 Hello everyone. Welcome to another NARC's Firely Live video. As you can see today, I am out by the beach. As the title reads, yes, we are going to be talking about stalking in this one. We're going to be talking about why the narcissist stalks you. Because clearly, yes, if you've clicked on this video, it has been a bit of a problem for you. You're tired of this person, they're constantly on your case. That's not to say that you were being mean, or that you're trying to push them away. You gave them so many chances already, but they mistreated you, they abused you. And of course you did the right thing by shutting them out. Because as I always have said in my videos, you should not tolerate abuse or disrespect. If someone does that to you, yes, you should get rid of them. But the problem that we have in these relationships is that even when you're trying to move on, it doesn't mean that they can move on. And yes, they will try to come back to you, or they may even try to stalk you behind the scenes. But either way, whatever they're doing, it gets to a point where pretty much everything they do, everything they say, it just becomes very irritating. Because they're not getting it, they're not understanding that you just want to be left alone. You just want to be left in peace. Especially those of you I know, if you're an empath, you may be quite a sensitive person. You may not enjoy excessive stimulation. And yet you've got this person who's constantly texting you, they're constantly blowing up your phone. And they may be following you around in person as well. And all of these things that they're doing, it's just really irritating you. Because you don't want anything to do with them. You just want to be left alone. But it's like they're not hearing you. You're not getting through to them. It's not making sense. And the reason why is because they actually don't care about how you feel or what you want. They don't even see you as a separate person with their own feelings and needs. They view you as an extension of themselves. So they expect you to feel how they want you to feel. And to want what they want you to want. As though you're like a puppet on a string. And they're also very envious of you. And jealous too. They have this desire to take something away from you. And not only that, but they feel like you're taking something away from them. Because you may not know it. Yes, you do possess this amazing energy as an empath. And it is very powerful and influential. It may often be drawing them in without your conscious knowledge. It's having a powerful effect on them. And they want some more of that. They want to get closer to you. So that they can participate in that. So that they can consume it and enjoy it. And let it become a part of them. But the reality is that even when they do that, they're still not satisfied. It just agitates them even more. It's never enough for them. And yes, that is why they keep coming back to you. Even though yes, they may have a new supply. They may be strangling you with this other person. But yet they still come back to Hoover you. They're still stalking you. They're still watching you. Because they're never satisfied. If they were satisfied, maybe they would just leave you alone. By recognizing what you want. By recognizing that you don't want any more of them. But their envy really overrides any empathy that they would otherwise have for you. So they're left with this inability to share your feelings and experiences. And there really is no way that you can get through to them. Because as I said, they're not exactly grounded in reality. They don't even see you as you actually are. And instead they have this fantasy. It's this thing that they've made up in their heads about how you want exactly what they want from you. As though you're on the same page. You desire the same things. It's all just this fantasy. And this fantasy is what they want from you. Which is why if you're around them, you can't even have a normal conversation with them. It always just becomes this shared fantasy. And at times it may seem like they're crazy. A lot of them really are psychotic. They're not grounded in reality. Which is why you may find yourself resisting them. You're constantly trying to move away. But when you do that, they just get closer. Because believe it or not, that actually makes you even more attractive to them. It's the opposite for them. For us empaths, we desire when only when someone desires to be close to us. And when they treat us right. Just as we would want to do for them. But with narcissists it is the opposite. When you pull away, they chase after you. They love you most when you've got one foot out the door. So what can help sometimes is just to get them a little something. Let go of your resistance even if it's just for a moment. And try to act crazy just like them. Give them a taste of their own medicine. It may replenish them for a moment. It may keep them off your back. But that's really as good as it's going to get. All it's ever going to be is an illusion, a shared fantasy. It's never going to be anything more than that. So you can let go of the resistance for a moment. Give them a little something. But yes, then you do need to pull away. Because it will get very dangerous for you. Before you know it you will be caught up in all sorts of things that you don't even like. You won't even know who you are. You will lose your sense of self. You will lose your identity. And you may even end up getting involved in drinking alcohol, drugs. Going places where you wouldn't normally go. Being around people who you normally wouldn't even be involved with. And it's all because you entered this shared fantasy. To where it becomes shared psychosis. And I know at times a lot of you, yes, you may have felt like you're going insane. Because you're being gaslighted. You're being caused to doubt your own memory, perception and sanity. And that is no good for you. Because when you look at it, I mean let's keep it real, let's be honest here. The reality is that this person is undesirable, unwelcome and attractive to you. They're just not someone that you want in your life. I mean maybe it will be a different situation. Although of course it would never actually be me, but if I was your stalker. If I was the one following you around. Maybe we could actually make something happen with that. We could actually be friends, who knows. Because