 Okay, welcome back. We were looking at influencing skills. We looked at one which is confrontation. We looked at an example. We were talking about how influencing skills help to motivate change and bring about the next level to move into to propel change in counselling. Okay, so we saw what influencing skills was. Let's look further. Let's look into the second one. The second type of influencing skill is what we call as focusing, the skill of focusing. Now, focusing, what does it enable a counsellor to do to direct the counsellor's conversation into specific areas? So you're directing the focus of your counsellor to another area, helping them to bring about a new perspective towards maybe a certain story that they have. So it's a sense of a redirection, something that you would want to help them to focus on. Like, for example, when you've noticed that a counsellor has mentioned very little about their family, the counsellor may believe that, you know, there is some relevance about their family and believing that there is something relevant about the contribution of the family to the entire situation may direct the conversation towards the counsellor's family. Okay, we look at an example. Yeah, let's look at an example. Here the counsellor is saying, I'm wondering how I will manage my finance. Many bills to be paid, the kids tuition fees, house maintenance and much more. So the counsellor says, you're worried about the many responsibilities you have financially. She says yes. A counsellor says often the amount and the way we spend our money can give us a good idea on how we can manage finances. What are the other things you like to spend on? So here, what the counsellor is trying to do is to really get her to focus on some aspect of the finance on how she may be spending on other things to really focus on that. So that's what the counsellor says, the amount and the way we spend our money can give us a good idea how we generally manage it. So what are the other things? So it gets pushed to thinking or to discussing something else that may require the relevance at that point. Okay, so that second part is focusing. The next one is interpretation or reframing. Now, this again is a skill that is very often used in the influencing. Now, what are you doing through interpretation or reframing? Your counselling is encouraged to see their experience in a different way or maybe in a more positive fashion. So the counsellor is encouraging the shift by offering alternate views or way of viewing their experience. So the objective is to help your counselling to build up a positive perspective towards a problem so that they can take effective action. It involves using a different frame of reference towards a problem. So looking at it from another lens or looking like, for example, you would have all known the example of the glass half full or the glass half empty. So it really depends on your perception of the way that you look at a certain problem. The more lack that you see, the bigger the problem appears. Maybe on the other hand, the more blessing that you can see, the smaller the problem looks. So that's basically what you're attempting to do, to be able to help the counsellor work through, to look at it through a different perspective. So let's look at an example. Okay, the example here is, let's look at maybe it's a counsellor who is upset about having to move away from their home. And maybe they're likely focusing on the loss of the support network that they have and maybe the familiarity of the people. So what is the counsellor doing here is they're acknowledging the counsellor's loss but is reframing the event to be perceived as an opportunity to experience maybe new places or new situations. So here, if you look at it, the counsellor is saying, moving away from home has made me miserable. I miss my family, my friends and everything that was so familiar. So the counsellor says, you feel I'm happy that you've left behind all your loved ones and everything that was familiar through this move. What good do you see through this all though? So you see the perspective is changing, that's what you are attempting to do. You've moved the lens and she continues to say, I don't know, everything is so new. So the counsellor again says, being in new situations can be quite stressful, isn't it? But there is an interpretation that's given. However, it can be an opportunity to experience new people and places too. What do you think? So there's been a different frame to look at it. So what is it encouraging them to do? To look at the life situation from an alternative frame of reference. This strategy may not change the facts of the situation and neither are you trivializing the pain or the hurt that your counsellor is going through. But you are helping them to find a new meaning to this, to reframe or to see it in a different way. So that's what reframing is. And this is your influencing, you're bringing them to a place of change to be able to look at their situation a little bit more positively. The next one is what we look at is logical consequences. Now logical consequences, what does it do? It enables the counsellor to see the outcomes of a different action or of alternate actions thus also looking at positive possibilities and concentrating on achieving those. So those counsellors who have unrealistic expectations about the consequences of following the goals are more likely to be non-compliant. But counsellors need to share and tell the clients what to expect as a result of both the directives either when you follow something or when you don't follow something. So here you're helping them to think about what could happen if they take an alternate action or if they continue to stay in that action. So let's look at an example. Now this is about a counsellor who is considering taking medication or for their depression. So the counsellor is saying what are your expectations regarding the medication that is given to you for depression. So the counsellor says I guess with the medication I should feel better in a few days and have them taken off. So there is this probably an unrealistic expectation here that you know I can take it for a few days and then I should just take them off. So the counsellor says actually there's an information given here actually the first few weeks you may really not experience much change. It may take a month or more to see the real effects of the medicine. So that is some kind of information that's given and