 The philosophy and the major aims and objectives of marriage within the religion of Islam. Some of us are married here, some are looking forward to get married. What is the purpose of marriage? Why Islam emphasises on the importance of getting married? Why? So when I talk of the purpose and the philosophy of marriage, I am talking of those things that Islam expects us to achieve within our marriage. We do not achieve those things. It means our marriage has not reached that level of marriage, which Allah, the Almighty, expects us to achieve. So that will be the first stage of my execution. Now let's begin with the first stage of our execution. Why are we married? So you are my father, you are my mother. You have been married for many years. You are my father, so I want to ask you father, why did you get married? What are the things that you want to achieve in your marriage? You know, there has been a survey which was conducted some years ago by Muslim scholars on what is the criteria to measure the success of your marriage. Three possible criteria were explored. But one of them which is the last one is the best one, because it is based on the teachings of Allah. Now for knowledge sake, for information sake, let me share with you. The first one, they said no. And excuse my word, they said, if you are able to satisfy one another, then you are successful in your marriage. And Islam said no. That's not a yardstick of success. Meaning if your desire is satisfied, according to some, talk the answers. Then they came to the second one. They said the second one is what? They said there are two things if they are met in a marriage, but marriage is successful. They said one, you trust the person and you are pleased when you are with the person. Sometimes you may trust, but you are not happy when you are with the person. Sometimes you are happy, but you are not trusting the person. So they said the second yardstick to measure is that you are happy and at the same time you are faster. Islam said that is okay, but that's not a yardstick. What is the yardstick? And my fathers who are married for many years, you can go back and ask yourself. What's the yardstick to measure the success of marriage within the religion of Islam? The yardstick to measure the success of every marriage within the religion of Islam is for your marriage to become a model for others to inspire, to get married for the sake of marriage. To build civilization that will love Allah and worship Allah. Hence, let us look at what Qur'an mentioned as philosophies of marriage. Number one, the ayah I quoted, Qur'an 30, verse 21. Allah is saying the first major philosophy of marriage is peace of mind. Suqum. Allah, you are married, I'm married. In peace? Or you are not in peace? I always mention this when I give marriage lectures. Allah, there are people men when they knock off from work, they don't go. Allah, you ask them why? I want by the time I go, she is faster. Because I don't want to go. And the same thing you visit, the lady said, haji is not bad. I pray by the time he comes back, I'm safe. See, there are people, they are in marriage, they are just forcing it. They are not happy. They say, no, no, for the sake of children, let's have it. No, no, for the sake of our name in the community, let's have it. Islam says the first philosophy of marriage is Suqum. Hence, Allah said, let us go in life. So that you dwell in them. You obtain tranquility through them. One other way to obtain tranquility is Salah. It's Zikr of Allah. So Allah is telling us in Qur'an through your marriage, you can obtain peace. So if I am married and there is no peace in my marriage then there is something wrong with my marriage. Believe in your honest. Number two philosophy of marriage in Islam is for your marriage to lead you to Allah. It's for your wife to become a means of proximity to Allah and your husband become means of proximity to Allah. Allah, you check our community. The more people get married, the more they stay away from the center. You tell him why he said, I'm busy now, I'm married. Qur'an is telling us why we are not married. And as they said in theology there are two ways of knowing Allah. Either within yourself or outside. Marriage is knowing Allah within oneself. If my Salat is weak the moment I get married Islam expects me to take it to the next level. If my Qur'an recitation is weak the moment I get married Islam expects me to take it to the next level. This is the second philosophy of marriage in Islam. When we are told marriage is Ibadah is because of these things. It's not that after getting married you sit in there the Maulana sit in there and before he contract he said Allah, he said I'm conducting this marriage based on the book of Allah and the tradition of Prophet. What does it mean? It means after this marriage I must remove you. That is not much. Three, listen to the book. Philosophy of marriage is for your marriage to produce pious children or pious children a child who respects everyone a child who recites Quran a child who recites Marriha a child who recites Loha a child who Laab Masan the Khas of Aqni Iba Wala dhe Salih It's one of the philosophy of marriage Hence, Qadlimatul Zahra and Amir al-Mu'mineen ఖో సి తోర్ teas ఴో క్న్ట్ఇక్ం herself సపి మౕసికిం స్రిక్ధినడిథరోన్, Forsody మిసినట్ ఽవన్న్కతులిథuste మాదార్యడం పశ఼నిసా తొగాాట restricts ницc స恭itch జాల్��는ān ఠిషలాన్ాాదా గుడి N మంట్న్ నోప్నేధిర్ కిప్నుర్టాకి మటరిక్న్నూ పథేనూషోటా. It means potential. It doesn't mean that the moment you are married is fulfilled. It means those challenges that are there to make it difficult for you to be religious. Once you are married, half of them are innocent. That is why, if you look at the tradition, Prophet continued to say فَلِ يَتَّكِ اللَّهَ فِيْنِسْفُ الْأَخَرْ Ḥِيْنِسْفِ الْبَعْقِ Then the one who is getting married should be conscious of the teachings of Allah in the last half. So therefore, when we are told half of our religion is fulfilled, it's not in action meaning potential. If you get into marriage and you don't follow Allah's order, there are will not be there. Because sometimes you see people before marriage, they are religious. After marriage, they do the problem. You want to tell me still half of religion is fulfilled. You find people, they are conscious of their salads. After marriage, they forget half of religion is fulfilled. So it's important who we understand this reply. And we should not get excited too much. Yes, marriage is something positive. Marriage is something that can take you to Allah easily if you know how to go about it. So therefore, kindly pay attention, let's unpack this topic so that we are able to understand the best practices that we need to put in our marriage. Whether you are married for 100 years or not, it's a lesson that all of us need to learn. If you look at the camp of Abba Abdullah, there were husbands and wives there who went there and stood alongside Abba Abdullah. So therefore, if there is one lesson that we can learn from Karbala and from the movement of Abba Abdullah in the lesson of marriage.