the difference is, this narcissist is someone you do not want in your life. They bring nothing of value to you. All they're doing is taking things away. And maybe you're fed up with that. You don't want things to be taken away from you. You don't want to be gaslighted. When they come around you, that's all they're going to do. You are a whole and complete person. So that you think that you're less than who you actually are. And you need someone else outside of you to complete you. And as I said, that is all that you're ever going to get from them. Because otherwise you're going to wake up and realise that actually yes, there is no place for them in your life. But of course they don't want you to come to that conclusion. Which is why of course they're going to stop you from doing that. They're going to stop you from moving on. They're going to keep trying to come back to you. They're going to keep trying to hoover you. To try to convince you that no, maybe you got it wrong. Which is why I am here to tell you that no, you didn't get it wrong. You were right all along. This person that you're dealing with is actually no good for you. They are not someone that you should want around you. They are not someone that you should want in your life. Because just look back at what they've already done to you. Do you really want more of that? Do you really want more abuse, more mistreatment? More reality twisting, more gaslighting? Of course I already know that is not going to be any good for you. And in fact it's only going to further mislead you. It's going to make you lose touch with yourself and your reality. And then you're going to enter this other world, this fun house full of confusion. Where you don't even know which way is up. And of course that is not what I want for you. I do not want you to enter that world again. Which is why I have to get on here and make these videos. It is why I have to do this. Because otherwise you will get wrapped up in the gaslighting and the confusion. And you're going to think that you're losing your mind. Because that's typically what happens to everyone. You get involved with these narcissists. They're all encompassing, they're suffocating. And you start to lose yourself. You start to forget who you are. And you start to pick up all of these things. But you never wanted anything to do with, to begin with. You never wanted to be involved in the things that they were displaying and portraying to you. You were on to something else until they came around. And then they pulled you into all of these things. Where it may be the opposite, maybe you lost all of your passions and interests. All of the things that meant something to you. All of the things that made you who you are. You lost all of that. And now you don't even know who you are. Which as far as I said, the best thing you can do is just to go no contact, block them and everything. Don't let them persist to be a constant influence in your life. Because all they're going to do is pull you away from yourself. And that is never going to be any good for you. And it is the only thing that they will do. It's never going to be any different than that. It's only ever going to be shared psychosis. They can only share what they have with you. They can't give you something that they don't even possess. And that is actually a very unrealistic expectation for us to have of them. Just get into the car here. It is beginning to rain. Like it got back just in time. Yes, but this is why they stalk you. They're envious of you. And it's crazy how they come around and they triangulate you with their new source. They try to make it, they twist it around as though you're envious or jealous of them. And some of you, you might actually get pulled into it, but you've got to take a step back and realize, hold on a minute, why are you even coming around me in the first place? And of course it's because they decide to take something from you. Because they can't be satisfied with themselves. They can't be satisfied with anything in life. So they're always going to be on your case. They're always going to be trying to come back. And you just need to realize that no, you don't need them. They're not going to bring anything of value to you. They don't have anything of value of their own. So all they can do is take. And that's just that the longer you spend with them, the more your value is going to go down. The more they're going to manipulate and gas like you, they're going to pull you apart from yourself. And then you will see by the end of the relationship or however many times they come back to hoover you, you will see that they begin to become more and more like you. It seems as though they're becoming more grounded, more comfortable, happier, more sane, more in control of their emotions. While it's having the reverse effect on you, you may find that you're becoming more destabilized. You're losing control over your own mind, your own thoughts, your own emotions. And you're becoming less and less like yourself. You're thinking and feeling things that you would never normally think or feel in a normal situation, which is how you should know that yes, they're making you more and more like them. You're becoming less and less of yourself the more time that you spend around them. So yes, be very careful when they stalk you because it will have a damaging effect on you. It will affect your identity and your sense of self because they have to take pieces of yourself away from you to replenish themselves. As people have said before, yes, they actually want to be you. They desire to be just like you, they envy you. And that is why they come back. They come back to take more bits and pieces of you, more of your energy. So yes, this is it. This is why they stalk you. And I am very sorry for anyone who has to go through this. It's a horrible experience. I have experienced it myself. It's not nice when you're being stalked by this person who you do not desire for them to be around you. You don't want them anywhere near you. And yet they keep chasing after you. They won't leave you alone. And while doing that, they just become even more agitated. They're just constantly on your case. And you may find it's like wherever you go, they always have to be there. They show up at your house at your work. They follow you around. Maybe they contact your family or friends. It's like they just want to be completely immersed