 Who has been shitting all over you your entire life? No, that person just shitting me. I'm gonna take that shitting, I'm gonna keep it on me. I'm not gonna clean off, I'm gonna keep down. Today, we're gonna be talking about why you should stop shitting all over yourself. No, I didn't say shitting, I said shitting. Do not should all over yourself. One of the things I hear from people all of the time is how their life is filled with shoulds. Where they should be, how life should be, how it's supposed to be, all of this. And I'm here to tell you that I don't care about any of the shoulds, and the reason why is because who came up with those shoulds? That's what we're gonna talk about. Who has been shitting all over you your entire life? And who should have you been holding on to and saying, you know what, that's my should. No, that person just should all me. I'm gonna take that shitting, I'm gonna keep it on me. I'm not gonna clean off, I'm gonna keep down on me. That's what we're gonna dive into today. There's all the different types of shoulds of, oh, I should be making more money by now. Oh, I should be married. Oh, I should have kids by now. I should have a house. I should go to college. I'm here to ask you, who told you that? Because if you think about it, there is no real should. There is no real life path. There is no path to success. There is no, this is exactly the way that life should be all of the time. And if you follow this, you're gonna be happy and successful and peaceful and joyful. And I'm here to ask you, who the hell have you been getting should on by? Have you thought about that? Is it your parents? Is it society? Is it your family? Is it your spouse? Is it people that you're close to? Is it your friends? Because you have to ask yourself, is this what I truly want my life to be or are just other people shoulding all over me? And I'm just accepting it and saying that's how I'm gonna live my life. So where did your should come from? Where did it come from? Right, that should that's stressing you out. Because stress comes from where we should be, where we think we should be, what we should be doing. Your shoulds are stressing you out. You have to realize that. And have you ever stopped and just thought, like, okay, if I feel like I should be married by now, where did I learn that? Who told me that? Could've been one person that told it to you and you could've heard it over and over and over and over again your entire life by society, by the magazines, by Instagram, whatever it is. But who told you that? And who told you that? Were you eventually, you know what? Yeah, I accept it. That is exactly what I think that I should be doing at this point. I do think that I should be married by 22 years old. Happy and have my life figured out by 23. Kids, cars, house, millionaire by 25. Who told you all of these things? And is it the life that you actually truly want or are you just kind of lost up in all of the shoulds that you've heard your entire life and you don't even know what you really truly want? Have you even given thought to what you want, not what you think that you should do based off of other people's perceptions or what they say that you should do? And not just why am I thinking this, but why do I feel this way? Why do I feel like this is where I should be, right? So where did your should come from? Where are the different shoulds? I mean, there's a million different shoulds, but let me tell you some of the ones that I've thought of, okay? You should be in a relationship right now. Really? I'm curious, who gave you that should? Who should on you? You should be married by now, okay? Who gave you that should? Who should on you? You should be a doctor. You should be a lawyer. You should go down this life path. You should go to this school. You should go and get this degree. Really? Who told you that should? Who should all over you? You should make a certain amount of money. Really? Who told you that? Who should all over you? You should have a house. Really? Who told you that? Who should all over you? You should have kids by now. You should be married by now. You should be saving. Really? Okay. Who told you that? Who should all over you? Because what you realize is you're starting to build a life that isn't even the life that you actually truly want. You should go the safe route. Yeah, that sounds like a whole hell of a lot of fun. Let me go the safe route in life. One thing that we've learned in 2020 is that the safe route isn't safe at all. Actually, the safe route, the quote-unquote safe route is actually the scariest route because when you work for somebody else, they can always change their mind at any point in time. That doesn't sound safe to me, but if you're your own boss, that sounds a lot safer to me because nobody can fire you and your own boss. Think about that. You should go to school. You should go to college. Really? Why is that? Can you give me proof of why somebody should go to college? Are the most successful people the ones that go to college? No, absolutely not. Are the people who make the most money the ones that go to college? No, statistics actually say no, that's not true. Are the people who have the biggest businesses the ones who went to college? No, that's actually not true. So why would you go that route? Is it because somebody told you that you should go there or because of what you feel like you should do? Right? You should believe in all of the exact same things that your parents believe in. Your parents' religion, you should believe in that. Your parents' political reviews, political views, you should believe in that. What are the other things