 Let me see something here Trying to figure this here out now. Let me know can y'all hear me Somebody say good morning. Now where you at? You must be in South Africa Somewhere that's over, you know ahead of me one of my South African. Okay y'all hear me Okay, great great. I want to pop on here. I posted this video on Instagram and How I forgive my mom on Los Angeles time Rat 9. Well, I might be on Africa time or where you at the UK time, but Got to do the work when the work is when the work need to be done but I want to share this because this right here is keeping a lot of people is holding a lot of people prisoner because we oftentimes miss label love and There was this post that was made that said men don't marry the woman. They truly loved They married the woman That they are with when they're ready to get married and I could see how that could make sense to some people Because there have there are men who say they love a woman but mistreat her like cheat owner or Do something else to her and then the woman leaves and then he moves on with his life And he has this soul tie with this woman Who is from his past and so then he gets with this other woman and he's 35 40 years old and he gets married and Then he may write that woman from the past And so then that makes the woman from the past feel like oh, he's not happy with who he is with And then some men actually write the woman from the past and say I truly loved you I don't love my wife but see what women don't understand about men is that That man does not know love the men who do that. He does not know love He doesn't know what a soul tie is like an emotional bond He doesn't know He didn't go to therapy or coaching. He didn't get closure So that's why the term the one who got away That's where that term comes from it comes from not getting closure But when we're talking about a man Who learns love Who knows love This man if he Truly loved the woman What he's gonna do Is he's gonna go back And he's going to get that one. He's gonna go back And he's going to make it right with that woman. He's gonna say hey, you know what? No, I'm sorry. I'm a little angry and he'll look like He's gonna go back and he's gonna hey I want you back Because I truly loved you. He's gonna go back. That's why a lot of men go back He's not gonna move on And go marry someone else If he learns love and realize that he truly loved this woman But he didn't know what love was But see when a man pushes a woman away when he pushes a woman away And He doesn't go back to her His ego won't let him go back. His pride won't let him go back. That's because he didn't truly love her He could have had feelings for He could have cared, you know cared for But he didn't truly love her and see the thing about it is is women y'all will end up hurting yourself by believing That a man doesn't Marry the woman he truly loves Because you will be sitting there Thinking that you had true love When you didn't have true love And then you will be blocking True love from coming into your life because you telling yourself you had true love So then you sitting there and you're like, okay You'll be stuck and not unable to move on and so, you know people was commenting on the On that post that I had made and About the love In the cut this his light off I mean the sound off and And then someone I think this applies to situations where the woman left a man Or maybe he wanted to marry her and she said no So he went on and married someone else in those situations. This could be true Maybe he did love her more what she removed herself as an option For him and so that's like an exception to the rule And That's not what the post is talking about because that's a very small percentage Very rarely does a man love a woman more than a woman love a man But it does happen so That ain't what the the post talking about and The men in here is a lot of men in here saying, hey, this is true like Tony you right But then in one guy was saying like, oh, no, that's not true And here's the other thing When a man Tell you about men And the man We don't have an agenda like We're not trying to sleep with you Ladies learn to listen to that Because this is the problem And this why so many women can't be helped Because when The dark side Try to speak the truth A lot of people don't want to listen because there's some other stuff in there Then when the light side The good side the evil side trying to say some stuff and on the evil side of things What you have to realize is that not everything the devil say Going to be a lie in the sense of the devil going to use some truth to bait you And then when he bait you He gone bait and switch And so that's what you got to understand. So a lot of times women will hear Guys on the right side of things On the good side say some things and say, hey I heard that on red pill Well, I heard that on Midtown Well, I heard that on this old hill And it's like yeah because Ain't nobody gonna say A hundred percent wrong Because if if somebody said a hundred percent wrong ain't nobody gonna listen So they're gonna say 50 percent truth I listen to some stuff on the toxic channels Sometimes and I'm like, well that part right there that part right there true If people don't say it to me It's women that said to me. Oh You saying the same thing Such such said And I'm like Yeah, that's true But I'm not saying what he said when he said this And when he said that and we said this and this and this and this All that was of the devil But not everything somebody say Gonna be evil or wrong And so what what women what y'all have to start doing is Using discretion Because somebody could be working for the adversary And it'd be millions of women listening eating it up And then somebody coming working for good and Women still want to argue And so my thing is is i'm trying to help set you free Men and women so that when you go into love When you go into a relationship you can be present And you can build real love But if you're still telling yourself that what you had in your past Was real love or that your past really loved you You're gonna miss real love because you're gonna say oh that was real love And he cheated on me He did this he did that he did that but he really loved me And I had to walk away from him because He really loved me Because he mistreated me even though he really loved me So then when real love come You can be like this guy's boring This guy ain't no fun This guy lame this guy cornball this guy square Because you're still labeling love As what you had in your past The man you had to walk away from And that went love Because when a man truly loved a woman It don't mean he's not gonna hurt her what I mean by hurt her I mean hurt her feelings Make her cry When a man truly loved a woman true love Don't mean perfect Because he's not always operating from love A man can love a woman But then on this day he's operating from selfishness He's operating from pain He's operating from insecurity But what true love is it is it's a through line that says He's gonna feel convicted And then he's going to desire growth And when a man starts to grow And starts to change That's when you have evidence of love So later she said something in one of the comments and um Oh, there's another comment Let's say you actually said two different things Perhaps you can expound upon a part where you say the man didn't conquer the woman like he wanted to and That's what what I'm what I mean by that is a lot of women Think that when a man comes back Or when a man says you're the one that got away That doesn't always mean that he loved you It means that he didn't get to sleep with you Or he didn't get to get his rocks off. He didn't get to control you from his toxicity And so he's like You beat my games that doesn't mean he loved you It means you beat the games that I was trying to run because I'm a grown boy And so a lot of times a man will come back out of ego and not out of love And this is why it's so confusing because it's caveats and nuances and it takes wisdom knowledge understanding discretion patience to to Be able to determine What's what? And so if a man comes back out of love He's going to look feel sound act completely different And it's going to be consistent. So if you give him another chance He's still going to be growing and changing and loving three months into that New chance six months into that new chance 12 months into that new chance. Don't mean he's not going to have bad days Don't mean he's not going to have an attitude. Don't mean he's not going to Show a little glimpse of who he once was But he's going to snap out of it And he's going to go back to growing And what you have to remember is we're dealing with humans. We're not dealing with robots We're not dealing with the program has been coding in and you can't go outside of that program We're dealing with humans Humans have feelings It's caveats and nuances to humans. You can't just it's not a one size fits all So therefore, yes, there are men who just marry the woman they happen to be with There are men who do that But that's an exception to the rule not the rule Because if a man finna get married like a real man, if he finna get married he finna make sure he could be with that woman She a real man is not going to marry a woman for for money A real man ain't gonna marry a woman because you got to look at it. You got to you got to think about this now It ain't easy to make money It ain't easy to make money So right now think about this now Listen what i'm telling you When i'm telling you about a real man, listen what i'm telling you How many you think about how many single women right now That making six figures seven figures that i could that i can go be with That i can go be with right now There's something on this hill chat Why am i not doing it? Because i'm not finna to marry a