 Welcome back to the 21 convention 2018 of Orlando, Florida Our next speaker is the author and blogger at black dragon blog He's focused with his blog and his mission as an entrepreneur in that in that focus is maximum freedom for men and maximum long-term happiness Before he takes a stage I want to say that over the 12 years I've built this company taken all over the world How though how do these speakers presented the event for you guys? I really love finding bloggers who build up these huge audiences and have fantastic content But as of yet haven't made it in the man's sphere as a public speaker this platform for independent speakers is awesome It's a perfect fit for that from Rolla Tomasi and on online over the years I think this speaker is gonna be a black sheep at the event and that he will be one of the biggest hits at the event He's exactly the kind of speaker this platform is built for and it was built on over the 12 years We've done it without further ado. Please help me welcome Caleb Jones in the stage Well, I know what I'm doing the first thing when I get back to this conference enough to grow a beard I can't grow beards like that. I have the testosterone level of an 18 year old Literally because I take the shots because I'm on TRT to Can't grow beard. I'm gonna go to you not a beard You remember when you were a god What yeah, you were a god You don't remember this when you were little and when I say little I mean Little you were a little bastard You were a god You were you could do anything You could jump off your roof You could fly you shoot lasers out of your hands Right, you could run out into traffic and you'd be perfectly safe because the cars just bounce off you and shit be fine You could do anything you were Superman Good you also owned everything the whole world belonged to you You don't remember this either Have you ever seen 15 years ago or so those of you guys are my age or older There was a viral email that went around it was property rights for a three-year-old and it listed all these rules like If I see it, it's mine if it's shiny, it's mine if If you're playing with it and I want it it's mine you did that when you're a little so there'll be a toy over in the Corner and you'd just be sitting there. You wouldn't give a shit about it Some other little kid would come over and start playing with it. You'd be like, yeah, no, no, no, no, no, no, that's mine. Yeah, thank you That's mine. Thank you very much You did that Thomas Gerhurn 18th century ecclesiastical philosopher talked about this he talked about the sense of ownership that he had when he was a Small child he said the streets were mine the temple was mine The people were mine all their clothes and gold and jewels and silvers were mine The skies were mine the Sun and the moon the stars and all the world was mine And I the only enjoyer and spectator of it. I knew no churlish bounds nor properties nor divisions But all bounds and divisions were mine as were all treasures and possessors of them You were a god when you were little you were Superman you owned everything Is that true now? Yeah Little different now you went from I am Superman. I own the world too. Well, my girlfriend might not like that Well, I can't start a business. I might not be able to pay my bills What's the credo of the beta male which is most men? My wife won't Let me write what happened something happened to you. I'll tell you what happened to you two things First thing that happened to you when you were very little What's the number one thing you were told by your mom and your dad by far? No No, stop that. Don't touch that get away from there. Don't touch it. Don't talk to him You'll be killed you'll be raped Non-stop non-stop barrage and negativity from your loving well-meaning parents And that's assuming your parents were loving and well-meaning some of you guys didn't even have that some of you had parents Maybe who we're not loving and we're not well-meaning so now you have another layer of problems on top of that Don't you let's assume for a minute that your parents were loving and well-meaning your mom and your dad Constantly told you no stop. Don't do it. Don't touch it. Don't talk to him Don't whatever don't whatever don't whatever constant stream of negativity and that crap is still in your head today In psychological circles they talk about you spend the latter 50 years of your life getting over what happened in the first five It's true Then you went to school and that crap just continued from your teachers who said calm down shut up Stop talking sit still and on and on and on and since you were a little boy You were told this far more often than you than you would have been told if you were a little girl Because the school system and public or private or Catholic doesn't matter the entire school system is more Design for a little girl than it is for a little boy And that's no one's real fault. That's just kind of how it is if you think about this for a minute It's more easy for a little girl to sit there in her desk With her arms folded say yes teacher. Yes. Yes, and do that for five hours. That's really hard for a little boy That's almost impossible for a little boy So you had all that from your teachers on top of your mom and your dad then The next thing happened societal Programming you were trained with a bunch of bullshit. That isn't true You were told over and over and over and over from your mom your dad your family your friends your lovers TV the internet movies music Politics everything all kinds of stuff that is not true, but sounds right. That's what societal programming is Things that sound right that you believe that sound true that you at least give credence to they're empirically false and I could give you thousands of examples. I want to waste your time, but things like Let's start with politics because that pisses people off. Let's go there first So if I say now, maybe not in this room, but if I say Democrats don't go to war The average person goes oh False vast majority of the wars in the modern era was started by Democrats. That's false But if you say that out in the world people go Same thing with Republicans if I say Republicans make government smaller Most people go. Oh, yeah No empirically false the last president who made government smaller at least the United States was Eisenhower in the 1950s That was 70 years ago, but we still say yeah, Republicans make government small Now it's just politics. I don't want to go crazy with politics all areas of life if you say Eating fat makes you fat false How do you get a girl to have sex with you? Okay? Well what you do is you're really nice and you're really sweet You listen to her and you nod your head your buyer. Thanks. She'll be so horny for you. You're in If you say that most people go, huh? Yeah, you'd be nice, huh? Not only is that not true It's the opposite of what is true Right societal programming that which you believe which sounds real which is empirically false You have a shitload of it you got a mountain of that in your head in addition to all this negative What would happen if you were able to? Extract that crap Pull it out the negativity and the societal programming both What if you were to get that out of your head and take that burden off your back? What will you be able to do as an adult? What if you could return to the Superman Godhood I own the world status of a small child tempered with the rationality and objectivity and Education and responsibility of an adult. What could you do? I? Will give you an example of what you could do. I'll give you my example You may not love every aspect of this example That's fine if I list out something that you don't like then just modify it for what you would do if you didn't have any This burden, okay, so I'll go through my life really quick I'll go through my woman life and I'll go through my financial life by business life and really just I'm gonna Just burn through this stuff really fast I'd rather talk about you than talk about me and if you've read my stuff you already know a lot of this stuff I'm just gonna burn through this really quick. Okay. All right woman life Over the last 12 years. I have dated multiple Multiple women and non-monogamous relationships. I am always dating at least three women at a time sometimes four sometimes five sometimes more These women continue to see me for years and years and years even though they know I'm having sex with other women These women are attractive 90% of these women are attractive. No, it's perfect 90% When I do private workshops, sometimes I show pictures of these women obviously can't do the here But if I brought them up on stage you'd be like wow, they're cute. It's not like okay He can date multiple women because they're ugly or whatever. No, they're attractive Today I am married that is new as of this year. However, it is a different type of marriage It's called an OLTR marriage. That means two things means several things But the two big ones are it is a non-monogamous marriage. It is an open marriage I'm allowed to have sex with whoever I want and I do I have my wife Who looks like a playboy playmate who is wonderful and I have a