists with people who are coming out of abusive relationships Anybody at any point of their life can be susceptible to this Especially if you're in a vulnerable place Some of the smartest people out there have ended up in these situations They catch you with vulnerability And that's another reason why what we talk about the meditation all that kind of stuff is super important because it helps You maintain your sovereignty And so they kind of go through, you know Constructive to constructive to destructive healthy to unhealthy like for individuals We have the authentic self versus the false identity, which which is the unhealthy, which is the ego Unconditional love to conditional love compassion to hate conscious to doctrine Creativity and humor to fear and guilt anyway goes down for leaders Psychologically healthy knows their own limits and powers other others trust worthy accountable to narcissistic Psychopaths elitist grandiose power hungry secretive deceptive claims absolute authority for organizations We have you know, you guys see it at the checks and balances to authoritarian structure informed consent deceptive manipulative a Individuality diversity clones people not literally we're talking in this says makes people just behave the same right Encourages growth preserves one owns owns power But when we get down to this but bite model of mind control and I'll put a link to this down in the description box guys So you can look at it for yourself This is where I think it gets super interesting because it breaks down even more So we look at behavior control and stills dependency and obedience This to me here we go right here and stills dependency and obedience And so what I would ask for viewers to to ask themselves and this is something I ask myself all the time Because I have been through this and so I don't want to go back. I want to grow and learn from past mistakes Are you totally dependent upon a particular person in your life be it a person in your physical life or someone on YouTube? And do you feel like you have to be obedient to that person? For example, if you're a Catherine we've talked about this a lot if you're in a true healthy relationship with somebody regardless of whether that's a friendship Romantic you should be able to have difficult conversations with that person without losing the friendship or the relationship that pick up on price because I think it's really really important because You know you and I do talk about this a lot and it sometimes it's quite difficult because I find it quite difficult for the listeners to remember what we've said on camera And of course people won't be watching all our videos quite rightly so and what we've said off camera, but this Honest and open authentic discussions is so so important but also like you've just mentioned and I mentioned the time not throwing the baby out with the bath water, you know it's having balance and The other thing I think comes into this it is Expectations what are your expectations of people and are you projecting your expectations on to others and Are other people that you're listening to projecting your expectations on them? So for example, I've heard quite a few people say Liz we're just taking YouTube as an example here I've had people almost shaming people In their discussions were sort of saying well, of course if you don't think this then you're obviously Not awake or you're obviously 3d or obviously this or that and that sort of almost shaming people into Not agreeing with their point of view. So I think this is such an important issue and As you say you and I these are checklists that we employ in our daily life And we're really happy when our friends point those out to us as well, aren't we? Point out when you ever when you're not In line and that's and that's part of the that's part of your job as a friend I talked about this with teachers to one of my main jobs as a yoga teacher is mainly philosophy teacher is to It's the hardest job I have is to call people on their bullshit and Show them where their blind spots are because blind spots are the ego But if you don't feel like you can do that then you're falling into live of behavior control, which obedience And so you have to ask yourself is that a healthy position for you to be in I don't know There's not one person in my life that I agree with 100% on everything Nor do I want there to be but I don't have to be my friends don't have to be exactly like me They don't have to think exactly like me. I like learning from people and and with good friendships where you feel our Romantic relationships or with an organization when you feel like you can authentically be yourself like we saw up top and Express your opinions even if they're different from someone else's and you don't feel like you're gonna lose the love that conditional love versus Unconditional love of your friends then you're in a healthy place But if you feel like you can't say something I mean look at what all of us have faced with the backlash from the other side of this We've all been ostracized We can't then start doing that within our own community because somebody doesn't like this truth There or somebody believes this truth or over that truth or that is called behavior. That's toxic We we need to find that sovereignty with and be okay with people having a different opinion. We need to be okay with that That's healthy. That's very very healthy Like it goes in here This is what this is where you see quite a lot in either the discussions or most of the comments when people are trying to really Convince someone I thought I had a really good interview with Lara Logan the Journalist the wall correspond to the journalist and she summed it up beautifully My job as a journalist is to report the information not to try and coerce and influence people to believe my point of view Now I know when perhaps say for example, we've got channels We are discussing our point of view, but we're not attached to anyone believing in it Yeah, what I don't like is when I see people Start leaving negative comments to other people and telling them they're wrong for