 Are you guys doing this valentines? How I nobody raised their hands you guys somebody received flowers. Yes How many did you how many of you sent yourself flowers and you tagged somebody on? Instagram or Facebook says oh that one You can bring up the chairs in the table already That's so awesome How many married couples that we haven't here just just if you're married can you see your hands? Awesome tonight is not going to be much for you, but it's going to be mainly for the singles and those ready to mingle You're still high school you shouldn't be shouting So it's going to be a little bit different tonight what we're going to do We're going to have Q&A if I can have my wife come up here. Let's put our hands together for my wife Really you guys scream louder for her than for Jesus So what are we going to do is we're going to post a number in the screen You can text your questions to that number and We we won't read who it is or things like that if you have any questions about we're going to sit down Can I one more mic please one more mic? What we're going to do is we're going to address some questions about about dating about Relationships and things like that. We're going to mainly target it to young adults and high school age So that's going to be our main focus tonight to be able to see What we can help out and assist and give guidelines when it comes to dating when it comes to relationship again We do not have all the answers. Our standard is the word of God Amen, so we're not going to tell you things that's you know based on culture We're gonna go from what our pastors been talking about and ours like we said our standard is from the word of God so we'll do our best to address the questions that we have so if you have any questions or Things that you want us to address or to talk about maybe you don't understand or you need more clarity Please text that number is five four one Six nine nine fourteen forty and that's my handsome son this morning. He's such a All right, so we're gonna start off you want to start with the question and then and do And go from there We're gonna if you have any questions you watching us online too. You can send your question and trust me I'm not gonna say oh Juan asked this question. I'm not gonna mention names. We're just gonna go general So feel free. This is a safe environment that we can We can go and address. Here's the first icebreaker When did you first feel comfortable to fart around your spells? Guys are not serious. This is not gonna help you to survive in life Whenever it comes it comes and you go to talk about it sooner. So That's kind of a first question we're gonna start off is when do you know that you're ready to date? When you're ready today, so you want to I want to answer that one Definitely will be quoting pastor Vlad and Martin and Pablo just shared a little bit on the video first You have to find your master Who is your master? You know, we have to come to a strong foundation of knowing Jesus Christ is our Lord and Savior It's who we're seeking after that Who we stand in God's eyes who we are in God's eyes as for women It takes us a lot to understand that we are a child of God. We're a princess. We are loved We should be we are respected and how we go about with our image ourselves the same with men You know once you find out who you are in God's eyes that will be knowing who our master is Second one would be our mission What is your mission? What is your goals? Do you have a dreams? What a what is your career? What do you have planned for your future your mission serving? In church, you know things of that sort so find out first who you are in Christ find out the things that is your mission what you're going after and With that you can lastly find you can find your mate first knowing who you are Then you can find what you're seeking for Good job So master mission and then mate all right So you got to know God you got to know what you want to do with life your career your pursuit and passion Last one is your mate somebody sent a question said when do you know you're ready to get married if you're both Both followers of God, you know when you're ready to get married when you have those three things that we just talked about You know God, you know your mission and then you're looking for a helper when God found Adam He said that God will bring him a helper So we don't get married just to get married But we get married so we can accomplish our dreams and our goals that God has placed within our hearts to Accomplish like for me my wife. We serve both at the church We have vision goal to reach to help young people to disciple them to raise up leaders to one day To have orphanage to have you know a teen center for for the young adults So that's our our vision and we wanted to do that together So we knew this is the dreams and the goals that God had for us and together. We know we can accomplish him So that was that's that Somebody asked so the what is the age? That I'm able to date Definitely highly encourage at least after high school After high school, I think I think that's that's appropriate age Because you have to get certain things out of the way first, you know You don't you don't come to a ten-year-old and try to teach him or how to drive There's a certain age for even the in our in our laws and the physics That's a certain age that they require for you to be same thing when it comes to dating You know, I know a lot of our culture right now says that you know date You know try this thing as young as you can but the moment you start doing and in high school you lose focus You can't get good grades. You can't learn character And that's why many adults act as kids because the time where they're supposed to concentrate and learning about Themselves who they are developing character. They spent it on girls and guys So then you have bunch of 25-year-olds acting like five-year-olds because they high school years They spent it