few friends in the side I see on a regular basis number one number two There are legal Financial logistical and international barriers of finances between me and her so if God forbid we ever get divorced and I don't want to get divorced She's wonderful beyond words. She's a dream come true. I don't want to ever get divorced But if something happens outside of my control, she doesn't get one penny. I'm completely protected Very different from the standard marriage. Okay, that's my woman life. Let's go to my business life It's even better. Woman life is important critical skill. You got to learn it. You got to master it Business is important even more important my business life. I Owned three small international companies. I make a very strong six-figure income I only need to work 15 One five hours per week to maintain that entire business empire I work much longer than 15 hours a week, but I do it by choice because I like it It's fun. I like to work working is my greatest joy. It's great A hundred percent of that income is location independent I can make that money anywhere in the world wherever I am as long as I have a laptop in many cases I don't even need a laptop Sometimes you see my phone Let's see. I travel the world. I go wherever I want because I'm able to let's see I just got back a while ago from Australia, New Zealand. I just got back from Mexico I'm going to spend most of the month in South America and after that I'm back in China I wake up every morning. I do whatever I want whenever I want It's awesome. My life is so good. I can't believe I get to do this and I've been living like this for almost a decade I can't believe it. I wake up every morning like is this our dream? I'm gonna wake up. I can't believe it It's awesome. That's an example of the kind of stuff you can do in your life Assuming you want all that or at least aspects of that when you pull out all the garbage So I'm gonna talk about how to do this and this the woman in the business stuff But before I do just remember you've got to extract this garbage first You have to work on yourself internally to make sure this stuff happens If you hold on to this stuff because I've noticed with a lot of guys they do they hold on to this stuff if you hold on Rolo talked about releasing the blue pill you hold on to this stuff you say but but I don't need to worry about it Bernie Sanders are gonna be a bunch of free stuff or Donald Trump will be in the 1950s back. So he'll fix everything or She won't divorce me. She's a Christian If you cling to this stuff it can be very very hard to make this stuff work in your life to build a life of long term This isn't happy Just lay it out. Okay So all right about a lot of topics the overall umbrella to everything I talk about is long term consistent masculine happiness So any idiot I don't want to say any any person can be happy for a few days or Happy for a few weeks or happy for a few months and then get pissed off or depressed or sad or lonely I'm not talking about I'm talking about long term consistent happiness long term consistent happiness as consistent as is possible in the real world for 25 years plus and When you have that level of consistency you have to be a little more strategic in your thinking You can't just run around and do whatever you want. You can't just sleep with whomever you want You can't just go into whatever business you ever you want get whatever job you want hang out with whoever you want You have to stop and think things through what will make me happy now and what will make me happy What will make me happy can't talk later Okay, so Let's talk about how to make that work long term consistent happiness Association bar charts. I'm just gonna do a PowerPoint thing, but I'll just show you my hands pretty simple Let's do this feel like a Indonesian dancer. So you have to visualize two charts Okay, this is freedom the number the amount of freedom in your life and this is your note I'm out of happiness in your life. Okay, so Generally speaking for most men I'm talking about men here women are different women are wired a little differently But this stuff about guys unless you are a very bizarre exception to the rule The more freedom you have in your life The less rules and regulations and restrictions you have on your life. The higher your happiness tends to be Okay, if you have less freedom you have more rules and more limitations on your life Your happiness will tend to be lower. So there is a direct correlation between Freedom personal freedom and happiness not talk about political freedom all that's an aspect of it too Now that's easy. Here's what gets tricky sometimes a shit tricks yet. So here's where it gets tricky Sometimes the difference in happiness. There's a delay in its reaction to the change in freedom. I'll give you an example There are many examples You have a job unless you have a shitty job. It's just job pays the bills then you get a new job It's also a corporate type job, but it's a better job with a better company It's a little more prestigious But it's a lot more hours per week for you and it's a lot more time out of your schedule Okay, maybe you're on call or something like that. So if you look at freedom and happiness, it's right here What happens to your personal freedom in that respect? It drops a little bit Because you have less time to work on other areas of your life. You're more tied into this job What happens to your happiness? It actually goes up goes up a little bit now. I have a job in 25 years and a while but I remember back when I was a young guy when you get a new job It's kind of fun kind of exciting. You're like, oh cool. It's a new job, right? You kind of excited for the first few months kind of neat So what happens is your freedom drop, but your happiness actually went up But what eventually happens and this is the studies bear this out is that your happiness will overtake now This may take six months. This might take a year. This might take two years But eventually this will happen your happiness will start to drop Below where it was to reach its new low level of reduced freedom. Okay, I'll give you a better example I should love this example When single guy gets married and I don't mean the type of marriage I have where I can do whatever I want I mean traditional normal monogamous marriage where if you have you're not allowed to have sex on anyone else And if you do she takes your kids and takes your job and takes your house and takes everything and destroys your life Not that talk about Well that no when when someone gets that here's what happens You probably experience this either personally or you've had buddies who went through this one of the two This is something you could totally relate to so let's do this again Single guy gets married what happens to his freedom drops Way down Way the fuck down there I'll be nice and bring it back up to here. This is not to scale I'll just be nice this ease of my hands Okay, his freedom drops all across the port in every area of his life it drops. Okay now What happens? You know the answer this when a guy get first gets married bam this happen this goes up He's so it's oh my god. It's so great. She's so hot. She's so wonderful. We're gonna have babies and shit I'm gonna get laid. It's gonna be great. Oh my god. I get I get guys on websites all the time I got a lot of websites I got guys on websites all the time a lot of the X pickup artists and X players and they get married traditional monogamous marriage And they come on there and say man, this is so great marriage. It's so awesome Everybody should do this and I'll say you've been married less than a year and a half, haven't you? How'd you know that? How'd I know that? You were married longer that you wouldn't be saying that So here's what happens go back Freedom drops happen to spikes What eventually happens and again? This is not my opinion There is massive amounts of data that show this if you go to black dragon blog and look up marriage I linked a lot of the studies they've done this stuff what happens and again It may take six months. It may take a year. It may take two years two years about the average sometimes three years His happiness drops keeps going down goes past where he was when he was single to his new low level of freedom It's actually lower than when he was single and alone and lonely Now I'm not saying never get married. There are ways to get married and still be a free man I've done it. There are ways to do that. I'm not saying never have kids. I have two kids I'm just saying this is what happens. So don't be confused when you make a change in your life That redo that results in less freedom and suddenly you're happy or you see your buddies do this Hey, I just did this and it's awesome. You should do this, too Wait wait six months wait a year wait two years and then see how happy he is it always follows Cool makes sense so Here's how to maintain Long-term masculine happiness got you two things the first step is kind of obvious second steps a little more complicated What you do is step one You take your level of freedom in your life and You crank it as high as you can get it high as you can