 A uterus has, I'm a sex therapist, so I can talk about these things. Yeah, please, please, please. Yeah, I came from a uterus. Oh, it's okay. You've been there. Yeah, I've been there. Awesome. So, my name is Ty. Kate. Kate, so nice to meet you. Hi. So, like I said, I have a hobby. I talk to people about the things that they strongly do are true, or things that they're really strongly motivated by. Is there anything like that for you, and you want to talk about it for a short while? There are a lot of things. Oh, my God. What do you think is the most important thing, like something that you're really, really confident about? So, I think usually I would answer that question differently, but because of where I am right now, which is eight months pregnant. Oh, my gosh. So, I have to put all of my belief and my motivation behind my training that I'm doing for childbirth. Okay, okay. That's your number one priority right now. It's number one, yeah. So, I'm taking hours every day to do different practices, listen to different tracks, because I'm doing a hypnosis-based prayer. This is insanely awesome. I don't even know how to wrap my head around this, because it's never been something that I've thought about. But have you thought about, is this now that you're going through it, is this your first time going through it? Yes. Is it what you expected it to be, like growing up? Because I never had to consider what my pregnancy was like. Right. So, that's like one of the first things we talked about was what is the message that you received about what childbirth has to be like? Yeah. And so, yeah, growing up, our story was of my dad throwing ice chips to my mom from the corner of the room while she's screaming, like, I'm going to kill you and her head's spinning around and everybody's getting full of hate and screaming and flipping out. And that told you to store your pregnancy? Right. Right. Or you know, your parents will be like, oh, 14 hours of labor and you can't sass me because I went through all this stuff to birth. I've heard that. Right. That's the typical black story. Yeah. So like, or you know, you watch movies like Knocked Up and Kevin Heigel is screaming like a banshee. Yeah. And so we learned. That's what's ingrained. There could also be the story that you get from like, say, like the biblical telling of the story, like a painful birth. Oh, right. Yes. Could that also scare you? Yeah. Because I probably hear that story and I'm like, eh, let's get to the part where, you know, David gets lied about. Right. Right. First person shot. Yes. Way better. But what prepares you, what's the closest thing that's prepared you for what you're actually going to do right now? So I'm taking classes. We go to class every Saturday and the whole idea behind what we're doing is called Hypno Babies. And the whole idea is A, you have to unlearn what you were taught initially. Interesting. Because if you go into anything with fear, you're not going to do your best. You have to drop your assumptions. Right. Okay. And you have to relearn what birth can be. So now on my Instagram feed, because I follow these different hashtags, it's like, sunset, dog, cake, vagina. You're just scrolling through and I'm seeing videos every single day of women who are quietly, peacefully, powerfully giving birth, unmedicated, in tops or in their homes or wherever they need to be. And I'm trying to re-teach my brain that this is what birth looks like. I see. This process of a woman being very powerful and strong and, you know, letting out noises if she needs to, but not panicking, not freaking out. Not like how it is in the movies or anything. Exactly. I need to sell a script here. So I'm relearning how to do that as well as learning how to completely relax as much of my body as I can so that I'm not fighting my own body to give birth. The uterus has... I'm a sex therapist, so I can talk about these things. Yeah, please, wait, wait. Yeah, I came from a uterus. It's all good. I've been there. So, the muscle fibers on the inside go this way. The muscle fibers on the outside go this way. And those two muscle fibers will respond differently to the different formulas. So, when you are in your birthing time, the muscle fibers that go this way are pulling the uterus like this and pushing the baby out. Oh, okay, okay, okay. Now, what's left over inside of us is these muscle fibers that respond to adrenaline, fight or flight. So, once you go into fight or flight, they squeeze up. Because if you're in a cave, you're giving birth, and a lion is coming, you gotta get out of there. Are you saying then that there's a potential that some of the things that you've seen that have given you like these porn pressures, what pregnancy is like, might stimulate your biochemistry to the point where you're triggering the hormones that are causing your uterus to act up? Absolutely right. And that was the first time I've ever said a sentence like that in my entire life. Right, but you totally get it, right? It totally makes sense. So, if you're freaking out and if you're in fight or flight, your body is closing up, and then it complicates the pregnancy. That's exactly right. All right. I'm gonna ask some weird questions. Do it. Has this been, like, reliably demonstrated? Do we have, like, examples where, like, this is actually showing that this is the case? What are some of those examples? No babies have been allowed for a long time. And a lot of women use this really successfully to have unmedicated births. And the percentages of women who do this, they find that the chance of having to get medical intervention during your birth is way down. The chance of having to get a cesarean is way down because everything is more peaceful and calm and you're looking with your body. But beyond just childbirthing, some people can't have opioids. Some people can't have... They don't react in love. Anesthesia. Or, you know, because of an addictive past or what it was. So if you can help your body bypass or mute or kind of alleviate some pain naturally through deep hypnosis, which is kind of like meditation where learning how to cook, learning how to really go through and calm everything, then you can get a lot done without medical intervention. So some people have gone on to the knife. Is it worthwhile to have a backup plan? Yes. So we have what we call it... A lot of people will make a birth plan. We're calling it a birth preference sheet. Okay. These are the preferences that I would like to have. You'll try it out this way. And if it gets push cubs, you'll say, hey, time to step up on the next plan. But I have my preferences listed up. Exactly. It doesn't sound like you're absolutely confident about hypnosis babies. Do you say that's accurate? No. That's true. I like to be always just a little questioning of everything. Yeah. So what it is, is I'm absolutely confident in the brain's ability to calm the body and for a little... You