 Hello ladies and gentlemen today. We're gonna be talking about some very important subjects such as gas lighting and enabling so stay tuned What is up everybody? This is Chris from the rewired soul where we talk about the problem But focus on the solution and if you're new to my channel my channel is all about mental health And what I like to do is pull different topics from the YouTube community to try to teach you how to improve your mental and emotional Well-being so if you enter that make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell and all of my lovely patrons out there I just uploaded a brand new video. Um, I did something today to Kind of clean up some of the mess from my past a lot of you know, I'm still six and I'm six and a half years sober Yeah, still six and a half years over But anyways, I just did something huge today that I've been working on for six and a half years So anybody who's over on patreon go over there check out that new video. All right, but yeah I've had a lot of requests to talk about the ace family a lot of people Asked me to talk about the lollipop incident. I didn't really see a reason to like what do you guys want me to add to the conversation? It was messed up. It was stupid. Well, here's what I'll here's what I'll throw in a little neuroscience You know that prefrontal cortex I keep talking to you about it's responsible for logical decision-making and impulse control All right Like think about the steps that you had to go through to film that entire thing and think it was a good idea to Upload on the internet, right? Like somebody who's mindful and strengthening their prefrontal cortex through things like meditation or simple mindfulness and being more aware of the present moment Never would have uploaded that so Austin go meditate or something get your act together. All right, but anyways, I do want to talk about this because I was just eating lunch and Tristan's not gonna agree with this, but I'm gonna make three videos today I think I'm gonna do a video about the psychology of cinema sense if you watch cinema sense Let me know down in the comments below because I have a really cool video planned I think if you guys are interested in it anyways, I was just watching tea spill as I'm eating lunch I'm like, oh this ace family is messed up. All right. I don't know much about The wife and I'm sorry. I don't know her name. I'm not a ace family fan But Austin he done messing up and we have some prime examples of gaslighting as well as enabling All right, so I was completely unaware of this hundred thousand dollar basketball shootout giveaway All right, cool thing. So anyways for those of you who don't know basically Austin announced a hundred thousand dollar giveaway For the ace family members, right? They call their, you know, I call you guys the rewired soldiers He calls, you know, their subscribers the ace family members, right? So he announces this hundred thousand dollar giveaway tells people to enter data data, right? And he says it's for ace family members and all these people are trying to enter They want to get in there. They want to, you know, be part of this giveaway hundred thousand dollars All right, a ton of people can benefit from this But when the list was actually released, it's a ton a ton of super rich YouTubers and celebrities now. Here's the thing. Here's the thing when they started getting backlash Austin tweets out like basically just gaslighting everybody like whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa We do things for you all the time We just wanted to do something for, you know, our creators, you know, and celeb friends, right? And it's like, no, that's not how this works Gaslighting is a form of manipulation in which you try to make the other person question their sanity, right? And one of the tactics that they use is that they're going to try to make you feel guilty So what he was doing there is that he's trying to To bring up the fact that they've done so much for you So you need to back up on us about this which if he if he would have come at this situation Saying like tag your favorite celebrities and youtubers or whatever We're doing a giveaway for them and all of that money is going towards charity But that's not how he framed it. He framed it as anybody could enter this giveaway, right? And he would he would think it would be nice if people donated some of the money to charity All right, so this is really messed up and how does this relate to you? You might have somebody in your life who does this this is very common in abusive relationships If you've ever experienced this, let me know down in the comments below a common scenario, for example Is being in an abusive relationship, whether it's verbal emotional physical, whatever it is But what they try to do is say like, oh, how how is it possible that I don't love you? Look at all the things I buy you look at all these great things I do for you, right? Because here's one of the things and this is why I try to teach you guys about, you know Being mindful and reevaluating your value systems, right? Because if you are putting all of your value in stuff It is far easier to be manipulated because when they're saying these things to you when they're telling you Look at all these things I bought for you. Look at all these things I did for you if your values are placed on these objects You know what I mean? Then it's easier to be manipulated But if your value system is based on the relationships you have the emotional support that you have, you know All of these things then it's easier to catch that that manipulation tactic and be like, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa All right So what he did there is a prime example of it and I hope you learn from it All right, but then it gets even worse when they ended up doing this contest with all these celebs and youtubers and things like that Austin ends up getting a professional basketball player Who is also a friend to come in and this dude ends up winning the hundred thousand dollars So people got completely bamboozled Complete like everybody everybody got screwed in this situation, right? So the other situation that he's talked that um tea spill brought up was this app This app that they're talking about and they're trying to, you know, sell it to fans Now there's part that I agree and disagree with like here's the thing like people come at me people come at me sideways Look, oh, oh, you're trying to like sew your book. You're trying to do picture like I had somebody like say like Oh, oh, you got a sun defeated Like all this stuff. It's like, yeah, people need to make money, you know So like I don't I'm not gonna necessarily like, you know harp on them too bad by like, you know Using like a sales tactic of like, hey come get exclusive content Hell I just talked about it in the beginning of this video. That's one of the benefits of being a patron Okay, but like they didn't even have content pre-recorded for the launch of the app So the issue is is that people are paying for this app and don't have any content Now what I will say this and this is not victim blaming But now let's transition into enabling you need to cancel your subscription Like if you're somebody watching this if you're some how an ace family member cancel your subscription All right, like it's that age old saying like screw me once No, no, no, no, no fool me once shame on you fool me twice shame on me Right and when we're talking about, you know fooling me once That's the first month of the payment with no content, right after that You got a backup out of there and you guys like I know I give some tough love But you got to understand this is also like not these are lessons that I had to learn Right if I keep hanging out with the same crappy people and the same