go not just sexually although that's a component of it sexually Financially in your investments in your personal life in your business in your career Logistically in your day-to-day schedule your freedom in terms of movement and travel you get as high as you can You jack it as high as you possibly can okay? That's step one most guys get that okay guys who are digital nomads And even some big-towel type guys they jack it really high now here's the second problem second step Let's forget about this one Well you then do you take a big hammer and a nail and you nail that level of freedom to the wall So you never drop below it ever again Regardless of what happens in your future regardless of how old you get well now. I'm 35. I want to get married There's a nail drops right there regardless of whether or not you change your mind Regardless of when that you change your political opinions Regardless of when that you fall in love with a girl who is not like the rest Regardless of what your mom says oh shit That's a tough one for a lot of guys. Oh shit. I want my mom to be mad at me Oh my god regardless what your dad says those you do have dads and are good in relations with your dad That's not a real job get a real job is working on the da da da da. Oh shit. I want my dad to respect me I better I better change my life to make sure my dad respects me and then your freedom goes drop Your freedom goes down and your happiness goes down By the way, there's a thing to say for your loved ones who get upset with you or disapproving of you It's five words. I love you. Fuck you mom. Are you gonna pay on my bills? You're gonna make my dreams come true. You're gonna you're gonna build businesses for me. No, well, yeah I didn't fuck you. I'm sorry. Fuck off you can do this. I've done it. You only do it once That's the good news. I've only done it once per parent did that once in my dad about 20 years ago Once my mom about 10 years ago never happened again. We're in great relation. I love my parents wonderful respect The both are great Your parents are not you your parents have their own life Especially if you are Asian or from that culture, that's a really tough one But a lot of Americans do a lot of Westerns too. Oh my mom Do you think my mom likes it that I have a marriage by sleep with other women? You think she thinks that's a great idea. She's in her 70s. What do you think? No, you think I care? No, I Don't I Want to be happy long term. I don't want to live my life from my mom. I'm over 18 That's a tough one. You've got to have those kinds of balls. This is gonna work all right Let's talk about woman life. Let's talk about financial. I'll hit both real quick. So woman life. Let's start there three things three steps Relatively simple, but not easy first step is and this might sound strange. I'll explain it You needed to find the minimum number of women in your life in your sex life that will make you happy What yeah, let me explain that so I will get guys young guys sometime. They'll say I want to fuck a hundred girls That's my goal. I want or even older guys who are right out of the door. So I want to bang 30 chicks Fine, but what does that mean so if you say you want to have sex with a hundred women and you have sex with 91 does that mean you're unhappy does that mean you're a loser by the way have we even talked about how attractive these women are Sometimes I get guys who say things like I want to have eight women on rotation I want to have 12 women on I want to have 12 fb's and they go through all these Gigantical numbers is gigantic what word I'm gonna use anyway. Gigantical Gigantical numbers You don't want to do that instead you need to stop look inward and say okay if my sex life was perfect What is the minimum not maximum minimum number of women? I need either in terms of my past or in terms of my current so my number is three I am most comfortable when there are three women in my sex life. That might mean someone very serious I just got married this year, but prior to that was usually someone very serious and then two people on the side Whatever configuration works for you most guys in this room might only need two Here's the trick to this almost forgot this part your number can't be one Here's why one is called monogamy Monogamy will not make you happy as a man long-perm. I know that bothers some people It's fact I deal in facts and science and objectivity you were never designed to have sex with one woman for the rest of your life Again, I'm not saying you can never be married. You can never be with someone you can never have that LTR You can have raised children you can do all that stuff. I am married. I live with a woman She's wonderful, but I'm not monogamous because I'm a man that doesn't work I don't utilize systems in my life that don't work The only way you could get monogamy to kind of work and some guys do this is serial monogamy So you get a girlfriend horrible breakup new girlfriend horrible breakup new girlfriend horrible breakup new girlfriend horrible breakup wife divorce new girlfriend horrible breakup God damn You want to do that the rest of your life? You want to do that in your 40s 50s 60s 70s? That's fine your life, but that is not long-term consistent happiness. That is up and down happiness This is not my objective. My objective is this and The only way this works. I'm sorry is to figure out how to make non-monogamy work to some degree and again When I say those kinds of words people think oh my god, I got a bang 12 chicks all the time a lot of guys It's one main girl and one girl on the side two girls. It's not a lot. You can do it So that's that's first thing to find that minimum number and get it as low as you can as small as you can because the larger The number the more work it creates for you in your life. You don't want to work You want to enjoy yourself especially when it comes to women. Okay, that's the first thing second thing This is kind of obvious you need to practice and learn a system to bring new women into your sex life whenever you need it And that's that's basic game That's basic pickup stuff and a lot of you guys probably already know this There's only four ways to do this outside of paying for hookers for the rest of your life By the way, do you want to pay for hookers the rest of your life? Is that an option? Sure? It's an option. Will that make you long-term happy for the rest of your life? Maybe maybe not so outside. I'm not saying you can't do it a lot of a lot of my buddies do it That's fine and saying it's a little different than game Four things four ways night game day game online dating social circle game. There's kind of a fifth category Which is speed dating? I don't know if that really counts long guys won't do that But anyway those four what you have to do is pick one of those not all four Sometimes I get these young guys are all excited. I want to go to the clubs and I want to pick up chicks the malls I'm gonna go in Tinder and I'm gonna fuck all my friends one Success is not scatter shot success is focused pick one. I don't care which one you pick You could pick whichever one you like based on your personality and your objectives and your age Sometimes things make more sense for younger guys or older guys depending where you are. That's fine pick one I picked online dating so the way I became known in the mannisfur Red pill world is as black dragon about ten years ago through my online dating stuff So you go to online dating success now calm. I have an entire online dating system That's how I got known so I chose online dating if you hate online dating fine choose night game choose day game choose Social I can't talk social circle game Doesn't really matter all game styles work. I'm not one of these guys said well my way is the only way to count Do whatever you want to do just do it pick one and get decent at it I didn't say you have to be awesome at it You want to be a pickup artist guru or and that's still to do that you don't the bang a hundred women You just need to get decent at it enough to bring in enough women into your life that you already defined in step one Minimum amount of work required to meet your objectives. Okay, really important That's a that's a second third one third one is You need to get only backup for a second It might take you two years three years of your life to get good at that Do you get good at game? It took me to two two and a half years where I was like, okay? I'm good. I can do this now That's fine two years. It's nothing take your current age and add two So now you're that new age and now you never have to worry about women ever again for the rest of your life I think that's a good investment two years is nothing Richard talked about this. So guys are lazy. I don't want to do dude two years two years nothing two years So don't be afraid of a little work Don't be afraid to take a year or two or three and get good at this stuff This is a mandatory required skill for your long-term happiness. All right third one separate you need to learn and practice another skill that keeps women in your life for as long as possible in a low drama high freedom way that means minimum number of rules