on, you know, their emotions the energy their love their money on dating So especially right after high school is where you choose Your career your mission. So if you right out of high school, it takes Several several times to make up your mind what you want to do College student myself it took me about two years three years waste of high of college not knowing what I wanted So I would go from one career to another to another which same thing goes with relationships If you don't have that figured out yet It will be a lot harder for you to figure out who you are your mission to then finally find that mate Good question came in I have a crush on agent and I'm 13 You guys are not serious The question come in is is it is it God's will for for people to be single You have to be the one to decide to if you Like Paul, you know if he says, you know, that's my you know mission and vision to accomplish certain things You have to be the one to side. It's not God who's gonna decide saying you need to spend your life for the future alone You're like, well, I want somebody to help me So it's not that God decides for you that you need to be married or single You're the one to choose and same thing when it comes all I tackle another question right away Does God chooses the person for me? No, he doesn't God presents to you the person but you choose So at the end of the day, you're not gonna say God you stuck me with this person and it's your fault So God will present you the person see the guy or girl and you will make the choice Do I want to spend my rest of my life with this person or? Should I go for somebody else and it's not wrong to choose some people are like, oh, you know This is the only one person that God has for me If you have the theory that it's only one person that's out there for you if you choose the wrong one You will mess up the whole equation for the whole world. So we're all doomed So it's not that there's only one person. No, God will present to you people You know, you know, you'll be worshiping and then all of a sudden you see somebody Then you're gonna have to choose. So God presents, but we choose you want to read another one Let's do What are some keys Not necessarily what we're looking for but to fail in dating what caused some fear. How do you fail in dating? isolation hi How you fail in dating in relationship is isolation if you isolate yourself from different from other couples from mentors from Pastors you will fail and I have repeatedly that I mentor a lot of guys when it comes to Relationships and people that I see around the moment they distance themselves from advice That's when they fail Because there's certain things that needs an outside look on your situation because you're caught up in feelings You're caught up in emotions and you can't see clearly and I know many times Had many guys that come up to me and said, oh what you guys told me a couple months ago is true And now I'm only finding out. Yeah, because they were blinded by emotions and fear So it's here's here's the thing guys Nobody wants you to fail in relationship No one nobody rejoices here a hunger generation family I'm a great church if you fail in marriage in dating in your relationship. Nobody wins only Satan does God created healthy community healthy relationship. He wants you to prosper But there are certain guidelines that you have to follow in order for that to happen So when you see somebody telling you like a mentor or pastor, hey, this relationship is not good for you Listen to their advice. Nobody's here is out to steal your girl or your man Nobody's out for that they the mentors not your single friends. I'm talking about a different one When your pastors and your mentors are suggesting you some they want you to succeed that two four five seven years down the road Your marriage is strong. You are an example to others and you can encourage Others amen. So that's how you fail in relationship is isolation. Find a couple that that can challenge you Find a mentor that can tell you hey, you're doing wrong step up your game Hey, you're acting like a child put on some pants grow up So that's something that you have to do and and I'm telling you guys, you know, I I want to see Healthy relationships. I want to see couples who who stand by me 20 years down the road and say, you know, we did it 30 years down the road running strong having love being romantic. That's of what I want to see Nobody wants to see breakups after her breakups because nobody wins if you fail in relationships I'm gonna ask you Question How do you guys keep God at the center of your relationship? Besides the word of God in prayer, I think our biggest in our relationship is obviously serving in ministry together not just Our prayer in Bible time but to serve others because that's God's mission He wants us to go out and save save see lives being saved. So for us what is huge is Home groups meeting with others Serving giving that time to see others flourish as well and for us. It's what's been constant is serving I mean kids ministry anything we possibly can get our hands on and stay busy Because once it keeps us busy to we're serving and at the end of the day we love We love to see God's kingdom grow Serving is one of the yeah, and it brings us closer brings us closer when we serve together We go home. We have things to talk about church, you know things that happen funny things sad things, you know Things like that so it builds us closer. So when you have you know when you both serve, you know at the church You know in ministry you'll be able to see how your relationship will go stronger and stronger and somebody asked What some advice can you give to my friends that are in and out of relationship? And they're trying to seek happiness relationship will never make you happy if you're not happy Relationship will only reveal who you are So if you were not happy Single you will be unhappy in a relationship What I cannot expect from