 What do you got for me? Okay. Well, first of all, I love your channel. I think you do great work I more want to know what you would advise or like a Early 20s. Yes, I know it's sometimes, you know, like all the early 20s women But what you would advise for someone who has seen the struggle and doesn't want to replicate that I didn't go to school for my degree. I work in social media marketing, but you know There's nothing like super stability about that and I more want to be taken care of So I do the necessary things, you know compatible and sweet and all those things. I want to know more like I Mean in COVID you can't really do much, but like what do you recommend? Okay, I'm not sure on the question because first she said something about being early 20s and then I don't like it or what? Well, I mean typically the younger the younger the girl the more you kind of like are like, all right girl, you know Depends on what she's saying Well, I'm saying what Well, I need to respond to that because I can't just leave that out there when a when a young woman's coming in giving her opinion That's fine. But when she starts giving advice, I have to balance that out against her lived experience and her knowledge So you can have an opinion, but when you give advice, it needs to be against something that's credible That's when I turn the bush. All right. So you're young you're younger and you want what do you want? I? Want your advice on what you think I should do to get the lifestyle. I want I don't know what lifestyle you want So it starts there. How old are you? 23 and what do you want to be married? Yes, you want children Yes, how many to do? You know what comes next do you want to have to work to pay significant bills after you're pregnant with the first child? I would not like to pay significant bills All right, and do you live in the northeast south or west of the country right now? I live in the west, but I'm from the south That's probably where I'd go back to okay So How much would a man need to take how much would a man need to make to fund the kind of lifestyle? That you and your two children how much would you need to make annually to provide the kind of lifestyle you want? I Would like minimum 300,000 a year and and that's like Atlanta dollars. Okay, so what kind of men make that kind of money? What do they do? There's some professions athletes CEOs Doctors lawyers, okay athletes Let me go ahead and turn this athletes CEO CEOs of what? I Don't know actually Well see that's part of the problem right? Because you can identify what you want, but when I'm starting to ask you to fill it out It starts to get vague What are some of what are some of this but give me some go to some jobs that you think? Well, how about this at what age do you think a man starts making around 300,000 dollars and more? 30 All right It's the oldest man you've ever dated Early thirties what early thirties meaning 31 or what? Like 35. All right, so number one And what percentage of men earn thirty three hundred thousand dollars or more in this country? I'm not sure the number less than five percent Okay, so it sounds to me That you really don't have a firm grasp on reality of men and earning in this country Because the first thing that came out of your mouth is athletes. That's concerning to me Well, I didn't mean it. They were you know Husband material well because but when I asked you what that's still concerning And then CEOs see you have to understand what it is you want in the reality of getting it You want a an exceedingly small group of men and And men don't start earning that kind of money until their late thirties Between 45 and 55s when men earn that kind of money not early thirties Okay So would you marry would you want to be married to a man who's 45? Preferably no, we probably would clash why We have different interests. What do you mean? I feel like you probably would be a little bit further progressed than me and we wouldn't be able to see eye to eye I don't think well, did he need to see eye to eye what you want? Say that one more time. What does he need to see eye to eye with you on I mean, um Well, let me rephrase that I feel like we probably wouldn't have that much chemistry because I have talked to guys around that age And I feel like We just don't have as much chemistry. I don't care about camera certain parts of myself away to be more Ma'am, I don't know what you're talking about chemistry. What does that mean? like I don't know just the younger I Have to be more mature and more like less youth less youthful Does that make sense? Nope? Well, then I I don't know how to word it I could do it, but I would feel like I would be less of myself Less youthful less less. I got it. I got it. I gotta go. I gotta be really direct with you Go ahead then deal and then date men then you don't want them. Look sweetheart Tell me you're not the asset he is You see you guys want at all you want chemistry and love and connection when you want a man Who's bigger 300,000 dollars a year so you don't have to work. I got news for you You are gonna have to get on his program So if you got to put up the hot whatever the youthful stuff is that's what you that's the cost of Entry to get a man who's earning that kind of money If not go deal with a guy who's 26 years old or 27 years old making $50,000 a year and you got to work Okay, because what I'm hearing from you is a You don't seem to understand Number one one of the problems in our community is we value prize youth black people value and prize youth when I say dating older it is it In our community, it's like a taboo in another community. This it makes perfect sense Especially if