 It's the most controversial thing somebody's ever told me the most controversial thing without a doubt is dr. David bus Who said tie people don't really change people don't change now? If you know who I am I'm in the self-help industry. That's a shock It can be the most controversial video you've ever heard, but if you listen closely closer than most people will You will hear that there is actually Good news in that message everybody out here trying to change and people are frustrated the second you understand This section It'll all make sense. You'll realize why societies led you astray while your parents have probably left you astray Why the education system has led you astray humans don't change, but They adapt big difference now just a little disclaimer. Does that mean no human ever has changed their personality? obviously not What it means is one of the most stable traits according to any smart scientists Dr. David bus wrote the textbook for evolutionary psychology for Harvard the Reason you don't change much is it would be unhealthy From a genetic standpoint people who change too much implies That they're upbringing in their genes don't work right and we are the product of Parents and ancestors who actually worked well enough Have us survive to this generation now, so let me explain this practically. How does this work? It's a little bit like a look I look like my dad when I look kind of like my mom I show people baby pictures. I show people my mom. I show people my dad I show people my face now and people go oh you look a lot like your dad But wait, I'm gonna like your mom 50 50 genes I have 50% of my dad's genes 50% of my mother seems obvious, right? Well, could I change much? Could I change my look? Well, if you get shot Your looks will change, but did you really change? No You were disfigured The underlying structure is still there Besides what was shot away in the same way people's personality can change but not that much what dr. Bus told me in 2014 when I first met him didn't even realize he's like the most preeminent but a scientist in his field with a PhD in psychometrics from Harvard and probably the most esteemed Career of anyone on earth when it comes to the most cutting-edge psychology and he said look There's variability Theoretically somewhere on earth There's someone who can change a hundred percent of their personality and there's other people on a scale of one to a hundred That can change like one percent Okay Most people fall in the middle they can change just a little bit It's like you can't change your looks that much But if you eat a ton of food and gain 300 pounds of course your looks change, but you didn't really change you disfigured Your core anatomy or if you can't really skinny you look different You didn't really change you kind of disfigured your natural self now This presents ethical problems people are what if you can't change? Then what if somebody's a mergel? Well We get to the crux of this video I'll get right to it. Here's a better strategy Let's say all your life people have said you're lazy and you go. Whoa by golly. I'm gonna get disappointed I'm gonna start hustling hard. Um, no, you're not But I got good news for you if you adapt that means change your target goal Maybe it's like Bill Gates said on the way to building a 2.7 billion dollar company called Microsoft He used to say when I have something important to do I find a lazy one to do it because they will find a smarter way than the horrible king person So if you tend towards laziness don't become construction worker go into an industry Where somebody who just sits around and lays around and has one good idea a month is valuable Where might that be? Well, it's a think tank Maybe it's a think tank. Maybe it's an inventor You come up with one good dimension your whole life and get paid more and people work in nine to five three four jobs a week literally The smartest or the strongest who survived it's the most adaptable into the environment into the environment in which they find themselves That's professor Megasin's quote of doctor Well, not so much doctor, but a man named Darwin It's not the smartest or strongest who survived. It's not the one who changes their personality We have a whole society where everybody's going to therapy. Do I think therapy can be important? Sure, it's like going to a massage therapist after you go to gym is helpful But people you don't try to transform your body through massage You don't you have the body that you have now if you have some injuries they can kind of work the knot out But if you go into Transformative which is what everybody's trying to do whether it be in self-help whether it be in therapy Whether it be to deal with people's anxiety levels. I see people talking about side psychedelics and you know We're gonna transform ourselves. You ever met someone on psychedelics. Are they actually different than they were two years ago No, I have how many people do I know that I've taken ayahuasca. They think they've changed now Did their perception of themselves change? Yes, I attribute much of this to the narcissism of humans The reason this video will be controversial and people will be angry is simple to explain It's not because this video is not true It's because narcissism is strong Narcissism is also an adaptive trait. We've descended from narcissists Some to the point where you have NPD extreme levels of narcissism But in general humans operate through convictions and this video will challenge most people's convictions of themselves And so people are varying to self-help and this and that and they do all I'm gonna do ayahuasca And all this they find that they feel like they've changed but others who have a more accurate perception of them I'm like no you got the same basic person out personality if you're an extrovert You're still kind of extroverted if you're an introvert with Joe kind of introvert if you're an ambivert You're kind of in the middle if you are a relatively disagreeable person You're still kind of disagreeable if you are relatively mild mannered agreeable person You're still kind of that way. It's meant to be that way stop trying to fight the odd or nature Now once again, there are instances where people have tremendous PTSD have but that is more like I said getting shot Of course that alters your appearance and of course it should be dealt with and of course it should be healed But don't try to change the person. My dad was stabbed, you know when he was when I was born and You know it harmed him But I didn't change the core who is what his body looked like you had to heal it But you didn't try to transform him into a different guy You're trying to make him an Asian guy or a black guy. He was a my dad Spanish and Puerto Rican He was who he was he needed healing for that acute Issue but he didn't need to be transformed stop trying to transform yourself