my wife, but only God can give God is love. He says I am love So she also draws love from God, and I also draw love from God So you can't expect this person to make you happy because they will fail because they need that love from God themselves So somebody says I want to I want to be happy in a relationship if you're not happy single you will be not happy with a person that's just basically that Another thing that we want to address is Does online dating work? You know many many of us here we have social so this is a different culture now We're addressing different things because our parents generation is different than our generation does online dating works Yes, it does Yes, it does and and We have people here in our midst and actually the man is taking photos Edder. Let's put our hands together for Edder so Edder met his wife through my space Some of you are like what is my space back then when we had tape players, okay? That's when and today their marriage is flourishing. They're strong. They're they're together. They have wonderful kids So it's just the way you go about it you know for some people they'll meet a person and on in their school for others they'll meet the person online and you know they'll get to know each other so you Cannot say it does not work. It does work. You just have to have it in Godly's principles You have to structure it around mentors. You got it. You got it always why I keep mentorship in relationship is one of the biggest things for a relationship Find a strong healthy couple that you can say you know what I want you to tell me when I don't want to hear it Don't go to people that will say hey Well, I did this wrong and they're just oh, yeah, you're probably overreacting Oh, who can tell you so you are wrong and you know, you need to suck it up You need to go say sorry You need to find those kind of people that are willing to tell you that you are wrong in front of your face Don't run to people who will patch you on your back. I've seen marriages fail Because they go to people who they know they can make an excuse and they'll be let off the hook and Quote-unquote I have mentorship. No, you don't you just have people who just have sympathy on you That's it. So and like I said, we have many wonderful healthy couples here at church That are willing more than more than you ever want for yourself for you to succeed Just come up to them say hey, you know hey, let's go on date on Thursday night, you know Give me some advice I want to learn this this and you'll see how stronger together your marriage and your relationships will be Questions coming in advice and dealing with a heartbreak Yeah, box of chocolate It it all depends on The age you're on the age you're on remember one thing that a heartbreak it couldn't be many different things could be Unfaithfulness it could be you know, you're just 14 and you got a done by a boyfriend. So heartbreak could be a blessing Could be God telling you to let that go Dealing with the heartbreak God you have to run to God You have to ask God to to heal you if you're not properly healed You should not go to a next relationship because you'll use your next relationship as a rebound and Nobody here wants to be rebound, right? So it is true because there's a lot of you know relationships don't work with some relationships Just don't work out you need to learn how to be able to walk away and then later on look at the person have no Anger have no unforgiveness towards them and just when you see them you can still shake the hand say hey How are you doing? That's how you need to be able to handle heartbreak but that only happens when you come to God and ask God to help you heal help you recover and And and advice and dealing practical ways on dealing with the heartbreak if you are over with that person Delete them from your Facebook Instagram snapchats, whatever that you have delete them Remove every picture you have with them Block their number If you need to put a restraining order This is why guys listen this many people go back to an abusive relationship Or a person who keeps using them because they haven't shut the door If you have a picture with them on your iPhone and you're on your lock screen, of course memories are gonna come back Of course feelings are gonna come back of course these things of oh It'll never happen again and coming back if you are over with the person Delete their number block them delete every trace of them as you can so you can properly heal If you don't properly heal You will be going back to the same relationship and what happened over and over and over again And I'm telling you this happens more often and it's hard and it's hard But that's that's the steps you need to take and I many times I tell the person I'm like man Block them why so you can so you can let your mind move on once your mind moves on once you get motions out You can look at them as friends and then later on you're not you're not thinking out of your emotions, but you actually can reason normally Keys I'm gonna you want to adjust when you answer that one keys to sexual purity in dating Keys to sexual purity in dating those of you who are dating right now. Hopefully you're not in high school Keys to sexual pure. How do we stay pure when we are dating? What is a rightly godly way to date? first Mentors it's someone else asked what was how was mentors made an influence in our relationship Actually without mentors. I don't think we would be here today married together From the beginning and at all so number one would be mentors have someone to keep you accountable It all starts purity starts with thoughts It starts with thoughts wandering mind wandering eyes starting to notice things and so when you have a mentor who can keep Keep you accountable can be checking up on you. Hey, how are you doing in your purity? you are going to Challenge yourself to be strong and giving them an answer and say I'm actually good You're gonna be by