After a breakup you will want to be able to talk to your ex boyfriend and try to work things out, but he will not communicate. This can make you frustrated and you keep calling him day and night, as well as sending emails and text messages by the dozen. But that is not how to get a stubborn ex boyfriend to talk to you. This will make him call you immediately. If your ex boyfriend does not want to talk, you should leave him alone. You cannot force him to talk to you or love you. But by constantly staying in his face you will make him never want to be near you again. Men are different from women. Where you think talking things out will resolve any problem, when a man is hurt, he wants to be left alone. He needs time to sort things out and sulk for a while and he does not want to be bothered. To make him talk to you, it will be necessary to arouse his curiosity. Men like mystery and so you have to make him feel he needs to call you to get an answer to something. Calling him will not make him talk to you, but sending one email will make him call you. That is, if the email makes him curious and has a bit of mystery to it. So you need to send him an email. Only one and no more. He might not call you right away, but do not send anymore. He will have to digest it and figure out if you are trying to trick him into calling you. But in the end, his curiosity will get the best of him and he will call you. So, have patience and you will get results. the purpose of the email is to create mystery and you will ruin it if you lose patience and send more than one email. This has worked magic for others and it will work for you. In the email you will simple thank him for teaching you a very valuable lesson. Tell him you would like to tell him more and you would appreciate a call so you can explain what you mean. Add that you could also use some more advice and end the email. Your stubborn ex boyfriend will not know what to think. You will have aroused his curiosity to a point where he will have to know what you are referring to. When he calls, you will have to remain calm and do not start to cry at the sound of his voice. He will ask you what you meant by teaching you a very valuable lesson. Tell him that he has taught you to respect the rights of others and it is better to put the wish of someone else ahead of your own. Add that you owe him an apology for your actions and hope someday he will forgive you. This will get your stubborn ex boyfriend talking to you again. Citation: H. L. Archer.