 Always rapping baby forever home. I ain't the pot calling the kettle black I'm the flame keeping the kettle warm and I am the blame for the Renaissance It's cold had the right and recited with down feathers on Black boy tell me how you really feel Cuz I just want to build with you black girl tell me how you really feel I Just want to keep it real with you. Okay. I want to live. Oh, just let me know in a go. Oh go Okay, so I learned you know how I be telling you like how Especially what our black man You know, you want to talk to them and give them attention, but they say crazy stuff. Okay, so let me tell you I Have this one guy in my DM, right? I don't even know this guy. I don't know this guy I Don't know even know why he felt comfortable to even see this send this. Okay first message October 13th boom Can I give you money? Okay, October 14th Can I give you money? October 16th Can I give you money? I'm not responding And you're offering me money You see what I'm saying and guys be wondering like why women be like, oh I want to do to pay this and pay that because guys just be offering it. It just okay So let now we are October 17th, and it's not can I give you money now? It's cannot eat your ASS Wait Why do you feel Why do you feel like this is okay? Okay? October 21st Big booty Can I eat your big booty? Yes And I'm like Still not responding like as you can see through all of these there's no response then he proceeds To send me a video of him and another female What is this? Her back Why do you send me this and then If I had to take a guess I would say just because of the wave right now like everything's overly sexualized You don't see I think a lot of times men get like women My age or older confuse with the Gen Z generation and I've talked to guys who dated younger women and a lot of them just want you to pay their bills and they want to have city girl days Moments, whatever you want to call it guys feel like okay. Well, I'm not gonna approach her this way I'm approach her sexually like To be honest, I wish I knew what would go through a guy mom because I'm like Do you think that she'll answer to you faster if you be sexual? Cuz if cuz that's kind of weird because that makes a woman feels uncomfortable like stuff like can I eat your ass? First of all, if you ask me this how many other females asses do you just eat like You know because you're just willingly Accent so if you sent five girls, let me eat your ass and then all five girls say yes The next question is it gonna be okay? Pull up or maybe it's something wrong with the dude. Maybe he is like a sex addict So he just wants sex sex sex. He don't even care who is from or maybe it could be If I provide sex and money Then maybe she would be more prone to calm my way Because if I wasn't providing this maybe she wouldn't even look my way at all because that's the same message is like Can I send you money to like get pictures of your feet? Then there's one guy Oh, let's not start here. And you know, this wasn't he wasn't mean or anything, but I felt like this was Like a little maybe weird for you to ask me he said Will you be my lock screen mamas? And I'm like, I don't know if that was respect for or not Like I'm an axer. Can I put on my lock screen before I actually do it? I don't know, but I just thought that was like Really weird. Okay, but this is Facebook. This is Facebook. Let me go to Instagram. What's worse? Both If you had to give one the edge Instagram Because they be they be saying some wild stuff, Alan They be saying some wild stuff. Let's see and a lot of this be the same thing. Hey, beautiful. Hey gorgeous Hey, beautiful. Hey gorgeous. Hey Queen hey, like it's just I'm I'm still scrolling I'm I'm I'm scrolling Or stuff like this people do so follow me and then they'll message me like this and say add me beautiful like If I wanted to add you I would have added you you added me But then you're messaging me telling me to follow you back. I don't like that. I don't is that not strange? Maybe it's just me. Okay Okay Like Okay, so if I was a guy and I know a woman's attractive and I know a lot of Men are trying to you know reach out to her first of all, I wouldn't I say hey beautiful? Just because nine times out of ten Every other guy is saying that to I would not say hey queen Because every other guy is saying that and I believe now the guys are resorting to hey beautiful and hey queen Because they see women call herself queen. So they're like well if I approach her Right one. I have to be interested. So if you hit me up once or twice and I don't respond Don't keep writing Don't do that. That is that'll push a woman away because now they're gonna question. Like is he crazy? It's not like why like why do you keep messaging me? Don't tell her to add you? Don't send hey beautiful and now I know guys remember with that I can't even call her beautiful, but it's like you're trying to get this woman's attention and a million guys are calling her that so I would Look at her page and observe and See what she's interested in So like for me, I love plants so if a guy Reach out to me and say oh, that's a dope plant. What kind of plant is that? I'm gonna be prone to answer him even if I'm not attracted to him I'll probably respond to him because he actually is talking about something that I like So I'm gonna be like oh, this is the this type of plant and then he'll be like Oh, well, you know, I'm trying to get into plants, but I don't know You know the best kind of get and then I'll respond like well I have this this and this it all depends on what you're going that can start a whole dialogue But that's because you're you're actually it's to me. It makes me feel like you you're