What happens when you get a traditional normal girlfriend the amount of rules goes up? So your freedom goes down and once you're off that that NRE Honeymoon phase your happiness goes down right minimum number of rules minimum number of minimum amount of drama and Keep women for as long as possible by Typical relations last many many many years. This is called relationship management. You need to learn how to do this The problem with a lot of guys in the pickup artisty world is they're very good at getting laid, but my god as soon as they get a girlfriend They're terrible. I could mention names. You probably already know who I could mention. I'm not going to go there It's really bad You need to learn both you need to have both sets of skills and they are different Players pick up artisty guys. They're great at getting laid. They're often very bad at relationship management You need both if your objective is long-term consistent masculine happiness You've got to learn both and again Maybe it'll take you another two years to learn how to manage your relationships took me about Two and a half so two years learn how to get good at game another two Yeah, it's about two to get good at relationship management. That's four years again take your current age at four You're that age you never have to worry about women ever again for the rest of your life Pretty good deal take the time. It's a worthwhile investment very high ROI on your time Cool make sense. Okay, so that's woman life. Let's go to business life. She's even more important Business life's really good If you've read my stuff, I talk about alpha 2.0 income Alpha 2.0 income. There are four aspects to it. I'll list them really quick and then I'll go through each one Okay, first one minimum income of seventy five thousand dollars per year I'll talk with that a second number two Only requires 30 hours a week or less to maintain that income I'll talk about that number three location independent You can make money anywhere in the world no matter where you are or what you're doing okay fourth one no employees and Minimal expenses We'll go back go through each one of these Minimum income seventy five thousand dollars a year they have done multiple and they've done a lot of these now They should have done the one last year Multiple happiness studies and they use very large sample sizes one of them was 400,000 people and they did all kinds of analyses on what people What made people happy what made people unhappy? Income levels lifestyle all this stuff and every time they do this no matter what sample size they use no matter What group of people they use they always come up with the same number 75,000 a year minimum income is for maximum happiness That means if you currently make less than seventy five thousand dollars a year if you make more money You will be happier Money doesn't make you happy societal programming empirically false money makes you more happy Particularly if you're under seventy five thousand now what about if you want to go past seventy five thousand I make a lot more seventy five thousand. That's fine. You can go past seventy five thousand But what they found is if you go let's say from seventy five thousand you bust your ass you make a lot more money You may not you get your income to hear your happiness won't go here It might go to here So you'll still be happier, but you get into the point of diminishing returns on average You may be the kind of guy where I say seventy five thousand you go said that's it seventy five No, I want to make 300,000. I want to make a million. I want to make work. That's fine. Do whatever you like I'm talking about the average so base minimum baseline income for your long-term happiness is seventy five thousand dollars a year if you do nothing else from what I Talk about today if you just set a minimum baseline of seventy five thousand dollars a year minimum income for the rest of your Life, you will be happier if you do that nothing else you will be happier again. This is empirical. This is science first second thing Maximum 30 hours a week required to maintain your income whatever that income is as I said before I only about 15 I could work 15 hours a week and maintain my entire business structure I could literally work a full day on Monday like a full day like 10 hours I can work half the day on Tuesday take the rest of week off take the rest of weekend off perfectly fine I could do that rest my life wouldn't lose a penny How do you do that? Here's a do that You can work one of two ways you can work to create systems or you can work to do work Most people work to do work. They have to work to do work So if you're an employee and most business owners are also in this category You have to go do something with your hands and then the money comes in Right and if they stop doing stuff with their hands the money stops well, that's bullshit That's not gonna make you happy long term Short term maybe maybe if you really like what you do and you get a new job or a new business And it's exciting and fun for a while maybe but you're the rest of your life Now you would be shocked at the things that don't make you happy in your 40s or 50s It made you very happy in your 20s You've got to think strategically and you guys are my age in your 40s the same deal You would be shocked at the things that are in your 60s You don't want to do anywhere that you love to do in your 40s long term strategic view So instead of working on work you spend your time and effort to build a system To build a system that creates money by itself and just throws money at you So you design the system and again it may take you a year two years three years five years to develop the system That's a very good return on investment Once you have this system that creates money for you Then you step back and the money keeps coming and all you got to do is babysit the system and monitor the system Maybe come over and tweak a little thing here and tweak a little thing here and go back 15 hours a week 20 hours a week I know guys who work less than 10 hours a week and make more money than I do it can be done You've got to build a system instead of focusing on work you focus on the system I get a lot of guys who say well I want to be a freelancer nothing wrong being a freelancer it's a good start But the problem being a freelancer is this work. You've got to work and work and work Money is not going to come in if you don't do that work right, okay Third thing location independent income Again, they have done studies and they have shown very very very clearly that if you have to go to a building Get the drive or take a train or a bus whatever to a building every day to earn the income to pay your bills You will be less happy if you don't have to go to that building if you can work whenever the hell you feel like it You will be much more happy freedom of schedule having a flexible schedule huge correlation to happiness Moreover that doubles if you can do that anywhere you want in any city in the world You may say why I like my city. I don't need location. I like my city. You like your city today You may change your mind later number one number two Shit may happen to your city over the next 20 years and cause you to change your mind So if you don't want to ever move out of your city, that's great, but you at least want the option You want the option and having the op just having the option makes you happier just knowing you have that option I Travel a lot But if I didn't travel a lot if I just stay where I lived just having the option that I could pick up and leave and I'd be fine And I wouldn't lose a penny. I could be going anywhere in the world I could move anyone the world I wanted to just having that option makes me happier. We'll make you happier too. I had a goal Long time ago years ago now and it was a big goal ahead for a long time It was I wanted to be able to leave the country not leave my city, but leave the country For an entire month and have no dip in income while I was gone That today I can leave permanently matter of fact. I'm probably gonna do that about a year or two I mean, I'll come back here visit lock. I have kids and stuff, but I have the freedom to do that Yeah, lifestyle design Location dependent income all right last one No employees some people have had trouble with this one. It's not good for the economy All right, if you're making something that people need it's good for the economy don't worry about that No employees as soon as you hire a salaried employee The minute you hire that person The government will come in with its tentacles and its tendrils and its tubes and latch on your business like there's like an alien and Your business will look like that baby in the matrix with all the tubes and shit in his face and butt That'll be your business. You think you run your business. No the government will at least help you run your business You will tell you when to hire when to fire it will manage your finances It will take kind of insurance to buy Man, it's bad. It's bad in the United States. It's really bad in Canada. It's triple bad in Europe God if you're in France good luck firing one of your bad