having a particular point of view because again It's like using your discernment and deciding when to listen when to step away When it's serving you is it off lifting you is it giving you a warm feeling? Is it making you cold and making you feel low or doubt yourself? I'm really tuning in and and and as you were saying this really links back into why we're talking about things like Meditation knowing yourself tuning in with your intuition Looking after your physical more body your emotional body your spiritual self because when you're keeping yourself as much in balance You're not gonna succumb to influences and Coercion and you shouldn't feel that you've got to be part of a club You shouldn't feel that you can't like this person because you listen to that person Exactly exactly and that comes with a modifier behavior with rewards and punishments Like if you feel like you're gonna be rewarded or punished for thinking differently, then you're not in a healthy relationship or group It goes. I mean this kind of like dictate where and with whom you live that gets more into the organizational control But and you guys can read more about that, but then you you get Oh, this is a big one for it deprives you of seven to nine hours of sleep each night, okay That's a big one for abusive relationships, too for some reason these People who want to control will start to pull sleep away from you So if you're even if your own personal life if you're with someone or dating someone or that's constantly like Trying to wake you up at night and talk to you and make you feel like you they're doing that intentionally Just sleep to pride you so that you're not thinking logically that you're not, you know I mean everybody knows that I go to bed super early because I get up Really early in the morning and all of my friends know that and like respect that and if I get a text They know I'm not gonna text back until I wake up in the morning, you know like and that's fine because that's a healthy relationship exploit you financially That's a big one that I'm seeing in the truth or movement as well and that makes me uncomfortable I mean we we all we're a cat and I both monetized we absolutely need the income we get off of YouTube But it's not that's not exploitation. That's coming through absence, you know patrons Those are things that people volunteer to do but when you feel like you're being exploited That's behavior control and so you you need to kind of sit with that So let's go over to fear into it So for again a lot of a lot of people will talk about You know products to help the health side of things training courses because another thing We're gonna be speaking to nick about as the importance of a teacher at various stages in your life So if there's if there's choice and people are bringing stuff to you With a genuine will to add choice to your life to take back control and you decide whether this is something Resonates with you or not that to me is really different to fear tactics that you might see at the end of a Tony Robbins event Yeah, and I'm thinking on Tony. No offense. Oh, you have to sign up today. Otherwise. It's too late You know any time where there's a fear tactic employed to sort of say you've got to do it now It's too late to me is overstepping the boundary It's behavior control at that point. I agree with you because there are a lot of you know You know, I I spend money it cost me money to go study with my teacher in India Like when Nick was talking about Bapasana sitting for meditation Yes, in those situations you are provided a housing all that kind of stuff because it goes with the territory with my teacher though Because it's it's a different school. We're not provided housing. We have to get our own housing We're not provided food. We have to get our own food because it's you know And I prefer it that way people are like oh, I'm like no no because that shows that my teacher is not trying to control us He's running it as a school Period, you know, we have to fend for ourselves regardless and so yeah, you know It's it's definitely in like, you know our students my students who pay for my my courses at AYA I'm not I'm there to teach them what I know and give them a course and give them accountability But I'm not there to tell them what to eat how to sleep what to do this or who to date You know, that's that's that's not my business And so that's a huge thing to look for if you are if you feel in any situation if you feel like you have to do something in order to maintain that relationship whether it be in your private life and your Public life on YouTube off of YouTube. That is a huge red flag That is a huge red flag and when it comes to like the fear tactics used for behavioral control I'm gonna tell you guys that you should not be afraid You are enough you don't need to buy this to be enough to do that to be enough You are already enough and when when products are being sold to help you Their actual products there and you have that choice. No one's gonna force you into it I hope that makes sense in there. I think most people understand this is an important sort of, you know Distinction because we all do need things. I mean Bryce and I spend have spent huge amounts of money on Self-development and my self-development takes so many different forms depending what my priorities are at the moment It might be a course that I want to enroll in or it might be some coaching or it might be some Physical products that I need to bring my body back into balance So it might be some detoxification and and then I I will have the same things going on with my animals as well But again, it's like what I I find really worrying is when I see people employing fear tactics And then I like is this really serving people? You know, it's just being aware of it and noticing it and noticing how it makes you feel Do you feel that desperation or do you feel empowered by making a choice? Yeah, do you think that person is still gonna love you or like you if you say no? Yeah, right? That and that's and I hope I think people understand a difference between that the manipulation