actually being attentive to me right, right if I post something about Dragon Ball Z and Then you hit me up and be like, yo those posters are sold out where you get that from oh That's another conversation, but it's because I'm interested in it. You didn't just say hey beautiful. Oh, hey Because usually after hey beautiful They don't really know what else to say after that So it's hey beautiful. Hey, how are you? Good. How about yourself good? Okay? What's next, but a platonic conversation can lead so many ways just by a guy Coming at me in a way that it shows that you're actually interested Not just you just want something or you just saying what every other guy is saying if You see me post something about Wanting to go out to eat or to a nice place and you say hi well What type of food do you like and then I start expressing what type of food I like and you're like, oh well There's this restaurant that I know You're you're more than happy where or we could get together and go I Could either say yes or no But the fact that you might get a yes actually because it wasn't like oh, let me pull up Oh, what are you doing? Well, let's link. I hate that. Let's link up Let's leave you trying to link because to me I feel like one of that so you try to link it makes me feel like you try Have sex like if you really want a woman's attention pay attention to her Not how she look but what? May actually interest her if you see she like hiking You don't honestly you don't have to know anything about hiking go on Google And look up a hiking place and start to get creative with your conversations You are so beautiful Thank you. I mean that's that's Are you free this weekend? First of all, he said are like the letter are and then the letter you Free this weekend. No, I'm not Well, one a woman don't like a guy that cannot speak correct grammar. So when you say why you are Sub stuff like that that is so unattractive Because now it makes me feel like one you cannot leave because you can't even speak proper English you like It's different when you talk to your friends and you're comfortable and you guys talk your slain But when you just say are you? It's an immediate turnoff. It's a media turnoff. You are so beautiful. How are you doing beautiful? Hey, how are you? Heartface fire sign like Heartface heartface. I love the pics. You look perfect to me Every female that the guys are attracted to look perfect to him. That's a famous line Damn you beautiful. I'm on my way to North Carolina now That's a little catchy But still kind of really a little creepy. It's catchy, but creepy Because it's like first of all I Don't even know how he knew North Carolina because on this picture didn't say North Carolina So he had to go through some stuff to actually figure out that I was in North Carolina because I don't ever post my location I don't know. It's just weird with with guys and a lot of women Coming missing and stuff like that for a guy to tell me like he'll come to where I met it's like Have you already been here like do you have you already seen I don't know Do you get what I'm saying? Like it just it just kind of give a little creep vibes a little bit I don't like that. I don't like it It's catchy because it's like, okay, so he'll pull up He'll pull up, but then it's like at the same time a Woman wouldn't like that But what makes her not like it is the creepiness that goes on and guys like stalking women and like Some dudes actually be watching women and will pop up whatever they're at So it's like a part of me like Hey, I can't even put that past you cuz you probably might pop up for real like so it's kind of like a Mixed feeling because I don't know you it's not like we've been talking You know conversing and having FaceTime calls you like I'm about to pull up on you Okay, come on. I don't know you but Yes Yes, yes As you can see a lot of these are heart faces just heart faces heart faces You're not gonna give me conversation because you're not starting anything I've had it and I can't even find it But I've had a guy who sent me a heart face and I liked it. He's like, that's all you got to say I'm like you didn't start a conversation with me. You just hearted a picture um So this guy oh he sent me a paragraph But I just in my heart I feel like he sent everyone this the morning beautiful I don't quite know what it is yet, but something about you calls out to me I can literally feel the connection the love and the affection the insonancy Happiness and comfort is if you were here in person when I look at your picture I get the image joyfully picking you up when I get to see you We don't know each other, but okay I don't know what it means, but I've never been one to neglect internal messages or instincts There must be something worth the confidence to speak if it has the power to reach at such a distance He's very poetic but it's you ever heard those guys this poetic and it sounds like you're trying to be poetic To the point that it doesn't even sound genuine like how many other females have you said this to? Right, right, right. You see the paragraph That's his What is this is how it make me feel like I Don't know you're so beautiful Then this do Sam damn that's you for real so amazing. So you're asking me is my picture me When you're on my Instagram If that is a conversation starter That will irritate a woman cuz it's like bro seriously You is that me is it I don't know that I don't like that either. I Just wanted to say you look amazing heart heart Fire where you from? I don't know you so I'm probably not now this guy Do you see this? Never responded You ever come to Jersey Flight on me whenever you ready No response so gorgeous One day no response. You're