 Welcome back to the 21 convention of Orlando, Florida 10-year anniversary special event. Our next speaker has been a long time coming This event for a few different reasons Personal professional all kinds of interesting things. He's also the first black speaker. We've ever had at the event He's also the best-selling author of mode one which you can get on Amazon calm And he's also known as the godfather of verbally direct game without further ado Please help me welcome Alan Roger Curry to the stage See when you get familiar with me I Would loosely and I mean very loosely compare myself to the speaker Joe Navarro Who reads people? I constantly Read people Primarily women but men as well The reason why a lot of you all are here is because you want to be inspired You're looking for that breakthrough moment that breakthrough moment a Confidence breakthrough a backbone breakthrough Motivation breakthrough first. I want to give credit to Anthony. I thank him most sincerely for inviting me here and Extra special thanks to Rollo Tomasi for referring me and recommending me Now Rollo He challenges me because when I read any of his books, I have to have a thesaurus right next to the book Because he's deep and I respect him immensely But when I was talking about breakthrough Anthony mentioned I'm the first black speaker. I Didn't think that could happen in 2017, but I'm on it My last full-time job 95 job before I became a dating coach full-time Was working at a university With young brothers from the inner city and a lot of them were the first in their family To ever attend college. I had this one young brother He loved to skip class wasn't doing his homework. So I had him come to my office. I Was talking to him And as I do as I just looked at you guys, I just Looked at him. I said, what's going on? He came out with a whole bunch of excuses One of them the proverbial Well, Mr. Curry, you're an older black man, you know The white man is trying to keep us down I said, is there any white male singer that you love? He said Justin Timberlake. I love Justin Timberlake. I Said so when you were trying to get out of bed the other morning Justin Timberlake was keeping you in the bed He laughs like you guys are When you're supposed to be at that 830 class Justin Timberlake was outside of your house going. No, you can't go to class. No Mr. Curry, I said You can choose to go through the rest of your life making excuses Society will give women a pass for that Society will give children and teenagers a pass for that But when you are a fucking man You don't get a pass to make excuses. I said you become accountable for your life Become accountable Right now right this moment And he got real serious Because he had this look like I thought you were gonna be on my side I thought you were gonna co-sign with my excuses. I said, I'm not gonna coddle you. I'm gonna challenge you To become a man right now, I Said here's what I want you to do. I want you to get a journal. I want you to think about everybody doubted you underestimated you Said you're not gonna be shit and you use that as a powerful form of Motivation every single day from this point forward and when you have those breakthroughs I want you to go like this That represents vindication. I said say it with me and he said vindication. I said say it again. He said vindication Now fast forward this young brother was the first one to get a degree in his family He made the Dean's list And he saw me And he was overwhelmed with emotion when he saw me. He couldn't even get words We exchanged a powerful stare He became a man. So a lot of you guys In here in your own way are Looking for again your breakthrough moment Like I'm a big movie buff and I love among other movies. I love movies that that show a fictional character having a Breakthrough moment. I'm a site three real quick who in here did not see a few get me in Did not see it Okay, I apologize. I'm gonna give you a spoiler for it Tom Cruise plays an attorney lieutenant Daniel Caffee and his thing is He's the master of the plea deal Nobody provokes plea deals better than Daniel Caffee But he avoids litigation like it's the plague So Two guys get accused of murder And he tries to get a plea deal for him But the two soldiers who were charged with murder they don't want a plea deal To see I'm sure there's me and in here who have served in the armed services I never have but I've had relatives who have It's different in civilian life And they point that out in the movie See in the armed services when you give an order That order is always follow Always matter of fact, there's a scene when Jack Nicholson's character Nathan Jessup says tells the soldier. I want you to contact Castro and telling word surrendering Cuba and So she says yes, sir Did he say how you joke it all you trip it? He said yes, sir. So here was the interesting thing Jack Nicholson's character Tom Cruise feels like Jack Nicholson's character gave an order for what's known as a cold red a form of hazing To get the soldier in line Why is it challenging in lieutenant Daniel Caffee situation? because Unlike again civilian life if I tell somebody in this room. Hey go shoot Jojo and they go shoot them I'm not going to jail. I'm not going to prison Because I could easily sit down and you're talking crazy, but again and armed services when you give an order That order is to always be followed So Jack Nicholson's character had told someone One of his subordinates to order the cold red so Tom Cruise had to find a way to get Colonel Jess object Nicholson's character to confess that And I really related to his situation because it was a challenge particularly towards the end and this is what I give the spoiler Jimmy Moore puts him in the toughest position She she basically says I want you to achieve this objective I want you to because then we win the case But I got to let you know by the way if you don't your whole life is fucked Because if you try to get him to confess that he ordered a cold red and you fail Then not only