 Hello everyone out there in internet land. You're one of the most learned people I know. But you didn't start out that way. You grew up in a country where there wasn't a lot of information. How did you learn about sex growing up? Anyone from the tropics third world, there's not a lot of privacy in the third world. Like you fart in your house, down the street nose. Hey look, Brian just farted. So you can hear. Of course, coming from that, your son of sex is just getting on. Hammer hammer hammer hammer done. Get up. Do you see your mom have sex? No, actually my mom called me once and said, Brian come and see what your dad's doing. And I see my dad got off with his giant bull balls dangling between his legs walking away. But I've never seen that actually. No, actually he just by somebody came up. He got off and walked away. Your mom? Yeah. Why would you look all you into the room? The thing is, no, the thing is for me, right? It's like, I believe that sex is nothing magical. It's a part of what we do is eating, shitting, fighting. It's a biological function. It's something that we've been programmed to feel ashamed of. And why you've been programmed to feel ashamed of that is a form of to control you. And to say, you know, the major part of who you are is wrong, sinful, evil. You need to be saved. I've always said this jokingly. Our children education is lacking because there is nowhere to teach him about something that's very important, which is sex. How to do it, what you're doing, what you're doing wrong. Okay. So I'm curious then because I feel like when I was growing up and first being sexually active, this wasn't the attitude that you had. No, my attitude's changed. But no, it was always been my attitude. But my attitude is what I was angry at you for for being unsafe. Because as you can recall, you asked me a question. I always gave you an answer. I didn't waffle. I didn't do anything. But what I didn't realize is that, you know what? I have the right information, but I make the wrongest decisions. Whereas I didn't apply that to you going, okay, you have the right of information, but you will still make the wrong decisions. Well, I lost my virginity at 16, which is the average age that you're supposed to. You lost your virginity at how old? I don't know if men can lose their virginity, but the first time I entered vagina was 11. They're crazy. She was 14. Do you have condoms available to you? Of course. Well, nothing Guyana, but... No, no. The pullout game was strong. One side, I think 12, 13, you always took precautions. You always looked after yourself, so it's a safety thing. Can you imagine what your mom found out? My mom was the one who called me saying, Brian, look what your dad's doing. And don't forget to, in the tropics, there's no... Well, there wasn't that helicopter parenting. From the age, I think from the time I was five, you got up in the morning, had breakfast, left home, and you came back when it was dark. The thing with not feeling guilty about sex, recognize what turns you on, what you want, compartmentalizes it, and just be safe. This will sound sexist, but it is. Men, we have sex because it's something we need to do. Women, sex is more important for women. It normalizes them. The intimacy is more important for them, and especially though, it's so you become more cognizant of that, that they have more of a need. You have a need to ejaculate, they have a need to for warmth, compassion. What advice would you give in terms of if you knew that about sex, what should a woman do to have a positive sex life where she feels celebrated, she has meaningful bonds, and it's good for her? Realistically is that society judges women, and women are the worst at judging each other. So for instance, a woman body is seen as a mountain. The more people that climb it, the less value society places on her. So she now has to be more judicious about who she lets into her body. Whereas with men, the more mountains you climb, look at that great mountain climber. Somebody who's had a pretty good sex life since age 11 and on, what advice would you give to people in general about making sex a positive, non-detracting part of their life? Recognize what you're feeling. It's not something you should always act out. It's like, well, I'm hungry, I should eat that. It's like, I'm horny, I should do this. It has to be when it's right for you. Like, having a successful life, you have to be able to mitigate your desires to go, when this is beneficial for me. And you have hands. You've got messed up hands. Exactly. Does that help? It actually helps, because you know. My dad got his hands stuck in a bread-slicing machine. So, but it's not ripped from my pleasure. Yeah. That's like the Trojan condom. Exactly, that's it. Exactly. Thank you, Lord. Your hands are sweaty, are you nervous? No, I'm hot. It's just like, when you're fat, you get hot. I can't relate. Pee, you are my greatest inspiration and influence by far. You are a one in a billion person, and I never for a second take for granted the impact that you've made on my life. I love you so much. You are the reason why I'm single today, because you set the bar so high on what a good man is supposed to be. And you have been a perfect dad. Happy Father's Day. Before I give advice, can I ask you a question? Yes. Your mom and I have had day sex. Yes. And you've heard it. How do you feel? Awkward. Can I tell you a secret then? Yes. In my adult years now, if I come home and visit, I would be happy to hear. Okay. I would feel comforted by that. Okay. I would feel like, great, it's good for you guys. You're still having a healthy one. So can I tell you something?