gorgeous Where you from? No response. I never responded to any of them and you you're not stopping And you're probably going to keep continuing to do it And I don't hey, how are you? How can and you haven't even showed us everything but like how can this Really warped somebody's idea of themselves this type of attention constantly It'll make I believe it'll make a woman Feel like she's more than what I'm not gonna say she's not valuable But it's gonna make her feel like she's on a pedestal that she might not be on or love that she might not be on Because it's so many guys, but all of these guys are thirsty Like I've seen the same guys do this and I just so happen to go under somebody else's page and they're under her page, too So it'll make I think they think that they have more options than they really have and that's It's not the case because I'm pretty sure that this same guy So they gonna keep saying it until one answer and that one answer is the one that they gonna go for You just so happen to be one of the ones that he reached out to and I'm not saying the woman doesn't have things going on I have things going on for myself But in reality, I could look through all these messages that's sitting here as you guys can see they're just sitting here. This is They're just they're just there this is and it's because is You have to enjoy that attention And that's the only way cuz the thing is I don't I Personally how you don't enjoy it, but you post stuff on social media It's a difference between posting things on social media because you actually like what you're like this pictures fire The world needs to see this I'm putting it up versus I'm about to post this picture because I'm about to see how many guys actually like this I'm about to see who gonna hit my DMs once I post this picture people do that women actually do that They will post a picture Specifically because they're like let's see who get thirsty this time. They see how weak you are like You're showing that you're weak because You are offering something that you work hard for To a woman just because you want her To give you attention When there in fact is a woman out here If you are not crazy That will actually be attracted to you Why are you trying to get an Instagram model's attention and then you're trying to get her attention with money? I guess it's a Difficult for me to fully understand in a sense because I've Never done that I Well But this is the thing though I Wouldn't have necessarily Now I got to think about this is the woman really using you if you're offering it and she's taking it Because without you offering it She couldn't receive it But is it is she using you now because you're not getting exactly what you thought you wouldn't get from her It's not like y'all had an intimate relationship y'all live together You was doing all this stuff for her and then she stole your money or She made you feel like she wanted you in a way that she didn't you're offering this to her So she's not really using you Okay, so it started off like this so this is the guy so He would comment on certain things That I had going on and originally I wasn't responding because it was going to like my Message request not to my actually the end so He would say things like Where is Gohan? I see the Dragon Ball Z and it's like Okay, he's he's paying attention. He's paying attention, but I didn't respond so then he I did a Real promoting this drink and he said is that your brand drink if so I will cash up you I only Support you and I know it may be corny, but I got your back is what I'm saying That's what he said And I'm like that's not corny Because it's like so you think so now I got me feeling like Has he dealt with someone that made him feel like him supporting them was corny So he got a response from me. I Wasn't responding before and I'm like it's not corny But this is someone else's brand I'm promoting but I do drink the tea on a daily basis And no gohan. I said that and he said okay, never mind. I'm not cheap, but I do see you work You hustle besides your pictures. So yeah, I would have got some from you. I want to support you Only not someone else is what I'm saying. So he was like if it's not yours. I'm not buying it and it's like Okay, because he was on my previous page. I never followed him so One thing that I respect is the fact that he has to be like He said a fan. I don't like that word fan But he has to be a lawyer supporter or he's very interested because he wound up finding me on my new page So I'm like, okay. Okay, and that's that I appreciate that and I completely understand what you're saying and he said if you ever need help or money or anything Just let me know or even breakfast on me tomorrow. Count me in before you start to worry. I know I'm like I know you're like why would oh, I know. I'm like, why would I help her? I don't know It's just the vibe that you give So I'm like Okay, like I still don't like receiving money from guys, but I'm like He was pretty nice. He wasn't too pushy, you know overbearing. It wasn't like that and it it made me feel like He was coming from a genuine place Because he was talking about things that I was actually interested in in the beginning. I told him That I don't know I don't like people don't stop for me But I appreciate when people offer Because you don't have to I wouldn't want you to do anything like that um, I Think I last conversation I was telling you like I had lost my job. So now I'm just like Doing everything I can that I'm talented in or talented at But I mean I've been on my own since 19, so I've always made it happen And that was my response, right? I Could have been like, okay. Go ahead. Send me the money, but then he