here the counsellor says oh that's disappointing so they may have thought that you know just take it for a week. So the counsellor says you really wish it would work quick. However it would be necessary to keep a constant follow up with the doctor. So basically what you're doing here is to present the consequences to them. Like and here I see that these kind of examples happen more when counsellors need to make a choice like for example you know when they come up with some kind of addictions right and then they say you know there isn't any problem in my life. I don't think I should give up drinking completely. Yeah once in a while maybe yes I just want to stop for some time but then I would like to continue. So you may face these kind of situations and that's where these logical consequences are good. So that's where you could probably say you know bring about maybe a statement such as you know you were really I see that you're really hoping to continue with drinking for some time because you feel it doesn't impact your life as much. Then you focus them here I'll be doing two things I'll be reframing I'll be focusing differently. I'll say I'd like you to look at your work and tell me how has your drinking habit affected your work or what has been certain areas in your work that you see has had an issue. So what are you doing you're letting them know that okay you may be okay here in your family that no one's saying anything but how is it helping you or how does it affect you in your work. So you're actually helping them see the consequences of what can happen and sometimes a lot of this can just be done by questions by saying how does this how do you think this will affect this area of your life or what would it mean in another sphere of your existence. So to help them to understand those consequences so when you're doing this when you're bringing it up in the form of questions that help them see those consequences maybe they're in a better place to take a better decision on how they want to move that forward. The next type is what we call as self-disclosure. Now self-disclosure it's the intentional disclosing of the counsellor's personal information and you're doing this not because you want to share something about your life story only it is as part of your effort to one connect with your counselling as well as to bring about maybe some kind of motivation to help them see one that they're not alone that there is some way that even you may have gone through something and you figured out a way. So it involves you disclosing the counsellor disclosing some personal information which is relevant or supportive to the client's process of decision making. So it's like it's written here it's used as a factor of motivation which helps them to concentrate on the more beneficial effects of that situation and it also it does create that sense of trust and rapport in the relationship in itself. So when you are using self-disclosure you've got to be careful to the way that you use it. So you use self-disclosure to create a more trusting relationship or to model some appropriate behaving or to increase that sense of connection between you and your counselling or to influence change. So you've got to be very intentional you've got to be simple be very concise and simple share only what is necessary you don't have to say an entire story but share only that which is necessary to achieve that goal. You may you need to stay parallel that is you know only to the issue that is relevant to your counselling you do not lie you shouldn't be fabricating stories you should time it correctly and not over burden them and disclose too frequently it's not something that you would do very regularly but it is to it is done basically sometimes to build a good rapport and you need to have a good rapport before you disclose anything right if it is done too early it may almost seem that you are unburdening yourself on the counselling okay and again yeah to be able to talk about issues that are related directly to their situation. So let's look at an example here the example is here the counsellor is saying I know how hard it is to be consistent about disciplining the children I struggled with correcting the behavior of my children too for a while a few years ago often it just feels like it's more work and effort but at the end I have seen that it has paid off being consistent so she's not giving many details about what but just saying that okay I've also had the challenge of disciplining children and I've just seen that over the years it's important to be consistent so the client the counsellor says oh I can't imagine you have problems managing your children right so the counsellor says I take that as a compliment but it's been a learning experience for me too so it actually helps to show your counselling that that you're human that you also go through struggles that you also have to work hard that you also have to do something to change your situation so in some of those things it actually also helps okay the next one we're going through is feedback feedback is what does it do it it is about giving information objective information about maybe how how your counselling is responding or how they are improving or where they are at that time it differs from other skills like paraphrasing or summarizing in that the information that you give is a feedback to the the counselling it isn't about the content but it is about their behavior or it is about themselves it's described it what you're describing is how they act and appear to others when they're telling their stories it's a powerful technique that you can use when you know when actually counsellors hear things about themselves they are able to see the way that others perceive them okay which they may have considered or may not have considered now when you're doing feedback it should it should concentrate on the positive aspects of the individual and how that you can explode even better possibilities for greater improvement it it's not something that you would give as a negative feedback right that like like maybe you're saying you know you're so you're so jittery or you're so anxious or you seem to be very very scattered you know you don't have a time time schedule so that kind of a feedback can actually feel feel very very judgmental but then when you are seeing some form of an of an improvement it it actually helps to boost your counsellor so let's look at an example the counsellor saying I'm wondering