 I like exclusivity and faithfulness. I got open relationship. What's up, lovers and friends? Are you ready for your first official assignment as an intimacy expert? And if you're not, it's too late because I'm throwing you out there in the field. You're going to watch a second date and using your knowledge of compatibility and the ingredients that make up a couple shot at a healthy, harmonious connection. You're going to assess if this couple should continue on trying to pursue a romantic bond or if they're better office friends. And to help you make the most insightful decision possible, I decided to add a little umph to this second date. Which of the 12 ways do you achieve orgasm? Oh man. I had this couple do my entire self-summary workbook and if you're not familiar, the self-summary workbook is from my book, The Game of Desire. It is phase one of my five phase strategy to making all of you and these individuals their own intimacy experts. Do a self-summary workbook. You should be able to answer the question, number one, what am I looking for in an intimate connection in order to feel loved? And number two, what am I like in an intimate connection when I love someone else? And Priscilla is not a random person to me. She is actually one of six women that I worked with all of last year. I am Priscilla. I am a 28 year old young mother of a 10 year old boy. If you don't know what I'm talking about at all, that means that you haven't listened to my audiobook, The Game of Desire. And if not, that's all good because I have you covered right now. This video is actually done in partnership with Audible and Audible has the largest selection of audiobooks and now that they have Audible Originals, their library is even faster, more incredible and more catered specifically to what you love to listen to. So Audible has this incredible 30 day trial in which they are going to give you one audiobook and two Audible Originals to see if you like the platform. The fun thing is using the Audible trial. That is the only way that I know of that you can listen to my entire audiobook read by me, The Game of Desire for absolute free. So if you want in on this deal, all you have to do is go to Audible.com slash Shandbooty or you text the word Shandbooty to the number 500 500. Again, it's Audible.com slash Shandbooty or you can text Shandbooty to the number 500 500. All right, without further ado, you are about to watch a second date where the individuals are going to reveal and talk about their results from their self summary workbooks and your job is to listen closely, watch their body language and then assess are they going to be better off as lovers or friends? All right, so I want to ask you, well now that we're already on here, what's your turn on triggers? My turn on trigger and I don't know if you'll know the term because I don't know what yours was, but it was cat and mouse. Okay, no, no, my mom was environment, but well, don't make that face, why? I just, I didn't picture that one, but so I like to be teased as much as I like to do the teasing. So I don't like it when men are easy, I kind of like to work for it a little bit. So my environment situation, I like moods, vibes, like I'm not necessarily saying you got to have candles and all that, but I need the space to be clean. You know what I'm saying? I need, just the energy has to feel right, like I can't go in there and your bed's all everywhere or something is closed in the corner, like, because now I'm like, when the fuck did she wash clothes? I'm thinking about shit because I feel like as a grown man now, I'm thinking about all the stuff, the responsible stuff as a child, like a younger guy, I'm like, I don't worry about that. But now I'm in here, I'm like, I can't, I can't stroke looking at that in the corner. What is your apology language? My apology language is accountability. So I need people to acknowledge what they've done and for them to acknowledge that my feelings are valid about it. I'm a person that doesn't need you to accept responsibility, like if you're late and that calls us to miss something or me to miss something, then just own it. It's fine. But if you just be like, oh, yeah, you know, I was doing this and doing that and that, that's not going to, because we can't move forward. I feel like. One of the worst things you can tell me is, I'm sorry, you feel that way. What about your attachment style? Boom. It is secure. I'm a secure. Because I was like, anxious, preoccupied before. What was the shift that made you kind of grow out of that into a secure? I've done a lot of work. When I first read it, secure felt like, it felt like I was kind of like, in my own world a little selfish, but I was like, that's not what it means. I do care if they care about me, but I'm just not going to put all of my thought into that. Because if I do. I used to do that. Yeah, I'm going to drive myself nuts. I'm assuming you care about me. We're in this together until otherwise shown, really. Right. Because I can't stay here and like, every day wake up and like, I mean, I said this to them, but they didn't say nothing back. Does that mean they don't care about, like it's too. Yeah, I used to be from like, oh, it's been 30 minutes now. I guess I'm single again. It was that bad? Oh, they were in the shower. Never mind. Love languages. Let's talk about that. How do you feel loved? I had three that tied. It was physical touch, acts of service and words of affirmation. Oh, what were yours? I scored equally on physical touch, words of affirmation and quality time. Okay. So only when we had different was acts of service. Okay. I went through a situation where I was trying to long distance, but I wasn't honest with myself or the woman. It sounded like a good idea. And I was like, yeah, it sounded like a good idea. And I was like, oh, let's try it. And immediately I was like, I should have been honest with her and myself. I mean, we got over it. We got over it. But it was just like, it's not even about sex. It's literally about, hey, I can see you over there. I can come lay my head on you. If you're in the kitchen, I