 So, that was, I remember distinctly sitting at my desk at that point and I'm thinking, this is the lowest possible place I could be at right now. My fat unattractive girlfriend has just cheated on me, who I was supposed to marry and who I was supposed to cherish forever, and my life's over. Rock bottom. Who's had rock bottom? Okay. So, the key to the quest and the first ever thing that, when I know a quest is coming, alright, in my own personal life, when I've had, I've been on a series of quests, and guess what, as dudes, the quests never end, okay, they never ever end. The first time I know when I'm about to step on a quest is when rock bottom hits. And there's no, like, no consoling with the friends, there's no, like, it's a place of solitude where you're just like, alone with your tears and sadness and just like, I fucking suck right now. Alright. And that's when I know, that automatically precedes a quest. So, what do I do on this little quest? There's a little fire of passion that, like, ignites inside. There's, like, a layer of sadness and a little fire of passion, alright, that ignites inside. I'm like, I know what I need to do. I need to go on the internet and write, how to pick up chicks into Google. That's exactly what I did. I went over to the computer, how to pick up girls. And that led me to a whole heap of stuff that was like, it's okay to kind of suck with chicks and there's a whole bunch of things that you can do, completely opposite to what I was doing, that will help you all in that way. And I decided that moment, I decided I'm not just going to, you know, dabble in this little, you know, getting good with girls thing. I'm going to be the best at this shit. Fuck it. I'm going to step up and I'm going to be the best at it. So then I proceeded to run around the local nightclubs in my home with stories that actually at that stage, it's way back in the day. This is 10 years ago now, way back in the day when people used to post in forums. They were called Field Reports. They'd post like, you know, pretty much it looked like lightning bolts were shooting out their arse in the nightclub and like all this cool, amazing shit was happening like, eight girls with me. Yeah, it was awesome. All I did was say hello and eight girls came out. I was like, oh, holy shit. That's I need to do what this guy's doing, right? So I was like believing so much in this stuff. So it was like, OK, this if this little guy can do it. And funnily enough, he was probably just sitting there on this computer. Like, yeah, I was with eight girls. I'd walk out and I'd be like, OK, let's try the eight girl trick, whatever that guy did. All right. And I was using these hopeless openers and just disaster. But tearing it up. But inside, I felt like I was kicking ass because, you know, I'd hit rock bottom. This is better than fat cheating girlfriend of doom. At least I'm talking to like these hot girls. That's better than what what the previous shit was. So I started to feel like I was the best, like I was the lord of like pick up glory, right? So completely delusional, completely weird. My family's like, what the fuck's happening? He's wearing pink shirts. It's wearing pink shirts. You know, like what the fuck? My dad thought I was homosexual. So, yeah, proceeded to do that. And then so this guy kept popping up this Tyler Durden guy, right? And he's like, oh, this guy, yeah. You know, more shit, like I'm blasting out of the club. I was like, yeah, this guy's all right. Then he started his own little coaching thing. It's like, all right. So at that moment, I kind of had to, again, same as like a guy with eight girls, I had to kind of like, in my mind, do what's called suspending disbelief. All right. So you'll hear a lot of theory. You'll hear a lot of stuff. I might say it or whatever. And there's a place in your mind that goes, this guy's full of fucking shit. And there's a place in your mind, like you'll hear some theory. There's a place in your mind like this, what I'm reading right now, this is bullshit, right? There's a place in that. But you have to suspend that little voice in order to open up that, I guess, that passion and that energy and all that sort of stuff. So I was a delusional little pink-shirted man. And I flew up to Sydney because they came out to Sydney to do this little conference. So I was like, all right, I need to meet this Tyler Durden character and see what he's all about. So I flew up there. And funnily enough, I hope the guys that were out that course aren't watching this video later on. But I walk in and I'm like, I look around and it's not like the room today. But back in the day, pick up with some creepy-ass shit, okay? It was like, it was some, there was some characters in that shit, man. Like characters, okay? Like sparkly vest man walking. Like, wow, this is interesting. Sparkly vest man. Real greasy, creepy hair man. There was like some really weird characters going on at this conference. I was like, well, I'm maybe in with a shotty. I think I might be able to handle myself with all these like guys. Like they're complete opposite of, yeah, like what I would say good with men because they're good with women. Because I had a vision in my head of what like