if you have noticed that each time we have discussed the children your eyes have filled up would you explain to me what you're going through so here it's it's a notice you're noticing something about them giving them a feedback probably you know helping them to talk about something that may be sensible so so the counsellor says or over the past attendance sessions you seem to have made efforts to stick to the schedule you have prepared the progress you are seeing could be related to that that's a job well done so here there is a there is a sense of encouragement the other one is a different kind of a feedback helping them to explore some part of their lives which have not been explored up until now okay the next influencing skill is to provide information and broad suggestions now this is something you can introduce to a counsellor it's an information giving that involves giving them some factual information that can help them in some way maybe you know some some support that they would require so sometimes counsellors are not sure where they need to start looking for for information so counsellors can help their counsellors to find that starting point so when you're giving information you're only giving relevant data or facts that is needed for them okay you're also ensuring that they may be receptive to the information like for example you may be you know you would you feel that your counsellor needs a health checkup or may may require some kind of physical you know physical some regime either a checkup or some kind of an exercise to help them so you you need to ensure that they are receptive to the information right you don't give in all the details and then finally them saying no I don't think I should be doing it that doesn't work right so you have to bring them to a place of personalizing say okay I need to do something about this you also need to be direct be clear be specific be concise be concrete about what you're giving so here is an example the counsellor the counsellor says I have been wanting to know all the investment plans available in a bank but I'm afraid I really don't understand some of those terms so here the counsellor saying yes with all those jargons it can be very unfamiliar maybe a good person to approach is a bank manager so here you're giving certain certain details or certain certain things that is necessary necessary for them okay so remember that influencing skills are used in degrees depending upon the approach of the counsellor as well as your personal framework so depending on how what kind of an approach you use in the way you work with a counsellor is is is what is beneficial okay let's do maybe one or two exercises so let's just see if we can work through this okay so here's a counsellor saying I know I generally feel better after the medical procedure but visiting a doctor is so frightening those needles the smell and the entire environment can be very daunting okay so could one of you like to use any of these influencing skills either interpretation or reframing that is to help them see the more positive part of it or logical consequences would and if you like to try anybody likes to try are we all there on the other side of the screen nobody yeah oh yes Divya go ahead I'll just make a try it seems like you feel you feel concerned about going to going going for a doctor with it good you're doing well you're doing well now you want to reframe it do you think actually making a visit can make you feel better or or something like yeah I'm not sure good job good job I think you you did you tried you tried that's good that's good anybody else like to try okay so here's here's what you could say you could say something like you know it sounds that you're you're really nervous and and can be really frightening and I do see that those needles and that smell that environment can be extremely putting off isn't it I'm just wondering what do you think would once you finished it once you've had your medical procedure what do you see how would you see it is being once it's done what's beneficial what do you think would be beneficial right so what are you doing you're helping them you're you're helping them see okay once I finish my procedure then maybe I'll feel better I you know I I know I can feel better so you have got back on that feeling better part of it right so you you empathize that it is difficult it is hard yet I'm wondering how how would it be after your medical procedure what would you feel after your medical procedure what would you experience after your medical procedure and then she may say is that so then you could ask so would the medical procedure be worth it you know so that's that's something that you can you can try I think jeffina said I understand that it's fighting but I believe as you mentioned it makes you feel better and I hope that makes you feel happy okay right so that's again a reflecting thing now let's look at logical consequences so something like like what you could ask of is um you know again again empathizing is very important I do see that the medical procedure makes it difficult for you it's it must be quite frightening however what have you seen as the as the positives of having the procedure so you are getting them to bring about the positive logical consequences to it okay and then maybe you could once you've done that saying okay as against that what could happen if you don't take the medical procedure so you're getting the other side of it so then you're saying okay which of them do you think is a is a better state for you so I said yeah maybe I think it's better to feel better rather than feel worse so you're there itself you are helping them to rebuild that separately okay all right let's look at another example uh this is for feedback and self-disclosure okay so last week I used the techniques we discussed on how to control my anger by taking time out but this morning I completely lost it and screamed and shouted at my mother this is just hopeless okay what influencing skills can you use one feedback either feedback or self-disclosure come on this I think is a little bit more easier I didn't change the slide oh sorry sorry yeah okay so which which yeah so here's the the two skills right feedback or self-disclosure what what can you say what can you what are the two you could use any of the two either feedback or self-disclosure somebody would like to try anybody I'll just try you feel upset that you again lost your temper at your mother but I