 Okay, May 40th here So I don't know if you saw the 1989 movie a cry in the dark is about Michael and Lindy Chamberlain something Adventist pastor and his wife Who lost a baby at as rock now known as Uluru? That didn't go took my baby And they were accused of sacrificing their baby Baby Azaria supposed to mean you know a sacrifice in the wilderness and and the fear and contempt and hatred for the Chamberlains who Didn't didn't do anything wrong Came in large part because 7th Adventists are not popular in Australia as they set themselves apart Keeping the 7th their Sabbath by being religious right Australia's overwhelmingly a secular society By being vegetarian like being a vegetarian socially it makes you the less popular than child molest And just being an Australian Who are these religious weirdos So the more you separate yourself from the majority the more you distinguish yourself and Differentiate yourself from everyone else and in general the less popular you're going to be so Stronger your sense of identity, right? Better off of your generally be in life. And if you have a clear identity, I know who your community is All right, if it's a primarily a racial identity or religious identity or a cultural identity tribal identity And most people do better off with a strong identity The lovely Sydney Opera House Australia is playing 6 a.m. Tomorrow against France This Argentina They all excited about the World Cup people Who have like one foot in one foot out of a religious identity communal identity cultural identity racial identity? You think that they would they would struggle? All right, it's easy to have a strong racial religious cultural national identity But some people are very strong and flexible. They They see the advantages in their mixed identity. I Generally speaking now the more God rails you have in life the better off you So some people in mixed race struggle They didn't know if they're white or Asian And I feel like they belong to either group. This is Argentina, right? Yeah, Lionel Messi and that's the Argentina They're ready to win the World Cup after be one of the favorites and I could hear them across the harbor So I think about the collective energy that they're gaining right there singing together chanting together moving together How you build up tremendous energy just like marching together? You'll build up tremendous energy Diego, Maradona a great soccer star for Argentina When you're able to create a shared reality together, it's incredibly powerful A tremendous source of energy. So I know a lot of people they are I don't I don't like community It's too stifling But they're just reservoirs of energy That are available if you're able to connect or create a shared reality If you get on the same page with other people just marching together You get filled with energy that you won't have just on your own if you march together and sing together and dance together and eat together and Support a team together walk together sleep together run together dance together right this is Argentina fans getting ready for the World Cup in the peak now I think they're ready for the World Cup And that's why people want to go to sports bars and share a collective communal experience There's an unlocks of emotional intensity and energy. That's just not available otherwise Magnificent Sydney Opera House if you can share this experience to two three five ten times as intense If you just do it on your own All right, you can say the morning prayers and Judaism you can say them on your own But if you can say them for the community All right before bonds And you bond with people and you create a shared experience together. It's always an ethic that comes out of it Rendle Collins sociologists his insight in his great classic work Interactual interaction ritual chains Sydney, I love you. I love you. I can get on the same page with all the people Let's create something together man The whole new experience is available to you a whole new strength and energy You can accomplish things you could never accomplish on your own right people are getting inspired by a national religious ideal and go on to commit acts of superhuman strength Where do they get that energy like the great CEO is the great general is the great political leaders? I get that energy because I get on the same page with other people and through the interactions As I go through the day they get more and more energy if I get on the same page they Create a shared reality But they tune into other people Right they get into a rhythm with other people and then with every interaction they're building energy and Strength how you accomplish great things and you build Build something with other people. So you start your day at synagogue, right? You say the morning prayers All right, and you're getting charged up by seeing your friends Then you go to work You say good morning to the secretary Say good morning to your co-workers You share a little bit about the night before or the weekend Start talking about plans for the day toss the head Common dreams You're getting on the same page with others you're tuning into people so you're noticing. Oh, wow It looks like you had a tough weekend or Show a little bit of empathy to others like you look really happy today Or you know, why is there such a bounce in your stride today? What's that big broad smile? I see What's going on? You seem sad All right, you tune into other people get on the same page with other people And then you create a shared reality people like people who notice them people like people who notice their emotional state Who don't solely interact with people on instrumental bases But instead just notice. Wow There's something going on with you. I remember I was working in construction. It was absolutely brutal work But that's brutal part of it was the dehumanization Like I was just a cog in the in the machine. I was just swinging a pick using a shovel Creating ditches to lay PVC pipe and I just felt like, you know, just another cog in the machine And it was absolutely brutal and then I worked for a guy Doug hands like Real estate developer And he noticed me. He was the first person to notice me. He said, oh, you're Australian My daughter wants to go to Australia That human connection I can notice my humanity notice my Ozziness notice my accent Notice something about me. I wasn't just a cog in the machine I just made all the difference and I went from hating the job to Loving the job All right, I remember when I was working in landscaping and I just very much the time I just felt they're ignored and I don't know just like I was some grubby grubby grubby dirty guy and Those times when people would notice, you know, there's something about me. They just give me a little bit of individual attention Recognize my humanity. It's made all the difference in my energy level my enthusiasm level And how I felt about myself and then I felt good or bad Just someone tuning in a little bit to what was going on with me. So I'm gonna pay a little bit of attention to Me Right, I got new energy new enthusiasm for my work They knew commitment equality doing good work New level of interest in my work Said that I even dropped out of college largely in my fall of 1986 I so enjoyed working for Doug Hansley. I think Dominion Enterprises at So enjoyed running a landscaping crew as a foreman that I dropped And my schedule from 18 units to six units So I was feeling fed by being in landscaping. I got a felt noticed. I felt Appreciated and I felt special. I felt important now. It's getting fed creating a communal sense and Then the winter set in there's absolutely miserable And I returned to school with a whole new dedication and just just started pulling nothing about ease After that I took 21 units got straight A's the first time in my life I think that's serious about my education because of the brutal fall and winter of 1986 So and the spring semester rolled around in January 1987. I was serious 21 units straight A's That accepted into UCLA so Getting fed Little bit can also distort you if you're that needy, and I guess I was that emotionally needy Right, so I'm just paying a little bit of attention to you It can have an intoxicating effect like if you're you're just emotionally parched like you're a man Dying of thirst in the desert And someone recognizes you and shows you a little bit of kindness that can have an intoxicating effect and knock you off course and you can give too much weight to what a trivial work relationships you can Allow it to distort your thinking Forget what what is important? Human connections are powerful One of the most powerful intoxicants Advanced joy was rehearsing on Friday. You think they have energy? Think they found some emotional energy there