a pickup master would look like. And all of the guys had nothing, looked nothing like that. So anyway, I meet this Tyler guy and he seems kind of cool, he's rad. And the biggest thing I noticed about this guy, Tyler, his name's Owen and you guys all probably know of this guy from Real Social Dynamics. First thing I know about him was point number one. He was bold as shit, okay? Like we went out to the nightclub and we walk in together. And the first thing he's like a man, like a terminator. That's what he is. He's a terminator. And walking, he's like, boom, over these huge bouncer guys, like massive bouncer dudes and just like a cute little girl sitting there. He kneels down in front of her. He's like, hey, what's going on? And like some 80s dog's opener or something comes out of his mouth. He's like, oh my God, we all get kicked out, but, but, but, but to me, I'm like, this guy's amazing. This is amazing, this is the shit. All right, so that weekend I ran around with like a whole bunch of pickup, creepy man actually, bunch of creepy dudes. I ran around and I was probably the less creepy of them all. Still had my pink shirt on, but still probably the less creepy. So this got me noticed because I distinctly remember this one time Tyler and I walk out and just on the street, I grabbed this girl. Hey, what's up? You know, what's going on? Didn't worry about all the openers and bullshit. And then just went, oh, I might be able to go there for the kiss now. Boom, kissed her under like 30 seconds or something like that. So a couple of days later, I get an email, hey man, we're thinking about doing this RSD thing in Australia and wondering if you want to be a part of it. And so I just explode. I was like, whoa, this is the shit. This is like gonna be the best. It's gonna be the best, this is my career. I'm gonna be awesome. So I flew out to Hollywood. Oh, I had to explain it to mom and dad. Okay, that was tough. Dad still thinks I'm massively homosexual at that point, right? And flew out and then proceeded to fly around the world and teach guys how to get better at it. And again, in the early stages, I actually deep down, I had no idea what the fuck I was doing. Like honestly, I read all the books, I had all the stuff, I was going out, I was trying to pick up chicks, but then I found myself in a position where I was coaching other guys and I still felt like I had no idea what the fuck I was doing. All right, so a little message for you guys is that that little boldness, passion and will that I had, like all those three powers kind of combined to make all that stuff happen, even though probably I was, I probably sucked, right? I probably wasn't the greatest, okay? But all those things combined to make it happen. So distinct, distinct, yeah, it really resonated with me that, okay, like people would sit back and listen if you were just bold and went after it. Who's approached a girl in a club surrounded by a bunch of dudes before? Hands up, okay? Did it go well? Yes or no? No, no, yes, it's mixed, okay? Generally the amount of boldness and energy that you bring to that situation predicts how well that's gonna go. Last week I was out at a club and walking through with one of my mates who has no idea about pickup, no idea who I was in evening pickup, actually doesn't really know what I do or have any idea because he just thinks I'm choked around all day or whatever. So we're walking in the club together, he's like, oh man, oh geez, she's hot, isn't she? Oh, peace, she's surrounded by all those dudes. Yeah, it's a pity, isn't it? So I hand him the drink and he knows nothing, like knows I've never been in this stuff or whatever. So I hand him the drink, I'm like, yeah, that's a pity, isn't it? Hand him the drink, bomb, walk over, dudes out of the way, right at it, like just, boom, dudes out of the way. Hey, what's up, I'm Tim, I had to meet you. What's going on? Like just this, this little lead here. Hey, what's up, I'm Tim, what's going on? And it was like the boldness of the move, okay, did two things. Number one, it shut down all the guys and these were big dudes, right? Like these were jacked steroid men and there's always those guys at the bar. It's like, fuck, why don't I have those muscles, right? And so jacked dudes are all like, what the fuck is this, right? Like it just makes them like go back into their head and it's addictive doing that too by the way. Like if you do this a couple of times, it's just like, it's as much fun as getting the girl, all the guys like crumbling around you. So they're just like, and it's like a lean, it's like, oh my God, he's gonna take our girl away from us. Right, so they go back in their head and literally it's just like, hey, what's going on? Yeah, and then she's like a moth to a flame. So she's noticing subconsciously the dudes crumbling and then noticing like just this dude like pulling her away, right? So she's just like leaning like, what's going on? Oh, what? What's your name? Right, like this. So pulling her, pulling her in. Yeah, I'm Tim, cool. Yeah, I just, you know, I just thought you were super cute and we had to meet. She's like, oh my God. Like, and then, boom, it all just exploded. But you've got to be wary, okay? Because