woman just because she made money My wife take care of our children. She don't work nobody job She work in our companies, but she don't work nobody job So If men just marry Who they happen to be with Or just marry or just settle or just marry for money Then we'll all go marry a woman with money But we'll marry a woman and then ask that woman To step away from her job to be full time with the kids So they could get everything that they need and then when they get to that point to where We got things flowing then hey Do whatever chase your dreams or if you can't step away Let's put the pieces in place. Do we need a name? Do we need your mama to move in? Do we need what do we need my mama to move in? What do we need? so When you say men marry The woman that they just happen to be with That's not a man. That's a grown boy That ain't that ain't what we should be basing our belief system off all How a grown boy move and then somebody to say Oh, I know I know men who they sell Yeah You know three men Okay They hit go you a piece of bubblegall You know three men Okay It's a billion men in rural The little three men you you and and then you don't know if they sell You guesstimating that they sell That that could be they level But really what you're saying is he settled because he didn't get with me That's really what you're saying is he settled because he's not with you That that might not be true for him, but if that's gonna help you sleep at night. Okay, go ahead Keep telling yourself that that's helping you sleep at night You don't know what a man doing But see one thing about men and this is why I try to tell women one thing about men is men know men Men know men We know men Like the men who just getting married out of convenience like just getting married I'ma tell you the type of men They what y'all call hobo Sexuals they need a place to stay Or They green card boys That's the two type of men That's gonna just marry any woman They need a place to stay Or they need a green card After that A man would rather be single Other than that a man would rather be single if he came find a woman that he truly loved And that's why you see these single relationship coaches That's why you see these single men who seem like they have it all together They got a podcast They got businesses They're making six figures seven figures and they still single The reason why is because they have not met a woman that they feel like They can marry And what you will see Is if a man has a real man inside of him When he get ready to marry If he did love a woman In his past he going back to her He's not he going back to her and he's gonna say I made a mistake I am a new man. I have changed. I have grown. I'm still changing. I'm still growing I want you back And let me tell you something Women Y'all is not strong as you think you is And let me say that proper Women you are not as strong as you think you are And do you know how I know? Because I sit on the phone all day coaching women And I could tell you I coached the lady today And she broke up with her man Because of a choice that he wanted to make And she said She broke up with him Because of a job situation that he had come up Not because he put hands on Not because he cheated on Not because he cussed out Because he wanted to accept a certain job And it was and it will require a move And The job she have And I told her this and I told her I say you was wrong Because it's men who get deployed It's men who got to go away on a mission It's men who got to travel it So if you saying this the man you want to be with your whole life You can see him being your husband having kids I said you broke up with him To try to manipulate him To try to coerce him So I say on this one right here, you got to eat this and you got to go back to him and say I made a mistake And you got to warm it up And because so so I coach women all the time Who I'm literally coaching women And we talking about a relationship from three years ago From two years ago From a year ago That the woman say If he will come back I'll take him back so As men We know that We know that We know And so the lady tried that it was a lady in here who tried to say Uh So here go this guy And this hot men no men so I could read a man He in the he in the picture Holding his phone taking the picture of himself Of his body showing off his his traps and arms and shoulders and all of that that already already tell me what kind of man he is He come on here and say this is not always true Ain't nothing always true And then he say mature men will allow a woman he loves to walk away If he isn't truly ready to be who she desires There is not a man On the face of this plane That's gonna let a woman he truly loves walk away If he not ready to be the man That's that She desires who she desires that is not a man But see what this is is gaslight This is so the ex could see this Because she probably followed me And he want her to see that And then he say y'all please examine your individual situation and stop letting people speak for you what you feel marriage is also used And this way tell on itself Marriage is also used as a mechanism of control By men who know they had to marry in order for her to stay Even though he isn't ready Now this is the thing If a man marries a woman Because he feel like he have to marry her He is only doing that because He doesn't want her to get away and because he loves her But here's the thing about marriage for men No man Is ever 100 ready for marriage Men have to take a leap of faith for marriage Because no man Is ever going to say Yes I get to be with one Vagina the rest of my life Yes Yes Vagina the rest of my life No Marriage for a man is sacrifice That's obedience That's all marriage ever going to be for a man Ain't no man fitting to be jumping for joy Even good men Like i'm not excited about that But I know the purpose and I know the calling And I know that when you have purpose and calling on this earth To be fruitful and replenish the earth To be an upstanding citizen To represent balance and wholeness for my children I got to overcome my flesh But the flesh always Going to be weak The flesh always going to say Man, I love to see another set of cheeks. Well, who I love to try something else out right now That's always going to be the flesh and that's what women don't understand And that's what women don't want to hear Because women are created differently There are women who have said and who will say in the comments And who will say on him? There are women who will say Hey I don't need Love making like that. I don't want Multiple men. I don't want to be with another man. I'm fine. There's women who will say they don't want to be With more than one man. They don't want to try another man You a man will we could say that too But that's because of maturation That's because of us coming to a place to where we say, okay I know who I am and I know what I got to be For my family for my wife For society for god And i'ma die out to self I'ma consecrate the flesh And that's what people have to understand and so You have to realize that this is going to Be different based on the man But it's a difference between a grown boy and a grown man And it was for My back then and he don't see himself getting married His wife didn't react just left after a year when he saw that she's in a new relationship after He went back to her and told her he's ready to get married Exactly if a man love a woman he's gonna go back and get him Guess what when I met my wife and I wasn't ready for marriage. I was 21 years old I don't think she was ready for marriage either. She was 19 and After about two three months we broke up When I got ready to get married I still wasn't really ready to get married. But when I bumped into hug in I broke up with my girlfriend That I was with and went back to my wife And I had to loss her momentarily. We was apart for six months But when I bumped back in the hall I say this woman hill I can't let her get away Because she out of all the women over a hundred women that I done dealt with Since the age of 15, she the one that stand out. And so guess what? I got with her and listen This what women a lot of time don't understand This what this what a lot of time women don't understand this Even classy women Classy women are still Weak for a man Weak for the right man The right man don't mean a perfect man But the man for that woman She gonna be weak for that man She gonna get that man a second chance She gonna put up with that man and his growth his growing pains the right man Even classy women Women who they don't sleep around Women who they don't put up with no crap It's gonna be that man that one man that she feel like This my best bet he ain't perfect because no human is perfect. She ain't perfect either But she gonna go through what she got to go through While they working as long as they both are working and growing Then that's when love is in the midst And that's what people got to realize and understand Somebody say can you talk about remarriage And look like she in a blessed tribe But that's the same thing with remarriage is if a man really love a woman And this what this what a lot of times what Here's the thing what what women have to understand A man is not going to make sense to a woman Just like a woman is not going to make sense to a man So what women have to understand Is that As men We are risk takers And I always try to help women understand in the relationship sense The way you could better understand a man is to look at the thing that men do So you have to Stop trying to separate The man who will get in an octagon And Now about fight to the death with another man For a little check for a check That he's gonna blow Gonna blow through it even if it's on groceries and mortgage. It's gonna blow through it And he's gonna be hurting