employees. Oh my god As soon as you hire an employee you are not free and I can tell you as a business consultant for with over 20 years of experience the number one pain point and the number one nightmare of business owners is Dicking around with employee problems. They hate it. It sucks. If you have employees Conversely, this is conversely to societal programming conversely to what you might think you have employees. You are not free Are there bizarre rare exceptions this rule? Yes, they're always rare exceptions every rule. Yes Sometimes people do get traditionally monogamistic married in it works Rarely there are rare exceptions the rule generally speaking and I try not to be the exception of the rule I try to do what is most statistically probable No employees now that doesn't mean you have no help you need help you're gonna need help running your company I have a staff of 12 people 11 people no employee you have some contractors contractors virtual assistants Interns volunteers, etc. You don't need employees Make sense next thing Business structure. Let's talk about that for a second. So I have three different companies All three companies are diversified. So we talk about diversifying your investments. We talked about investing We never talked about diversifying your income. I Would argue now your investments are very important They're critical, but I would argue your income is a little more important in your investments You lose your investments. You have a bad day. You lose your income, right? So you need to diversify your income We do not live in a society anymore in an economy anymore You can have one job for the rest of your life or even one business for the rest of your life Our grandfathers could do that. We can't we don't have that option So the structures that I talk about I have three different companies and to follow the structure need two to four businesses three different companies Each one is selling a completely different thing to a completely different market. So I'll give you my example I have a business consulting practice time management productivity profitability things like that. That's my primary company Actually, that's so much anymore. They're all about same now. That's my first company My second company is the one you guys a lot of you guys know about it's black dragon alpha male 2.0 lifestyle design for men It's an online business Podcasts and books and all kinds of good stuff the third company is I have a marketing company that markets for computer consultants And we take a percentage of improvement. So as you can see I'm selling three completely different things to three completely different markets So if any one of my businesses go out of business, I'm pissed, but I'm okay This is a question we get a lot. We talked about today. What happens black dragon. What happens Caleb if They make dating advice illegal. Okay, let's make the worst-case scenario my black dragon business goes out of business. It's gone I'm pissed off, but I'm fine. I got two other companies making money What happens if they start regulating? They jack up regulations on business consultants, which by the way that kind of thing is coming It's the president after Trump. You got to be worried about So let's say they start blowing the head off of regulations in terms of consulting So let's say worst-case scenario my consulting business goes out of business. I have a bad day But I'm okay. I got two other companies. They're selling something completely different to complete different markets and also internationally too diversified income sources So not only this is actually very interesting It's not only a way to increase your freedom, but this also actually enhances your stability in your security When you have a business structure set up like that and again, it might take you a few years of your life to set it up That's okay Once you have a business structure set up like that Especially if you have no debt and things like that your location independent You will not only be one of the happiest men on the planet earth You will be one of the most financially stable and secure man on the planet earth It's a good good good place to be what else? I'm doing on time. Oh, we got plenty of time. We're not great You want to open it up for questions now? Should we do that? Is it too soon? It's not okay going Keep going. All right, so Next thing we'll talk about women's stuff for a bit Talk about that. So now you've got those four different ways if you were to draw out So here sometimes I draw this out on a graph you want to think in terms of systems You'll notice everything I talk about a system based. I think based in systems I have a business background. So my entire woman life is based on systems. My entire business life is based on systems I don't want to just do work to get results I want a system that happens without me having to work very hard So now that I've developed these systems of bringing new women into my life and maintaining women for long periods I don't have to work very hard. It's a system that I implement And by the way, once you get good at this you want to work very hard at all You'll just kind of relax and it'll happen at this. I've been doing this for years. This is kind of automatic for me So the graph I draw out if you want to visualize I have to this is how I view it in terms of my woman life now I have two machines out in the forest in backyard back behind my house So the first machine is an online dating machine That's just kind of how I visualize this stuff and at the top machine is a little funnel You've got all the women who are single and available in your city that fall into the funnel and the online dating system and again If you don't like online dating replace this in your head with Social circle game day game or night game whatever it is that system processes all those women and The rejects get shot out the side and the ones you have sex with are at the bottom They come out the bottom. That's what you want. It goes into a little lake Those women then become women you have long-term relationships with I do not do one-night stands I have never done a one-night stand in my entire life. I don't understand the point I understand some guys think that's fun and you think that's great. That's great. Do whatever you want You do you but to me that is very shitty ROI to spend all that time to have sex with an attractive woman one time My objective is to have sex that woman for the rest of my life even if she's just a very casual friends with benefits Oh, by the way, I didn't mention this earlier. Let's talk about this if you have a system that maintains women for a long period of time Does that mean the women will never leave you? no Men cheat women leave again. We were never designed for monogamy and in both cases They are doing what they are biologically wired to do women are biologically wired to leave you That's how women are now you can react to that one of two ways One way is get very upset about this and in sadly in the red pill community. There's a lot of guys We're very upset about this. They get very mad. Why can't women be loyal? I can't women no Walt You see a lot of that stuff. I Got news for you women are the way they are and they are never changing How many years of evolution hundred thousand years of evolution? That's not changing next year It's not changing in 10 years or 20 years. That's how they are Well, we can go back to the 1950s. There's no big force to stay with us. I got more news for you The 1950s are gone and they are never coming back to the Western world. I'm sorry Maybe at some point somewhere else on the planet and some distant future. That's possible here in the United States Canada, Australia, Europe. No, it's gonna get a lot worse before it gets better and it's probably not gonna get better in our lifetimes That's not coming back. Don't wait for it So that's the first option second option my option is to integrate how women are biologically into the system So women leave me But because of the system that I have I have a 94 percent return rate And yes, I track this with numbers on spreadsheets 94 percent. That's the exact number systems So when a woman leaves me, I Don't care 94% by the way, if you look at the typical monogamy guy Or even the typical red pill player-ish guy when he gets into a serious relationship if you look at his return rate for women It's literally the inverse of mine. It's like 5% sometimes 10 to 12 percent So normal guys when a woman breaks up with a normal guy, she will never have sex with him ever again When they break up with me, I'm almost guaranteed to have sex with him again So I don't care. So they say, oh, I can't see where I got a boyfriend and I I don't I don't say this I think and I go, okay. See you in a year and a half See you in two years See you in six months the younger the woman that's sure the time frame generally speak. Okay, that's great. Have fun Okay, I just kind of check the calendar 94% so in other words instead of being upset about this you make it right You make the system right do I give a shit? No It also depends on a lot of other factors in the type of relationship