will you be disbarred you will be court-martial and Tom Cruise looks like well fuck I related to me that movie again, even though I've never served the armed services just that predicament like damn I Got to go after this objective But if I fail my whole life is essentially over So it's a key moment. It's there's a lot of great scenes in this movie But what I call his breakthrough Is he calls Colonel Jessup to the stand and he starts asking them all these questions That is somewhat related But the judge doesn't feel like his questions are going anywhere So he says Lieutenant Kathy do you have any more questions for this witness? And he just stands because he's thinking about that predicament He looks at his colleague As colleague gives him a subtle shake of the headlight. He looks at Demi Moore. She kind of has a look like Jessup says Do you have any more questions for me Danny? I mean clothing and foot lockers Surely this is not what you brought me on this stand answer Do you have any more questions for me and he's just standing there because he's thinking about that predicament So Jessup gets up and walks And then he says Tom Cruise develops a pair of ease and his backbone strengthens and he says I Didn't I didn't dismiss you Chrome just was like I didn't dismiss you sit down I was like Because within the world of that fictional character that was his breakthrough moment he manned up and At the end of that movie if you watched it you did you notice the look that Demi Moore gives him? Anybody knows that look? What look does she give him? like You came off became a fucking man today George McFly Back to the future Think about George McFly man. I mean you guys are laughing. Let me take a swig George McFly in the movie back to the future love that movie But He was Biff's bitch Just to put in blunt terms He was this bitch and he was on a trajectory Trajectory to live the rest of his life. If not as Biff's bitch somebody else's bitch Until he was put in a position where he had the man up And it ran through his mind and damn if I don't change something Again, I want a lot of you all to marinate on what I'm saying. I'm not just giving movie buff recaps a Lot of you are here because you've faced some challenges in your life That left your ego bruised That left your sense of manhood and masculinity shaking You might even say what a fuck am I even on this planet? Do I deserve to be here? They might just browbeat me bullying me around but George McFly man. He said In his mind I Can no longer be this dude's bitch And he swung and knocked him out and when they go back to present day you see his whole life is different Because he had a breakthrough He had a breakthrough So I'm saying that to say that everybody here is looking for that breakthrough Somebody it might not be something I say it might be something one of the earliest speakers have said already Or somebody who comes behind me But hopefully you will go home And you will think about what I told my former mentee you think about all the people who doubted you all the women who disrespected you Various factions of society that browbeat you tried to get you to conform to their way And you had that breakthrough moment Because speaking of George McFly being this bitch Who was even more profound? Was William Wallace? Who can forget that pro for ending of brave heart? When I'm gonna change the dialogue and bring it up to modern-day street terms But essentially at the end of that movie that dude was like All you got to say is that you're gonna be my bitch for the rest of my life and I'll take that rope off your foot That's all you got to say is that you're gonna be my bitch for the rest of your life And I'll let you down and Mel Gibson's character when Wallace was basically like Fuck that He said Cuz he was willing to die rather than be another man's bitch Because if you choose to live that life where you're gonna be just punk for the rest of your life That's when you become beta. I'll send you a beta male card in the mail and you can you know put it on the wall So I'm a proud beta. I let everybody like punk me. Well, it's my wife Girlfriend my mother people at work. I just let them pump me as it relates to what I do Which is a These are for my audio books That's my update that I have an updated version of my most well-known book mode one dating coach, I know a lot of people here are married or In relationships, but that's my primary demographic and I'm also BDSM and polyamory consultant And let me go back This book who say it again, it's all about verbal seduction See maybe one of our Allen was talking about these breakthrough moments. How does that relate to him being a dating coach? Some of the guys here, it's not too a lot of guys here were totally unfamiliar with me. I was just joking with Rollo Lot of guys came up to me. They said hey, I'm Roger Curry. I say hey, you owe my bus No, we heard you interview Rollo Tomasi on your blog time radio show Okay Yeah, matter of fact, it's funny. I stopped doing my show in June of 2016 and every now and then I'll go and check the numbers to see how many listens of episodes That I still receive because I know people who listen to my archives Who's head and shoulders? Number one in listening since I ended my show That guy right there Rolla Tomasi but who said again toward in in Part two I have six what I call verbal seduction stories The first one is the biggest one. I will call this my breakthrough moment I was about 20 had two close friends that set up a double date and The day before the double date One of the women's younger cousins came in town unexpectedly So she wanted to hang with the girl. So initially the one woman said we're gonna have to cancel because my younger cousin And my friend said well, how is your young cousin thing? He might be a little girl. She said, I don't know. She's 19 So we could find somebody For her and to keep her company We'll make it a triple date So my close friend calls me said Alan We need you to be a wingman Take one for the