Cajun, I've been trying to teach my best friend game. He just went through a bad breakup, and it seems like all his short comings lately have been getting to him and he is doubting himself. Instead of focusing on learning from the mistakes, he is getting discouraged. My style is more bad guy type, reminiscent to yours, but his style is really genuine and romantic. I've tried to install in him the idea that, "there isn't a bad experience, just lessons to be learned."
I've tried listening in on the conversations to hear whats going right and what is going wrong to be able to give him constructive criticism. One night, I even approached women to show him a few examples of how to do it, and instead this made him super intimidated of me. Hopefully there is something I can do or try to help him out, and any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Regards,
Earl Wayne Crabtree II
That's a great idea, and something I haven't done. I always had this bad vibe about approaching women with my wing man at the same time. That might work a bit better, and make it seem a bit less like work. There must be a FUN, aspect to it all, otherwise what's the damn point.
Each time I've been rejected when he's around, I tell him what I think I did wrong, and how I could have probably avoided it. Not sure if that is a good idea to tell a newcomer, but I thought it'd help!
Hey Earl! Cajun here.
Yeah this can be a tough situation. The big issue with this stuff is that you can't really be forced into it; there needs to be a genuine belief and want to better yourself for it to work. You can only show him the cliff, but he has to jump off it.
I would make sure he knows you're there for him and that this is a fun endeavor, not a serious one. Approach groups of women and bring them back over to introduce to him. When women walk by you guys, look at them and say "Hey have you guys met friend he's the top guy in the bar tonight. Guaranteed." Tell him to just raise his finger and say "#1" nonchalantly. Then introduce himself. Make rejection more fun, approach women in front of him and when they reject you and walk away just say "Ok I love you! Call me!" and then say "She'll call" assuredly to everyone around as if they were listening in. Laugh it off.
If you can let him know that it's the approach and thrill of meeting people that's fun, everything else kind of falls into place. Once he can get in that headspace he will see results and gain more confidence.
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