 There's a lot of truth in the old saying that hurt people hurt people. What is up everybody? This is Chris from the rewired soul where we talk about the problem, but focus on the solution. And if you're new to my channel, what I like to do is take a look at what's happening in the YouTube community, take this mess and turn it into a message because there's always a lot that we can personally learn from these situations. So if you're into that stuff, make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell. And before I get started, I just want to let you know I am feeling good today. All right. I just made a video earlier this morning about kind of the self-care that I did yesterday for my depression. So check that out. But anyways, I'm feeling even better today because I just had a therapy session and God, I like, I always say like everybody needs therapy. Everybody needs therapy. And anyways, I just had a great therapy session. I might do a video about some things that we talked about, or I might just put up a video on Patreon or something like that. Anyways, like if you're struggling with your mental health and getting clarity and understanding like just what's going on with you, like give therapy a try. All right. Like I always say, I don't care how you get therapy or where you get therapy, just give it a chance. All right. So you can talk to your doctor, your insurance company, see if they can recommend a therapist, friends, family members, my therapist. Personally, I use better help online therapy. And I also have an affiliate link with them. So if you want to try it out, it's down in the description below. Basically what that means is that you get some affordable online therapy. You can message them whenever the heck you want, schedule phone sessions, video sessions, whatever it is. I do phone sessions and a little bit goes back to support the channel when you sign up. All right. Get you some therapy, girl. Okay. Anyways, let's talk about this situation. And I just wanted to discuss this because so I was watching the new spill video and spill. Oh, mwah. Best tea channel out there. Like the, the research and everything that goes into that. I have a theory about who's behind the spill channel. I might make a video on that. If you want me to talk about my theory, let me know in the comments below because I have one. But anyways, anyways, um, yes, they were, uh, she was talking about, you know, the Trisha Paytas, Nikocado avocado situation. So I'm going to link both the spill videos down below as well. Um, it's two parts, both of them are about 30 minutes each. But what I wanted to focus on in this video, because a lot of us can relate to this is still brought up the point that it's possible or very likely even that Trisha Paytas might have ghosted Nick because of what she had going on personally in her own life. And girl, I can relate to that. All right. So for those of you who haven't watched it yet, basically during that time, Trisha Paytas was going through some personal stuff with a relationship and everything like that at the same time that Nikocado avocado was in LA when she ghosted him. All right. And this is something that a lot of us can relate to. Like, I can tell you from personal experience when my mental health is not doing well, like I mentioned in the last video I did, like, I can get into a pity party. I can feel sorry for myself. I can feel bad for myself. And I just don't want any human interaction at all. And I can understand and I can empathize with Trisha Paytas of why she did that during that time. And it sucks. It sucks, man. Like, okay, you know what, screw it. I'll give you a prime example. I was in Florida in March for Playlist Live and I, I was there for an awesome event, got to meet some awesome people, but I was going through a lot of personal things during that time. One of my best friends and former roommates, he lives out there in Florida where I was and I was going to hang out with them while I was there. But I was just not in the mental space to do anything. And I kind of just zoned out shut out and everything like that. But what I'll talk about later in this video is what we do about that. All right. So the first thing is the first thing, although we feel that way and we don't want to talk to anybody. We might ignore calls. We might ignore texts or anything like that. Something that I found that is very beneficial for me and it might help you as well is to communicate it. Communicate when you are going through something. All right. Something that some of us struggle with is that we expect other people to read our minds, right? We expect other people to just know, to know we're going through something, right? Like, how dare they ask me to do this or that? Why don't they understand that I'm going through something? Well, the reality is if we don't tell people that we're going through something, how are they supposed to know? So communication is key. Like yesterday when I was dealing with my own mental health issues, like I communicated that with my girlfriend. I communicated that with my son. Like I told him, I said, Hey man, like I'm sorry, like I'm not as energetic today and I don't want to do all these things. Like I'm going through it today. And when you communicate that with people, like believe it or not, like a lot of them are understanding and very compassionate. And when you look at the situation with Trisha Paytas and Nika Kato Avocado, like think about what could be avoided, right? If she would have texted me back and said, Hey man, I'm really sorry. I know you're in town, but I'm just going through a lot right now. I can't do it. Like just picture that for a second and imagine how this situation would have turned out if that was communicated, right? So