 When I said no, I'm not going to that conference. I'm not attending that event. I realized that my non-attending and my thought through reasons for not attending became a huge help to people who didn't know why they didn't want to go either. So they don't want to go either, but they don't know how to say why they don't want to go. So when your authentic self articulates why, it becomes helpful to people who also need a voice but can't find one on their behalf. So all of my uncoupling had to find language and communication really matters to me. So I languaged everything that was just a frustration. A frustration is no good. When you language your reasons that just present as frustration and anger, when I languaged them, it became this people would say, I feel what Paul feels. I wasn't trying to be a leader. They just say, no, what Paul said, that's what I feel. And so you're doing the work for others that can't or won't to articulate from your authentic self, here's why I can't be part of that.