 The narcissist treats others better than you. The narcissist is a completely different person behind closed doors. They will do everything for strangers. But they won't do that for you. They will treat other people like they're very special and important. But they will treat you like garbage because they want to invalidate you. They want you to feel worthless. They want you to feel like you're worth less than everyone else, which is very unusual behavior. It's very confusing because you are the closest person to them. They should be treating you better than everyone else because you're doing everything for them. You may even be doing too much and it just makes you feel like a fool. It's embarrassing because you're doing all of this stuff for them and they don't appreciate any of it. They're too busy focusing on the morsels of kindness they get from people they don't even know and people who don't know them because that's the main difference between you and those other people. You know the narcissist. You know who they really are. You know what they're really about. So they don't see any purpose in treating you well because they know it's not going to change how you see them. They know you're onto them. They also know that they already have you. They know you're not going anywhere because they figured you out. They figured out what makes you tick. They already know that you don't like it when they treat other people better than you and that is why they do it. That is why they ignore you while being kind and friendly to everyone else. They do it to invalidate you and they also do it to isolate you because while you're with the narcissist you're giving everything you have to them. You're investing all of your time, money and energy into them. You're investing all of your goals, dreams and aspirations. You're trying to build a future with this person so everything in your life revolves around them but they never do that for you. They never share anything with you. They make false promises. They future fake. They lie and promise something about your possible future in order to get what they want in the present. They tell you that this is future waiting for you to keep you around, to keep you putting out so that they can keep having a good time. They can keep living for free. They can keep indulging freely in their pleasures while you're doing all of the work because they've led you to have high expectations for something that's never going to be a reality. While they have high expectations for you in the present moment but while you're putting in all of this work and trying to meet their unrealistic demands and expectations they're looking for new sources of supply. They're looking for other people to replace you because they know you're on to them. They know you're eventually going to figure them out and they know that once you realise they're not about anything you're not going to want anything to do with them. They are opportunists. They see people as opportunities and they take advantage of every chance for success without thinking about the consequences that it may have on other people which is why although you may be the closest person to the narcissist you are the one who gets abused. They treat you worse than everyone else while they treat other people better because those people don't know who the narcissist really is and when the narcissist talks to an unsuspecting person it's like they've found their shiny new toy they've found something to play with something that brings them amusement and enjoyment so they will charm this new person they will try to attract them in the same way that they did with you when you first met them but now they can't do that with you because now you already know what they're about you know they're fake you know they're not about anything for real so why would they waste their time being good to you when you know it's all bullshit when you know they're not really about anything they will save all of their energy and enthusiasm for someone who doesn't know what they're about someone who is unsuspecting someone who believes in the illusions of the narcissist's false self and this person will eventually be another person that they abuse they will eventually be in the same position that you are now in and the narcissist is also doing all of this to invalidate you to make you feel worthless to make you feel like you are less than the other person they don't want you to have any confidence in who you are they don't want you to believe in yourself they want to break you down everything you're getting from the narcissist is exactly how they want it to be they're quite comfortable with the situation and that is why they're not making any effort to change it because they're quite happy with how things are they have no desire for things to change they enjoy having you to abuse behind closed doors but they know that eventually you're going to get fed up you're going to walk away or they're no longer going to have any use for you after they've destroyed you and that is why they're always treating other people better than you because they're constantly searching for their new supply they're constantly looking for someone to replace you someone who doesn't know who they are because they're looking to take resources from someone who is unsuspecting someone who doesn't know what the narcissist is about to do to them they can't do that with you because they already know you're on to them but they will charm other people in front of you they will delight, attract and fascinate other people and it will blow your mind it will confuse you because you will wonder how they can be so kind and friendly to other people when they haven't talked to you for days they haven't made any effort with you and yet they're able to be so involved with someone they just met at a restaurant or at a mall they're being really nice right in front of you while they're being really quiet with you because they're trying to triangulate you with this other person so they will flirt with other people right in front of you they will do it at a restaurant on your birthday or on Valentine's Day because they want to ruin it for you they want to feel like they're better than you and they want to get attention from someone who doesn't know who they are someone who doesn't know what they're about someone who may not even realize that you were together because it would be very shocking and disrespectful for someone to treat you like that when you're supposed to be together but the narcissist treats others better than you because they don't need to treat you better you already had your time with them they treated you better in the first few weeks that you were with them that was the love bombing, the honeymoon phase and its only purpose was to trap you so once they've trapped you they don't need to do that anymore which is when they will begin to devalue you and then they will treat complete strangers better than you and that's just something that's never going to change because there's no reason for them to treat you better they know it's only a matter of time until you figure them out or until they discard you and they need a new person to make them feel better so they will find people who lack awareness and experience people who are naive people who are gullible and over trusting and those people will be stripped of everything they have and then the narcissist will just do the same thing all over again the cycle never ends thank you for watching I hope this video resonates with you please like, comment, share and subscribe if you would like to donate my paypal link is in the video description coaching inquiries you can email me at coachedart.com thank you for watching and I'll talk to you soon