team Here was the kicker. He said You ain't gonna get no pussy You ain't gonna get no pussy tonight. We are but you're not I said damn that's hell of a motivation for me Here's what was gonna be worse the friend had a studio apartment Which meant if they were gonna start fucking I was gonna have to watch them for So he said you're gonna be here just to take one for the team. But you know, we really I said, okay I'll come through now this younger cousin There's there's some brothers in here. So they're gonna be able to relate to what I said Even some not black guys if they've dealt with black women just like with any race. You got your your different classes Now black women that are Solid solidly middle-class They tend to have a high degree of femininity to them This particular woman I would almost call her two-thirds middle-class sensibilities and one-third from the streets sensibilities Insistence from the streets at the risk of generalizing They're always gonna try to challenge your manhood like Gross understatement gonna try to challenge your manhood. So the first hour this date Every little subtle advance I tried to make to this woman. She talked to me like I was a bitch Get your hands off me. What are you doing? What do you think I am a slut or I know two bits like I don't know What are you doing? I don't know what kind of women you used to dealing with You but you ain't gonna get no kiss from me. Shoot. I'm just here. Yeah, I don't know what they told you But I know what's going on And my two friends are just shaking their head like fuck Who is this bitch? So their dates are just being you know, just very sweet my date. She's just being just a bitch from hell And so at one point one of the friends just looks at me like Man, y'all need to go out the room or something. You're killing the vibe here, man We ain't gonna get no pussy with this chick acting like this So I get up And again, this is chronicled in verbal seduction story number one and who said again But I get up and just walk out. I walk out the apartment building. I'm just walking. I'm mumbling under my breath I mean she just Took my backbone in that room and just got an ax and just start slicing it Just destroying it. Just it masculade me on the spot Something else to me. She's behind me. She comes out. It turns out. She followed me and she starts taunting me. Oh What the matter? You Poor baby Mention George McFly in the book y'all laugh, but in the book I call this I literally do I call this my George McFly moment And it's the reason I'm standing on stage right now Now to this point my mother'd always conditioned me to be the nice guy be polite never say anything that will rattle a woman Ruffle feathers come across as crass Disrespectful disrespectful rule And I adhere to that social programming of two words. I will plug a lot always do But that moment it's like I've I heard her in slow motion taunting me And I turned around I Looked at dinner as I said Bitch shut the fuck up Now see nine days you listen to rap music and you think all brothers talk like that to women But me coming from the middle class background that I did that was that was like the huge normal like you'd never say that to a woman But I looked at dinner dad in her eyes and I said bitch shut the fuck up Now here's the thing give you a tip about women About this alpha male beta male delineation Anytime you say something bold to a woman it could be something sexually explicit Or it could be a harsh criticism of insult 99 percent time if not a hundred percent time The first thing they're gonna do they're not gonna look at your hair They're not gonna get your clothes and they're gonna look to this side of that side They're gonna look you directly in your eyes And why do they do that? Because they want to know are you really alpha? Or did you read some PUA book and you trying to pretend that you're alpha? So when I said bitch shut the fuck up her eyes zoned in on my eyes She said excuse me and I said I need stutter. I said shut the fuck up and we locked eyes for a few seconds And the most amazing thing happened She completely softened up She said you trippin I don't know what got into you since you was upstairs, but you tripping I Said you got two options for the rest of the night Option a you're gonna suck my dick like you owe me money option B If you're not gonna suck my dick you ain't gonna say shit to me for the rest of the night. I Said now who drove here you or your cousin? She said I Did I said where's your car? She said over there. I said, yeah, we're gonna go to your car because you're gonna suck my dick So we're in the car and I she's sucking my dick and I take my dick Take my dick. I ain't go I take my dick out of mouth. I just start tapping it on her face Judge me if you will but I say Think about how you treated me early You were acting like just a straight-up bitch And she said I know She said but now I'm your obedient good bitch And anybody familiar my show the right. I have a podcast show called the erotic Conversationalists you often hear women refer to themselves as My obedient good bitch. That's where it started and also a phrase I use obviously by the title When she said that I must have said about ten times. I said say it again. She said I'm your obedient good bitch I said say it again She said I'm your beating. I said say it again So we go back up to the apartment now Remind remember what did my close friend say he said you gonna have to take one for the team you ain't gonna get you pussy We are They're still just making out I Come back in the apartment. I said getting your knees and suck my dick. She says yes, sir My two buddies they're like making out. They're like She sucks my dick for while saying I get on all fours. I'm very fuck you dog. So she says yes, sir And they like so we end up fucking any one buddy. He pulls me. He said do do do Did you get a drunk outside? Here's the most interesting question. He said did you take some classes and hypnotism and you In matter of fact, I was in the