versus just the genuine business, right? Information control, this is a big one deliberately withholds and distorts in Information and we've seen this on a macro scale and I'll be honest with you guys like when I do deep dives on my channel I'm always worried that there's some information I've missed and therefore it's gonna distort someone's view of the story or maybe has distorted my view of the story Hence why I often you'll hear me say if you know something else Please put it in the comment section below because I consider the comment section to be part of the video, right? So when you guys are commenting you're part of the story too because we never want to withhold Information from people that's manipulation Especially when you know it and we see that big time with big high high group organ is high controlled Organizations, you also notice this with relationships that are toxic Information will be withheld intentionally Which you know, it goes back and forth is that lying it just depends But if you're withholding information intentionally that you know will give somebody more clarification or Perhaps is going to change their mind then you are manipulating that person and that's not okay Forbid you for communicating with ex-members and critics. So again that what that's big with Organizations, but on your personal level. Are there people in your life that won't let you talk to other friends? Have you ever been in a relationship with someone or a friendship with somebody where all of a sudden you are made to feel guilty? For maintaining a friendship with someone else That's not okay because that's because there's a reason why they don't want you talking to that person and it might have to do with information control Or a restrict restricts access to noncult sources of information that kind of goes with the same thing Let's see. Let's see anything. That's more. We'll go ahead and move down to thought control Because you guys can I'm again I'm gonna put this link down in the description box so you can pull all this up yourself to keep I keep this on hand for myself, too So teaches you to internalize group doc doctrine as truth Right, we see this big time on the macro with what's going on in the world We can't say too much because it's censorship So we kind of understand that but it kind of goes back to me again to that behavior control where you instill dependency and obedience Right when you see whatever that person said has to be the truth Versus just a perspective of the truth or an opinion of the truth Yeah, and this is big. So this is huge in in my trauma therapy We talked about this a lot Install black versus white us versus them good versus evil thinking. This is a huge red flag I know from again from my trauma therapy before I was even on YouTube when somebody has the black and white thinking You're either all good. You paint someone paint someone all good or all bad And I think Catherine we've said before maybe I don't on cat on camera off camera that human beings are shades of gray always gray Right, I think we've all been drawn into this quite a lot in I mean look at what this is told to the first one here back group doctrine such as truth well This this is widely known as the truth of community and Doesn't that set it all because we we've had lots of discussions and we've changed the way that we've chosen to work Over the last year because when you know better you do better So we've taken it away from talking about individuals of Public figures and things because we haven't met them perfectly personally We don't know what it is and and there's so many things going around that is is is put across as the absolute truth Yeah, when a reality happens just jump conspiracy three things and again I see it a lot in the comments where almost some people are shaming others by saying well No, this is that it's like well, that's your opinion and you are absolutely entitled to your opinion But most of it we don't know whether it is absolutely true or not at the moment And therefore to not keep an open mind and keep those discussions and allow other people to have other Versions of their truth is not healthy and I'm gonna be honest with you guys. I know we've talked about this Catherine I know there are a lot of people who are alive that That we thought were gone, but I don't think they're all alive. Yeah, I Think there's some that had that's why there's another reason why I don't want to talk about individuals anymore because that's traumatic to Create a story around someone who has children and they might not be alive we don't know for sure and so I want to respect those boundaries and You know, we see this with with even celebrities people paint this one completely black or completely evil or completely white You see it with truthers there. This this person is completely bad. This but can't people just be people, you know So we have to be very very careful about this and when you start to in my experience anyway When I started to catch myself with this kind of stuff then um, then I um, I Started to have more compassion for people When I started to really catch myself painting people black or white I started to find more humanity and other people and that's just something I noticed within myself And it I really I really hope that people will take this into consideration This black and white thinking it can cause to it can call push the brain into like a mental disorder as well Like can go into more borderline stuff like that and that's something we we don't we want to be able to stand that sovereignty We don't want to have to change our brain so much to go from one organization of control to another one, you know Yeah, um change your identity possibly even your name I Will take the name thing off because we're talking about just individuals here But has you know if you that you felt like you can't be yourself if you have to You know, I know a big one is like if you're and this is not even with the truth or community If you're like dating a new person and you feel like you have to like everything they like and you feel like and that's just That's