 All right, here we go from Dickens or Declan's world Question actually two questions. How do I get online men to engage in real conversation when all they want to do is text? Hey, beautiful. How to let a man down in a respectful way. So two questions. Okay Let's first do the question. How to engage. So if you're not familiar with my acronym nice N-I-C-E The end stands for name Name say his name. The I stands for inquisitive ask Questions ask questions. The C stands for compliment and the E stands for Enthusiasm so it might be an enthusiastic emoji. So it simply might look like this Hey, Jonathan nice to connect with you. I see you read a lot of the same books Are you into personal development? So I have a picture of all the books I like a stack of books that I like to read So I see you're into person. Are you into personal development? By the way, you're really easy on the eyes now. I'm a Leo. So I like that But some compliment it might simply be a compliment like wow, what an awesome thing that you're Interpersonal development. So that's a compliment and then you end with enthusiasm and enthusiastic Emoji put a smiley face or something create a little And see if that person engages with you Questions is how we create engagement and if a person doesn't so let me share something with you I had a woman write me recently and she said you seem like the real deal But then she went on to ask question about the distance between us and I really appreciate it because it created a dialogue between us And and ultimately you want to create a dialogue and if they're incapable of creating a dialogue. This is what you say. Bye. Bye So, how do you let a guy down when you don't feel like it's a good fit? You simply say hey, Jonathan. I really appreciate the time to get to know you I don't feel we're a match and I want to wish you all the best on your own search for love I don't feel we're a match and I want to wish you all the best or you could simply say I don't feel like we're a match and I want to wish you all the best now. Here's what's gonna happen They're gonna get angry. They're gonna get pissed off. They're gonna go. What are you talking about? Who cares that they get angry upset? It's natural to get angry upset when we when somebody feels like they've been rejected But you haven't rejected them all you've simply said is you're not my person if they feel rejection That's on them. They probably haven't read the book the four Agreements the four agreements the four agreements are basically the agreements we make to ourselves and there's four basic agreements Be impeccable with your word Always do your best Don't let the projection of others affect how you feel and don't make assumptions This person is making an assumption when they say that they're they've been rejected You know as if there's something wrong with them that means they've got more work to do because the truth is We're not compatible with ninety nine point nine percent of the people out there That's favorably not true But the reality I don't want to say compatible But the reality is it's a very slim percentage of people that are actually a good fit for one another. I Don't know how many people are actually in Relationship who are happy but my guess is it's less than 20% of those all the people in relationship in the world are Actually happy with one another now. That's my anecdotal and it could be higher than 20% It could be lower. What's most important is are you happy with yourself? And that's my invitation for everyone here is to work on yourself because whether or not you find a man or a Woman in your life or not what's most important is the relationship you have with yourself In fact Esther Pharrell who wrote the book mating and captivity mating and captivity says the quality of our relationships Determines the quality of our life and it starts with the Relationship we have with our self the relationship we have with our self and so bringing back full circle nice and I see name in Inquisitive compliment enthusiasm and when you end it just simply say thank you for your time I don't feel worth it, and I want to wish you all the best. I hope that help Thank you so much for that question Declan's world. I really appreciate it Alright, woohoo. We are on a roll