for the rest of his life And he's actually gonna take years off of his life because of cte or dementia But he will get in an octagon and fight another man You can't separate that from marriage The same person that'll do that It's also the same person that's getting into a marriage Okay, you got men black men Who will sign up in a in an army? And go work for a country That marginalize them in their own city That don't make no sense But He'll do it Because of what he won't he won't college pay for Or he won't see the world or he won't a consistent paycheck He won't va benefits. He want to be able to get a house Or plain and simple. He don't know what to do with his life So he'll go and do that If he go and say i'm doing this for love a country Listen, that's the same man that's getting into a marriage You got men Who will go and get on top of a building? And look through a scope And take somebody off the face of this earth that they don't know Ain't never did nothing to them Don't know them and the same man coming home and getting into marriage Listen, we get on a football field for free Because it's only 400 and some people only a certain amount of people that go to the nfl So you look on the nfl. I don't know if it's 30 or 32 teams If it's 32 And they got 53 at the club that's 1700 guys But yet millions It's on the football field And we bash our heads into other men for free And gonna have brain issues Just for the sake of sport And we go get married So i want women to understand If you're trying to wrap your head around a man, you're not going to be able to do it The same way a man can't wrap his head around a woman So we have to respect our differences And we got to seek to understand then be understood And that's why i'm trying to tell women Let the notion go That a man can love you And leave you Like truly love you Not gonna do that Why do you think Floyd Mayweather Still fighting at 50 He love it Why do you think Bernard Hopkins still fighting at 50? 50 something. He was still fighting. He love it Why do you think Roy Jones jr. Still fighting in his 50s. He love it Men struggle to let something go that they love Now what's gonna have a stronger hold on a man is that guata That's what i call it that peach cobbler If a man can't walk away from a sport that's causing him his brain How do you think he's been a walk away from a woman he truly love? And see the thing that we confuse is we confuse love A man can lust after you We confuse love with lust We confuse love with self hate We confuse love with hate We confuse love with pain We confuse love with codependency We confuse love with so many things that is not love See what you have to understand about love is love is pure Love is whole Love is healthy When somebody is hurting you they're not operating from love They operating from insecurity. They operating from self hate They operating from pain They're not operating from love So that's why we have to stop saying love hurts Love does not hurt Relationships hurt I've seen somebody one time I said that oh tony love can hurt because Because if you love somebody and they die that hurts you Love did not hurt you life hurt you Because death is a part of life life hurt you Tony oh, I loved this person and they cheated on me So love does hurt. No Love did not hurt you Somebody who did not love you hurt you Someone who does not know how to love hurt you And then you confuse the two. That's my quote that go viral without my name and then on there it says Love did not hurt you someone who does not know who didn't know how to love hurt you And you confuse the two not I said you're gonna see my quote. That's my quote. I wrote that You know, I wrote that because of so many people lying on love Love is pure love is whole Love is healthy and when humans operate from love it removes pain Love heals not hurts So you got to understand when you're being hurt you're not being loved When you're being hurt you're not being loved And it's a difference between a romantic love and a relationship and like a parental love because I can parent my son And he could be upset. He's not hurt He could he might get angry But when he comes of age He's gonna realize that what I did was love That I was protecting him If I am reprimanding him from a place of love Now if I punch him in the eye Now I'm not operating from love I'm operating from anger I'm operating from childhood trauma. I'm operating from pain So we have to understand that just because love is in a relationship Doesn't mean that every action is associated with love And when you understand the difference between Love and when a person is operating from another place because humans have different feelings Then you understand love ain't hurting you and so Here it is and this the thing Is we have to come back this stuff On this this right here the thing what the lady said People ain't seen it yet though and she got 65 likes on this right because she said not true Because if a woman is tired of the man and his bull s So that also let me know she don't know what she talking about because If you know me, you know, I don't curse so you're not going to be in my comments cursing So that let me know she even under good teaching Because she in the comments cursing A man of his bull s once she's done. She's done doesn't matter how much he attempts He how much he changes or attempts to fix anything when a woman is truly fed up Who taught y'all that? Was it r kelly or another r&b singer? Because i'm gonna tell you something and they say nothing a man can do to change her mind It looked like that because a man ain't never done enough to change her mind If a man push you to your breaking point, that's a clear sign. He don't love you If a man push you to the point of no return that man does not love you. He doesn't know love He didn't love you. He hated you And he hated you because he hated himself So the little changes he made yet ain't gonna be enough because he ain't really putting no real effort for Let me tell you something Listen, let me tell you something Listen, she said I don't care how much he is in love or whatever the case be That's the problem right there that we don't understand A man is not in love with a woman if he dog her out And push her beyond her breaking point That right there is A oxymoron they don't even go together I hate how people try to put all the decision making on the man like a woman can't know her worth and move on from a man That doesn't deserve her like a woman just don't have a choice This is one sided and I love tony, but I think he is a little off on this topic This how the devil be in the details talking about she loved tony how you love me and you in my comments cursing knowing on curse Satan get deep behind me That's how I try to tell you how the devil try to come and make their argument and masquerade as a supporter You don't support me if you in my comments cursing And then it's the thing right here turn my like a woman don't have a decision I ain't say a woman don't have a decision what I said is when a man love a woman And he changed and he grow that woman ain't going nowhere Because a man who loves a woman is going to grow and change Before she is pushed beyond her point of return But here's another thing that I know a woman could leave And be gone And a man still can come back and get her if he come correct See listen It's man who the went back and got a woman after putting hands on her After doing all kind of stuff because of her lacking love of herself But if a man who is a good man who was immature and didn't know how to love Starts to grow and to change If he come back and he is patient He is kind He is compassionate This man dripping the oil Of god He looked like smell like feel like He'll renew man and this woman is sitting over here still single She gonna hear a mop She gonna hear a mop You know why because a man who truly love a woman is not gonna put he might push her to leave But what that leave is Most nine out of ten times that leave is a break That leave is a break that is meant to look like it's forever But it's to send a shock wave Down his spine To let him know if you don't change if you don't get your stuff together On out your life for good so If you look at marriages If you look at marriages what you're gonna notice Is that in majority of marriages the woman had to lead a man at least once Because the nature of a male not just a man think about your son Think about your male students if you're a teacher The nature of a male is to push the limits The nature of a male is to take you As far as he could take you Before he break you To see what you will and won't tolerate Because in this process he is learning how to love you He is learning what love means to you And he also learning what love going to mean to y'all relationship So a man is Feeling in the dark because his daddy didn't teach him love his mama didn't teach him love School didn't teach him love so he learned in love on the job He learned in love in the midst of the relationship So that's what you got to realize So that's why a lot of women get pushed to the point to where they got to stand up and say hey i'm gone And then when they leave for them three days or them six months of them two months or Two weeks and that man come crawling back and he begging Guess what when he come back and he genuine he's sincere And he has changed it's because he learned This right here don't go in love This right here that you did don't go in a relationship Just because you saw toxic stuff happen in relationships growing up You got to heal from that and learn that now that right there don't fly So then when he realized that he learned oh that don't fly Then he said oh, okay. I got to get this right. But guess what a man who don't love a woman He don't care about her boundaries He's going to keep pushing her