screen right now wrote a script called hypnotized, but that's another story for another day I said no, this is dude. This is the most amazing shit. I've ever seen When you two win here the first time dude, this woman was the fucking bitch from hell, dude She wouldn't even let you touch her arm And now she's like your fucking personal sex slave. I said, yeah, man I unleashed my erotic dominance And now my backbone is made of steel And from that point on I was never the same Alan Roger Curry again So when I hear young man and particularly young brothers talking about man, I can't deal with these sisters They got all this attitude man. They talk all loud like Your backbone ain't strong enough Once you demonstrate how big your balls are and how strong your backbone is to a woman if that woman has some degree that Much degree of attraction to you She's gonna go from yelling and saying excuse me to you tripping More one was my first book possibility of sex now You notice Anthony introduced me as the guy father verbally direct game now for those Who for me with the PUA community you can almost argue that there's been two factions What's known as the direct versus the indirect In simple terms Direct is when you won't fuck a woman and you essentially let her know you want to fuck her Not rocket science Indirect you want to fuck a woman, but you're gonna go to one degree another in a beautiful bitch way That's a nice dress you Who does your hair want to fuck you Wow, do you come in this restaurant often? I want to fuck you. Oh, yeah, so where'd you go to school? I'm gonna fuck you I saw indirect So indirect guys Honestly, they've attacked me over the years. I'm with the ten years. I've been a dating coach. Oh, the worst thing you do is verbally Tell a woman straight up that you want to fuck her you'll kill the sexual tension and besides it's unnecessary because women know You want to fuck them? duh They know already Anybody in here see me speak in London No, I Spoke in London 2010 It was a critical moment There's another direct dating coach by the name of David X He was on stage and I ended up joining him and there was these two women on stage And it came in time during this this this stretch Where actually my credibility was on the line for a few moments Because similar to these criticisms from these indirect guys This woman on stage said no man needs to verbalize his sexual intentions to me Because as women we already know you want to fuck us We already know you do so there's no point of you telling us Verbally and straightforwardly that you want to have sex with us And pray three-fourths of the guys in the audience in that auditorium Looked at me because I looked at the audience they looked at me like now, and I think she might be right Matter of fact, I don't even know why you're here now because that's a good point Your whole mode one thing is about being verbally direct Why you need to be verbally directive? If she said that guys don't need to be I'm just look back at the audience like I was indicated before I get off this stage. I knew it was coming I knew it was coming Sure enough She talks she talks she talks then she starts raving about this male platonic friend of hers Let's call him Chuck. She's like oh Chuck is the greatest friend in the world God he like he doesn't my laundry for me if I need somebody to you know lift heavy boxes. He comes over I does just everything and David X is like Well, you know Chuck wants to fuck you Why are you leading them on like that, you know, he wants to fuck you and she's like David X is like I love David X You know he wants to fuck you She's like well well He never said anything The look I'm giving now is the look I gave the audience and they just lost it The reason you let a woman know you want to fuck her or you don't even have to use the f-word You can use PG 13 language. It's not so much because she doesn't know It's because in this relates more to this book than even mode one the possibility of sex You want to let a woman know that you're not gonna allow her to waste your motherfucking time There's a there's a clip from a movie. I love by director. I love Michael man It's called heat with Al Pacino Robert DeNarrow There's a brief scene in there with Al Pacino visits one of his confidential informants And he thought this confidential informant was gonna have some valuable information and he didn't And he just says a simple line, but I used to play it all the time with my blog talk radio show He says Albert today You wasted my motherfucking time Don't waste my motherfucking time Women if you allow them to will waste your motherfucking time and your time and money And that's why this book is called the possibility of sex because how are they able to waste your time so well? Because I know that you in your mind is saying I know I have the possibility of fucking you So I'm gonna take you out to five dinners. I'm gonna help you live heavy boxes I'm engaged in 20 hours of bullshit trivial conversation with you Women love to be flattered. They love to be entertained. They love that empathetic listening ear I had a guy who I'm known from high school days. He's here in Orlando. We went out to dinner And he was admitting to me. He said Alan even though I know this is the book that gets the most juice He said this book helped me and this is when I attracted a lot of what I would call the red peel crowd Was this book and this book? But he said man, I was every woman's just good friend And he said you talked about the empathetic listening ear guy that archetype He never want to be this guy the guy who you get that car. She's like friend You know You like okay, I'll be over then you come over. She's like Like I like always don't like when he's fucking me not to slap my ass real hard and he did it again And like always tell him don't come in my mouth, but he comes in my mouth all the time And you sit there like yeah, he's an asshole He's a fucking dick See if I if I was like your boyfriend, I would treat you like a queen