crappy things keep happening Or if I have a friend who keeps backstabbing me and I keep hanging out with them Eventually like at what point am I like, okay? Maybe maybe I need to make better choices My son actually just went through a similar situation. He has this This not so great friend on xbox who is just like like verbally abused my son and just said like You know mean things and bullied and stuff like that and don't get me wrong I barge in my son's room all the time like hey Be nice Right, but anyways, he keeps playing with this kid. They keep getting into what I'm like, dude Just block him just quit playing with him. There are millions of people playing fortnight Stop playing with him, right? But like my son keeps reacting him and playing with him and then the kid does it again And I straight up tell him like 10 year old son I said, you know, like I don't have any sympathy I've told you this and you keep doing it, right? Like at what point do we take responsibility? Okay, but anyways, sorry for that little tough love segment right there But we need to quit enabling the ace family. So here's the thing We just talked about three things that you know, they've been doing over the past month or so Okay from the lollipop incident to this basketball thing to their app right there that video right behind me That video right behind me has millions of views. I think it's at 3.5 million I'm not sure that thing has a pre-roll ad As well as multiple mid-roll ads. I think it might have four mid-roll ads Okay, and I'm on my desktop. So the one I just I try to get that screenshot right there And when I click through and did a non skippable ad which pays content creators even more, right? So we are enabling their behavior. All right, and for anybody out there and there's not really a solution to this I don't think many ace family members are actually going to watch this video But you know, I'm not in that like that mentality of like, you know Mob mentality and these mass boycotts and things like that But like you really do got to think about it. For example Gus Johnson Gus Johnson hilarious creator. Tristan actually got me into his content But he made a video yesterday about chris brown. I'm actually going to link it down below And he he was just he was just pissed and confused because with all the stuff going on with arkely and the documentary and everything like that Like basically, uh, Gus was sitting there like why why are people still supporting chris brown and gusted all this research and laid it out How chris brown is just keep doing his same thing over and over and over and over and over again, right? And we're the ones enabling him people are enabling him and we lift these people to a point Where they're somehow above the law and in recent videos I've got a lot of backlash from stands of other creators and stuff and that's cool But I do hope one of my like my main goal my main goal is to help all of you But yeah, I guess you know part of it is to call out poor behavior on this platform Because you got to understand somebody like chris brown Started off messing up at a smaller level His first major incident was with rihanna But you keep getting away with it. You keep getting away with it You keep getting away with it, right? And then like something that gusts brought up was that other celebrities that he idolizes Are endorsing chris brown too So why do people have the motivation to change if they're being enabled constantly? You know what I mean like gusts went through imdb for uh chris brown and just tv appearances Movie appearances, you know, um, uh music all these things, right? So I I I didn't want to bring up the gust brown the gust johnson thing gust brown. What are they related? It's a gust johnson thing, but it just popped in my head So in no way am I saying what austin is doing or the ace family is doing is anywhere near the the physical assault The countless physical assaults that chris brown is doing but I just want to let you know This is how people get to that level Constant enabling it starts out small. So when you look at the logan paul's when you look at the jake paul's When you look at rice gum when you look at the ace family when you look at these people You got to see we are enabling their behavior. And here's the thing I always say like do a youtube cleanse right like purge your youtube list So for example, I know a lot of you are subscribed to creators Just because you like watching the train wreck, right? Well, you are you are encouraging that train wreck You see what i'm saying Did any of you see that episode of black mirror where it was like what was it called like one million credits or Something like that. I'll have a screenshot, you know, we're like it was like a singing competition or whatever But they were being encouraged like because based on this point system this value system Like black mirror does a good job of making us look at our society and where it can end up But people aren't changing. You know what I mean? So again, like if you don't support somebody and you don't support their actions Please stop. Please stop watching unsubscribe. That's the only message that they're gonna hear. You know what I mean Me personally There have been shows that I stopped watching. There have been musicians that I stopped listening to Um and all these things and like and it's because I don't feel right supporting them And that's something that helps me go to sleep at night And I told you guys, you know, if you look at, you know, Freud and talking about the subconscious and things like that There is a part of our brain that knows that knows what we're doing is wrong You see what I mean by by knowing that that starts to build up your own anxiety Some of that negative self-talk that you might have might because you are supporting People who your morals do not align with does that make sense? So I just want you guys to think about this stuff when it comes to creators But also the people in your life like I'm a recovering drug-addicted alcoholic people enabling me was killing me And I didn't get better. I did not get better until everybody shut me out The last thing that my mom ever did for me Was say the only thing I will do for you is to pay rent for your sober living And I'm lucky a lot of people don't get that but my mom wasn't giving me money She wasn't giving me a place to say friends family members all cut me off So the only way she was gonna help me was by Doing something that was gonna help me get help right and sometimes you got to force that person's hand So in the context of youtube creators and subscribe quit watching their videos and giving them millions and millions and millions of views Like you guys man adsense ain't that great But when you do it millions of times with a bunch of pre mid rolls They made a bunch of money off of screwing everybody over. All right But anyways, I want you to let me know down in the comments below Have people gas gas let you in the past and try to manipulate you with things. All right, or Let's ask this too. Or can you relate to my story? Have people enabled your bad behavior? All right, let's have a conversation down in the comments below. Okay, but anyways, that's all I got for this video Let me know again down in the comments below if you'd be interested in the video titled the psychology of cinema sins Because I have a really good idea in my head Anyways, if you like this video, please give it a thumbs up if you're new Make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell because I make a ton of videos and a huge huge Thank you to everybody supporting the channel over on patreon. You are all amazing and don't forget There's a brand new exclusive video up over on patreon. So go check it out. All right. Thanks again So so much for watching. I'll see you next time