for you personally, like I understand we all have our days and we all have our ups and downs, especially if you're somebody like myself who struggles with depression, who struggles with anxiety. We don't know when it's going to come. We do not know when it's going to hit, but something that we should be doing is training ourselves to reach out and let people know that we're not OK. One is so that they understand that if we lash out or if we do something different like ghost on them or something like that, like they know it's not them, right? Like you saw this in Nika Kato Avocado's like text messages. Like is it me? Is it something that I did? And during that time, during that time, it had nothing to do with it. It doesn't seem like it had anything to do with Nick. And that's my opinion on that situation. But when I communicate this or when you communicate this to other people, they know that it's not about them because, girl, we are some very selfish, self-centered people, right? When somebody acts a certain way towards us, we think we did something to them. What did I do? Why are you angry at me? When the reality is that it could be something completely different going on. So that's why it's important that we communicate this to people. Now, now there are going to be times when we are just really deep in it and we're not going to adequately communicate that to people like it happens. There's going to be days when we don't answer calls, when we don't answer texts, whatever it is, because we're going through it. Like when I when I talk about my pity party method, like I give myself X amount of hours to just sit and just feel bad for myself and feel sorry for myself and all of that. And then I get into action for other people, like depending on how, you know, you've been actively working on your mental health, you might need an entire day or whatever it is, just no calls, no texts, no nothing, whatever that might be. But something that I've learned is out of respect for the other people in our lives, whether it's in our personal lives or in our business lives, is letting them know and apologizing for it, right? Like getting back to them and saying like, hey, I'm sorry I didn't get back to you yesterday, right? I'm sorry I didn't return your texts. I'm sorry I didn't return your call. And depending on who that is, who that relationship is with, like obviously it's going to be different if it's like, you know, a coworker or like, you know, a best friend or a family member. Like you can gauge how much you're going to tell them. But like if it's a friend of mine, I'll say, Hey, I'm sorry I didn't get back to you yesterday. Like yesterday I was having a really rough day. You know what I mean? Like if it's like a coworker or somebody else or you ain't got a relationship like that, you can just apologize for not getting back to them that day. And listen, I am all for honesty and everything like that, but there's a certain amount of information that we might want to keep close to the chest. So in these situations, like I don't think it's a huge deal if you say, Hey, sorry I didn't get back to you yesterday. I was really busy. Like you don't have to tell them all of your mental health issues that you were dealing with if you don't have that type of relationship. But I think it is important to follow up with people and apologize to them if you did not get back to them. Like this is just a part of training our own personal responsibility, our own personal accountability and just letting people know if not, they might believe that we're going to do this over and over and over again. And then what happens is, is that their, their opinion of us really starts to change and then we get confused as to why, but if we look at our past, it's because we didn't apologize for where we went wrong or what we screwed up. So again, this video, this video is mainly for you. These are things that I've learned and I hope some of these tips can help you out as well. But I just really want you all to sit back and think about that this for a second. Like in the context of the nicocato avocado and Trisha painted situation that most of you have been following, just imagine, imagine for a second, a couple things. Imagine if when Nick was in LA, if Trisha said, Hey, sorry, like I have some personal stuff going on. Imagine what the outcome would have been. And even if that didn't happen, imagine if days, weeks, heck, even months later, if Trisha would have reached out to Nick and said, Hey, sorry, I kind of ghosted you while you were in town. I wasn't really doing too hot, you know, whatever it is. And that doesn't even mean that you would have had to reschedule a collab or anything like that. But think about what that would have meant to Nick. Had she done that. All right. Like there's so many things that we're watching on YouTube and we're watching all this drama going on. We're just passively watching it, right? But I want you to take a look at your own life and reflect and say, OK, what can I learn from this? How can I improve my relationships? How can I improve my life? How can I improve my mental and emotional well-being based on the situations that I'm watching? Because all of us deal with this type of stuff. So there's definitely a lot that we can learn from each one of these situations. All right. But anyways, that's all I got for this video. If you like this video, please give it a thumbs up. If you're new, make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell because I make a ton of videos. And make sure you follow me over on Instagram and Twitter at the Rewired Soul. Also, a huge, huge thank you to everybody supporting the channel over on Patreon. You're all amazing. 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