something I would do in like my early 20s at this point No, if they don't like you for you then don't change yourself because that again goes from thought control all the way back to behavior control again And that's toxic Let's see here if there's any let's see let's go over here to oh here we go I like this last one rejects rational analysis critical thinking and constructive criticism That is something that I feel like a lot of people even the truth or community have a problem with Agree and you know, we were looking for I mean my whole the purpose of my channel was to expand consciousness through curiosity and That covers a whole range of subjects. I want critical thinking I want people on there that are going to challenge my way of thinking I want people there now, of course I'm not gonna get and I'm not going to waste my precious time in life with someone that I Absolutely do not resonate with right because from there, you know There's gonna be certain people quite rightly that you choose not to spend your time with but equally if people are just Falling into that sort of hero worship. I agree with absolutely everything you say if there's anyone in your life Where you agree with absolutely everything they say I would be questioning that yeah big time. Yeah, even if it's my cat I still have disagreements with and he's as perfect as you can get I You know, I I I critically think on myself too There's so many and I haven't taken you know The only videos that have been taken down off my channel or videos you took YouTube took off my channel I have a lot of videos left on my channel from a year ago where my opinion has completely changed And I've got all that up because I'm a human being and I'm on this journey with everyone I thought for the longest time that if we were looking at the book of Revelation that we were in the apocalypse And it wasn't until I found Tartaria and sat with it for a while that my opinion changed And so that's okay though and anybody that's gonna not allow you to critically think there's a problem there There's a problem with that or if someone's not gonna let you challenge their beliefs There's a huge problem with that when your beliefs are challenged. That's when your beliefs expand You know, and that's and that's just regardless of whether it's an organization or if it's one person That's a major red flag and just I mean that's what the other side of this this Battle is doing right with with we see again, like I said all the videos off my channel I've been taken down from the platform. That's what they're doing. They're stopping that so so why would then we and Bring it into our community too people are missing the point because it looks different. It has a different Color to it, you know, but it's the same thing. It's thought control It's it's it's not allowing people the freedom to generate their own opinions off of their own critical thinking In the next one, I really this is the emotional control and this is where this to me is the big one And maybe that's because I'm an emotional person. I mean y'all My mad one series I can't make it through one video without freaking crying on camera because I am an emotional person and I feel like You know, I remember my trauma therapist telling me once that my biggest problem was was that I have a very tender heart it's easy for me to forgive and I had an enchantment rehearsing like you need to keep that keep that quality But understand it about yourself so that you don't fall into this again because you do have a tender heart So emotional control instills a rational fears of questioning or leading the group or a person They call this phobia indoctrination That if you start questioning this person then all of a sudden you're gonna be outs You're gonna be kicked out of the club or whatever. I don't feel like I don't ever want to form a club I feel like we're just humans trying to evolve together. We're all walking each other home together I don't feel like this is a club and if someone makes you feel like that Then there's an issue there. It's emotional control Makes you feel elitist and special love bombing guys This is a big one if anybody takes anything away from this conversation love bombing I see it from Plap content creators and from people in the comment section sometimes So you need to be aware when it's happening to you and you need to be aware when you find yourself trying it to do It to someone else, you know be kind of people if you if you respect them and you think they're cool You can absolutely complement a kindness is what changes our vibration, but don't do it to manipulate and when I like Relationships it it like we'll talk about love relationships If you meet someone and all of a sudden they're like in love with you and want to move in with you and marry you That's a red flag. It takes time For for things to unfold it takes time for that to grow and that's healthy same with friendships It takes I mean Catherine you and I have gone got gotten really close over these last three months But we had known each other for a while. It takes time for all those things to happen Promotes feelings of guilt shame or unworthiness So if you're with someone that makes you feel bad because you have a different opinion or tries to shame you that's emotional control All right label some emotions. It's evil worldly sinful or wrong We've all experienced that before hello from those of us who grew up in a church I was just about to say that you know so that just has a lot of religious connotation Connotation yeah, and so but we see that coming from our community as well That if you don't believe this one thing, then that's evil and you're just wrong, you know, that's emotional control Teach emotion stopping techniques to prevent anger or homesickness. So it's not you know, you're you're teaching someone to like Ignore their own intuition really when that stuff comes up that their own Gut telling them something when you're you're teaching them not to do to do that You know, it's one thing I I loved how we talked about with Nick last night with meditation And I loved he brought it