think you did a great job uh by uh trying out those techniques that we had discussed uh um keep trying on something like that good good very good good Divya thank you so much yeah so we could also say something like uh you know I I'm I'm sure it's really frustrating for you to be a to have lost your lost your temper on your mother this morning you know but I I really want to appreciate the fact that the last six days you were able to hold it so again I'm focusing on something that she could do and you know I really want to focus on on the last six days that you were able to hold it what have you learned about yourself that you know out of the last seven days six out of seven you were able to do or maybe it's just one out of seven okay suppose she says the last seven days I didn't do it only this one so I'd say out of that seven you were able to manage manage to work on something today so it it gives a sense of a feedback that you know you're doing well it's okay you're you're doing well or for self-disclosure it's something like I can imagine how frustrating it is you know I found myself also just losing it with my so and so and it can be really really frustrating so that that's as much as self-disclosure I may not say anything more but just help them encourage that how can we keep moving on okay all right okay good good good thank you so much that we have for for that all right we'll move on to the last part of it it is how do we initiate action so we've come to that place where we want our councillors to move from that place of exploring to that place on understanding and now moving them into a place of action how do we get them to work through into into action so here the goals that you would have is to help them develop strategies for accomplishing that specific goal that's what it is you know you are going to work with them to find ways alternative option strategies to accomplish the goal that they would want either it's working you know getting giving up alcohol or you know working on their anger or developing a relationship whatever whatever they are looking at second is to help them find strategies that fit them best and to formulate those plans and to work about certain ways of how you're going to have a plan so I've just taken an example of a couple a married couple who's come to you for help their daughter has decided to marry someone out of their fate and she's just broken the news only a day ago when the parents brought the proposal of her family friends son who's also well known to her so the parents are really upset at that decision and they've come to you for help so this is just an example that I would want to bring up and maybe look at ways of how we can help to resolve this okay generally if I will do this as a role play but but here I guess we may not be able to do that so what is the first task now remember we've come all that way and we are at the point of initiating the actions so what is strategy it is the art of finding or identifying or helping your counseling to choose realistic courses of action in order to achieve their goal and even and doing so maybe even under those adverse conditions okay there may be difficult situations so what what are you doing is what you're what you're helping them doing is find the kind of actions that will help them get what they want or what they need you may need to work alongside with them to brainstorm so that they can begin to think and also you can also suggest alternatives you suggest certain things and that's where you use something that we call as the prompt and fade technique so the here as a counselor I may say you know here are some possibilities so I'm I'm adding I'm saying some possibilities let's review them and see whether any of them makes any sense to you or we could suggest something else or we can say here are some of the things that people with this kind of a problem situation generally have tried how does that sound to you so that's a prompting okay that's where you prompt you fade by the fading part of that technique is by by by not giving not keeping it from being the advice giving okay it must they must see they must see that okay there are 10 of these strategies and I can choose one from them and I can commit to them so you may you may suggest it but it won't be that okay I think this is what you should be doing you don't come into that place of a position okay so here in Sam and Sarika's case what you're doing is maybe they come up with many strategies one is they give a time or they talk to Lena their child as a couple or they talk to the individual they talk to the boy they may ask Sarika's sister to talk to Lena they may ask their pastor to talk to Lena so there are four five action points that they have the strategies that they have decided to do okay so maybe their goal here is to convince their daughter that she needs to rethink her decision that's the goal that Sam and Sarika has come to you and you're helping them to find or brainstorm certain ideas okay now from here you would go in to also look for social support who can engage alongside with them so who are the individuals who might help them achieve their goal okay so that's what that's what basically that you are looking looking at who who else can help you in this situation so sometimes you will have two categories of councillors those who have a very very poor social life and those who are not using their social support effectively okay but I think as you keep pressing in there may be one or two people that they may be able to bring up in their list to help you to understand how what kind of support that they could come up come up with this so the questions that you ask in this kind of issue when you're enlisting support is who might help you to do this who's going to challenge you when you want to give up with whom can you share these concerns who's going to give you a pat on the back when you accomplish your goal so this in all of this what you are doing is increasing the the the hope ability of the situation right like I said who's going to give you a pat on the back when you accomplish your goal maybe it's a it's a body that they will want to take in in order to initiate the action because that really helps them to move forward with the situation like in sam and sarika's case it was the sarika's sister who was close to the family that they've enlisted or the pastor who they've enlisted okay moving on the second task is to help them choose the right strategies help