can rub my hand across your neck. I'm such a handsy person. Yeah, I can touch your thigh when we're driving or something. That stuff, I don't know what it does, but it feels good. I just, I just like the way it feels. So that's kind of your same or new. I am. I'm just, I'm a handy person. So when my partner is with me, like I have to be touching them at all times. What is your current ideal relationship structure? I sound like a therapist. I got Ross and Rachel. Modern monogamy. I like exclusivity and faithfulness. So when I first did it, it was monogamish. But then I went back and I was like, I took the quiz again because I was like, you know what? I feel like I was rushing through. I feel like I need to really take my time, really speak from an authentic place. And when I did it, I got open relationship. I would love a relationship that fits my ideal relationship structure right now. And when I say open and free or whatever, it doesn't even like, it doesn't have to be like sexual. I don't like a lot of rules. Like I'm not a, I'm not like a lot of rules. I don't like being out and say I'm at a bar and I'm having a good conversation with a nice young lady. I don't want to be thinking it back in my head. Oh my God, my girl's going to kill me. You know what I'm saying? That makes sense. I don't like being constrained. Like I'm a free person. Like I don't like being that now. And I do just, I just like being exclusive. Like in me, I like couples gold paintings. Now, are you, are you into, are you just women? I mean, sorry, just men be like women, not just women. Cause they wait, where did that come from? No, no, as a part of the, are you just women? No. Wishful thinking, huh? No, no, I'm just asking, I'm asking questions. Like are you just like, you're like, cause me, I think, I forgot which question it was. It was, oh, the Kenzie scale. I was like, I love women. I just have no attraction to men, but I can recognize when somebody's handsome. Like, you know what I'm saying? But yeah, no, I'm not attracted to men. Yeah, I'm not really attracted to women. I mean, I've experimented in the past, but it's not something I'm like, it's not my thing. Yeah. Fair enough. Yeah. Did it happen? It just happened. Was it college days? No. You know, as usually they say where that's where everything happens. What is your, I cannot pronounce this, Jungian? Do you know what it is? Jungian. Jungian? Okay. Personality archetype. There you go. So I am an INFP. Here, to make this simple, I'll just read what it says. Okay. It says mediators are guided by their principles rather than logic, excitement, or practicality. And when deciding how to move forward, they look to honor beauty, morality, and virtue. And they're led by the purity of their intent, not rewards or punishment. Okay. I like that. Which one are you? I feel like I have a little bit of that in me, but I'm a campaigner. I simply said, I love people who just live. They jump off the cliff and build a parachute on the way down. I feel like this is more something that you would ask a woman, but I want to ask you. Okay. I want to see what your answer is. Which of the 12 ways do you achieve orgasm? When I initially put it, I was like a rhythm. Like rhythm gets me. If it's a slow rhythm and it's a constant rhythm, I'm like, oh yeah, this is great. Because it's just that constant feeling good. If it's a fast rhythm, I like it. If it's a fast, fast, fast, slow. Fast, fast, fast, slow. I like that too. What did you pick actually? Or did you have an extensive essay type of answer? I need consistent, clitoral stimulation. Okay. Consistent. Like consistent, yeah. Clitoral stimulation. Yeah. Okay. Like even if it's like at the same time as penetration, I need you to just play with it. No. I mean I can do it myself. It's probably easier that way. But you just needed to be going at the same time. It's like nothing too wild. Like just, you know. Nothing too crazy. Don't get in my way while I'm trying to do this. Just chill, relax. Dizzy. Okay. Well, first and foremost, I wanted to thank you for actually being transparent. Being honest. You're welcome. Being true because you don't get that a lot when you're meeting people. You don't get to be as open and vulnerable just because everybody's so reserved and I feel like you sat down with no expectations and kind of just let your mind and your heart do all the running and talking. So I appreciate that. I appreciate you doing this and actually putting effort into this. Listen, I put effort into everything that I do. All right. That's what I do. And I'd be glad to sit down and talk whenever. It was fun. I would appreciate that. But yeah, this is good. Thank you for letting me in your head and making it easy. Let's cheers today. Thank you. Can I just say the biggest thank you to Rome and Priscilla for their vulnerability and for allowing me to use them for this experiment. If you found this date interesting, you are going to find their first date incredibly fascinating and you can listen to how it went down by listening to my audio book, The Game of Desire and with my Audible partnership. You can listen for free 99 translation for nothing for nothing. It's for free. So if you go to audible.com slash Shan Booty or you text Shan Booty to the number 500 500, that's going to get you access to Audible's 30 day trial. And my other favorite thing that Audible does is that you can send an audio book to a friend. So after you get finished listening to my book or any book, you can actually press a button to share it with someone else. And if they don't have Audible, they can listen to that audio book for free. If they do have Audible, they can use one of their credits. I have three that I have to use. Maybe you can send an audio book to me. But what you can do 100% is make sure that you participate in this video. This is your chance to shine. I learned so much from you all. And I think that this comment section is going to be really, really fascinating. So I would love to know your assessment of the date you just watched. And furthermore, what's your final diagnosis? Lovers or friends?