and I would treat you like a princess And I would like I would never slap your ass and like come in your mouth without your permission, of course I mean, I Never do none of that stuff See, that's why I love you friend because you're such a good friend. You're like a teddy bear that talks And that's who my friend said he was all his friends He said man, they would just tell me all these stories about them getting fucked by other guys And I said, what did you realize? He said that they were fucking her and I wasn't And as I talked about beta male revolution For those and I agree with rollo and when this presentation he said there's some guys who would Quickly discover oh, they've been sustained alpha males versus beta males. Remember what I said about them eyes. I'm telling you Keep that in mind Women were always zoning in on your eyes when you say something alpha Because they want to know are you a genuine sort of like some women will challenge you to the highest degree Just to see if you're going to break down They will challenge you to the highest degree Let me get moving with these these multiple slides I got the basics Our relationships between men and women fall into one of three categories Strictly sexual casual sex lovers fuck buddies strictly non-sexual just talked about that purely platonic friends Times spent together both sexually and non sexually that could be marriage cohabitation boys for a girlfriend friends with benefits My main area expertise is verbal communication I helped man There's various manifestations of masculinity and manhood I concentrated via verbal communication As a man, how do you choose to verbally communicate to women which type of relationship you really want with them? Directly indirectly Or not at all Most men and women are not honest with each other regarding what type of relationship they really want. That's why we have what's known as manipulative head games If every man who wanted a strictly sexual relationship was the auntie tell a woman that that's what he wanted And if that's what she wanted she was to say that's what I want to there would be no such thing as head games If every woman who wanted a purely platonic friendship was to tell every man that straightforwardly And if that's what the man wanted he would reciprocate. There would be no such thing as head games But that's not the reality of life Example of a man You really want either strictly sexual relationship with a woman or you want to spend time with a woman both sexually and non-sexually But you temporarily or indefinitely pretend as though you are content With a purely platonic friendship with her. I call that fun clubbing That's the term I made very popular among my fans and followers fun clubbing. That's essentially when you again You're pretending to be content indefinitely With just a friendship with a woman, but you know deep down you would either rather be her next long-term boyfriend Or one of her casual sex lovers, but you don't have the balls to say that You really want a strictly sexual relationship with a woman, but you temporarily Pretend as though you are interested in a relationship that is long term emotionally profound and strictly monogamous Not to disparage all puas, but that's what a lot of pua types talk I got into a clash at one event where pua type Specifically said that he said here's the way you get into a woman's pants You pretend like you're open to being her next long-term boyfriend But then once you get the pussy you make up a reason to break up with her and tell her that you just really wanted casual sex And I said that's bullshit And even organized like you're rocking the boat man. You're rocking the boat man. You can't have this. I said that's bullshit I just do it directly. I said would you want some dude doing that to your mother your sister your daughter? Making her think he's falling in love with her just to get the ass Why don't you develop some fucking balls if you just want some casual sex pussy? That's what those guys are known as the women called pigs dogs lying ass those game playing jerks four archetypes of women Once you communicate to a woman what your desires and interests are they're going to generally fall at least according to me in one of these four categories The first two are pretty straightforward reciprocator You let a woman know you attracted to her and you want to come up with a romantically Or strictly sexually And she says i'm down I'm attracted to you. I'm down Reject her Don't need any other further explanation than that The two trickier attacks And I've alluded to them already Wholesome pretenders and erotic hypocrites This is just a more challenging and antagonistic version of this These are the women you heard me mention social programming See from the time women are young to talk about mommy and daddy whoever else is influential in their life You need to be a good girl You need to present yourself as an innocent wholesome good girl That's the only way you're going to attract a husband if you present yourself as a good girl So that becomes the angel on that right shoulder The good girl social programming But a guy like me comes along and says you know what I want to get your pussy wet I want to slide my dick all in your pussy and make you come Here you moan all over my dick She says oh my god, I'm not that kind of girl I'm a good girl How dare you talk to me like punk talking about putting your dick all in my pussy like that Fucking me like that that's Filling your balls on my ass. How dare you talk to me like that? See that's when that little devil emerges. This is shoot. I like the way he talking Let's go ahead and give him some pussy Right angel on the right side. No, no, no, no, no. You're a good girl. Remember what your mommy and daddy told you You're a good girl Wholesome pretenders they give you at least token resistance No, not the type of girl. No, no Riding hypocrites Are going to be similar to that woman on that triple date They're going to come at you real hard You jerk