 So Jenny says, well he always has interest in me. We are having bonding every weekend and stay with me but I really don't know if he loves me the way I love him. He has responsibilities in his ex because he had a child. Yeah, I mean that's normal. Things like that happen all the time and you have to decide because that's going to be a part of his life and your life as long as the two of you are together and that's always going to be there and so if you want to find out more about what's going on have a real conversation. Real conversations are very valuable just having a real conversation about what's going on you know what's going on with him and his ex what's you know how is she what's she like all that kind of stuff is very very valuable to have a conversation with him about that kind of stuff and just find out what's going on because literally this is something that you're gonna have to deal with as long as you're with him and if you get married to him and you're with him she's not going away right his ex isn't ever going away she's gonna be here for a long time his kids might end up being raised and become adults and his ex is still going to be there and you might still have to deal with her and so it's not like that's going away anytime soon and so you need to figure out if this is a good situation for you to be in or not and have a conversation have real conversations about it so that there's transparency and you're not putting yourself into a bad situation and you don't know it and you know what you're getting yourself into beforehand it's very important that you know what you're getting yourself into as much as you possibly can in everybody's situation if you're watching this right now and this doesn't apply to you it does apply to you because you need to make sure you're always getting yourself into a good situation and a lot of times women don't they just look for clues and what's going on and and it's it's good to have real conversations and real conversations tell you a lot about a person they tell you about what's going on