 going by now. All right, I just did a live and someone asked a question I completely avoided and I feel like I just left you hanging. So I feel like I should answer it here. And I'm sitting here shredding some coconut. And I realized a couple things. One, okay, first, the guy's question was, how do you get over a woman who has a high body count? That's a woman who has a promiscuous past. So this is like, this guy has met a woman, and she's had a promiscuous past. How do you get over that? Right? To be honest, my first instinct was to not answer the question that was asked. My first instinct was to answer a different question, which is, should you even give that woman a chance? No, right? But that's not the question. That's not what the question was. So I'm not being cool. So the question is, how do you get over a woman who has a high body count as a promiscuous past? Okay, there are several problems with this. One of the main problems is that if a woman has a promiscuous past, she's probably going to continue having a promiscuous future, right? You know, an object in motion will continue in motion unless acted upon by an outside source, like things, things tend to keep doing what they've been doing, right? So that's one of the major, that's probably the, that's one of the major problems that you can actually deal with. That can, that's something to be done about. So, but the thing is, I don't think that you need to get over it. I don't think that's a fair way to look at it. And it's not a useful way to, it's, it's, it's just not something that can happen. The burden falls upon her. So if you meet a girl and she has a promiscuous past, but you like her, whatever you, you, you want to get past that, you want to have some relationship, the burden falls upon her to prove that she's done with that. She can't just say, I'm done with that. No, she's got to, she's got to, she's got to do some work. She's got to give you full access to her phone. She has to let you know where she is all the time. You know, she's, she's got to be very forthcoming with any information that's going to let you be able to trust that you know where she is and what she's doing. Now, now, if at any point she says, yeah, you're invading my privacy. No, that's it. You're not going to have, you're not going to have, oh, Nicolae says, I hope you are kidding, whatever. I mean, that's this, I'm approaching this with logic. That's how it is. If you're, if you are with a woman who has been bouncing around from guy to guy, and now you want to have a relationship with her, something significant has to change. You have to be, you have to be able to trust her. She needs to be very open with information. If she's not, you're not getting a relationship. You could go have fun with her or whatever, but unless she is going to like put effort into building trust with you, then you're not going to get a relationship with her. So yeah, you can't just, you can't just get over it. Like she's going to have to, like the ball is kind of in her court. You know, players will always say never leave the ball in a woman's court. No, but if you want a relationship, you have to put the ball in her court and see what she does with it. She has to be forthcoming with, with any information regarding that. All right. Wait, what are you, what are you guys going on about here? Okay, this is, this is funny. Sounds like a lot of work. Yes, relationships are a lot of work. Building trust takes a lot of work. If you want to have a relationship with someone, it's not like in the movies where it's like, Oh, instant, we just fell in love instantly. No, you have to do work. You have to build trust. And now this guy is saying, I hope you are kidding. No, I'm not kidding. You have to communicate. And if she is not willing to communicate, see, you might also have some kind of shortcomings that she has some concerns about. If she has some concerns about something that you've done in the past or something she thinks you can do, you can alleviate her concerns and you can build trust with her by being forthcoming with any information that would help her build trust with you. And she needs to do the same. If she's not willing to do that, that's it. It's not going to work. So yes, I'm serious. I agree with Jamie. I've been saying what you're saying for years. Yeah, you guys know, you know exactly what I'm talking about. And this whole feminist movement that tries to pin all blame on men. Well, women can do anything they want. And it's always the man's fault. That doesn't work. That does not work for it destroys relationships. It's not good for men or for women. So that whole feminist thing is destructive for everyone, men and women. It just ruins relationships completely and go around and ask some women. They'll tell you it's not, well, depends on the woman you ask, but men and women are not happier since feminism came around. You can't just put at all the burden on the man. It does not work. I hope you're kidding. Let's see the real fear is they get some other due to wack you some some women are crazy crazy. Yeah, I mean, yeah, would it be the same the other way where the guy has the high body count? Yeah, it could be depends on the situation. It depends on the person you're you're dealing with. Some women want a guy with a high body count. I don't get that. But I wouldn't want to be with a woman who wants a guy to have a high body count. I would I would personally want to be in a relationship with someone who