 Hello everyone, welcome to another live video here on Narc Survivor. If you haven't seen today's premiere, why didn't the narcissist stick it out with you? I highly recommend that you check that out. Lots of good information in there. So, let's discuss this. Why didn't the narcissist stick it out with you? I mean, you've got to think that they targeted you for a reason. They could have targeted someone else if they wanted to. A narcissist tend to have many options when it comes to sources of supply. So for some reason they chose you out of everyone else. And let's think, what is a narcissist looking for? They're looking for a sense of security and stability. They're looking for convenience. They're looking for someone who they deem to be desirable and attractive. Powerful. Successful. They're looking for someone who will make them look good. Who will make them feel good. Who will give them what they want. And of course in the beginning, you were giving them what they wanted. You listened to their demands, but then back then they weren't even really demands because they didn't have to demand anything from you. We think that they're just these nice friendly people. So we want to help them. We want to give them what they want. We don't realise that we're being taken advantage of. They might love bombers in the beginning. Making us think that it's reciprocal. Or maybe they'll play the victim and use future faking. Everything seems to be going their way. So naturally, of course they're going to stick around. If a narcissist is getting what they want, why would they ever leave? The problem is, when they do things wrong, which they inevitably do, they can't help but put you down. Disrespect you. They have to feel in control. They have to feel superior. So they end up putting you down. They end up pointing out how something isn't good enough even though you're really trying your best to fulfil their needs. It's never enough for them. And maybe you start questioning and confronting them. You want to know what's going on. It's like the person you see is very different to who you saw in the beginning because they can't maintain it for long periods of time. They could do a short burst, but then after that, you start to see what they really are. They're puny, weak and small. It's just in that moment and in the beginning, they looked a lot bigger and better than they actually were. Can you hear me now? Okay, great. Yeah, it just gets really confusing. It just messes with your mind because the difference between what you see at the beginning it's just completely different and the truth is what you saw at the beginning, that was not really them. It's who you see afterwards. That's who they really are. These puny, weak, fragile, that's them. And they do their best to hide it. They don't want you to realize how weak and broken they really are. But when you realize that, they can't be around you anymore. They can't be in your presence. They need someone to validate their false self. They need someone to validate the illusion. And if you can't do that, they're not going to want to be around you anymore. When you start confronting them, or maybe you just get sick of the manipulation, the constant put downs, and you take a step back, you're sick and tired of it, you've had enough in many situations, they will just leave because no matter what they've done to you, when you see who they really are, they want nothing to do with you then. It doesn't matter how much time you invested into them, how much money you spent, they don't give a shit. They just have to keep it real with you there. They don't care. They will use you up and burn you out. So you've got nothing left, even for yourself. And then that's when they'll just leave you. They'll just leave you for dead. And then they'll go out and find a fresh source of supply that still has their life and energy, their passions, dreams and aspirations, resources, all of these things, which they haven't used up yet, and they'll go to that person while you're left on your own with nothing. And they want you to think that this new person they're with is so much better than you. They're doing everything that you never did that maybe you couldn't do when in reality that's something to be proud of. If you didn't give your all to the narcissist, count yourself lucky because many people do. They get walked all over, treated like a doormat because that's what they're really looking for. When they leave you, it's because you're not willing to be their fool anymore. And then they go and find someone who is willing to be their fool, but they try to make it look like that's their prince or princess, someone who is always there for them, does whatever they want, and in reality that's just someone they've manipulated. And the only reason why they left you, they didn't stick it out with you, is because you were no longer susceptible to their manipulation, but they tried to make it out like there was something wrong with you. They want to make you think that because you don't just accept them as they are, they don't know quite what they're doing to you. They want you to think that that means there's something wrong with you, but either way you can't win because it's inevitably going to lead to the devaluation phase. And once you've seen what these narcissists are really like, what they're really capable of, it doesn't matter how much you think you love them, how much you think you care about them. In fact, the more you love and care for them at that point, the more they're going to hate and resent you, because deep down they know they're not meant to be loved. They know that once you've seen that side of them, you definitely should not desire them, and they look at it like the only reason you're sticking around is because you're