said I Know it hear me out. Okay. Most people may look at you and see that she has like a nice body When I saw you first the first time I asked are you okay? You get me like no, I'm not I'm trying to read this Because it's right, right. It was like no, I'm not that's a sign now. I asked you like You lost your job, etc. Another sign. I don't even talk to you like that I just see the pictures and see the face. I see it. No, I'm not a psychic um I'm like a behind the scenes guy when times get rough. I'm there That's more dope when you cry. I was there. Oh When you cry, I'm there. That's better to me. Nothing to do with looks or sex I know you are a soft person You mean good. I see it in you if I hit you up to action. Are you okay or you need money? It's because I feel like something's off So it got to a point where he was like look, we're not kids If you need help, I'm gonna help you matter of fact I'm what you eating today I'm gonna send you some money for dinner and guess what? He sent me money for dinner and I was like, I don't want this He was like, I'm not accepting it back. So you have no choice but to accept it We've never text. He don't have my number. Nothing But you know the thing is like Just like it's it's it's innate for women to want to nurture It's innate for men to want to provide and protect Like our default setting is like and that's why you'll see like Some sugar daddy's and shit like that. They don't even be having sex with their sugar babies They just want to oh, I got this extra money. I want to know that somebody is going to this young lady I'm interested Will you be my date for the grand opening of my new club now I follow you I know this person And all I see is him with different women on his story all the time No, I don't I don't I don't want to go my response was oh, no I'd be seeing you with different women frequently on your story. Oh well, and I I don't mean just like talking I mean like Dancing like Like it looked like you're in a relationship with all these women No, I'm not going to be go to your grand opening because I'm gonna just look like another one of those So I said, oh, no, I I be seeing you with different women frequently on your story. Oh, well laughing emoji I'm not trying to be another one on your list He said Worry about the wrong thing all celebrities have fans Well, first of all, you're not a celebrity You're known. I mean you may be a celebrity to some people. I don't know but You saying a fan but you're dancing up on these women you like look like You could probably take her home tonight and do some things for a little bit change You feel me so I'm like I Said It's the wrong thing to you, right But the right thing to me. He said it's cool. You're still young and overly opinionated So I said it's so interesting how you asked me to be your date and once I didn't respond how you felt I should then you turn around and say I'm young and overly opinionated, but I'll take that That's what I said He said this is coming from the chick who turned into a ass model You don't even work out facing the camera anymore. Just your ass shaking my head. I said, okay You see why I said no You couldn't wait to disrespect me, huh? Because in the very beginning You wanted me to beat your date Right, but now that I said I'm not interested Now You are throwing all these things All these like insults at me. So I said if you felt this negative And ill about me why even invite me as a date? I never disrespected you. I just brought up a known fact, but it's okay I hope you have a blessed day love He said it's a fact I said, okay, he said I've been watching your story since I met you and my food truck behind press box Okay I said again if you If you feel this negative Then why asked me to be your date? He said he never answered He just kept like throwing insults. He said until recently you don't even work out facing the camera You just show your ass. He said it again He said they're not negative. They're facts. Okay. I said, but it's okay. Call me what you want I'm still not going to disrespect you. So go for it So even though I could have got disrespectful with him But I didn't do that So he said my mother always said sometimes things aren't negative. You just perceived him that way But did you not just do the same thing? What what kept you engaged? Because I know him Because I know him if I didn't know him Then to be honest, I wouldn't say I wouldn't have responded But because I know him I'm like, okay, let me have this dialogue because I want him to understand like Bro Every female is not going to say yes every guy don't say yes to me But just because I I stayed a known fact if you If you have females in your story You're throwing insults at me because I didn't respond the way you felt I only said one thing to you because I didn't want to be a date to your you could He could have just like okay cool if that's how you feel But instead you just decided to insult the same woman that you just asked to be your date And then you called me young and then you said that I was overly Opinionated so you felt this way before you even asked me. So why did you ask? Okay, so then I said Then he said I said again, if you felt this way, you shouldn't ask me to be your date He said not disrespect at all. You're acting like a narcissist. How did this end? How did this particular like exchange end? Okay, so I'll say this I'ma I'ma add this part and then I'll tell you I said if I'm pushing workouts to help women build their glutes naturally Then of course, you'll see my butt more But if it bothers you, you are free to unfollow me. I've seen your story. You're not perfect. So please keep the insults I said, I'm done with this