wants us to have something between us that is separate from the rest of the world. But that's just the way I think. So yeah, if I'm if I'm with a woman and I want to build trust with her, I am totally open with her. Like she can read all my email. She can see my phone whenever she wants. She wants to know where I am any any point of the day. Yeah, sure. Here I am. I'm going here. I'll even tell her, hey, I'm going over here to do this, because maybe she needs me for something two hours from now. She'll know where to find me. That's what happens when you when you want to have a real relationship with someone, you communicate with them and let them know. And I don't maybe I'm not the best person to talk about this stuff. I obviously don't have any good relationship right now. But all the relationships I've had that have fallen apart have been because someone wouldn't freaking communicate. Or they're trying to pull some. Yeah, it's always like trying to pull some funny business. Let me give you an example. I don't know if I can talk about this, but whatever. It's not it's not that juicy. So many years ago, I met this this this woman. And I'd known her for years just kind of peripherally, like we were acquaintances. And I always thought she was cute. And apparently she she was interested in you too. But she always had a boyfriend, right? But then years go by. And somehow we ran into each other and, you know, hit it off and very quickly got involved with each other. And then she says to me, like after a week of us being very involved with each other, she says, Oh, I need to break up with my boyfriend. I'm like, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait. What? Oh, no, I haven't I haven't seen him since we've been together. I just need to, you know, officially break up with him. And at that point, I was just like, I mean, there's some guy out there who thinks that they're together. I don't care. Well, I do care that they're not doing anything physically together. But it's also a problem that he thinks you're together. Because what if in the future, you decide you don't want to be with me anymore, don't tell me, just start going off with some other guy and I'm sitting there like, whoa. So anyway, I, you know, I was like, okay, let's just let's just see how it goes. So I ended up staying with her for like a month or two. But I could never take the relationship seriously. You know, it was like, like, I couldn't trust her, you know, and then, and then one day, she did something stupid. And I was like, well, I'm not dealing with this anymore. And I didn't give it a, you know, I didn't give it a second thought. Because I was like, I'm not losing anything. I don't feel like there was no trust. There was no trust created here. There was just, yeah, yeah. Anyway, you got to have that communication. You cannot just put it all on the man. You can't just, you know, you can't be in a situation where you just have to get over it. If you're, if you're just being told to get over something over and over, while the other person is doing some sketchy stuff or has done some sketchy stuff, and they're telling you, no, it's you need to get over the fact that you think I'm going to do something just because I've done it a whole bunch of times in the past. No, if you've done things a whole bunch of times in the past, it's your burden to prove that you're not doing any more. Whether you're the man or the woman, and you got to have open communication, you know, this is, this is one of the reasons I, I can't seem to get in that a good relationship. I can't find anyone who, who communicates openly. It is like, yeah, whatever. Anyway, also she has cheated once a cheater. That's yeah, automatic. That is true. Someone has ever, that's, that's one of the questions I often kind of sneak into a conversation when I meet a woman is like, have you ever, you know, cheated on a guy, two more of your boyfriends or anything? It answers almost always yes. And I'm immediately like, I have never cheated with a woman. And I think that's important. That's something I'm kind of proud of. Not that I, not that I think I should get some metal, but I think that's an important thing. You know, ah, anyway, my, my ex-wife, oh God, talking about ex-wife. My ex-wife is the definition of you can't turn a hoe into a housewife. You know what I'm talking about. Yep, having, I've learned, I've learned a lot in my life. And I wish I knew everything now. No, I wish I knew everything then that I know now. He's like, I could have avoided a lot of bad relationships. Just cause like, yeah, this is all stuff my dad should have taught me. If I had a dad growing up, I mean, I had a dad. He just, parents were divorced. I didn't see him much. So I didn't learn all this stuff. Although I didn't even know if my dad knew this stuff. I'm going to teach my kids, though. Anyway, tell us a story about your ex. Let's see. Yeah. I'm just going through real quick and I am, I didn't want to turn this into a big long, big long thing. Cause I just wanted to answer that guy's question, not leave him hanging. Cause yeah. All right. I'm going to tell us about, no, Rusty, she didn't sleep with that guy, but it was enough. It's like the old joke, a key that opens many locks is a master key, a lock that can be opened by any key is a bad lock. I just don't ask about bottom. Yeah. Well, maybe you should. I don't know. Anyway, I'm getting out of here. All right. I just wanted to answer that guy's question.