them constantly asking you how are you doing? How are you doing? It's almost gonna force you to be like I can't keep saying I'm not doing good. I'm not doing good. It challenges you to do better. So mentorship to keep you accountable of things is Very very important. Another one is don't be alone. Always keep it public The moment you're alone you expose your You expose your temptation to go through the roof and you say oh We're gonna be holy. We're gonna go to the prayer mountain lay hands on each other and speaking tongues. No, it won't work You know only Jesus Moses and I Who else went to the mountain came back changed you won't come back changed you will come back destroyed so also with that The freaks come out at night Avoid being out alone. Yeah, especially at night Because yeah, the freaks make a rule make a rule not 9 p.m. We don't we don't do things The thing is this guys the more safeguards you set for yourself The better your relationship would be You know, it's like a car Can you drive on a sidewalk? Yes, you can but what either you but you will pop your tire How far will you get? How's long how far can you get with the flat tire? So that's that's something that you have to Consider it's some people like how far is too far? You shouldn't if you're asking how far is too far It's the wrong question. You should ask how How holy how how much can we preserve? You know, how can we how golly? Can we be you know, if would if my pastor would be here would be would we be comfortable doing this? That's something else. Yeah, it sounds kind of oh Jesus my pastor be if Jesus would be here Would you be able to do this you want to you want to enjoy your relationship? You have to understand a good thing in the right time is enjoyable a good thing in the wrong time is Not enjoyable So you have to be able to set rules set guidelines have mentorship in your life when it comes to get married dude go all out Do I mean do whatever you want once you're married once it comes time to dating? Respect God's principle and you're in your dating life will be blessed somebody text that can I ask a girl through text? You haven't hit maturity yet You're still a boy You saw it's still a boy Goes back another person asked When is it okay to kiss? Again, it's a it's a wrong question. You're asking It's a wrong question. You're asking it's for some people could be once we stand an altar for others could be once he gets on His knee besides that I think those are gonna be the two places that that should be allowed But again, if this is this is not like oh pastor said we can't do this or this like that You have to have mentors in your life And you have to go go according to you know talk to them You know and just because it's rights Yeah, well how did pastor God said? Just just because it feels good doesn't mean it's rights So that's the things you have to kind of always consider for your life and and trust me once you're married Those things become a blessing to you When you do it the right way and you get married, you know, wow You're gonna enjoy it many times, you know what I'm when we will look at each other like man This is this is awesome. I love this Not that when you come to marriage is like well, we just got a certificate nothing else changed You know enjoy your marriage save save the things that belong to marriage for marriage There's a good question came in should that person be financially stable before getting married or work together for it parentheses mainly as a girl It helps when you have money, but if you don't have a if you don't have money you still can make it It helps when you have money But if you don't have money, you can still make it if you're broke together. The only place is up, right? So should you have a job? Yes, you need to have a job before you you get into if you don't know money No, honey. That's how it is You know the thing is it's when you have when you have lack of money. You're you're adding You're adding trouble to yourself. So remember that I'm not saying it's not doable But if you don't have money, you're you're causing fights to add up So instead of you know when you you have financially stable you have enough money You know, it's one less things to fight about trust me You'll find things to fight about Sock is laying on the different side of the corner you fight about that sock or like man Really like relax But when there's shortage of money and they say a lot of divorce takes place because of financial issues so it helps but It's it's not required like when me and Sylvia when we when we first got married I Was working I was working I think in construction if I believe so if I'm correct, you know And she was also looking for a job if I'm not mistaking but two years down the road two years down the road How much God has blessed us with finances with owning a car dealership, you know with her having a job now It's it's unbelievable So if you would have judged me according to my financial status when I was first getting married then you would have got me wrong So that's that's something don't be the person that can see past that it helps But be able to see past that if if that guy only plays video games, then you got to run Your character and attitude towards your finances will have a lot to play in if I sit and say well I'm going to get married my husband supports me You might have some troubles there and you might you are not ready to get married now If you have a different attitude towards it saying I am gonna seek a job We need to be financially stable before we get into it. We'll play a big role So your character and your attitude towards it also Has a huge role in it different cultures That's a question right now Even in our churches you see we have Americans Russians Hispanics Chinese black white every different culture The question rises up. Can I date from a different culture? in As you know, I'm you from Ukraine. She's from Mexico and though born in America. So