you want a higher standard of living you have to marry a man who is earning that look at your president How much how many years is how many years older is he than his wife? Are you asking me? Huh? Are you asking me? Yeah Donald Trump is how many years about how many I'm about how old do you think his wife is I don't know 4050 She's not 74 And that's the point Okay So so what do you recommend I do I don't think you I don't think you're gonna burn. How tall are you? Five nine dress size 464 to 6 Mm-hmm. How much did you weigh the last time you waited so? 157 All right. I don't think you'd be really cut out for the kind of man you're talking about Because one You are gonna have to get on his program. He's not gonna get on yours Chemistry are the other kind of things that's that's love talk. That's for young people That's not for women who want to be, huh? No, listen, you want physical shit and you can have that but it's gonna be but it's gonna be struggle of You want to be taken care of you want to be taken care of then that means a man who's that means a man Who's making that kind of money? He's gonna have to have be at a certain place in his life What is and here's the thing what is he gonna need from you and it sounds like you said you're gonna clash And I'm gonna tell you why you clash because you wouldn't know how to Serve a man at that level. How would have you ever served a man? Yeah, yes, sir. Where I Mean I'm from the South so we don't know ma'am. I don't know. I'm just as a 23. What's your longest relationship? You're not how was he? You're not gonna like he was young. He was my age. It was it was years ago. Okay, and how long goes years ago, ma'am? You're 23 It was when I was 20, but I haven't dated anyone my age since I was 20. Wow Okay, why not? Because I want to be taken care of yeah, I was more asking if like I could have something that I enjoy spending time with I don't okay, but what I'm doing, but what I'm trying to explain to you is Is Your mindset seems to be set up incorrectly Okay, it's not about what you want It's what value can you deliver to a man who's in the top 5% of earners? You're competing with the women around him. That's what you're competing with you're competing with women who are already You're competing with all the women who don't want to be who don't want to work What are you bringing to the table at 20 at that's different than those women? And so when I hear you know talk about chemistry and Things you'd have to sacrifice you're already in a you know dating a guy at that age is one thing Yeah guys will date you the possibility of sex. I've been marrying you now Because it doesn't sound like you have a doesn't sound like you really in it for anything other than what you want You want to be taken care of okay? What is he gonna get for taking care of you? What is he gonna get? I mean the agreeableness, right? That's what you always say The agreeableness and this is standard though fitness. Okay agreeableness is standard the So sex is Standard children standard agreeableness is standard. What special what is he going to? Get special about you that he cannot get from the dozens and hundreds of women who want a man on his level. I Don't know we probably all are competing in the same way exactly which is why Your mind isn't set up in the right way. I gotta settle for some things What's not settled with you don't want to see I need you guys to take this word settle out This settle word is bothering you you don't qualify for anything better It's like saying I settled to go to you know you know University of Georgia When you wanted to go to Ivy League, but you didn't have Ivy League grades or Ivy League SATs You didn't settle you got no where you could get and At 23 the kind of women the kind of women who get a man and do you care what race he is? No, I'm sorry. All right, so You said you dated a man who was older and you didn't you guys clashed No, we didn't clash. I just knew I had to be less of myself What and what does that mean? like He was a white guy, so Like there are certain things I wouldn't talk about certain ways. I wouldn't talk like certain jokes I wouldn't make like I don't know what I mean I don't know. I'm more like Funny charismatic type, so I feel like I had okay. Well, you had to be you had to be a grown-up Yes, welcome to the world But I feel like I would have a more enjoyable time in the company of someone more like me Is that wrong to like want someone of high status like I can enjoy no more. Okay. Okay, you wanted all Listen to me very carefully. You cannot have it all That's like No, it's okay in But you wanted to make $300,000 a year Pay attention the man who's making that kind of money is working 12 10 12 14 hours a day He's a serious man He's ambitious. He's driven and a wife is going to be I Don't think you ladies understand what it takes for a man to be at that level and what you're saying is you couldn't be youth Exactly why man? You are not ready. You're not you're not really cut out for a man of that level He's a serious man. He doesn't need a 23 year old Girl he needs a woman. That's not an offense. But what where your woman skills? Okay, I understand do you Yes, sir. What are your woman skills? How can you help a man who's 40? Well, I guess being a Helpmate biblical terms supporting Yeah, I don't know yeah, and that's why and this and the reason I asked these hard questions is because When young ladies like yourself It's to overlook the men that really would be a good fit for you emotionally Because you're looking for a money outcome Ma'am, who do you think would be a fit for me emotionally? Look, yeah, I'm not done with this part of