that you should believe in? You should think exactly the same that I think because you ever heard a parent say that to you before? You should do this because your parents tell you that you should do it. You should do this because your parents think that you should. You should think that way because your parents have always thought that way. Who told you all of these things and who told you that that's what you should do? That's something to think about. Most people, they know their shoulds but they have no idea where the, number one, they have no idea where their shoulds came from and they don't know why their shoulds were actually told to them. If you really do think about it, a lot of the shoulds that people are actually telling other people are their own personal problems being thrown on to them, their own personal views of the way that the world should be. You know, oh, I didn't, I wasn't able to go to school to be a doctor so you should go to school and be a doctor because I'm trying to give you opportunities that I never had, right? You should be happier. Really? Let's go ahead and review that. Most people are still trying to figure it out and guess what, that's completely okay. You know, you should follow what you're told to do. You should have a bigger business. You should quit your job. You should, you know, do whatever it is that society tells you to do. That's what you should do. Now, I want you to think about that. If you go back through everything that I said of you should be married, if you should be, have kids, all of these shoulds. If you really boil it down, what they all are are societal constructs. And a construct is not something that truly exists. It's just something that is fabricated that, you know, you can't hold a construct. You can't hold on to when you should be married. You can't hold on to when you should have children. You can't hold on to the shoulds. They're all constructs. And something that a construct is, is something that is made up by other people. And what's really interesting is that we are unconsciously following societal and social constructs that are made up by people that are no smarter than you and I. Which means that you might be following a social or societal construct that was made up a hundred years ago by somebody who might've been even less intelligent than you. But you're still following it because you're just following it blindly because that's what you've always done. That's what you've always known. Well, at some point in time, you wake up and you go, no, this isn't what I want. I want to do something different. I don't want my life to be that. I want my life to be something different than it currently is. What do we call that? A lot of people, this is a midlife crisis. You wake up, you're 40, you're 45 years old. You're like, what the fuck has my life become? This isn't what I wanted. And then you realize you followed a bunch of shoulds. You should finish high school and go down that route. You should go to college, even though you don't want to. You should go for that degree, even though you want to do something different because that one makes more money. You should get married to your high school suites sweetheart, you should have 2.5 kids. You should buy a house. You should have two cars. You should go into debt and put stuff on credit cards if you can't afford it. You should try to keep up with the Joneses. And then you wake up one day and you're like, who's life am I living? And you go, my God, I'm living somebody else's life. I'm not even living the life that I truly want. Hey, if you're enjoying this video, do me a favor and hit that like button down below. It helps with the YouTube algorithm so that more people can see this message because it helps us get it out organically. So hit that like button and I appreciate you. I was on a Zoom call just a little while ago and one of the things that really stood out to me with a lot of people, they were on the Zoom call is they didn't even know what they want. They've been living other people's lives for so long that they don't even know what they want anymore. They have no idea. And they're starting to try to re-figure out what it would be like to dream again. What it would be like to start following their own path. What it would be like to go, you know what? I want to do what I want to do. But damn, what do I want to do? It's been so long since I've thought about what I want and thought about myself versus thinking about other people that I don't even know how to get to that point. And it's like a muscle. You just gotta keep trying, keep trying, keep trying. Eventually you're gonna start figuring out what it is that you want, right? Here's what I have to say. If it isn't hurting anyone else, you should do whatever you want to do. It's the truth. If it isn't hurting anybody else, you should do whatever it is that you want to do. Is it selfish? No, it's self-preservation is what it is. Some people go, oh yeah, but that's selfish to only do what you want to do. No, because here's the thing that I know. Is when somebody does, goes down the life path that they truly want to, they become the best versions of themselves. And if they're the best versions of themselves, guess what? They impact everyone else's life around them at a much, much higher and deeper level. So is it selfish to do exactly what it is that you want to do? No, it's actually more selfless because you're doing what you want to do, and at the same time, you show up as a better version of yourself. Here's what I know, and I'll speak from my own personal experience. When I was working jobs that I hated, I was freaking miserable. And