you have in things like that So you can get mad about this stuff or you can integrate it into the system where it works Just like I can't start a business and rely on it for 50 years anymore Fine make it work have multiple small businesses if you need seventy five thousand dollars a year Which you do in my opinion you don't need one business to create seventy five thousand You can have one that does 25 one that does 25 one that is 25 So that it takes the pressure off you to have this gigantic company use that word again You can have each company have a third of your income. That's perfectly fine. You'll notice in both these systems We're basing it on redundancy Don't have one business that takes care of you have several now you can relax Don't have one woman in your sex life have several now you can relax and again I'm gonna say it again because sometimes go you guys go You can be married you can have a very serious relationship. You can raise children lots of guys are doing this Just be discreet It's workable Redundancy long-term happiness when you have these options your freedom goes up your happiness goes up And all you have to do is you have to make sure that nail is in there and then you're good to go How we do a lot of time 40 we're at 43 minutes questions. Good. No should keep going. I Can go for now? All right, let's talk about Yeah, let's go back to women again. So now women In terms of long-term relationships You have a system where they go away and they come back and they go away and they come back So I get a lot of questions. Okay, so you have 94 percent return. How many do they return more than once? So does that mean a woman leaves you and then she comes back and she leaves you again? That's permanent. Yes, sometimes that happens. Sometimes you can have women come back multiple times depends on their age Depends on a lot of different factors. So you what you want to do ideally is again Your system you want to develop a system where you have a list of women who are constantly coming back to you over and over again Going away and coming back going away and coming back when you have that system You really don't need to go out and Sarge anymore. You can if you want I barely need to I haven't done that in Two years probably longer I have not needed to go out into the world and bring new women into my life because I have such a large list of women I've been doing this 12 years now 11 years now Who keep going away and coming back and going away and coming back and also I've also defined my minimums I don't need a mountain of women. That's ridiculous I just need a primary woman and one or two on the side and I'm good I don't need to have 47 different women now the argument is okay. Well when you're a younger guy Don't you need to like have sex the much women to get out of your system? Maybe so here's the deal on that You can get the crazy stuff out of your system You cannot get your sexual need for a variety out of your system does that make sense? So if you've got a list of sexual fantasies like Two twin sisters and having sex on a chandelier and mother daughter and cheerleader and whatever the hell okay You can I know cuz I've done it you can make a list of all your crazy fantasies and get them all done And when you get them all done, you don't need to do them anymore. You're good Now a lot of guys misunderstand that they think okay. I've done all my craziest I sold my wild oats so now I can get married and be monogamous for the rest of my life No, there is the crazy fantasy stuff and there's sexual variety two different things. I Hope that makes sense. So yes, you can get all the crazy shit out of your system. I don't need to do crazy shit anymore I've done it all I don't care. I'm 46. I'm good. I'm good to go. I have two children You know, I'm good. Okay, does that mean I can then have sex with one woman for the rest of my life? I Mean I can I could go around with where a lot of men do Okay, I wanted someone else. I love my way. I could do that. Is that happiness? No We were never designed for this you were never designed for this be aware and Acknowledge who you are as a man and then integrate that into the systems in your life Super important so many people deny who they are and they deny how they're designed by the way that applies to women I've talked about both today haven't I've talked about you as a man in terms of sexual variety And I've talked about how women are biologically wired in terms of wanting to leave you Now the last question is what if they leave you all the time? How do you get married? How do you have a serious relationship? What if you want to be with a woman 20 plus years? What if we're going to raise kids? Here's what this works the more casual the relationship is The sooner and more often they leave you obviously because they're not getting the boyfriend the experience So I talk about for the you guys have already read myself. You know this I talk about three levels of relationships So there's FB, which is friends with benefits fuck buddy, etc. Very casual no big deal Then there's MLTR, which I pulled from the pickup artist community Which is a woman you're dating and you like and you have feelings for and you but you could if non-monogamous You can have multiple of them and then the final level is OLTR, which is like your girlfriend or your wife Who you've actually made sexual commitments to? You have promised her that you're not gonna have MLTRs You're not gonna date any women you can have sex women to get a date anybody and Hopefully by the time you have an OLTR You're an older guy and you don't want to date other women the reason I am married is because I don't want to date other women anymore I'm too busy working. I don't want to do that. I want to have one woman. I care about and love very much and I found her she's great and Occasionally I want to have my sexual my need for sexual variety stated because I'm a man Well, how do you convince women to do that? That's a very big topic I'll give you the I'll give the one sentence to answer that question. How do you convince women to go along with this? Alright This is kind of funny, but it's true Woman says I would never do that. That's not a real relationship. I would never let my man fuck other women All you have to do today ten years ago. You couldn't do this You couldn't do this ten years ago, and I would know cuz I tried you can do this now though It works right monogamy has gotten so bad the divorce rate among people who actually get married It's gotten so bad cheating has increased so much now. You can say this all you have to do is say Every boyfriend you've ever had is cheated on you, right? And they go that's what they do So you it says it right there you can say alright fine You don't say this, but that's the attitude in the frame you cannot see me Go find another man who will cheat on you or you can date an adult who is honest and open about this stuff Choice is yours Well someday I'm gonna see years ago. They can say well no if you find the right guy find the right guy It's gotten so bad you don't have to say this anymore. It's actually a lot easier for guys like me 48 minutes. We're good. Should I keep going? questions I Keep going if you want democracy Yeah, keep going. All right. All right. What's up about business now? I'm going back and forth. I'll jump back and forth I go talk forever Business structures, so you have to make sure how do you get from high-income from low-income to high-income fast? Here's how you do it. There's a lot of answers question. I will give you the best answer I've talked a lot about a lot of my blogs. You can go into business selling a thing to the entire world or you can niche So here's the easiest example get a lot of guys I lost 40 pounds and I want to start a fitness business. I want to start a fitness website and teach fitness Great. You can teach fitness. You can teach to everybody fitness Losing weight getting stronger, etc. You're gonna get murdered you do that You're gonna go into competition against thousands upon thousands of websites Hundreds and hundreds of fitness gurus on the internet who've been doing this for years and years and years You are not gonna stand out. You're gonna bust your ass You're gonna work for six months. Maybe you're and you're gonna tired. You're gonna do something else. You're gonna waste your time What you do instead is you niche Instead of saying I'm gonna sell fitness so you niche in two areas first you niche your offering and then you niche your market So instead of saying I teach fitness you're gonna say I teach fat loss Which is different than fitness, right? I teach fat loss. I'm gonna talk about losing fat That's it. I'm not gonna talk about anything else. So now you've niched your offering, which is good You're not done. The next thing you have to do is find a niche a very narrow niche Let's see. I talked to a guy a while ago and he wanted to do fitness training and He niched with my help. He niched for eight. He only does fitness training for Asian men over 40 That's a niche now you can stand out instead of teaching fat loss to anyone who wants to lose weight you could teach fat loss to