I don't know what makes her So Will it work? Yes, it can and It should if you're mature enough If you're mature enough, there are certain differences right now that culture has no say in it whatsoever Because the way we are growing up right now some of the people even though you look at you and I say you're rushing You have nothing to do with Russia. You don't even know how to spell Russia probably So it's your maturity wise. Yes. Remember this different cultures have is different challenges But if you're mature enough That shouldn't play any role What in unites you is your vision not the language you speak Your vision and your goals that will bring you together and your your matured your matured has to do with everything I mean if two teenage, you know kids get get together, you know, there's even Even a round style of hair will sort of separate them, you know Or even if you didn't shower one day, you'll get you know, you will break up over that So maturity has to do with that but it's your vision and you go when me when I met my wife and I Knew her for a long time and and when I knew her vision that she wants to serve she wants to be involved in church I didn't care like well, do you make talk or did you make the Russian food? That wasn't it, you know but When I knew that she's gonna serve by me for the rest of her life because this her vision Then I was like man. This is this what it is. Let me tell you something guys looks fade and Go away But hunger doesn't Let that sink in find the one that can cook Looks fade but hunger doesn't hunger never goes away So if you if you get hangry a lot if I better find somebody who can cook How do I get out of abuse relationship? you first need to get mentors involved because You need to get either your parents or your mentors involved because Quitting it by yourself. It will be hard. It could be threatening. So you need some Authority to step in to help you to pray for it to help you recover And we also have counseling ministry here at church who can help you to recover from it and Maria I don't know she's she's here tonight, but One of the ladies here at church Maria. Her name is if you want to ask more about it She can she's right now helping many many people who came out of abuse relationship to help them to recover It's not easy But it's doable. It's doable and and like I said You if you cannot heal if you don't properly heal your next relationship will just be a rebound and and the I just feel sorry for the next person. So yes, it's possible first find mentors explain What's happening? Let them step in let them help them out in prayer and things like that About Christian and on Christian I want to touch the subject I like a boy But or I like a guy. I like a guy, but he doesn't come to church and he's not Christian. Can I still date him? The thing is it's you won't enjoy it You won't enjoy relationship where the person's Christian The person's Christian or you're not Christian or other way around because your visions and your goals and the things you do in life differ It's like one person is gonna be pulling one way the other person is gonna be pulling the other way and the fights will start Fights well in the beginning. You're like, oh, he's so cute. You know, he listens to gangsta music You know, but later on it is gonna irritate you so much that it can turn south Another question people say I've been dating this person already for some time and I just recently gave my life to Jesus Do I dump my boyfriend who's not Christian? That's a question that I cannot say yes or no to because we have many couples here in our church Who first the girl got saved like for example? Mike Doroshuk is he here tonight? He's the one that runs coffee shop his what his his girlfriend at the time first got saved and he wasn't saved And she came to us like do I dump him or like no pray for him She started praying for him He comes later on that service during that month gives his life to Jesus also and few weeks later a month later They get married and tonight and today they're one of the power couples at our church So I cannot tell you yes or no because it's every Situation will differ find mentors that can help you go by who can support you and can Closer answer your your question because it's not a yes or no but we've seen many many many times maybe the husband first gets saved and then He lives with his wife who does not believe in God keeps praying for her and the later on she gives her life to Jesus so it's not a Yes, or no question. So that's kind of a Good. What are some topics Christian should talk about before getting married? I would encourage every single person to listen now about Marriage Today podcast anybody know marriage Today podcast Marriage Today is by Jimmy and Karen Evans before we got married. I listened to some of the episodes like six times Marriage Today you don't need to be married to listen to that But it prepares you for marriage the things that you'll encounter the questions you need to ask and things like that So those are the topics that you should be the they'll give you enough topics. There's so much material out there To prepare you for marriage. It's insane Question came in is What should we do on our first date? Simple no, what should you do not eat? First thing is this ask questions What is your name Susan is that your real name Is this how you look when you wake up or did you put on a pound of makeup? Do you always shower in the mornings or you smell like this all the time? Do you brush your teeth? What's your credit score? You only debts You have to ask questions because you need to know the person My my biggest and the biggest advice when before you even ask them out is get to know them as a friend Don't ever tell a guy or girl you like her or Before you get to know them as a friend because the moment you tell him you like him Oh man, they put on a facade They put on this phase that I'm perfect For guys they're like