still under their spell, you're still under the manipulation, believing in the illusion. They know you don't really want them. They already know that. Because right from the beginning, they weren't being genuine with you. They lured you in with lies and manipulations, making you think you were getting into something very different from what it actually was. So even if you think you love them, or you care for them deep down, they know that's not true. They know you're just under their spell, and in fact, it doesn't matter about loving them once you've seen who they really are at that point and what they're capable of. The narcissist doesn't even want you to want them. Or to love them. They just want you to desire their false self. And once you've seen what they're like, because inevitably as time goes by, they will say and do all of these horrible things to you. They know you're never going to see them the same way after that. They know it's too late. They know it's game over, which is why from that point on, although they may return to the love bombing now and again, just to see if they can pull you back in, they're mostly just going to devalue you, point out all of your flaws and weaknesses. It's like what reason do they have? What incentive have they got to act good? They do evil things because they believe that that's going to put them on the path that they want. That's going to get them their desired result. Because if a person really believed that they could get what they want by doing good, why wouldn't they? Why else would someone do evil unless they believed that was going to get them what they want rather than them doing good? If you haven't seen the premiere yet, please check it out. It has a lot of good information in it. And if the narcissist didn't stick with you, please let me know below. I'd like to hear about your experience and what happened. I'm just sitting in the car by the beach here. The car's shaking. It's very windy. Oracle Nazira Luara says, no, they didn't stick it out. They always left when I needed them. I was always there when no one wasn't for them. That's just how it is with these narcissists. And it's very sad. You might jump out in front of a moving car for them, but they wouldn't do the same for you. If a car was coming towards you and about to mow you down, they wouldn't stick around. Pai Tumbler says, you're always alone with a knock. It's worse than being alone. That's so true. All they really care about is their own feelings and needs. When you're around them, everything revolves around them. They haven't got the capacity to consider you because they're constantly in survival mode. Thank you for the donation, Angela. I greatly appreciate it. Thanks for the donation, Plum Duff. Yeah, a lot of people. When these narcissists leave them, it just leaves them looking at themselves and wondering, what's wrong? What did I do? Why would they just leave me? It makes you think that you're not good enough. And then they try to show you this new source. They triangulate you with them and they make it out like this new person is so much better than you. They do things with them that they didn't do with you. They make it out like they're so serious about this new person. While with you, it was just a joke. They really want to hurt you because hurt people hurt people. And anyone who's doing that when they're with someone else and they're supposed to have moved on is not happy at all. Someone's happy and they've healed and they've moved on. They will wish the best for you. So whenever these people are trying to hurt you they're trying to be mean to you that should reveal to you how they feel. Thanks for the donation, Kenneth. These people aren't happy at all. They're very insecure. Always trying to take it out on someone and when they leave you that's intended to hurt you. It's intended to upset you. They're trying to project their emotions onto you. What a narcissist says and does always says more about themselves than it ever does about you. Well, anyone else because these people are disconnected when you create a false self you disconnect yourself from reality which means that they can't even see you or they can see as extensions of themselves. You think that they're looking at you. You think that they're analysing what you're doing but no, whenever they are around someone they're either going to be projecting their positive or negative traits onto them and they're going to assign those traits to you to projection which is why they'll make accusations or they'll say something about you and it just makes you think wait, that's exactly what you do because they can't even see you so never take anything these people say or do seriously. They'll always want to make you think something to do with you but no, they just want to disown all of these parts about themselves and they've been doing it for a very long time. They abandoned who they really are and created this false self but to get what they want with such a strong sense of arrogance and entitlement naturally that causes them to do things that they know are not right things that they're not proud of and they try to dump that onto you but just know it's nothing to do with you people often wonder why did this narcissist even come into my life they look at themselves and wonder what's wrong with me and while we should take responsibility for why we attract them into our lives the truth is it's often just because you're a good person you care too much you care for other people more than you care for yourself and they see that and that is why they want to get involved with you anyway I hope this live has been helpful for you please check out the premiere if you haven't seen it yet there will be more premieres tomorrow so thank you all for joining and I hope to see you then