might see with a little light with her body. Hmm. I am not absolutely confident that... Man, what do you mean by that? Am I asking? Sure. You're absolutely confident about the brain's ability to calm down? Oh, yeah. I mean, you're so... Okay. Walk me through it. Give me some examples. The easiest one. If you are thinking about someone that you are really sexually attracted to. Okay. And then you keep going into that fantasy in your mind. Okay. A healthy male body will often respond to those thoughts with an erection. Okay. Right. So that's your body reacting, having a physical reaction to thoughts. Okay. So if you're sitting there and you're thinking about all of the scariest shit that you can pick up, really scary stuff, and your eyes are closed and you're sitting in a room and you're home totally safe, but if you keep thinking about scary stuff... You can get scared. Your heart rate increases. Your adrenaline... Your brain gives your body adrenaline. Even though there's no real threat, you start to freak out and your fight or flight is engaged and your body responds to fear. Okay. Sounds like we can easily test that our brains can... When I say our brains, I mean that we can make ourselves certain ways based on the way we can, to an extent, choose how we react to things. Right. And so what it is, is it's not going to be like, if somebody has never heard of this, you can't go into a labor room and be like, but if you just calm down, it'll be fine. So there are limits then, aren't there? Right. This is a six-week course where every single day I'm listening to positive affirmations and I'm practicing my techniques for an extended period of time every single day. I'm just genuinely curious. What do they sound like? So some of the positive... Is it like headphones on the baby or is it headphones on you? I play them on my phone and I sit in different areas of the house in different positions because I don't know what position I'm going to want to be in in my birthing time. Sure. But a lot of the positive affirmations are my body and I work in harmony. My baby knows how to be born. Okay. I will accept anything that my birthing time brings me, which is part of it. So that's where I was coming from when I was saying earlier, like, this is how I want to do it, but if the baby's info report is wrapping on their neck and we have to go to Syria, I'm prepared to accept that calmly and peacefully. I want to throw out a kind of a devil's advocate question. Yeah, yeah. Generally challenging. I'm wondering, like, in the past, mortalities for women who were given birth were really, really high. We got better through the medical advancements that we have where women can go to the National Hospital and get inundated and handle that as safely as possible. Right. We learned a lot from that. Yeah. Are you saying that if we had this hypnotic technology and just used that, we would see an improved drop in mortality, or are there other good options to keep people healthy as a giver? Right. So, the rates of, like, infant mortality and women mortality do, I mean, mother mortality, yeah. Have a lot to do with stability and knowledge. Mm-hmm. And so, for example, one thing that's really common in hospital births is a lot of hospitals will really check the woman's vagina and cervix over and over and over again. Mm-hmm. Once the membrane, so, at the cervix, yeah, there is a membrane that builds up throughout pregnancy to block off any bacteria being able to get into the uterus to protect the baby. Yeah. Right? In your birthing time, that membrane is gone. Mm-hmm. So then, they start putting tools and hands and fingers and gloves and all the stuff into your vagina. Mm-hmm. Which, if you do that, every time you do that, you're introducing more germs. And you're running the risk of infection and stuff like that. That's right. So, if you can decrease, try to calm down, like, the amount of times you're doing that, you're decreasing the amount of things that are being introduced. It sounds like let me know if this is fair. Even without going to the hospital, you've taken what you've learned from hospitals, such as, like, sterility. Yeah. And hospitals in my way don't play like metal music or anything like that. They try to keep everyone calm, too, right? Yeah. But you're taking the good things from as many sources as possible to do something with your choice. Which is exactly where I am. I'm planning on giving birth at St. Thomas Hospital. Mm-hmm. So, they have a birthing center that is like other people's birthing centers where you have a birthing ball, you can sit on, you can walk around the room. Oh, okay. You can do a therapy. You're not strapped to a bed. Oh, okay. You can have a tub, a shower. So, you're in a controlled environment. If anything were to happen, they'd bring your bed out and put you up one floor into the elevator and you're in the hospital. Oh, good. That's really cool. I didn't even know that was enough. I didn't even. So, that, for me, like my friends had an amazing home birth lately. Like, they killed it. It was wonderful. They killed the baby. It was fantastic. We gave birth. We killed it. We sat with us, we did the baby together and it was beautiful. No, they did a great job. Okay. And everybody was happy and healthy and perfect. That's not for me. Okay. I... How do I do that? If you were asking me from what I've heard, it sounds like you're taking the best of a lot of different situations within your comfort zone and trying to make this the least dramatic experience. But it's still going to be... How do I put this? It will be powerful. I'm a cryer. I'm a cryer. I'm a cryer. There's a music video that I'll watch that makes me cry. It's a stupid music video, too It's not even sad. It's like some happy Japanese rock-song thing, but when I watch it, I'm like I'm touched. Yeah Time to cry. Yeah, I imagine this will be a crying moment for a lot of people just like overwhelming emotions Yes, and there's probably nothing I can't imagine what you could do to prepare yourself like oh, I just made a person Yeah, respectful accepted everything that happens like no, I'm gonna be like this is insane. Yeah, what do you do? Well, by the time you the person is out here, you don't need to fight your Yeah Cool, and that's basically it. Cool. Yeah, that's fun Yo Okay, so there's a cartoon called Street in the universe it's a really cool show It's unique in the sense that The main character becomes more complicated To the point where it's really really hard to even explain It's a little boy who's his mom who's also I don't know how far in the series you are But he's also a intergalactic Queen who's also a rock. Mm-hmm all on the same person. Yeah, and it It the shows about relationships, but it's just question of like I've never seen this level of Relationships in one show the one thing So I had all these clients keep telling me about it. You're talking about it. Really? Yeah, I mean