guess how I showed up for my family, for my girlfriend, for my friends? I showed up as a lesser quality of who I currently am. But when I found out what it is that I wanted to do and I started following my life path, I started growing, I started getting better, I started getting more enthusiastic, more passionate about my life and just life in general, I have been able to take that passion and help other people with their passion as well and be able to motivate my mom and my girlfriend and my friends and everyone else that's around me to be the better version of themself. So what's interesting is my quote unquote being selfish, as some people would say, actually helped other people. So is it selfish? No, it's self-preservation. It's doing what you want to do as long as you're not helping anybody else. I'm gonna tell you a really unpopular opinion. I don't give a f**k about what your mom wants. I don't give a f**k about what your dad wants, about what society wants, about what anybody else wants around you. I don't care about where you should be. You know, I don't care about how much money you make. I don't care if you're single. I don't care if you're divorced. I don't care if you're religious. I don't care if you're not religious. I don't care what you do, what you don't do. All I care about is this one thing. Do what you truly feel like you should do. If it's not hurting other people and it's what you truly want to do and it makes your soul feel like it's coming alive, then it is what you should do. I see so many people come through and I've worked with them and helped them and spoke with them or gotten message from them where they've built a life that they truly didn't want and now they feel stuck. If you're in that position, just know this, you are not fully stuck. You never are fully stuck. You're not, but what I will tell you is this. You can slowly start to unravel the life that you've built and build it into life that you want. I've seen many people do this over and over and over and over and over and over and over again. It is possible for you. Is it going to be easy? No, it absolutely will not be easy. I promise you that one, but it'll be worth it. And you will benefit from it and everyone around you will benefit from it as well. If you don't feel like you're fully caught in a life that you can't get out of at this point, well then you actually have more of an easier route. And that route is figure out what it is that you want, throw everything else to the side or start to unwind yourself from those things and do what it is that you truly want. And how do you know it is what you truly want to do? Here's how I know that it is what you truly want to do. Is you don't feel anxious about it? You don't feel fear about it? You might feel nervous. That's not the same as fear, but what happens is there's something inside of you that goes, oh yes. As we talked about a couple episodes ago, it's the full, yes, it's the, oh my God, I'm so excited. If you feel that nervousness and that excited and you immediately wanna jump up and do that thing that you are talking about or that you're thinking about in your head, that's probably a thing that you should do. And then what's gonna happen, there's a part of you that's gonna click in and go, yeah, but that's not realistic. That is societal pressures. Who says something's realistic or not realistic? If you want to go through and have your own mind blown, just go through and find the people who have succeeded late in life. If you don't know people who have succeeded late in life, I'll give you a few different examples. Stan Lee, the guy who created Marvel Comics, didn't even catch his first big break until he was 40 years old. Vera Wang, who has obviously a massive company, didn't even get into the fashion industry, not even start Vera Wang, but didn't even get into the fashion industry until she was in her 40s, right? Samuel L. Jackson didn't get his first job as an actor until he was 46 years old, right? There's a many different types of people. Henry Ford didn't get his first car released until he was 45 years old. Charles Darwin was 50 years old when he published his first book. And it list goes on and on and on and on and on. You're never too late. The only thing that you have to do is you have to tell yourself, I have to start. That's what I have to do. And the thing that I want you to take from this is that your job is to build the life that you want, not the life that other people want of you. Your job is to build the life that you are passionate about. Your job is to find your passion if you don't know what it is. It's okay to not know what your passion is at this moment. It's completely okay, but it's not okay to not be in constant pursuit to find out what your passion is if you don't know what it is at this point. When you do find it, it is only okay to be in constant pursuit for that passion because when you go after your passion, you do what you truly want to do. You stop listening to what people tell you that you should do, you fully come alive. And when you fully come alive, you open up the doors for other people around you, people that you're close to, to fully come alive as well. So stop shoulding all of yourself with all of the things that you think that you should be doing. Do you want to know what you should be doing? You should be doing what you're here on this planet to do. But you need to figure out what that is. Hey, thanks so much for watching this video. If you want to learn even more about Master Your Mind, click right here and watch this video as well. Today, we're going to be talking about how to find your purpose.