in your life to have control over you so that you can't get away. And of course they have to do that because they already know you want nothing to do with them. Of course they already know that. If that was not true, then why would they be so controlling of you? They would let you just think and decide for yourself instead of having to be a constant and persistent influence in your life. So yes, of course, deep down, of course they know you do not want anything to do with them. And you're watching my videos because you want to learn more about what you went through so that you can protect yourself from them in the future. Or maybe from other narcissists as well. Because yes, these narcissists are everywhere, they're all over the world. And I actually had a very negative experience myself today in a Buddhist temple. Those of you who may know, I do enjoy visiting Buddhist temples. I've been doing it for over four years now. I really value the Buddha's teachings. And yes, I visited this temple. It was in Na Trang, in Vietnam. And it was very strange. I was being followed around by a few people. And I was trying to pray and just participate in the temple. And they were coming to me and telling me not to pray. I tried again. I said, you know, there's nothing wrong with praying, but they just didn't want me to do that. They seemed very envious of me and my spiritual connection. As many of you may know, yes, I am very spiritually connected. And yeah, it bothered me. So I just dropped the jaw sticks and I just walked out. Of course, I'm never going to go back there again. I don't want to put myself in that type of situation. But yeah, these monks are everywhere. Of course, they are in spiritual communities as well. Whatever your beliefs may be, you may find them in the mosques, in the churches. They are everywhere. So you do need to be very careful. And actually just Vietnam in general, it's not really the safest place. And I wish I didn't have to say that, but you know, I have to say the truth. I've been to a lot of countries and I normally have quite an enjoyable experience. But Vietnam, people are very loud, very noisy. It's almost like completely boundaryless. They will get right in your face when they're talking to you. They will touch you and think nothing of it. There's just no personal space. The roads as well are also very dangerous. There's a lot of bikes everywhere and they're all over the roads, sometimes going in the opposite direction. So, but yeah, I have had some good experiences here as well. I mean, as you may have seen in my past videos, some of the rooms I've had are really nice. The beaches as well are amazing. I actually really enjoy the Vietnamese food too. And I'm still here for a few more weeks. So, you know, I'm sure there are a lot more good things to see. I shouldn't really judge my entire experience just yet. So I can't really say whether or not I would recommend coming to Vietnam. I mean, there are definitely some things that I have enjoyed, some things I haven't. As many of you may know, yes, I do enjoy, I did enjoy Malaysia, Sri Lanka, South Korea, Japan. Those were all definitely very memorable places. But yeah, Vietnam so far, I don't know. I mean, one of the main reasons I came here was for the temples. Of course, my experience today kind of put me off. It's like they didn't even want me to pray. But at the same time, I saw other people praying right next to me. And no one said anything about that. So yeah, that wasn't a good experience. If you're coming here for the temples or to drive around in cars, might not be the best idea. The roads are very safe. For the guys, if you're coming here for the women, I don't know if maybe you have an Asian fetish. I know I do myself. But I have been to Sri Lanka, Malaysia, Japan and South Korea. I met quite a lot of beautiful women there. Had quite a good time, especially in Sri Lanka and Japan. The women there are very modest, they're very humble, very kind and easy to talk to. But Vietnam, to be honest, feminism is quite widespread here. The women are quite arrogant, quite narcissistic. I had this belief before I came here that they were going to be quite modest and humble, but that's not the case at all. Not like in Sri Lanka or Japan. So if that's what you're looking for, you're looking for an exotic Asian woman to love and care for you. Just as you might want to love and care for her. So far, my experience, I don't think you're going to find that here in Vietnam. You might find another foreigner, maybe a Russian woman. A few good things about them. If you are looking for something more exotic Asian, I'm not really so sure about that here. I mean, I myself, my experience, of course, as you can probably imagine, I have met hundreds, if not thousands, of women around the world, 34 still single. Probably as a result of my past experiences in narcissistic relationships. But yeah, I have met a ton of women around the world, especially in Asia here. I haven't really met any humble or modest women in Vietnam. So up until now, I wouldn't really advise that. But as for the food, Vietnamese food is really good. I've enjoyed it a lot on the beaches, as I said, but I guess I have spent a lot of time in the cities. And as we know, the cities aren't really the best place to be. I am going more towards the jungle. I think first I'm heading up towards Hanoi. Not sure what that's going to be like yet. But yeah, I give things a chance. I don't know if any of you here have been to Vietnam yet or any Asian countries. Let me know down below. What was your experience like? Any places you enjoyed? Any places you would go back to? Real Deal Prime says just here in Canada. I'm not sure what Canada's like. I've never been there. I would imagine that it's quite cold. Classy Cards then says no, but I met a nice guy from Korea here in the US some years ago. Yes, I've been to South Korea. The guys there, yeah, they are very kind, very nice people. The good guys had a great time there as well. And also Japan. I just really admire and respect the Far East Asian cultures and traditions. How in many places they still manage to uphold their traditions. You know, despite all of these other influences in the world, all of the social media, all of these things. So yes, I really admire and respect that. Anything traditional, anything cultural. Angela says, oh yes, Japan almost 15 times. South Korea once. Thailand was