 What's going on you guys? It's your boy Lloyd here. So today we're going to talk about a question that I got from one of my viewers And he writes hey Lloyd love all the helpful advice that you give on your channel. You are the best My question for you is that I was talking to this girl for a while, and it was going great She was texting me a lot. She really wanted to meet up But then she started responding less and less to me Eventually after a couple of weeks of this I decided to move on and forgot all about her as soon as I did this She texted me right away and has been trying to meet up ever since this has not been the first time this has happened to me Why is it that when I stopped caring I start getting results from women would appreciate your insight? Cool Well, I don't know about your particular situation with this girl You know a lot of things can happen. Maybe she was occupied with something I don't know but let's answer the bigger question here Which is why do results seemingly start to come when you stop caring? This is something that I've seen with a lot of my clients that they rarely talk about this and something that I've seen in my own life as well too Okay, and it seems to be true You know when you stop caring the the women start coming towards you know why is this well There's the first reason is that if you don't really care You're not really noticing if a girl is not texting you you're not really noticing all those individual little things Well, when you do care if she doesn't text you back. It's like a huge deal and you remember it okay, so when you do care all the little mistakes all the little things that Make you upset you start to notice more and when you don't you don't really notice them that much The second reason is that? Yeah, you're more attractive straight up a guy who cares less is Less concerned with the girl that he's you know trying to pursue and because of that He's not as needy. He doesn't do a lot of the other things that a lot of my clients and do wrong and Because he's focused on other things that gives him an aura of like mystery about him too So he's not going to mess things up But like if she goes and travels to some area or something like that doesn't text you for a while You're not you know texting her a bunch of needy things or sending her an angry message or whatever And a lot of the things those things go away So yes, not caring a lot of times Means that you're in a very good position means that you have a lot of things going on and that's attractive Okay, I'm a lot of times when you're in what I call the flow state Meaning when you're out and you're in a social event or something like that and things are just happening to you You're not so much cared about the individual results But you're just having a good time and because of that women and other people really want to be around you and hang out with you Okay, so there's so many reasons for why not caring brings results And so a lot of times when people hear this They think that the object of the game is to not care as much as possible and that will make me the most attractive So they maybe do a lot of things to try and make this happen. Okay, not caring in and of itself Actually isn't what makes you attractive. Okay, in fact not caring can actually hurt you because if let's say you You are in this position where you're not caring so much and then maybe some women are attracted to you If you don't show any interest towards them, they'll kind of get a little frustrated and and Just go off for somebody else who is showing them interest or maybe the girls that will that do pursue you when you're not giving them Anything in return. I would caution you about going for those types of girls because they usually are not They're usually not totally healthy themselves Okay, so you do have to show a little bit of interest and care a little bit about it So then people are trying to find that level. Okay, I don't want to care too much because I don't want to be needy And then I don't want to care I don't want to care too little and not show any interest and have a runaway because of that Okay, so they play a lot of games in their minds and that's somewhat my job as a coach to kind of like, you know Make sure that they're not doing anything silly or acting out and helping them find that balance but really the overall basis is You need not caring is not what's attractive caring about something else more is what's more attractive Whether it's yourself whether it's your career. Maybe you're passionate about something whether it's your family That is what's really attractive. Okay caring about something more than them And those things that I just mentioned they should all come before a girl that you're pursuing or even if this girl's your girlfriend I would put all those things ahead of her Okay, but if you place all of the importance on her you put her on that pedestal you start really really caring She texts you back then that's where the neediness starts to creep in that's where the bad habits And you stop becoming that attractive person that you know, maybe she fell in love with or maybe she really liked at the beginning It was really attracted to Okay, so I that's why a lot of times when you stop caring the girls come back or you start getting more results now Here's the thing if this happens to you and a girl kind of leaves you And then you do a lot of the stuff that I that I talked about and she starts texting you again I would really be cautious about going back with that person because if this is someone that's just gonna drop you out You know at the the drop of a hat basically And then she only comes back when you're looking good and things are going great You know if you're looking for a girlfriend, especially that would be something to really take into account This girl might not be the right thing might not be the best person for you I mean if you just want to hook up with her. Okay, great. That's fine, too. You know, I totally I totally get it I've been that guy for a while But yeah, I would definitely caution if the girls are coming in and out of your life usually girls that flip flop very easily Long term probably not the best people to have around short term fine You want to just hook up with them? That's that's cool, too But like I said you guys the main thing here is Not caring is that it's not the thing that really gets them It's caring about something else more. Okay, if you're just a guy who cares about nothing super Nillistic, I don't know if that's gonna be attracting too many women but caring about something else more Will and like I said once you start having this once you start getting into that flow state and cultivating that environment All of those things will kind of fall into place So, yeah, that's that would be my answer to this question, man Guys, if you made it in consider subscribing I come out with videos like this every single week if you're interested in my weekly one-on-one coaching program Well one-on-one. I'm no I there's no more spots left in my one-on-one coaching program But if you want to get into my mastermind I highly recommend that you fill out the form down below. There's a link to it Thanks a lot guys