past her boundaries And then he's going to come back out of ego just to get the last laugh just to get one more lick Just to Do it out of spite, but it's really all from his childhood trauma It ain't even that he just nasty and want to be nasty It's that he he hurt so bad. He don't even know love. He don't even know what he's doing He's acting out because this His pain is just seeking It's seeking an outlet and that woman becomes that outlet But a man who truly loves a woman Even in his ignorance He's going to learn because as men we are very perceptive And we can see and we can read this without what I want women to understand about men is that This is how we hunters This is how we warriors This is how we do what we do because we are very perceptive How do you think a man can move around and could could hunt? And could gather and could bring home the game From the from the wilderness Because of that Right there because of that keen sense of awareness How do you think a man could survive in a concrete jungle? In the streets hustling beat the police Beat his ops because of the keen sense of awareness now, so I'm gonna lose But it's a lot that gonna make it out Because of the keen sense of awareness So a man we could pick up on a woman quick. We could pick up on a woman And we know A woman's breaking point When a man ignores her breaking point It's because he is broken and he's looking to break He's looking for an outlet. It's kind of like a broken boy Who go to school and he get angry and he not he knocked the vase over He Throw the ball through the window He's looking to break because he's feeling broken the same thing with a grown man An adult male If he's broken, he's looking to break. He worried about your boundaries. He worried about your feelings. He worried about your tears He is looking for an outlet And that's what you have to realize and understand So let's talk about What if he leaves because the woman's fault? Is there a chance of him coming back? Listen He's always a chance but So is it possible? Yes. Is it probable? No That's what you got to understand only mad I Now I see the non-bless tribe mental got a lot of stuff got a lot to say in the chat now Now if y'all already in the bless tribe, you see the little button up on it. They'll say join Okay, y'all are real loud y'all talking to bless right What the difference of walking away in separation like how your wife walked away for a bit and rc blade story When is it okay to let them come back? Walking away And separation Should look and feel the same way to the man So the mistake that a lot of women make and the reason why Men come back And I don't know the brother story. I know my story, but it sounds like from what y'all said It's kind of the same But the reason why I went back is because it felt like it was over See if a woman tells a man her playbook Then he just gonna run the plays or he gonna know how to stop her plays But if a woman walks away And it feels like it's over Did that man got to deal with that? And he got to make a decision If he wants to swallow his pride of his ego and go back or if he want to keep it moving And a man who loved that woman Then he's gonna go back But almost every woman will have to leave a man In order to keep a man The reason being just the nature of a man is gonna push to the limit To see what can we get away with? Is it right? No Does it make sense? No But is it real? Yes Is it reality? Yes Is it the male mindset the male way? Yes It's been that since you see a little boy Whatever little boy, you know son nephew student Nine out of ten of them even the quiet nice ones gonna push the limits What can I get away with? Can I get away with asking for more candy because I'm quiet nice and sweet Can I get away with sitting in the teacher lap knowing nobody supposed to sit in the teacher lap? Can I get away with Going to the bathroom three times? Can I get away with throwing something in class and then apologizing? Can I get away with talking when I'm not supposed to be talking? Males don't push the limit And so when a woman walk away You got to walk away and you got to show a man that you willing to walk away in order to keep that man Because if that man feels like you not willing to walk away, he's gonna keep poking about He's gonna keep pushing pushing pushing pushing and he's gonna push until you look like you're gone And then if he love you And even if he don't love you He's gonna bring you back He's gonna beg you back And then how you know which one it is Is if he changes or if you look up in a couple weeks three weeks one month and he's still the same If you give a man another chance and in a month the three months time He's back on his old stuff That's when you know, he came back out of ego and not out of heart And that's when you keep it moving So, uh Taqira, thanks for asking that question. Let me see if I missed any of them I got taqira doing good in the recession. Everybody else like man loves taqira. Hey taqira. Hey, you got it Taqira, you got a file all throw a question up there. I ain't got it Tony what's your opinion on such such? He's a relationship. Ooh, that's not a serious relationship not married Um, I doubt him my rents. I don't know if you're a man or a woman But uh on my channel, we don't really I don't speak names And if you watch my videos, you'll see how I feel about people Without me even saying names, but I don't speak names because I'm in a mind. I'm of the mindset and from a place where You'll take a life about your name And so that's why I try not to speak name. I speak my mind But I don't like the director speak name because If I don't call you don't come for me because if you come for me Saw she wrote and so listen to me one thing about me is Are you wisdom and discretion? And sometimes people intuition is wrong Because it's some people who I don't know if they just say it for the comment So if they really believe it, but if some people say, oh, I think he cheating on his wife You see what I'm doing You see what I'm doing. I'm serving my purpose at 118 in the morning If I if I wanted to be cheating I could be offensive cheeks right now I'm doing the work of the lord My wife know what I'm called to And so she understand I don't do this every night. I don't think I ever did this, but it just I was up working taught a class and then after the class had to get the the audio uploaded to the Academy for the people who missed it And then it's right here came up mr. Tony my boyfriend and I were celibate and on track for marriage until he took a Stupid pill last week and I left could it be spiritual warfare? Yes, it could be I just was I just was seeing the news. I just saw the news about the brother um jonathan mages Which I speak name in certain situations like that because It's a big time public figure and it's a lesson that we got to learn from and it's also somebody that's not on this Hill ground level he over hold another stratosphere. So he really not paying attention to us but He he in gq He's in creed three He's in that other movie that I think marvel did All at the same time. He's doing all of this stuff and then now he's being accused of a situation with a young lady At at what appears to be his height Not to say he can't go higher But you always gonna be tested It's always gonna be tests like that and so You got to understand that and what you got to understand is no man will be perfect a man of god Man of god does not mean perfect Good man does not mean perfect and one of the things that I see that is very naive Of women is I will see women say oh a man of god would not do that A man of god wouldn't do this a man of god wouldn't do that a man of god will do everything But a man of god will repent and learn and grow and change But a man of god will do everything That a man who is not of god will do Because a man of god is still a man Who has who is making a decision? To serve god, but that decision has to be made every day And if he wake up a day and he don't make that decision that day He you won't be able to tell the difference between him And I ate this and on some days it's going to be atheist men that live better than a man of god And that's what I need women to understand Don't do not think that just because somebody say lord lord He ought he all of a sudden thing to be holier than thou No, he's still a man And he got to choose we got to make a choice every day Do you think that because I serve god I went blind? No ain't go blind Do you think because I serve god I just all of a sudden just every feeling in my body get turned off? No I still feel everything a man of the world feel I still see everything a man of the world see but I have to lean on the strength That I'm believing god asking god for To deliver me to show me the way of the escape when I face temptation From the adversary and that's what has to be understood And just like joyous I've seen several men that aren't men of god live way better than those that are believers And that's what you got to understand when a man start to claim god That's when he's going to be ushered into spiritual warfare Because a thief don't rob an empty vault So a man of god can can wreak havoc In The ill world For good Can wreak havoc against what the adversary is trying to do So when you look at the plan of the adversary If a man will marry And be faithful And raise healthy whole law-abiding citizens That man is then single-handedly changing the world Because that man's impact on them young ones that he's raising whether they adopt it Whether they come from his woman Serigate Whatever that man being in the home Healthy whole Healed focus That man is living a life of legacy. That man is living a life of purpose And that man can upend what the adversary trying to do Because the way he raised those young ins that's going to create a ripple effect Because