you creep. What do I look like? I don't sleep with guys. I adjust me. What do you think? What's wrong with you? I'm a respectable woman with a six-figure salary. Are you crazy to think i'm just going to have random sex with you Let's go back to the rejecter See rejecters If they're not interested They just simply say i'm not interested They don't raise their voice. They don't get theatrical Let's just say i'm married. I'm engaged. I got a boyfriend. We're simply i'm not interested And see this is when I first gave my reputation to my close friends because they would see me interacting with these types And first they would lie. They'd be a few feet away lying like man ellis crashing and burning. Look at this She's cursing them to fuck out Then they would see her softening up to the point where she's just like you tripping Why they tried to challenge my backbone And I didn't allow them to because what would always stay in my mind is She's still talking to me She insulted me to the highest degree, but she's still standing there talking to me. She ain't walked away manipulative time wasters already alluded to them That relates to my book the pot Matter of fact my book who said again emphasizes these two two archetypes I'm gonna book the possibility of sex talks about these. These are the women that want you to think You got at least a chance of getting in their pants and lie you guys Fall for it and say oh man. She's just a challenge She's playing hard to get No, she's not she's never these women in this category never ever ever giving you the pussy ever They just want at minimum You to invest time flattering them Entertaining them or providing them with an empathetic listening ear at maximum if you got means They want to get as many financial favors from you as possible until they get bored with you and dismiss you Now it's funny. I've even had some other dating coaches Give me blowback on this on my first three architects. Like I'm gonna call one out by name. She's from london Kizia noble. I was interviewing her on my blog talk radio show When I talked about reciprocators, she was like, yeah Rejected she was of course like, yeah when I talked about these she was like, yeah Got to this she's like no, hell and they disagree She tried to say the manipulative time wasters were the same as these I said no Women don't like to acknowledge that there's manipulative time wasters Why That too Yeah, all valid I was out in nightlife just last night I was I was I told you I'm a people watcher read people and all these women in these sexy outfits Do you think that these women were going to these clubs looking for dick? Do you really? Do you think any woman in these hot tight short mini skirts were out there looking for dick? When a woman could just go on her instagram or go through her roller decks black book and find dick Now if they all went out there and sent out the message that Hey, the none of you beta males who are out here partying are gonna get any pussy from me Would the beta male spend money on those night clubs? Would they offer women free drinks? Shoot the national economy would crash They they take advantage of the possibility of sex my foremost of verbal communication Can everybody say mode to One more time Mode to behavior That's characterized by a verbal communication style that's cautious and indirect pleasant and polite flattering and entertaining vague and ambiguous underlying attitude for mode to Is I want to do everything possible to get you to like me And I want to do everything possible during my conversation with you to prevent you from criticizing me Insulting me and prevent you from experiencing any sort of negative reaction to what I say or how I say it Now some guys will say allen Is it true that men who behave like the proverbial well-mannered nice guy have tremendous success with women? See even dogs know how to give right eye contact The fuck takes me back to the speaking gauge right ahead in london Some guys said allen, you know, I read your book and I respect some of the things you say This sounds like you're just telling guys to be, you know, just kind of like a verbally blunt jerk, you know And I'm more of a classy gentleman. I'm more of a like a nice guy. You know women kind of raised me as a nice guy I said, oh really? So I asked a whole other tournament. I said, how many of you guys in here think you're Classy gentlemen and well-mannered and polite nice guys and like probably 95% of guys raised a hand And asked them one simple question that you afterwards you could hear a mouse fart I said, how's that working out for you? All the guys just started looking at you like shit Because the reality is if the nice guy thing was the ultimate key to success Why the fuck are you in this auditorium listening to me? Anyone was going to think you're nice If you're flattering to her all the time if you're willing to entertain her all the time You never challenge her sexual sensibilities You help her move heavy boxes when she wants to move from one apartment to the next You treated a lunch and dinner on a monthly basis. I mean, what is there not to fucking like about you? When you just playing up there all the time and accommodating her and shit What is there not to fucking like about you? But you ain't getting a pussy wet And if you do happen to fuck it that's a charity fuck so she can keep you motivated to lift more heavy boxes And do the shit she wants you to do Can anybody say mode three Dishonest and or disingenuous intentionally misleading Fawning and or spineless highly predictable on Monday. And I actually That's one more wide Divide them up to at least three categories One is a mode three timid that would be a guy who just goes to the party like price some guys last night They go to a party they get all dressed up And then with the two buddies, they're like, yeah, we're looking good. Yeah Then they get into the club and what do they do? They just stand against the wall. Damn. She's hot It's god damn Okay guys, you ready to go? Yeah