Moms who just had a baby That's a niche and if you're smart you would say married moms who have a baby because they have more money See this works. So what guys do usually when I suggest like well, but there's hardly any married moms There are millions of married moms just had a baby. How much money you need to make? 75,000 is fine. You're gonna make 100,000 200,000 300,000 more than enough Even in very weird narrow niches to make all the damn money you want and you'll get from zero to the money much Faster if you niche then if you just pull something out of your butt and sell it to the world That's what most people do number one reason for business failure is people don't market and sell They don't put a priority on marketing and sales. The second biggest reason is they don't niche They try to sell something to everybody It is so difficult to make money doing that the example I give is who makes more money the General business attorney or the business attorney who focuses on mergers and acquisitions and nothing else He's gonna make more money. He's gonna work less hours. He's gonna charge more for his services It'll be easier for him to market and he'll get more referrals Now you can take it a next level and you should so who makes more money the business acquisitions attorney or the business Acquisitions attorney who only works in the grocery store industry and that's it Again more money less hours higher pricing all that good stuff. He's gonna go from zero to this so fast You won't believe it You've got to niche and the biggest question is well, how do I niche? I don't know how to start There's a whole sequence on this stuff I'll give you the real quick summary answer sit down and think it through what are some niches you've experienced What are some niches you've worked in the past? What are some niches you've read about on the internet go through and brainstorm out and pick one pick one that you're At least mildly interested in because as they talked about earlier you want to be at least somewhat interested in this stuff You don't want to do something you hate so find an interesting find interesting critical stuff and if you have Three different business you'll notice I do this myself I didn't do this as well as my first business because it was my first business But if you've noticed I have three different businesses that are completely niched so my first business is I niche in the Construction and sports and biotech industries. That's my niche in terms of my business consultant I'll take customers outside of that so I don't niche really hard that business But that's like that's my first business my second business the drag black dragon business my primary niche Now I have a lot of customers outside of this niche But my primary niche is men between 25 and 45 who don't require monogamy now There are a lot of guys under 25 who like myself or a lot of guys who are older than that who like my stuff But by niche the content the person I'm writing to as I write my stuff is to that person Make sense. I'm niche there my niche over here My third company is computer consultant companies not even IT companies But companies that have computer consultants that go on site to computer to their clients to service There are computers and all that good stuff if if we do our marketing and sales to this company and they come up with companies that are Similar to that like web developers and stuff. No, I'm sorry. We don't take your business. I'm highly niched So I can charge more money. I can find customers more easily. I get a lot more word-of-mouth business. It's Awesome by the way one more thing You don't have to be online for this stuff Jack talked about being online So this first business is a hybrid offline offline offline online can't talk business my Consulting stuff my black dragon business is a hundred percent online business. My computer consultant marketing company is a hundred percent offline 100% location-dependent 100% offline. There is no website. You can't find it It's all done with direct mail and telemarketing and various other things that are offline People forget about these things. They still work. So again, I'm diversified in another way I'm not only diversified in terms of my niches In terms of my locations. I'm diversified in the business models. So what happens if it's hard if down the road It's harder to make money online. I got an offline business. It's just fine You see this works Multiple companies and multiple niches with multiple business models and you don't need 47 companies I have three a matter of fact down the road. I may just have to I might stop consulting. I've decided yet Who is fine two to four is what I recommend. That's all you need You don't start all the businesses up at the same time. That's not gonna work You don't sit on something to start three companies one at a time You start one business at a time by the way on that topic You've got an information card on your desks. So two things if you feel that out I will send you my primary book or written eight books my primary manual on how to define a long-term happy free lifestyle I'll just send that to you email free also In addition to that and this is just I didn't plant this way just how the dates work next week a week from today I'm releasing an online video alpha 2.0 business course that shows you how to actually create these companies from scratch Even if you have no business experience, it's several hundred dollars But if you fill it out you get 15% off so you're welcome to do that or not totally up to you It's just how this work But this is really critical stuff You can't just date women because that's how your friends do it and that's what your mom wants You can't just start a business because you're real excited about a book you're gonna write You've got to think more strategically because if you don't you're gonna be happy for a while And then you're gonna be unhappy and then you'll be happy again, then you'll be unhappy That's the standard model. That's a standard man standard. What standard woman's like this Standard guy is more like this. I don't want to live that way. You only get to live one time far as I know reincarnation doesn't exist and I don't want to bet on an afterlife. Maybe it exists. Maybe it doesn't I'm not betting on it though I want this life to be the best life. I can possibly make it. I Don't run on over time. We're at 55 minutes. That's my speech. I'm happy to answer questions if you like Thank you very much By the way, too, I'm the last speaker so in about a half an hour. I'm gone tomorrow because I got to fly out I will plant myself out in the lobby out there if I don't get to all the questions that have to answer questions The lobby in about a half an hour Just make sure you get your money's worth If I come back next year, I'll try to stay more days Just hit me whenever you're ready Right here right here. Hey, that was a awesome presentation. Thank you I've been dealing with a lot of limiting beliefs and Emotional issues from my past. I have done some therapy. So I'm read some books But I'm still finding that it's still very hard for me to let go of some of them What are some of the recommendation would you give for somebody to let go of? Let go of your societal programming. Yeah, we're we're from I was born Haiti Haiti. Okay. All right I was gonna say India. Okay. All right You have to ask yourself. Why do you want it? So I have to have this because and you have to get into your own head You have to ask yourself. Why do I want this? Well because it's it's what it's what real men do why why do real men do this? Well, because my dad said so why why is my dad always right you keep asking why and you keep drilling down and by the way This is not easy. I had to go through this in my early 30s. I'm 46 now You've got to drill down into this and keep going until you get the answer Oh, I don't know because eventually you'll get an answer. Well, I guess that's just because what I was told That's how you do it. That's the that's the summary. It's a little more complicated than that Hey, thanks for that talk. That was fantastic How did you reach your epiphany and this level of clarity about the systems approach? Did you have mentors or other resources that helped you start on this journey or was it just through self-reflection? All those things so I had some mentors in my 20s I got started my start of my first company was 24 years old and I got to the high income pretty quick I was making six figures by the time I was 27 and but then I got traditionally monogamy married. I had kids I bought the big fancy house I did everything that I was supposed to do and by the time I was 30 I wasn't unhappy, but I wasn't happy. It was like so it forced myself to sit down and reevaluate my life and One of my men I got a lot of mentors one of them is Brian Tracy another one is Harry Brown and around this time I use their techniques. I sat down. I've talked about this before in my blogs and stuff I sat down and wrote out and this is a good example. This is a good exercise to follow I wrote out my entire life is if I could start all over starting from zero starting now So everything