cool. Japan is my favorite. Sounds like you really enjoy Asian countries as well. Maybe you like the food. Or the beaches. Or is it the Asian men you're into as well? Yes, I just enjoy everything about Asian countries. As you may know, I am actually half Sri Lankan myself. So that's why I enjoy going to Sri Lanka as well. But yes, overall, I have been having a good time. I was in Malaysia for over one year. Sri Lanka was there for about six months, maybe more. So that's where I've been spending most of my time. I just really enjoying the cultures and traditions that they have. Traditional foods. Of course, we don't really have these kinds of things where I'm from back in the UK. So it's nice to see that. But yes, I'm leaving this city tomorrow. Driving up. Going to explore more. And despite my experience today, I am still looking forward to it. Of course, I don't want to let just one experience define everything. So yes, that's it. This is why the narcissist stalks you. Again, sorry for anyone who is going through that. I know it's not nice being stalked, being harassed, receiving this unwelcome attention, especially once you've begun to move on, you've begun to heal. Of course, these types of things are not going to be attractive to you anymore. You're not going to want to be around narcissistic people. But unfortunately, that's the only thing you're going to get because they're not going to heal. They're not going to become better. The only one who can do that is you. You have to heal yourself. You have to move on. Cut them off, go to contact, block them and everything. Let them find someone else. Let them move on with their new supply. I mean, I find it strange sometimes. It's like as soon as they find their new supply, they've got to come around and triangulate you with them. It's like, do you actually want this person or not? Because that's all that it should really reveal to you. It's like if you're so happy, you're so satisfied with them. Why do you keep coming around me? Of course, they don't think the way that we do. They're just all about themselves. And clearly, yes, if they are stalking you, they're hoovering you. They are not satisfied with their new supply. If they were, you would never see them. You would never hear from them. You wouldn't even know that they exist. They would be very quiet about it. So despite what they're trying to tell you or show you, let that tell you everything you need to know. If they're still coming around you, they're still stalking you. They're not happy. They're miserable. Just as miserable as they were when they were with you because they can never be satisfied with anything. And they're going to continue to be that way. So just leave them be. Let them move on. Forget about them. Don't get involved. Let them do what they're going to do. They're never going to find happiness. They're never going to be satisfied with anything. But you will be if you're a true empath. You will be satisfied just by having peace on your own. And that may be the only thing that you want. And I do hope that you will find that for yourself. So that you can heal. You can become better. And then one day you can find someone. As I've said before, someone who loves the way that you love. Someone who will care about you the way that you cared about the narcissist. Just imagine someone with that type of energy. Just picture it in your mind. Visualize it. Because that will instantly raise your vibration. Because that is real love. That's exactly what love is. It's acceptance. And you accepted the narcissist. You cared about them probably more than anyone they had ever met in their entire lives. So just imagine someone giving you that unconditional love. That acceptance. That's real love. Visualize it. Enjoy it. Better bring you peace. Better help you to forget about this toxic, abusive, manipulative person. Because that's all that they're going to be. And you deserve so much better than that. You deserve so much more than someone who's just going to bring you down to their level. And make you feel small. They're just going to take your power away from you. Which is why if they try to hoover you, you have to shut that door. Block them out. Don't let them come anywhere near you because they're no good for you. They're of low value. All they can do is take your value away. That's just what it is. It's negative energy. It's not designed to bring anything of value to you. All they're going to do is take. They can't give you what you want. You're never going to get that from the narcissist. But you can get it from yourself. Learn to love and appreciate yourself. Practice gratitude. Something a narcissist is never going to do. Because if they actually did that, if they did actually practice gratitude and appreciation for themselves and their own lives, maybe then they wouldn't be so bad. Everything they do, it comes from dissatisfaction. And when you're around someone who is constantly dissatisfied, you may begin to feel that way as well. It will begin to affect you until you get away on your own. Then you will feel more at peace. So yes, of course I advise for them to not come around you. To not come anywhere near you. Because it's not going to be any good for you. What you need is some time alone. You may feel lonely. But you can watch one of my videos or other YouTubers as well to remind yourself of why you should not want these people in your life. They're only going to bring you down. They're only going to weigh you down. They are never going to lift you up. They can make it seem that way in the beginning. Remember that is the love bombing. That is the manipulation. Any narcissist can do that. But it's only for a short period of time. They're just reflecting your own energy back to you. Your own virtues and ideals. But it's only ever going to be lies and future faking. You've got everything you need within you. Trust your internal compass. Your gut instinct. Your intuition. These things will never lead you the wrong way. They will tell you everything that you need to know. So yes, that's it. This is it. This is why narcissists stalk you. I do hope it helps those of you who are in this situation. You've got a narcissist who won't leave you alone. And if this video has been helpful to you, you can give it a thumbs up down below. Let me know your thoughts as well in the comments section. And as always, yes, I will be back with another video very soon.