Mode three target. He plays right into the gold digger's ass. That's the guy He got enough confidence to start a conversation with a woman But 95 to 99 percent of this conversation is hey, it's an Angela. Yeah, you know, I'm on the house on the beach Yeah Drive a Porsche 911 Yeah Yeah, I got a rule. This is a real Rolex watch. Yeah, I went to harvard. Yeah And he's hoping that all this impressive stuff. He says one's gonna be like, oh my god I need to just open my legs for you right now. You're so impressive Then after he says all the impressive stuff and he doesn't get laid. He's like fuck I guess I got to move up from a Porsche 911 to a convertible Bentley That's the ticket No, he's just a target And then the third would be going back to my concept of fun club and some guys I'm known guys to fun club not only for weeks of months but years literally years Just pretending Like they wanted nothing romantic or sexual with a woman under the guise of i'm her friend Why they're fantasizing about her Underlining attitude from mode three I want to do everything possible to prevent you from knowing my true thoughts and my true romantic or strictly sexual desires Interests and intentions. I would rather not express my desires and interest to you honestly at all Then to express them honestly and have my desires and interests abruptly and blatantly rejected Guys say, oh, wouldn't you agree that it's better just not approach women at all And instead always wait for them to make the first move towards you Show you right Show you right If you're a major entertainment industry industry celebrity or professional athlete you can possibly get away with that Maybe certain other exceptions as well But for most guys man The other exception I might say if you're a regular guy, you're just like amazingly good-looking But other than that you're going to have to approach a percentage of women if you want to connect with some women today everybody say mode four Intagonistic and intentionally insulting hyper critical and obnoxious bitter and resentful Verbally abusive and even hateful typically when you're going to mode four you start off in mode two and or mode three And you get pissed because of how many times you've been rejected how many times you've been ignored So you develop this attitude like man all women are fucking bitches, man. Fuck them Fuck them. They're bitches, man. They ain't shit. They're all no good scum of the earth And if they even gain the confidence to approach a woman they immediately have a negative attitude like I know you're one of those no good bitches, but hey, you know Hey, they don't even talk to women to really try to hook up with them They just want to try to insult them undermine their ego their feelings Underlying attitude as I just mentioned I've allowed a lot of you women to verbally abuse me disrespect me keyword Allowed no woman can disrespect you unless you allow it remember that To verbally abuse me disrespect me and mislead me and manipulate me in the In the past or most of you women have rejected me or totally ignored me. So now I'm going to treat you Women like the no good bitches that you are Some guys will say to me Alan when you agree that it's best to just be a complete dick With women when you're approaching, you know say something like hey, you filthy whore You want to lick my balls the night you're no good, bitch Isn't that like mode one A lot of guys will confuse and conflate mode four with mode one If you weren't a company of a woman who was attracted to you, but she was doing a damn good job of pretending As though she was not interested in you How would you expose her facade? If you were in the company of a woman who was interested in a romantic relationship with you But she was doing a damn good job of pretending As though she was only interested in maintaining a purely platonic friendship with you How would you expose her facade? exactly If you were in the company of a woman who was only interested in you spending time flattering her entertaining her Doing financial favors for but she was doing a damn good job. And it's the manipulative time waster A damn good job giving you the misleading impression That she was on the verge of allowing you to become either her next long-term boyfriend Or a next short-term casual sex lover. How would you expose her facade? Let's say together That's the answer to all those questions mode one You approach women with a high degree of self assurance You open a conversation with them with a high degree of self confidence You let a woman know that you find a physically attractive sexual appealing. That's not obligatory But I always suggest that and then from there you simply invited to share your company Here's key this relates back to I don't believe in the mislead women if particularly as relates to casual sex If your interest is in some form of short-term and or non monogamous sex Don't try to hide that deny that or bullshit women about that Because in the long run it makes you look weak Makes you look like a weak No backbone verbal coward. That's what it does in the long run No woman respects that shit Even if you get the pussy, you're not going to be respected And along this quick line. I remember I was in, uh, vegas and this guy said Alan man, I read your book man. But the thing about man You try to apply with this honesty stuff. You try to apply ethics to get laid And there are no ethics to get laid And he had like this this cheerleading group of three or four guys. They all laugh like yeah. Yeah, he's right They're like registering you try to be mr. Ethical getting laid. I said, oh really? I said, oh, okay Why don't we go out later on the day and find a 14 year old girl and just just gangbanger just fuck the shit out of her He said, oh my god, dude. Are you perverted? I mean I said what you got some age related ethics he's like I said, maybe that was extreme. Let's find a 21 year old woman While you got her talking, I'll put some date rape ecstasy drugs and a drink and it's