it because Here's the reason I'm about done with it because I 72% of women in this country mothers have to work full-apart time. I Don't know why so many black women Don't want to work and then you deliver nothing of value that's special Tell me what I need to deliver and it'll be done All right That's me Hello, Kevin. Hello. I'm just You would never work with a man like myself or a man on my level you know way I mean, I mean, let me do this real quick Look, I'm gonna let me just tell you You're cute and you're probably used to getting by on your looks, but that ain't special sweetheart Okay And you cannot step to a man who's got his shit together who's going somewhere in life thinking you're the prize Okay, your attitude is wrong And you're looking for a quick fix Deal with men on your emotional level because you're not a woman. You're still in the girl phase Girls need boys women need men So I try to cut it down because even the way you're asking questions is out of line And I'm trying not to check you because you're young You're out of line for what it is. You want you don't qualify for it If you didn't look the way you thought where you looking you wouldn't be asking for what you're asking for you'd be asking for a regular guy Can I ask you a question? It's still going Go ahead destiny You can ask a question so I can be done with it Go ahead and ask your question after getting young lady. Ask your question and I'll get on the desk and go ahead I don't want to be a little girl who needs a little boy What do you recommend I do to qualify for the men that I want? This is where the school is gonna come into play you guys gonna have to go learn how to do all this stuff because unfortunately you didn't learn When you were at home and the community you didn't learn it So I don't I don't begrudge you but where'd you go to college? Didn't go you didn't go no, sir. All right. Well, so you went you graduated high school Yes, sir. Yeah Yeah Where do you live? I live in Los Angeles With who do you live by yourself? Yes, sir. We live with By myself All right, you gotta have to go to school for it because I don't know you didn't learn it And I can't and I won't get too much further into it We didn't go to college. That's a whole whole range of people around your age and dating that you missed out on So going straight from high school It's gonna be really hard for a high school And I mean, you know, so it's gonna be real hard for a high school graduate to be talking about a man at top 5% of earners There's just some there's a lot of stuff. And if you want that, I don't know why you wanted other than the fact There's you don't want to work, but you don't get it just because you want it You have to earn it and deserve it before you get it I'm going to college. It's crazy. We'll figure something out. I am First things first, let me just let you know what I'm leaving Priority the priority is I'll let you know when I'm heading out to them or what I'm deciding to do for the holiday And we'll go from there. Okay Yeah We'll figure it out. I know But thank you for everything. I'm gonna talk to you tomorrow The godfather is never wrong just sugar in that dude up Wow Beta male provider providing stuff left the right and she on here talking about how can I find a high value man? And she's out hustling mother suckers. That's what you heard hustle How can I get myself ready for a hybrid now? He didn't sound too young. I did he He sounded every bit in his 40s Courtney He sounded every bit in his 40s every bit in his 40s. You can't make this shit up You heard that Wow, you heard it, didn't you you and the crazy thing about it was she was messaging me Mm-hmm, like oh my god, like can you give me some advice? Can you give me some tips? So if you are okay with sugar baby in 40 and 50 year-old, why won't you date him? That's you're not serious Thank you, my sis. She heard the same thing you Wow, Jesus So to all you women out here, this is how a man should talk to a real mere man to talk to a woman I know what I'm doing That's why I keep blocking y'all because you gonna learn something in this show destiny. You heard what I heard I Did I did I mean you can't be a dummy You can't hide that and and you know it's a sugar daddy because she has no feelings involved This man done sent her a laptop Thomas um, she sounded a mess. She probably done fake the whole I mean she this is what they call finesse Ma finesse finesse and this is why put their energy in finessing somebody instead of finding somebody that You can really have that life with you have to be genuine though, and that's you can't fake it That's why she was trying to finesse me. That's why when I walk away. I'm like you can't finesse me, baby And I'm like I know what I even I know what I'm reading when I read it. I'm an imp. Mmm. Wow So wow, that's I'm gonna make a whole show on you she can all right my you got anything before we get up out of here I'm Kevin, you know, I'm speechless. I The Lord mysterious ways The only thing I can really say Kevin is Continue to do what you do the ones that really see that it's a problem and the ones that really actually want to change it We are going to find ways to do it. We're not going to Sit here and say, okay. It's us people should should I should Find somebody to understand us. No, you have to do the work and understand what that person wants from you And really be honest with yourself and really tell yourself Are you willing to give that person what they want in order for you to have what you want? It's a mutual beneficial relationship Look Man, I'm speechless. I'm like Wow, thanks ma. I appreciate it. I got wow Kevin. Bye. Bye Man