up the discomfort of actually leading into that because sometimes I think people even in a spiritual world People think that spirituality is all about high vibration and just light and love But most spirituality brings you to other utter darkness because you're having to deal with yourself and you're having to go through These feelings inside of you and so you don't need to ignore that Threatens and harasses your family and friends that usually comes from actual organizations I think if you have a friend or a person in your life doing that singular you would see that red flag be like Shunned you if you disobey or disbelief. Oh That's a big one isn't it? I think that's a basic difference that it both have experienced that that's emotional control Yeah, absolutely You're not gonna fall in line to serve what my ego wants you to wants to believe and you're you're gonna be Shunned Yeah, yeah, so it teach you that there is no happiness or fulfillment outside of the group Yeah, I want to talk about that one a bit because again We've seen it for the last two years and again I'll be careful how I say this because of the censorship, but we've seen this on a macro scale big time with people shaming that they're going to damage grandparents if they go near them and You know, I encourage the isolation and things like that But we've also seen it in terms of I think a lot of the communities that have been on YouTube Where it's almost been really looking to disrespect people that have got different views to ourselves Yes, you know if family members don't believe in certain things that you might believe in it's almost encouraging that Disrespect and it's just like my goodness is you can't say with the problem from the same consciousness that it's created with And so if we're just behaving just as badly as everything we're criticizing on a macro scale How is that ever going to move things forward exactly? Exactly and that that goes back to the whole idea of cancel culture, too That's what cancel culture is and we can't we can't Be on our high horses saying that that's wrong, but then also doing it ourselves. We can't be You know, everybody has a little wiggle room for being a hypocrite. We're all hypocrites at times Right do as I do as I say not as I do right my parents to say that to us a lot Because we know we're gonna be hypocritical But the thing is is that we if we if we're if we're gonna put ourselves as being on the side of good Then we have to be aware of that within ourselves that we have that propensity and therefore we need to have self-reflection Self-control and if we see ourselves being hypocritical, we need to do our best individually to course correct You know, it's it's um And as I said, I mean my therapist told me I was very tender-hearted and I forgave very easily And that's why I got myself into these kinds of messes, but we need to be Course correcting and then forgiving ourselves and then trying not to be that way with within our own community You know when your opinion is challenged, you don't need to react out of anger Just let it be challenged. That's that's part of us growing and and I've said this on my channel a lot As far as like information is concerned a lot of us don't have access to any more information than the people watching us do I have one military insider that I've gotten some information from and I've said that and I'm not going to share what he sends me Because I don't want to get them in trouble But I do try to read through it and digest it and figure out a way to present it in a way that I can give some Type of backing if I can't I just say it's just speculation and opinion but when we when we try to I Don't know keep people in this bubble of believing one narrative one narrative on life is way too complicated to have this one narrative The truth of what we're all going through is so many levels that for us to ostracize other people We're no better than Anderson Cooper or you know, see, you know, we just have to watch that We we have to we have to check ourselves We have to to work on ourselves and and again Yeah, when I go through the bike control with myself, it's not just checking for people in my life It's also checking myself too. Like am I doing any of this? Am I doing anything like this that is not healthy and is possibly toxic and how can I correct it if I am? And so I'm hoping that people watching will incorporate some of this stuff as well and maybe stop Putting themselves in a position to be vulnerable to Being controlled again if that makes sense and I think you know a lot of it goes back to How what what is the purpose of what you're trying to communicate? Are you trying to communicate something to add value in some way? Or are you trying to communicate something to make someone feel a negative side of things because social media has got So many benefits and so many disadvantages and we've seen that a lot of youngsters I sound really old now saying that but we've seen that a lot of youngsters can have a lot of problems because a lot of people would write something on a screen on social media on instagram on facebook on youtube That they would never say to someone's face And my general rule is whether i'm having a discussion on camera or online or that if you if But always speak to people in a way one that you would want someone to speak to you And don't ever say anything sort of online that you wouldn't say to someone face to face and feel Happy with the way that you're conducting yourself and of course as you say they're always hypocrites We're all going to react to certain things and have different triggers. That's live But if you do notice you're doing something that that there's a simple word and it's sorry Yeah I love one of my favorite quotes is is a true true true character is what you do when no one is watching Hmm, you know, I've had people get mad at me because like my social media my twitter account I share Truth but I also share other stuff too But that's just new who I am and if people got mad like you should only be posting this stuff because you have a platform No, I shouldn't If I see a funny