I always shower shower always do my hair and I always put on the order. No, you don't Because only she said that she likes you now you start doing it You think all the time so it's like one of those things so if you like a guy or girl never tell her Get to know them as a friend Once you see the real them They just propose get married That's it. Exactly. But you know what that's exactly how me my wife did it. I knew my wife for about five years Before and then when the time came and it was right for us we start to our pastors we talked to our mentors to get married We didn't date We actually just proposed to her three months later. We were married So so that's that's that's the thing you guys have to understand In how many guys have friends and you know like oh, he's real, you know, he's real, you know, I'm sorry He's real all the time That's how you have to know them you have to joke around with them laugh with them That you know, they're always come late. They you know, they don't put on makeup and you see them You're like wow, you know, you look good without makeup You don't have to do this You know the real them so that when time comes and you tell them that you like them that that you know They're attracted that you know, I want to give this thing a shot that you're not surprised by the That they have going on inside of them So so because that's what happens. Sometimes they fall in love with the beauty, but next morning they wake up with the beast Hashtag They fall in love with the beauty, but next morning they wake up with the beast and like how did this happen? Well, you didn't know them as a friend you fell in love with just the the beauty aside of it But you forgot that there's there's a and everybody has a beast inside of them Everybody has that angry angry person that sometimes they don't serve those eggs, right? And you just flip out I said over easy You know getting to know from a distance is huge You get to see the way they communicate with others their siblings If you're around them and their siblings the way they treat their siblings Yet the way they treat their mom is gonna be huge So so getting to know them from a distance is huge because The way they treat their mom don't expect them to treat you any better So if you see them yelling at mom Sure enough. He will be yelling at you once you're married. So watch you from a distance is huge and uh They said how do you get out of a toxic? Somebody sent a message said that after hearing this message that about relationship. I want to I want to distance myself from my boyfriend or call it off What is the best way to go about it? How do I present it? So if you find yourself in a relationship right now and you're like man After hearing this message, it's the wrong time for me to date How do I call it quits and and still you know be able to pursue and and not have enemies? You if you call it quits, they'll still be mad. You have to understand There's no way there's no such thing as not offending them. You will offend them You have to explain to them. Look, I value my future and your future so much Then willing to do the right thing in the beginning You can't drive on an empty far on the empty car far enough You can't like if you don't do the right thing in the beginning you can't go far in life So that's what we have to understand if you're in it in a relationship right now You're like man, I'm only 14 and I'm dating right now. What the heck am I doing with my life? Simply bring it up. Look, I want to know My dreams and my passion and right now I only got you and you only got xbox. So we got nothing, you know So you you have to you have to you have to lay it down. Look, I don't even know myself I need to concentrate on building my character. I need to get a job first Hey, I need to learn how to clean up my own room before I even tell you that I love you or I like you or whatever it is Just simply lay tell them the truth. Don't sugarcoat. I have some guys come up say, oh She's not the right one. She's doing this she parties. She does this is that that how do I how do I leave her? But you know, I don't want her to go home and cry too bad She will Nothing you will do that will stop making her cry. You simply have to sell. Look, I I treasure our relationship So much that I'm willing to do the right thing. I know you might not like it now, but you'll appreciate it Appreciate it later. Simple as that. So, uh, that's Who should say I love you first? Whoever gets on their knee first Whoever gets that ring and gets on their knee This is a good one. How much of age difference is acceptable I think I don't think you should look at age Because you have to understand one part. There's some people who are 25 act like they're 15 And some 15 year olds act like they're 21 Age does play a role, but don't let that be your deciding factor Don't let that be decided fact. We have couples that are, you know, my dad and my mom. They're I think 10 years apart You know, but that's that that's the that's the culture they grew up in Now it's like you're one year older and everybody causes like, uh, you know, the end of the world came No, it's your maturity It's your maturity. There's some people who are 30 years old and they're they're young and they they look active and they're fun And they're laughing all the time and you think they're 21 So that shouldn't be like, oh, he's 31. I need to stay away from that guy or you know So it just talk to your talk to your mentors. They'll guide you into it But age shouldn't be your deciding fact. Yeah, if it's like 20 years apart, then I don't know, man We'll pray for you right after service Should I marry her even if she makes more money than me? Yeah Okay, so our timing coming to an end. I know you guys are enjoying it, but it's nine or three already everybody time is flying, huh So that's basically uh, all the questions that we have and uh, if we have the can we have the worship team come up front right now?