conversation Have a blessed day and congratulations on your new venture I'm wishing you nothing but prosperity and success heart He responded and I never responded back and he said you're like this dj. I know No matter how much I help him. He still thinks it's all about him, but need people to be successful with anything That had nothing to do with the topic But I never responded and guess what you think he don't follow me No, you think he'd be watching all my stories. Yes That was something called for For what? Why? And you're older than me never brought up the I don't know island. I don't know like I get rejected Men reject me but men do cannot take rejection easily And that's another reason why women carry this so so masculine Because if a guy's attracted to her and she's not attracted he won't just let it go He's gonna find limits to disrespect her It's cool. You're not the only one I would be with I have a few ladies there that that night So You're gonna embarrass me Like bro, really? Do you not think that's crazy? Am I tripping? Okay, so let's keep going because y'all Y'all see me with my hand on my on the side of my temple because I'm I'm still scrolling. I'm still Because I'm still scrolling only because all of these people they're saying the same thing Hey, beautiful. Hey, like it's just all the same thing. Hey. Hey gorgeous One dude said you gonna train me First of all, you say you You gon you gon train me. No, I'm not No island Like Follow me back boo I'm not doing that you Do that four to five four to five a day four to five a day of the same thing like over and over and over and over again And it's just like it's to the point now that I don't even look at them because it it makes me feel like This is just going to be the same thing over and over and over again like it's And you know, a lot of guys say females be so pressed because the dudes in the DM why you got women that don't even be paying attention to that Because when I go in there, it's just like I'm literally scrolling like this It's not interesting not interesting nothing Nothing I do look at the profile picture, but this is the theme I have Like to do this or are you free this weekend are with the letter are you he has a picture with a ski mask on No, you look like you might kitten at me. I'm not doing that like Some dudes I'll go to their page and they'll have like Liquor bottles or their homeboys Uh I'm trying to like This And experiment I want you to go to your profile as if you were Look to your profile and then Do give us like a mini masterclass on how You the male version of you would shoot to the shot at you Okay, so go to your page first It's like that Hmm and kind of talk through your thought process. Oh, she Okay Her bio 1111 I wonder what that means Like what is that and she's a capricorn. Okay Health and fitness so that means she likes to stay in shade. She works out. Okay, let me For promo or book and send DM. Okay, so hmm. I wonder what kind of business You know, she's doing I would look at my bio because a lot of guys don't pay attention You want me to tell you how I know that because I'm on hinge, right? And there are guys who will reach out to me and be like Oh, so Like they'll have a car right like a sports car. I'm like, oh, I like your car I'm like, yeah, it's pretty dope and I'm like, I'm in the car scene and what kind of car you have I'm like, you didn't look at my profile because there's a picture on my profile with me and my car So you just looked at me like I know that was off topic, but I'm just like bro. Okay All right Okay, she got a body transformation. So she's disciplined Hmm Okay She got a workout Okay, all right. So she's about her business She has she has good skin. She has a nice shape. Okay I wonder do she edit her videos or do somebody else edit her videos for her Oh And if you look through half of her pictures, she don't even she don't she don't really use filters like that So this is probably how she really look. Okay She got a camera there routine And this is her car Okay Like right there I've named like six or seven things that guys could start a conversation with other than hey beautiful Mmm 11 11 a simple question. What does 11 11 mean? That's a whole spill because it's it's 11 11 Is so significant in my life because of the meaning behind it that right there can turn into a Long dialogue and something that I would want to talk about all the time health and fitness What would you like? You know to put a bow on it. What would you like? guys who are watching this boys who are watching this to take away from Like because we just gave them behind the scenes, you know saying what so what what's the lesson here? If you want different then approach things differently If you want a good woman, don't and you don't want a woman to use you don't lead with money Don't lead with expensive dates Be yourself Be your authentic self and if your authentic self is like a jerk then at least you Allow her to choose whether she wants to talk to you or not um Don't be like everybody else the hey beautiful's you know That's good when you are dealing with her because a woman loves that affirmation from her man Hey, beautiful is good. Want y'all together? But do not hey beautiful beautiful me to death before you even get to know me Or that thing poking You don't think I know that like them you see the pictures like you don't have to tell me that my thing is thinking because I know it's thinking You know what I'm saying just it's so many other ways to say it so You don't have to tell me just be Like like but this is a thing I would like to say that men should approach it, but I feel like men approach things based off of the type of person they are