meme i'm going to share it because it made me laugh And hopefully it'll make somebody else laugh too because life is more is has more layers than that Um a while ago I had somebody get on my comments on my monday mystery And basically try to shame me that I shouldn't be doing monday mystery anymore because I should be focused on what's happening in the here and now And I just calmly responded that my my strength is research There's so many truthers out there that are really good with the daily Upkeep of what's happening and my but my strength is research Yeah, the monday mystery if it's a missing person we're honoring that person if it's like a weird folklore legend It just gives us a the way to look at it differently It's is the more they are there than we thought before and it also gives people something else to think about for a minute While we're going through this crazy life of ours And um and so but that reaction in itself would try to shame me and control me and what I do on my platform By trying to manipulate because i'm a truther Isn't okay And we're not at all Not that as well and life is all about balance And you know, is it is it helpful? How much is it serve people just concentrating on what they know because a lot of the stuff that we think, you know, we don't know And we're going to find out that part of the life. It's you know, that is part of this wonderful journey we're on and I think Is finding the right balance for you and accepting that that balance can change on a daily place Based this, you know, sort of where I was at and where I wanted to spend my time a year ago Is very different to where I want to spend my time right here right now and that's because I've assimilated a lot of information. I've processed a lot of it I've worked out what resonates with me. What doesn't I've worked out how much I need to know about certain things So there's things that I'm really passionate and interested in other people aren't interested in at all So, you know, you and I've both got a huge variety of different things on our channels because that reflects our personalities and some people will resonate with and others they won't resonate with at all And that's the same when I'm listening to people or when I'm reading a book, you know I can read a book by one of my favorite authors, but I don't have to agree with everything in the book There might be some chapters. I want to read twice and others that I just want to skim over A good example is what we just looked at the bite model by Dr. Stephen Sahn who thinks we're freaking crazy for Being the Great Awakening, but I still like his bite model. I still appreciate his bite model is brilliant You know, that's that again goes that black and white thinking of being like I can appreciate Even though I don't agree with you in this area I can appreciate this work you've done here and I see that's again not throwing the baby out with the bathwater So but how many people in our community wouldn't even look at the bite model because he doesn't agree with us on What's happening in the world right now? You know what I'm saying like we have to we we It's basically like I guess the motto is like In my opinion Don't try to control our people and don't let other people control you as nix kept talked about a lot in the yesterday's episode about finding your sovereignty Being in your sovereignty being you And the people that are meant to be in your life that are meant to love you and to truly love you whether that's a friendship a partner Whatever Um, they're gonna accept you For being different for not have to disagreeing with some stuff You know, do you remember back when I was a kid anyway? Like when people when friends had different opinions on something they would tease each other about it Exactly. Now, you're not allowed to tease anyone about it. Now. You just can't be friends you to cancel them cancel them, you know, so Absolutely Let's go back to just teasing each other about our differences opinions, you know Like let's just go back to that and and because that that was way more fun and way more loving to be in that that space than having to be so Controlled and um and all that kind of stuff. So I really hope and especially for you know, if you find yourself Lionizing another truth or just just check yourself, you know, we're all I promise you I I think captain I know know a lot of the truthers personally. We're all just human beings We're just human beings. We all go to the toilet. We're all there are noses. We've all got You know, we've all got good points bad points and we're all on a journey ourselves as well You know, that's so important to remember is we're all on a journey ourselves and we're all going to have good days and bad days and You know, we've chosen to come back in a human body this time. So Still don't know why I did that but I don't know why I I do quite like it because I can have the caps on my lap then so You're allowed to line eyes your cats. Yeah, I line eyes my dog. My dog is Do no wrong. He can do no wrong So if they've got fur that's fine run around after them But we we just want to have this chat today because it's something that's important That's we've been recognizing haven't we answered of cross-checking ourselves quite a lot and also having good friends Where they can point out something to you because we've all got our blind spots, which will be a different coffee chat You know, that's one of the things I appreciate about our friendship so much is we don't have to agree on everything We can have those conversations and and you know, it's absolutely fine. We appreciate them Absolutely, absolutely So I hope that helped you guys if you guys are familiar with this concept Or if you learned something or caught something about it that we didn't catch Let us know in the comment section below because even like I said, I consider the comment section to be actually part of the video too Absolutely So Yeah, thank you for watching everyone if you are somewhere where the sunshine Enjoy it and if not, then we'll send some over create your own sunshine. See you soon everyone. Bye