they can go out into the world and they can impact people They can impact their classmates. They can impact the world at large. They can bring about a message They can bring about a message That's going to convict some spirits and that's going to Lead people to healing lead people to growth lead people to change I want you to understand when you look at the work that i'm doing And I hear from people I was just on a group coaching call and I said listen y'all don't thank me Don't don't don't use this time to thank me. I don't want to be put on a pedestal I don't want to be put before god. I don't want to be put in front of god instead. Thank god If something I say help you in your life. Thank god. Don't thank me So I don't even want to hear it make me feel uncomfortable because I realized i'm a man I'm a man. I could feel like any other man. Don't look at me as a savior and that's a problem That mostly women have Men we really don't believe anybody to be honest with you as pure as I live our life Most men online don't believe me Because we don't see enough examples in real life to believe me Why do you think me and Brother The brother that y'all Feel like is doing the right thing. Why do you think we ain't teamed up and did a tour? Because deep down secretly we still looking at each other with a side eye deep down secretly we still like When you gonna get exposed when you gonna get caught up Because I know these tests is out here And I know what I'm doing to pass these tests But I don't know if you cut from the same cloth as me. I don't know if you built like I'm built I don't know if you rocking with g.o.d. The way I'm rocking with g.o.d So let me wait a little bit Because guess what happened The brother who got exposed The relationship coach With all the muscles, we don't speak names. Don't put names in the comment because if it's a moderate on here, they're gonna block you The man who got all the muscles the relationship coach Who got exposed for cheating on his wife? Right before that came out I had just started to believe him For so long that man whole career. I didn't believe a word or respect the word that came out his mouth And then right when I said man He must be on this side He must be living right He must be doing the right thing boom The news break And you know what that honestly was God Because I was about this close to reach out to say hey, well let's collaborate man. Let's do us old tour And then boom The levies break I'm like I'm like Lord, I'm glad I didn't reach out and set up no tour And guess what? Before that happened The gentleman who Got the podcast Um, I think it's called tonight's conversation a conversation tonight him The other gentleman y'all mentioned who is a single man And then the married guy Who got caught cheating The guy with the podcast reached out to me on the email and said a we getting ready to do a tour Can you be on it? And I wrote back and said no on collaborate on do panels And the reason why is because God gave me discretion Because it got to look a certain way for me It got to look a certain way for me to the collaborate That the man got to be I got to see a track record I got to know That you really that you really on this side that you really bought this hill And I thank God. I ain't do the tour because it was after that that boom But it get exposed. So then guess what? When buddy got exposed I lost thousands Of followers online You know why because people said I'm done with internet relationship coaches I'm done with relationship coach. They all frauds. They all fake So then just because I teach on healthy love and relationship. I was locked in With another man sin with another man transgression. I suffered I had people when that came out that about that man I had people email in who students on my academy on tony gas's academy who email in and said delete my whole account Delete my whole account and do and guess what guess what? I ain't half the size of that man That man looked like he bodybuild Do you know still to this day people confuse me with him? I was on the real with the little podcast No for sure and I saw people in the comments Then he get caught cheating on his wife not long ago and he's still talking. I'm like I understand Asians and white people thinking that we all look alike But you got you ought to be slapped if you black and you can't tell the difference between two black men Like come on We don't look that much alike And and then let me tell you what somebody said Somebody came in the comments and said He was married to la toya lucky And got caught cheating and that marriage ended so fast or ain't listen to nothing. He's saying They confuse me with another guy I say this is a black woman Like black women recognize me from the back of my head Like when we was in the mask days black women was recognizing me. I'm like, how did you a black woman? And you confusing me with la toya lucky x When you could click on my page and see my wife So listen That's why I stayed to myself and I mind my business because I don't know what another man is doing With his free time I don't know what another man is doing behind closed doors So god gave him his message if he working for god and god gave me my message And when we stand before god, he's not going to say hey Oh, because you do this, let me have such and such stand with you and i'm a judge all together. No I got to stand before god by myself So that's why i'm gonna be word about trying to collaborate and click up and all of that and all everybody got their own message Carry your message because I don't want my legacy and I don't want my work to be tainted Because I want to team up to make money I want to team up just for money And then one person be guilty because look what we seen when we saw buddy Go down. What's the buddy name? um Not winestime up steam up steam when we saw up steam go down and They throw it up Bill Gates name this name everybody now now you guilty by association, bro If you were with this man and you went to one of these men parties Oh, you was in on what he was doing And you could have went because you didn't know that part of his lifestyle You could have been there because you just you were trying to reach him. That's your homie You're trying to save him. You're trying to help him come off that Cocoyena you're trying to help him come off that that that brown liquor or whatever it is He drank it too much and you're trying to be a supportive friend But because of what he was into now your name tainted And that's why I stayed on myself. That's why I do me And I won't be trying to do all that clicking up Because I don't know what another man doing is 24 hours all I know what I'm doing my 24 hours And if he's doing the right thing mobile to him God bless him that between him and God don't nobody know Don't nobody know what we do with our 24 hours between us and God And that's why I try to tell you don't put none of us on no pedestal And even when we say something when I say something you still got to talk to God And you got to look at your life And you got to see if it apply to your life because everything ain't no one size fits all and that's what you got to realize Now I'm gonna go ahead and get ready to get off here. I'm gonna read this other And here go the thing him is on him telling women by men telling women about men and this how women be now listen everything I say Is not absolute Ain't nothing I say is absolute So that already got to be understood But one thing a woman should not do Is when an honest man Is trying to get you the game You block your ears and I see the man in the comments who said that he said KS tried to tell y'all y'all they want to believe them now he this man is telling y'all the truth And y'all still don't want to believe them What does a man have to do To get a woman to believe him. That's what buddy wrote in the comments because he was like what he's saying is very true And then he see all the women. I don't agree. I don't agree. I don't agree So it's like so you finna tell me that me being a man and being around men unfiltered That you understand a man better than me That's like me telling a woman That I understand what it feel like to be a woman better than a woman That don't make no sense Me trying to tell a woman. Let me tell you what a peer feel like See what you got to understand about about being a woman and having a peer How would I look if I went to tell a woman about what pregnancy feel like about what a peer feel like So how ignorant is it For women to tell a man How men think And see that's right there is another trick of the devil That's why we can't even help That's why we just be ready to throw our hand up and be like, all right, just get hurt then Just get hurt then because I try to I try to help you. I try to tell you and you still just just get hurt Just go about your business And just the thing you know why I know because in the midst of me relationship coaching My loved ones the women in my family was still being treated like dogs You know why because women do not listen And I'm trying to tell y'all and this what this was going to hurt y'all feelings. I'm gonna tell you the truth You know, I as more male soldiers like I mean marching And and shooting Because men take orders Better than women If If a man actually is told something to do He's gonna do it But most women think with both sides of their brain and y'all too analytical for yourself So, you know what most of my coaching calls go like it goes like this Hey, Tony, um, I had to sign up for a coaching call I've been following you for 18 years and I watched all of your videos three times, but for some odd reason I still sung on the microphone meaning oral I still sung on the microphone on the first night and And then I'd be like that's what a lot of the calls go like And I'm like And then a lot of