them to figure out what is the best way to go so the strategy that they choose when they choose it will fit their situation it will fit their resources it will fit their personality it will fit their preferences and that's what you are getting them to do so these strategies should basically be specific that is it should be specific to drive that behavior it should be substantiated that is it should challenge your councillor's resources when actually achieving the goal it should be realistic it should be keeping with the values of your counselling all right so that's when the strategies are being formulated you look at these aspects of it it should be specific it should challenge the resources of the counselling it should be realistic and it should keep with the values of your counsellor counselling okay so here with sam and sarika's case you know they first of their options was they wanted to give it time so then you are looking at how much time what is the pros and cons of that time maybe then next one was talking to lina or individually or as a couple now these are probably some things that they have they have looked at and you're trying to help them see which would be the best fit strategy for their condition so each of those five points over here they will look at the pros and the cons of it to try and figure out what exactly can help them through that through that situation okay the next one is to help them formulate those viable plans and so once they have decided uh i'm sorry i think we got cut off was i got long yeah i think just uh two three minutes now just two three minutes okay okay so all right so um just going back to uh is is the screen on present yeah okay yeah so just to go back when when they are formulating those plans when they come to those plans you're helping them with discipline you're helping them through any kind of emotional overwhelm there is and also to help them if they need to have other kind of strategies to deal with that specific issue you're going to continue to helping them to do that okay now remember when you're looking at at at these plans remember you you're also giving you also need to give them an opportunity to evaluate how realistic these goals may be sometimes they may not be aware of how whether they are a realistic goal or not okay so you're you're going to provide that opportunity help them think about that next you will also make them aware of the resources they will need to implement that strategy like for example in the sam and sarika's case maybe they want to talk to the the pastor which means which means you know they may need to discuss all of this so that may be a resource do they have the time to do that do they there's the pastor have the time so you're making them aware of the resources and also helping them uncover any kind of obstacles that could come about in making them accomplish such and such a goal so that's something again that you will you will need to work with them now even as you're working through this all of this remember that there aren't any formulas okay sometimes you just have to have to let the Holy Spirit work with their needs their sense and and the way that they need to go through that okay when you are working with them you may be able in your discussion with them outline you know huge detailed plans but even if certain things don't go that it does remember there is there is the power of the Holy Spirit that works up to the end and I've seen that happen way so often even even in in things we've you know I when I've worked with people so here let's say Sam and Sarika the strategy that they have chosen is to talk to Lena so their plans is you know they will maybe pray together talk it over as a couple and then talk it over with their pastor so this is this is how they would have probably planned to do that so even as they have decided to do that what you're also doing is to work back with them in looking at each of these goals that they or each of these smaller goals that they have formed to see the pros and cons of it and as they continue they may say okay they will tell Lena that they would like to talk to her and fix the time and place pray together as a family before starting the conversation stay calm during the conversation focus on understanding her point of view share our belief so this is a certain plan that this couple may have may have come about okay so once once they have come to the plan the next is to implement and and it and every as every implementation as every plan has there is there is a discipline in being able to do that okay so being able to stay that course which they have decided okay and also self-control self-control is of course in the way that that those eight or seven plans which I showed you in the previous slide how they would not want to jump jump away from one because maybe the situation or the the issues are not conducive you also look you just don't look at strategy and tactics but you also look at logistics that is the art of being able to provide the right resources needed to plan in a timely way so maybe logistics is finding the right time to talk to Lena maybe letting her know well in advance preparing a day where they could all sit together maybe planning a meal outside so there are certain logistics as you're doing it so when you're doing this you're actually creating a kind of a blueprint on how they are going to build action so the more details you get into you get into really tiny details it makes the action alive for your counselling and that's what you are intending to do through that okay so here so Sam and Sarika the self-control is to stay calm during the entire conversation and be able to adapt what if Lena refuses to talk what if during the conversation Lena blows up so these are some of the things that you work alongside with them to figure out and that's what I said being able to look into smaller significant details as they as they come across that okay what are their resources the internal resources is to rely on the Holy Spirit and trust in God's will for Lena so that even as you are initiating that action you're bringing them up to a place and say this is all that we can do there may be other external resources which which you may need you're working alongside them to work through okay next is to you evaluate so you evaluate sorry I think I'll skip this slide just a minute okay so to evaluate what are you doing once something has happened you review those plans you help with