your drink and then we'll take care Damn dude. Wait. I said, what's wrong? You got some ethics related to drugs He's like touche Then our shilling group just got her from the table and walked away And by the bottom line, I said You may not have the same exact ethics as I do But you just revealed that you have ethics all guys got some type way I can say all there's always exceptions But most guys have some type of ethics when it comes to getting laid Mine is be straightforwardly honest with women that you if you just want to fuck them to be fucking them Tell them that If a woman rejects your invitation share comedy, so what life goes on move on to the next woman Don't dwell on it. Don't let it beat up your confidence. Just move on to the next woman As I already mentioned this wholesome pretenders erotic hypocrites are going to either at minimum resist you at maximum They're going to try to challenge your backbone be prepared for that Who said again again, it's my book that centers around wholesome pretenders and erotic hypocrites And mastering erotic dirty talk. Let me clarify this real quick Some guys think dirty talk is just about going to a woman and just randomly saying a bunch of x-rated shit Who can get a woman's pussy wet 100% of the time? I Like that confidence I like that confidence. Okay, other than him Who can get a woman's pussy wet 100% of the time? Okay There you go Hugh Haffner I give much respect he passed away, of course recently He said the greatest sex organ is not between your legs, but it's between your ears I don't know how many you guys know But just like a lot of me and watch porn Women read erotica erotica novels like crazy I was in a beveley hills bookstore And I was looking for this book and all of a sudden I see this one hour these women were just like about eight women And there's a short little corner. I said, what the fuck is going on here? They having a lot of powwow So I'll go back It says erotica Here's a tip I noticed Have you ever seen a woman start off standing like this and all of a sudden she goes I was telling some guys last night about this See he probably thinks oh, she's just getting tired. She want to lean on no One of the things I talk about who said again I give a couple tips on you can read women's by language when the pussy is getting wet One that tongue becomes more active or usually come out and up to the left And if they're sitting down they'll start crossing And uncrossing their legs or if they're standing up They'll do a lot of this Because ex-girlfriend was the first one to tell me that she said when the pussy juices begin to flow out It makes it uncomfortable for you to just stand like that So they do and in this erotica section all these women kept doing I guess they're reading these books Nothing is more powerful than the thoughts And sexual visualizations that women create in their own mind So my technique you could say when I talk dirty to women Is I just throw out suggestions to provoke their own mind to unleash Certain thoughts and visualizations Because a woman's mind always bats 100 always bats 100 Manipulative time race is going to do everything possible to delay reciprocating your desires and interests and even more So they're going to do everything possible to postpone revealing to you that they really have No interest whatsoever in engaging in sexual activities with you Do not allow these women to trick you into wasting valuable time and money half the reason I'm all one again Why I'm verbally directed it's not so much for the objective again laid But to prevent women from wasting the ones who are not interested from wasting my fucking time and money That's what the possibility sex is about Beta male revolution. I should give rollo a shout out in this book This is kind of my brief version. I'm not a historian by any means or sociologists But I go back to pre feminism days And bringing up the current society mainly for my younger male readers Because if you were born as a millennial you might not understand why things The way the dynamic the way it is But in simple terms pre feminism Like I use my mother my mother didn't even think about having a premarital sex and none of her two sisters did And most women in that generation didn't because she knew my father my grandfather would disown her But then women said these are bodies. We want to do what we want to with them We want to fuck who we want to fuck whenever we want to fuck them society Reluctantly maybe said okay So they just started fucking like crazy Which is that way if women want to fuck like crazy They can fuck like crazy, but they got to be willing to deal with the repercussions and consequences of that behavior And that's when the alpha beta delineation became more pronounced So there's certain guys that women would just fuck just for the enjoyment of fucking But other guys they would say ah, you got to provide me with something If you want to fuck me alpha fucks beta bucks I'm not going to get long winning on that but A lot of guys who are red pill where Have both enjoyed that book But it's left that in the possibility of sex have left some guys traumatized because If you're a guy who didn't realize the true nature of women And then you're exposed to it if only for a few days or a few weeks it's going to fuck you up You know like I got one story the infamous grocery store story that I've loved a long time for I was like I don't wait a minute You met a woman in a grocery store and 10 minutes after you met her she was on her knees in the grocery store sucking your dick I'm like, yes And What about the guy who's married to her now thinks she was the good girl? You had this woman sucking your dick 10 minutes at the very grocery. Yes Some guys find that just like Harley amusing other guys that fucks them up Because her mother told them that all women were little good girls That's my website. I'm on wikipedia I'm patreon linked in all social media. It's been my pleasure. I apologize for going a little longer. Thank you so much