in my life is gone. I'm the same age but everything in life is gone now How does my life look if it's perfect? They have to run about two or three pages and I looked at that and I read it and with the exception of having my two Children just about everything on there was different and I realized your questions about systems I knew that I couldn't do this myself I'd have to build systems to build this stuff because I saw other older men in my life including my own father who worked very very very very Very hard into their old age and they're just tired and they're just done because they're busy working and not developing systems I don't have to answer your question Awesome talk. I was 17. I had a list of 300 women. I can't remember or keep track Why not do you take photos of them right away without being creepy and what do you use for? Systematizing it because I have trouble with that So your first question I do online dating which means photos are already available to me because there's profiles Sometimes they send me photos. It really depends the woman. I don't really I don't have a sister for that. I don't really care I'm sorry your second question. Oh, how do how do you sorry? Like what did you do to build to keep track of it because I meet him at night and I just can't remember who they are. Oh Spreadsheets So when I was hitting game hard, which was a lot of the last few years not lately I would always have a spreadsheet of active women And I had to make sure there were at least ten women on there because you're not gonna have sex every woman You meet it might be one out of ten one out two out of ten Whatever so I had a list I had there and I do online dating So I had their online name their real name a little thumbnail their picture and their height and with those four things I could remember. Oh, that's oh her so when I got a message back in my inbox of all these dating sites I was on and go oh her oh yeah her and I would also track when is the last time we spoke because you don't want too much Time to go between the times you speak until you meet her in real life And then as soon as you meet her in real life There's a timer time is your enemy as soon as you get that first you got to get that second date I usually have sex the second date. That's my system But I track all that on spreadsheets everything my whole woman life is on spreadsheets because I teach this stuff I have to be an example. Thank you. You're welcome Great so aside from inaction, which is a clear problem What's the next biggest barrier to building a system in business or building systems? Aside from inaction lack of clarity you don't know what you want most guys to start companies don't know what they want I want to make a little money. That's not a goal and that's not clarity. I want to get rich I want to get famous. I want to be famous in this industry. I want to travel the world These are not goals. These are hopes and wishes and dreams. You have to be super clear I just talked about how you could write out your life So a good exercise to write out your life be as specific as possible in every area of your life of your life is perfect Woman money lifestyle everything then you take that as fodder and you create long-term objectives long-term goals From your long-term goals mid-term goals, and then you create an action plan So now and when I talk about writing it out, you want to write out especially your business You want to write out your business as if it's done. So what does your business look like when it's done? You ask that of most business owners. They go what? When it's done, what's perfect? How does it look and that also forces you to think in terms of systems to you write out what it what it looks like when it's done? Because people don't think in terms of done. They just think well, this is my business I work on there rest of my life until I die. I retire Thank you for the talk. I'm glad you raised the topic of non-monogamy because I think it's sort of Subtext of a lot of these relationship talks the default is monogamy and that's what the societal default not the biological people Exactly. Yes, and that's still what a lot of men want and what most women want. My question is How do you find high quality non-monogamous women because in my personal experience the polyamorous groups the swingers groups? You don't tend to find the best quality women and the best ones don't want to share. So how do you do it? I? Had the same problem when I started out years ago in this system And I knew that I could not rely on the polyamory Swinger community to supply my needs so the system that I utilize if you go to have open relationships now calm There's a whole book on it on exactly how to follow the system. You need to train normal women to come into this world slowly 90 what's the number 97% it might be 98% 97 98% well those two of all the women I've ever had sex with and it's a pretty large list had no non-monogamy experience before me. I trained them I brought them in this world need to develop a system or learn a system and wine is one There's others where you bring the normal everyday girl next door who is pretty and intelligent and all that good stuff into this world Slowly you don't just jump it on her head. You don't see in the first day No, by the way, I'm fucking three different women and I want you to be number four. Your name is Tuesday. No There are guys on the internet That doesn't work. It's slow. It's a slow progression. I have it in four different phases I can't go through the whole system now. It's a slow progression and by the phase four, which usually takes about three or four months She's at least accepting of it That's the answer. Hi there. First of all, I'd like to say before I came here. I had an idea of having this main partner and multiple side chicks and I couldn't come up, but I thought that was weird and Now I've learned that there's a word for it So I'm pretty curious to check out your blog. Well, there's lots of work I call it non-monogamy because you say polyamory people go No, and I don't really that's polyamory is not really what I do. Yeah, I feel polyamory is quite different Like it's you have multiple. Yeah, you're dating multiple partners multiple people dating multiple people as a group That's fine. I know a lot of polyamorous people to very have I did that for a while. It's fine I prefer open relationships. I love you. I want to be with you I don't want to be with anyone else, but I'm a guy Occasionally, I'm gonna go and I'll be now I'll wear condoms. I'll get STD tests. So there's a whole system for that's that's what I So the question is Would you be okay? And it's okay if you can't answer this question here, but Would you be okay if your main partner had other? With another man So So I can answer your question directly, but I can't give you details Do what would I be okay? Yes, I've been in serious relationships before where the other women played around am I okay with it? Yes, I'm not threatened by other men now There's a number of parameters to that if you are dating some 19 year old Can you trust her to be careful going around fucking other guys? No So if you're dating a 19 year old, you probably want to make her at the lower end like the FB friend with benefits Now you don't care what she does especially if you're using a condom which you should if she's 19 So there's an age issue. There's a personality issue My wife is allowed if she wants to be with other guys. There are rules. She has to follow She's allowed to whether or not she does not allow to talk about a personal life But she's allowed to if she wants would I freak out? No now mainly because I have experience doing this And I've talked about this in my books I'm not threatened by other men number one number two I can tell you for a fact this is I have statistics to back this up If you have a woman you're dating and she does play around the guy on the side Is he more likely to be an alpha male or a beta? He's gonna be a beta. So what's gonna happen is and I've had past girlfriends where this happened a lot These betas they have sex once and suddenly they fall in love with her and they start to tell you I love you. I love you so much break up with your boyfriend be with me What do you think her attraction? What do you think that happens to her attraction for him? It drops like a stone and then she sees the difference between other men and you So it's all laid out for her start. So Does it bother me not really no now what would bother me is if you have a very serious relationship And she starts falling in love with another dude. Well, that would be a problem So you there's systems in place to prevent that kind of stuff or to reduce the odds that obviously that would be a problem They're in terms of just getting laid every once in a while. I really don't care I'm busy building an empire focusing my mission focusing my life and being happy I am not gonna put my entire awesome life on pause to make sure that some girl may or may not be getting Late on the side. What a silly stupid little thing as compared to my life That's how I look at it. Cool That's all the time we have give it up tail Jones