modifications and look at a way of how you're actually teaching them to take responsibilities for themselves that is what is self-evaluation you are looking back into the way that they've handled things so that you know where they are at the part of resolving a certain problem okay and lastly is to is for feedback is to be able to give them a confirmatory feedback or any kind of a corrective feedback and generally feedback should be like let's say they come back either they've done well or they haven't you know they've done what they wanted to do or they haven't done so here's where you're giving them either a confirmatory feedback that you know hey good job well done you know things went as per as per what you had decided or a corrective feedback a corrective feedback you do it in the spirit of caring you're doing it helping them see that mistakes are okay and it's an opportunity for better growth corrective feedback should come concretely specifically and very briefly it should more focus on the behavior than on the personality and it should provide feedback in smaller doses rather than something that is that's extensively corrective right so it should be done with a lot of care all right okay now since we wrap this entire thing up again I'm not going through that this is where this is where we're going to put everything together what we've learned over the last couple of weeks we're going to add everything together so when we've looked at the counseling model we spoke about the counseling model as self exploratory understanding and action now what this chart depicts here is the various stages that both the counselor as well as the counselor pass through during this entire counseling process what it so first and foremost it shows the relationship between the attitudes and skills of the counselor and the learning process of the counseling here the attitudes as we had spoken about which are adopted are empathy unconditional positive regard and genuineness okay now to understand this okay so what are we what does this show you now during the initial stage the attending skills of the counselor the attending skills of the counselor affect the involvement of the counseling in the process so when you as a counselor attend you see the arrow coming down that's when the counseling gets involved in the counseling process once the counseling is involved the next stage begins which is the responding okay the responding skills of the counselor what does that do it stimulates the self exploratory stage in the counseling now the deepening self exploration enables the counseling process to pass on to the to the next level which is the personalizing stage the personalizing skills of the counselor will stimulate the self understanding of the counseling all right and the clear understanding makes it possible for the process to move to the initiating action to for them to initiate action and once that action is done that's when feedback and evaluation takes place okay I hope this is clear so let me just explain this again it is the arrows that you follow that when you attend the attending skills of the counselor will affect the involvement of the counseling so everything that you see in the bottom is the learning process of the counseling everything that you see on top is the skills of the counselor so the the attending skills of the counselor will affect how the way the counseling gets involved once the counseling is involved it moves to the next stage where the responding skills of the counselor will begin to stimulate the self exploration this can happen over and over and over and over again many times this level of deepening of self exploration will enable the counseling process to move to the personalizing stage and the personalizing skills of the counselor will stimulate the self understanding of the counseling and this understanding makes it possible for the counselor to help them move into the initiating stage where the counseling will take the relevant action steps for the problem and then it ends with a feedback as well as an evaluation okay I hope over the last what we've been talking about over the last I think four or five to six weeks is spoken about in this entire slide which shows that all of this work hand in hand together work hand in hand to move it from one process into the other okay all right any questions up until here by with this we finish our counseling skills we will be moving into specific different stages different areas of counseling that that may be if needed for us as people who are going to work with a set of believers with regular people you know with different stages and issues in life so from with this we end our counseling skills any thoughts any questions I hope this has given you you know a framework it's given you a summary a comprehensive summary of how this entire thing works so I know it it seems a lot clutter there are too many things going in but when you begin to start when you begin the process it will it it will pan into one into the other no questions is everybody stumped okay all right so let's just close with the word of prayer and yeah Heavenly Father we just thank you God for for so many things God that's that's been running in class over the last couple of weeks God you are the giver of all wisdom and knowledge and I just pray for each one of us Lord here in this call and who's going to view this God that you will lead us and guide us Lord for those of us who may want to pursue this further into deeper understanding I pray that you open up avenues opportunities where we can use some of these skills use this with Lord the spirits wisdom and knowledge thank you God for teaching us through these different ways of how to connect and how to work with people most of all God we rely on you as our as our greatest counselor the one who who gives us the right words the right things to say Father we pray Lord that you will empower us God to be sensitive to be loving to be empathetic to be to be non-judgmental but yet Father to speak and to help people with the truth thank you that you you work with each one of us Lord we pray that you will minister to us in our deepest needs God and give us and help us to be in a place of receiving from you so that we can give unto others be with us through the week till we meet again we ask God that you will you will empower us you equip us you will strengthen us in Jesus name we pray amen all right thank you so much God bless we'll meet you next week thank you