women will try to console me Tony some of us listening some of us listen. Yeah, you listening cuz you ain't been tested You listening cuz the right man Cain dangling ain't tested you Now when Cain dangling come test you Now, let's see. Did you really listen? When look ugly come test you oh, oh, it's easy to listen when look ugly come But when Cain dangling the man that you want the man who looked like tall dark and handsome like a glass of Cold water in the Sahara desert when he come Then you have selective hearing And that's the thing I'm tired of It's I'm gonna tell you why the Lord when I go play the power ball and have my little sin I only played it about three times I'll be trying to get out of this right here I'm like Lord. I need to hit that power ball. I'm going to an island. I ain't make another video the rest of my life Man, I'm wasting my bra. Man. You got my here doing this on wasting my dog own bra I'm out here is 140 in the morning I am the only relationship coach in the world that is on live pleading crying out in the wilderness at 1 40 a.m their time To not be listened to Lord, why did you call me to this because you could have called me to construction You could have called me to be a garbage man. I would at Lord call me to do something Then to be Just give him away the game Do not be listened to so here I am. I'm trying to tell the lady. I am and then here she go I don't agree with this Men do have women they truly love and because of their childish ways a woman leaves If a man make you leave him he did not truly love you He might have had love for you He might have cared for you But the truly love He's gonna come back He's not going to let you stay gone when when when a man make you leave meaning like you gone for good He ain't truly love you Man don't let nothing go Then he dates and meets other women and grows up, but he always thinks about the woman he couldn't get get it right for So here I'm is like Oh, okay. So Okay Okay, you got two breasts Okay, you got okay. You got a vagina Okay, you have you have here air month down here So tell me more about men Uh, ma'am, please tell me more about men Okay, okay, so You got a female mind Tell me more about the male mind, ma'am What where did you get this wrong? Where did you get this wrong? Because you heard a man say He think about this woman That he used to date. You know what they call that. You know what we have allowed that to be termed a soul tie It's just the mind recollecting the past The mind is on a loop Unless we go get some type of You know prayer and renewal The mind just on a loop That don't mean the man was in love. That's because he think about a woman from his past That means his mind is associating the smell. He just smelled This color he just seen the thing he just seen and it's recollecting Something from his past That's all that is So now here this woman is trying to tell me About the male mind Come on. Then he dates other women and grows up, but he always thinks about the woman. He couldn't get it right for He may go back and try to be with her But she's not trusting or having it so he has no choice But to go on and marry someone else because when she was ready he wasn't And that right there is the lie That 99% of women Tell themselves How do you think Jay Z Got Beyonce bike When a man want a woman He gonna do everything under the sun and that woman will not rest If a man just come back Hey, I really miss you and want to know can we talk? Yes, that's easy to ignore That's easy to ignore Because he says Hey, I miss you want to know can we talk the woman say, okay When Okay, give me a call Then as soon as he get on the phone Hey, I wanted to talk to you and just apologize for everything I did to you. I really been missing you. I love you So much but at the same time I want to tell you that you was wrong too and had you just Been submissive and just did what I tell you to do without thinking for yourself Then we would have worked out. He didn't come back because he loved you He came back to heal food he came back because of his ego You can't equate the two When a man come back for love He coming back renewed He coming back and the case that he make It's gonna make that woman calls in her tracks She don't I remember laying in the bed with my wife when she was my girlfriend And a woman that I had left called me and said I'm engaged to be married and I wanted to call you and ask you do you truly love me Because I want to know before I get married And I said to her Go ahead and get married Because I did not truly love her So this is how women are when you really real with yourself now because I'll be on the phone with women and I'll be ready to break everything I got I'll be ready to just uh, just throw everything because a woman be like a woman be like Oh, um Yeah, he you know He choked me till I was blue One time and I passed out And you know and then Another time he had his sister fight me And then I went back to him and he spit him a left iris And then he uh thunk me in the right pupil But Tony I'm gonna tell you the truth Tony If he'll do the right thing I'll be back with him. I'm not telling you no lie I'm telling you what I be hearing but the women who have all the strength Also have a man who really ain't trying for them He gave a little half effort Hey, I miss you but You need to stop being disrespectful and we could be back together So what you want to do? Of course you finna be able to keep on But if a man has been renewed If a man to change his heart change his mind change his ways He don't come back And that approach is gonna be irresistible and let me tell you why it's gonna be irresistible And this is what I want y'all to understand now when you look at examples You can look at your personal life and you're gonna see men Have left or got left and then came back and got that woman back How you think jz got Beyonce bike? How you think Ben Affleck got JLo bike? How do you think these men who don't broke up? 50 million times how you think jim jones? still with Christy Because she got a soft spot for how you think um fabulous Able to go back in and get Emily B Because if a man come back And he's saying the right things and doing the right thing A woman is created for love What a lot of people forget is that when god made eve he didn't make eve and say i'm creating this woman To be single and and by herself and independent Of a man her whole life He said i'm creating this woman To be a help me to the man That this man is not whole this man is not complete. He needs a woman And because she was created From his flesh that's why Women have a soft spot For a man that they have loved And if that man gonna get his life together and he's gonna do the right thing and he's gonna be consistent That woman want to be with that man She is just the curiosity to see Am i walking away am i leaving something and this is not what i think they just what i'm hearing This what i'm hearing so i'ma be i'ma tell y'all the truth When i coach a man i'ma tell y'all the truth When i coach a man It don't matter what he has done I tell him If you really commit to change She'll take you back And the reason why i tell him that is because that's what i have seen Thousands of times over and over and over again From your doctor women who are doctors women who are lawyers women who are scientists Women who are theologians women who are pastors women who are virgins women who are abstinent women who are Smart wisdom discretion Will take a man back if he comes correct And so it has been men that have come to me That have done some egregious thing and i say listen if you're faking She's gonna leave If you're faking she's gonna be able to tell And she's gonna go on about her business. She's strong enough to keep going But if you come correct And you truly change And you consistent with your change Y'all got a chance It's just what the evidence shows So one of your thoughts on a man saying legal marriage Is the work of the devil That he is the work of the devil That's my thoughts on it That he the work of the devil That's all that that's all that is Because god instructs us to be legally married if we it's say if If you can't abstain Then get married Because it's better to marry than to burn Oh, thank you. I'll tell you your God bless you So listen to him. So here go this later on here nice. You try to tell me about the me and I And no it's not settling it just wasn't for them And he will always have a special Place in his heart for that woman So actually Helped make him the man he is to whoever he married Because he learned you don't want to lose someone you love So i'm sorry. I can't agree with this because I hope men No women have choices too and just because you choosing me doesn't mean I have to choose you And that makes sense, but no woman Is going no woman has ever Not chose a man that she loves If he chooses her Women have walked away from men that they're not attracted to That they don't love But women do not walk away from a man who loves her if he loves And respects and chooses her women walk away from a man. She loves If he does not love her in return And I listen to she put this hill And got 57 likes Because it sound good It sound good And then somebody came 11 minutes ago And asked her interesting so question. How can a man with childish ways could have truly loved a woman who loved him? I see what you're trying to say about him growing up and realizing that he had a good woman and he messed up But that doesn't mean he loved her or Will love Or will love her whether she comes available or not and that's the the point right there that later missed is that a man Does not truly love a woman if He allows childish ways to push her away for good Like yeah, he may push her to leave But then he's going to get rid of them childish ways and go back And then a woman who loves a man is not going to leave and stay gone just because of childish ways She's gonna she'll stay gone because he put hands on that ain't childish ways Because he gave a disease that ain't childish ways Childish wage is Arging and debating about nothing Leaving the toilet seat up keeping it draws on the floor Coming in the house late saying you're gonna do something not doing it. That's childish ways A woman who loved a man and then he turned around and he loved her She ain't gonna leave that man over childish ways. She's gonna leave him over over real Situations physical situations with other women or against her and her body And that right there Is not understood Sometimes you have to have time because people don't really understand What the situation is and then something and the thing about it is is When you miss a single point When you miss a single point Then you can't really If you miss just one point Then you can make a whole argument off of a point That is a mute point or a moot point Because you miss the key thing Truly love And that's what we got to realize and when you get to that and uh Sweet art. I don't know if you're talking to somebody else, but you're talking to talking to me, but don't get blocked Because we don't hear doing the work No, I was typing I was typing y'all got to forgive me I was typing But see here's here's the thing The reason why I'll be addressing this Is because I truly care The reason why and see you just got to understand When you serve God What you'll notice Is When jesus said If I got the hundred sheet And one go astray am I to just Forget that one And just be happy with the 99 Or go try to get that one that went astray And so you have to understand that What I'll be going deeper on is It's really to take the change off of people mind Because if a woman is telling herself that If a woman telling herself that this man truly loved her And that she's the reason That he grew up and and this is this is the a misconception A man does not change and become a better man because of his ex He changes and becomes a better man because of his next so I didn't Change for my wife. I didn't change for my wife Because me and my ex broke up Because I was toxic with her I tried to come to my wife and be toxic with my wife But what my ex reinforced My wife shut down So I changed because my wife would not put up with what I was trying to brain So Men don't change for the ex The reason why it looked like Sometimes that oh so many women say I prepared him for love No He he learned from your relationship But he would not change If the next woman except the same things that that he was trying to do with you He wouldn't change He changed because the next woman Is you Meaning the same thing That he did To the last woman the same thing he did to you that made you leave him You learn a lesson and you say i'm fed up. This never happened again When he goes to the next woman She already owned that Because what he did to you She had a man due to her So she come in wiser and smarter And she doesn't reinforce what you and her Used to reinforce in y'all last relationship So what you reinforced with your man until you left him Is the same thing she was reinforcing with her man until she left him So when she gets your ex She now knows the game the same way you now know the game So when you meet the next man Who is who has a real man inside of him? And you now know the game because of what you done suffered what you had to walk away from You're gonna be on your peas and cubes and you're not gonna go through what you and your ex went through So now when you meet that man, you and him gonna get married Because of what you now know And that's why it works out with the next woman Because she now ain't putting up with what she used to put up with And now so it's reinforcing for him because he's like, oh this was my last woman left me for And this woman here when i'm trying to be toxic and get away without getting away with she ain't putting up with it So i'm gonna have to go on shut it down And this woman here Man, I love her. I love her because she ain't putting up with none of that. She's making me better She's making me better And he may looking at like the last woman, man, we went through the mud like we would just We were talking for each other. We were bad for each other Like I was the worst person because it was being reinforced and then when we just got to the breaking point We just broke And when it broke, I let it stay broke and then try to fix it because I realized we weren't meant to be That's a male mindset A man in mindset ain't I love her. I love her with all my heart. I love her with everything, but i'ma just let it be No, it's I don't love her that much Had feeling for her care for her had kids with all love them But I don't love her that much the change to go back the bed and start all over We got too much damage too much going on. I'm moving on with my life Because I ain't really love that I learned but I ain't really love Because men don't let go of what they truly love They're gonna fight to the to the death A man gonna fight to the death of what he truly love. He's not going to let go And I want you to look at how men do on their jobs how men do it They passion how men do what they purpose and I want you to realize about the male mindset that We do not let go of what we really love. We going to fight If we push you away We moving on till we get you back And so they so that's why women saying oh women have a choice. Yeah, you have a choice But what that man is going to do is he's going to commit his life to changing your mind So that your choice is to choose him And guess what if you really loved him and he really loved you When if he truly changes And he's consistent and he keep going and going and going showing consistency consistency effort effort effort And it's real love Then you're gonna choose that man Because love conquers love conquers all But if you If a woman walks away from a man And this man Completely changes and he comes back with every single thing And he is a changed man inside and out And that woman is able to say no What that also means is that she didn't actually really love him She liked him And it expired She had lust for him and it expired But if it is real love That's why the quote says if it's real love let it go And it'll come back If it's real love She's not going to be able to move on From real love if that love is being reciprocated It it you could look in the history of time you could look in the history But if a woman is really If you take and you really look at it And get to the root of it And say okay If i'm able to keep walking And the woman who commented this I I know man So I know she's speaking hypothetical Because men are programmed And she doesn't fit inside of a program that a man gonna fight for So if she was able to love a man and keep walking it's because he came with a half effort because If if he did her like that that let me know he's a program man And a program man He only gonna fight for a certain type of woman He only gonna fight based on Looks he gonna fight for this woman if he's a program man He only gonna fight for her if she fit what the magazines and the movies say He's supposed to go after He's not gonna fight with somebody that Don't fit inside of that if he's a program man Now a real man who got real love He's gonna fight for that And that's the thing Is when you see this happen And the reason why i'm saying this is because unlike Unlike the people in the comments I'm sitting on the phone For four to six hours a day with real people Listen to real relationship situations I'm in the trenches So I done seen thousands of times a high play out but unlike A lot of people in the comments that be on he'll post They just looking at a few little cases. They see in their neighborhood They're looking at one instance they had and they like But but don't even realize the mislabeling of the word truly love Or in love Don't even realize it Hey I got to go I done did this hill. I've been working Had to work this late Not long ago And um This hill rustle lord Lord oh rustle lord they're watching the videos for years and share them You've said saying some relationships are out of convenience and some are out of love You mentioned discernment is necessary for women being realistic and making sure to be a woman of standards That holds herself and others to account uh But I'm a surpriseer and Yes, as we said, you might be late rustle wrong boys men who Are not men who are the exceptions They'll get into a relationship For convenience to have somewhere to live to have somebody to pool their money with But that's not how men who are men like men who's going to love and be faithful A man who's gonna love and be faithful or never marry a woman out of convenience It never merit. It has to be loved in it And so if you pay attention to the men who say that Marriage is just a business move They either not marry Or the men who will never be never never be faithful to one woman Because a man who wants to love one woman He's only going to marry her if he loves her Otherwise he will stay single and be like apostle paul Pingle marriage for convenience Hey god bless y'all Body shutting down on me Do you believe god can tell you who your husband is? Yeah, I believe god can tell you I believe god can tell you But what you got to realize is god tell you if man is your husband He also gonna tell that man you his wife So that man ain't treating you like you his wife Then god not telling you that's your husband Because god ain't gonna set you up for pain God ain't gonna set you up for just pain. Yeah, you go through tough things But god ain't gonna god is not an author of confusion So When jesus about when jesus about to come out of mary he let mary know and he let joseph know And you just leave joseph in the dark let joseph know He gonna he gonna make it clear now Somebody say you are fighting for what you truly love now healthy relationship. This is your calling point blank period Look at shavon. I see shavon and took and tied this whole thing. Yeah She done took and tied this whole thing in And just proved my point Because i'm serious about what I do And that I can't let people under the sound of my voice go astray because your blood is on my hands So when I meet god god got to say why didn't you tell them? Why didn't you tell them the truth? To help them avoid some pain and some heartache and being stuck because that right there stuckness led them in the most end Why you ain't tell them? I got to be able to say lord. I exhausted everything. I told them every angle every story everything I could think of every Idea every analogy. I tried to tie it in I tried to Everything went live over at the two o'clock in the morning listen So this one i'm gonna try to tell y'all You i'm trying to tell y'all You have to know That love Love conquers all When a woman and a man operate from love No one or nothing will be able to tear them asunder What god puts together Let no man tear asunder You hear me god is love Love is of god Love does not fail Love does not quit Love y'all y'all always want to use Corinthian 13 so Don't try to don't don't want to use Corinthian 13 all the time And then Haru God bless you god bless you Send my cash out. I see it now. Don't try to use Corinthian 13 all the time And then on this right here want to say oh a man truly love But he dog me out and made me leave him No, they ain't what truly love does So hey, if you missed any of this what we've been an hour and 44 minutes. Okay almost two hours I'm about to break it down. I didn't see what time I got to be up in the morning. I sleep in tomorrow now Okay, good. I ain't got no call till 1 p.m Sleep in tomorrow Hey, so I thought you had to work late need to sleep in boy. You working for the lord? Hey It's all right go this to me now. I've been fast this year God bless you now Mm-hmm They do use in their movies now does not Chase Hit my type one now Aisha coaching coaching session on new counselor Hey, good night. Now, um, ashara gets some rest things also important marriage on with the same religion as yourself Is it will help the relationship? You're right Sometimes you got to work late and sleep in a man got to the main look at the main not the main One of the few brothers in uh, one of the few men in the blessed tribe Let me start back watching a video for real. Yeah, miss. Listen. You gotta let that devil get off your bike Better get that devil off your bike because listen Listen over here. We're doing real work now. We're doing real work and we're growing over here We ain't we ain't with that tom foodery We ain't with that tom fooder over here now. We ain't just bumping gums over here. We doing real work and we changing We changing and we growing we stretching we pressing we ain't with the tom foodery now Ain't ain't with all that like when I go home. I'm finna sit down I'm gonna wake my wife up when I go home and say hey listen, baby. You want to divorce me? Do you want to divorce me? And it seems like what what is you talking about? She's like, no, I'm like, hey, I'm just making show now. Let me know. Let me know what I need to do now Hey, let me know what I need to do. Let's hey, man. I gotta keep my marriage. You hear me? I got the word Yeah, my wife went and served me with the boy paper. Listen. Well, finna be you working. Yeah I'm finna be you working If everybody Go to laughing and clapping. I told you he was afraid. I told you he was a fraud. He couldn't even keep his own wife Then they don't have to eat all the words because listen. I'm finna move heaven and earth She gonna know but you know what? I have no plan. No intention and never ever would I consciously let it get to that place And i'ma tell you one thing. My wife she very independent So like when i'm up like this right here and i'm working. She don't even care She don't even care about that because she know what i'm called to and we've been married 16 years So it's like we ain't got to be sniffing each other booty like two little dogs that just met So it's like she understand i'm doing the work of the lord And that's why god gave me the woman that i have because i'ma tell you i coach some of the most beautiful women in the world And my wife she's probably had two moments of insecurity Like she probably had two moments of insecurity in 16 years. The way she said, whoa, that woman is It's pretty Like if she come on to you i think you're gonna fail i'm like But i just have to reassure her and let her know listen listen. It was a little loose booty I got a woman that Got low mileage. You think i want that one Come on. Yeah, she pretty but Oh Now ain't trying to back my car in that garage. I'm good Then i have to reassure and let her know like listen I'm not the type of man that uh, okay I'm trying to help I'm trying to help ain't trying to add to no trouble. I ain't trying to indulge in no trouble. I'm trying to help So it's been like two times that I had to reassure my wife and that's let me know that god Chose her for me Let me know that and and i'ma tell you and then she's also the type of person she's not gonna put up with nothing So when I got beside myself, I started acting a fool Then she stepped right on the feminine. She gone ahead and And let me know like hey I'm getting ready now. I'm gonna crank up. I'm finna go You better get right you better get right on finna go and then I had to realize Whoa, okay really back in hold on I got beside myself because what you got to realize whatever man is trying to live right and do the right thing Is we all gonna face spiritual warfare? That's why you see so many men and I want you to think about this. I want you to look around some of y'all know pastors Who is who can preach? I mean, you know pastor that could preach the pain off the wall But he went through a divorce And remarried and we know what the bible say about divorce and remarrying and all that stuff and what is grounds for divorce and he Never said that his wife committed adultery And a lot of times we know the woman didn't commit adultery. We know she ain't built like that Anyhow she is but yet we don't seem pastors go through the horse. You know why spiritual warfare Because of the platform that he holds the position that he holds The devil going to try and attack Anybody who got a good word that's gonna move people closer to God And the reason why he come to do that work Is because he's trying to upend what God has gone And what the adversary also will do Is plant The adversary will plant Impostors and the reason why the adversary plants imposters Is to make people believe In this person And then when this person fails People's faith fail with the person Because they put their hope and their faith in a man or a woman instead of in God And that's why I tell y'all don't put them on old pedestal don't praise me for nothing Don't thank me for nothing. Just get the message Get the message and know that i'm just a vessel just a conduit that What I say to you could be true Even if I was false Nah, I'm not gonna be false I ain't trying to work in that But here's the thing You could hear somebody say something That ain't living it and it still speak to you That's why the single relationship coaches have millions of followers Because the stuff they're saying is actually Benefiting people like it's teaching people it's helping people Even though they're not married They're giving relationship insight and advice and it's helping people so the people are saying hey I know this man or woman isn't married But what they're saying is food for my spirit like it's benefiting me. So i'm listening And that's the thing So that's what you got to understand is that's why you can't pedestalize The messenger Just get the message if it's for you and if it's not for you leave it because it's for somebody else And what you can't understand you ain't got to try too hard to understand it Because what's for you Going to be understandable And what's not for you You'll see it later when you get to that point in life hey uh God bless y'all and y'all see this here right here You know It's how late it is We got we got a tribe of people and this one trying to take the sign that the fact that we don't have 20 people on here 50 people on here. That's a sign that our world world is in need of real talk so Now plan to get out on the road in july and hit the major cities, maybe new york, alana, houston What's another one that I had on that list? New york, alana houston Maybe la or no, chicago That was my top four on facebook so If you're in that city or close by one of those cities, I might see you and what my tour gonna be lord willing I got them, you know get the money up for it But what the tour gonna be? Is a state of the union Life-loving business we're going to address where we at The trick of the adversary that's going on in society What we need to know And then what we need to do to win in life It is tony gas and god bless you If you're not in the growth club Make sure you join us. I might try to add the link in the description Or it's probably in my earlier videos on my other video. We had a call Which would be yesterday now My eyes on here red But that's also from the sun. I was in the sun for 40 minutes. It just that sweat and all that About red Hey god bless you The growth club We meet monthly And it's on tony gas and academy Always have new spots come open because you know people finances change each month And so sometimes that $47 is not in the budget And you know you're able to get out whenever you want to want to come back whenever you want to And uh So hey god bless y'all we'll talk soon