 I don't know if you noticed but for the last couple of years there's been a rising tide in victimhood mentality and this is probably due to overuse of social media and due to the fact that a lot of news publication sites they need clicks that well guess what sells clicks fear based news fear always is a deeper driver of emotion and the reason why we humans are like this is because of our cognitive biases there is innate genetic reasons why we have a fearhood mentality group think mentality as I mentioned in my last video it served a purpose when we're hunters and gatherers but it doesn't serve a purpose today and you see a rising tide here north america socialism is on the rise victimhood mentality is on the rise and everyone's pointing fingers there's actually a good greek saying for that for every time that you point a finger at somebody three point back at you it's a never-ending vicious cycle and so one of my favorite authors of all time and if you haven't read this book go read this book today and that's victor frankel man's search for meaning and he quotes everything can be taken from a man but one thing the last of the human freedoms to choose one's attitude and any given set of circumstances to choose one own to paraphrase and if you don't know about victor frankel like I said please read his book he was in Auschwitz during the holocaust he saw the worst of the worst of human beings but he saw two really interesting things he saw people who could survive and people who couldn't survive and the only difference between the two and and all of them had the same environment they were stripped of it stripped away of their dignity their families were killed everything from them was ripped away but the one thing that they can't rip away from you is how you respond to your circumstances and so the people that survived the people that were able to cope with this were the people who were able to control their response and how they viewed what was happening to them as opposed to playing a victimhood they responded a different way of empowerment and so today we live in a society where everything is somebody else's fault and as a result we feel that we have no ownership of our own lives or what happens with it most people have a victimhood mentality the reason why I'm doing this video is I was recommended to do it about millennials but this isn't just to millennials this is applicable to everybody it doesn't matter if you're a millennial gen z gen x whatever it's called this applies to all age groups this applies to everybody anywhere around the world and it's tough because people who are in this circumstance I would say circumstance people who are in this paradigm a victimhood mentality it's subconsciously going on because of the cognitive pressures that they've been through you know it's not just by mistake you end up in a victimhood scenario it can happen through just the role of the dice like you like fuck man life sucks sometimes for some people that's the fucking reality man like it's you know you're born into a really fucked up family shitty role of the dice you're born into a war torn country shitty role of the dice it's fucked it's really fucked however um it's it's people tend to stay in that cycle and it's not till you go through personal development it's not until you go through therapy and therapy you can define a spiritual therapy psychedelic therapy cognitive therapy whatever whatever you want to define it as but until you go through the process of self-discovery you're going to be stuck in this victimhood mentality and social media makes everything fucking way worse ridiculously way worse my recommendation is don't go on social media these are called the three d's if you if you see people presenting these three d's or if you see yourself presenting these three d's these are usually the classical tales of somebody who is classical victimhood mentality number one and this is for all victims of anything in life is denial the first step to healing in any process whether it's a physical physical ailment whether it's a spiritual ailment whether it's a mental ailment financial ailment ailments of all kind the first obviously is denial like this is the first step in in AA so denial express itself by ignoring or minimizing central facts they just don't want to accept the reality that they are in currently they refuse to because the reality hurts too much and this is why people medicate and you can define medication in many different ways medication can be literally medication through drugs alcohol pharmaceuticals medication can't be through food medication can be through the sheer actor or the very act of being a victim and there's actually a medical term for that for um forget what it's called but the but but acting as a victim is your medication you want people to feel sorry for yourself so denial is the first expression of somebody who has victim hood mentality number two delusion they express itself by creating a false more variable reality so they delude themselves into a reality that doesn't exist whatsoever and they try to create alternative facts that fit in their narrative and this this is called confirmation bias like I said it's all the cognitive biases that come together to put pressure on you and unless you know about cognitive biases unless you know the literally uh free will is an illusion that you are programmed through genetics so if we're looking at two layers of the human body we have hardware and so when we first discovered DNA we thought we hit the holy grail we're like okay we're gonna find all the DNA and we're gonna realize gna does one thing gene v does another thing then we quickly realize that some plants are more dna than us then we quickly realize oh shit there's something called epigenetics where one dna can express in many different um i can express many different variations of expression meaning one d one strain of dna can do many different things so think of dna as your hardware like a computer then we have epigenetics which is a software now software is programmed by many different ways software is programmed on uh from the fetus until your age of seven so the nutrition uh the social cohesive bond in your family your lack of family the social cohesive bond in your let's say culture so let's say religious group or society group the social cohesive bond of your neighborhood obviously finance you know social economics etc and then finally physical things you can't control you got in a car accident you went on a trip and severely injured yourself that you were stuck in bed for eight months and you gain weight and now you're miserable etc and then finally after the delusion process it's a default process so once the denial sets in once the delusion sets in now that's the default and then that rints and repeats so you should ask yourself these questions do you have denial in your life do you have delusion in your life and is that your default as opposed to your response as victor frankle talks about you never want to react you always want to respond so the denial delusion and default i want you to take a look at this graph here and look at the bottom of the graph and then we'll come back to the top of the graph so bottom the graph is classical victimhood diagram right you have three types of victimhood mentality you have rescuer victim and persecutor and they're they work in a trifecta one needs the other and so forth and so forth and they feed off of each other it's a vicious cycle of negative energy and you tend to see it you know there's a saying uh like attracts like so people want to hang around with people that represent how they think they want to hang around with people how they look like themselves they want to hang around with people in their own religious groups they want to hang around with people in their own social economic groups etc so like attracts like and it becomes worse and worse because you keep on attracting same people that have the victimhood mentality and guess what it becomes a vicious hurdle down it's like crabs in the bucket everyone's grabbing each other and no one wins as opposed to the empowerment dynamic where you're the creator of your life you are god itself you're the coach of yourself any challenge yourself this is amazing feedback loop once again these are all feedback groups fractals of life this fractal of life creates a model of going up as opposed to the victimhood mentality which creates a model of going down one is about empowerment one is about what victor frankle talks about controlling your response to your stimuli whatever that may be whatever has happened to you you know there's a good buddha saying there's a buddha story a mother who has lost her son is grieving heavily crying and sad approaches the buddha and the buddha asks what is wrong mom and the mom says i have lost my son you know i'm i'm broken i don't know what to do and i'm depressed and the buddha says look around you who hasn't lost and so what the buddha is saying is everyone has lost everyone has suffered you know for fuck's sakes the buddha is saying life is suffering but people take that as a negative connotation it should be a positive connotation through suffering you find enjoyment through suffering you find lessons through suffering you find growth but it's how you perceive it right if you're denying the suffering doesn't exist and you can't change yourself if you're diluting yourself that everyone else is a fall by yourself then you can't fix yourself and so looking at these diagrams they paint the perfect picture of mental models between somebody who wants to empower themselves and therefore empowering others as opposed to one who's in a victimhood mentality who wants to drag everybody down and so buddha is saying you know life is the creation of our mind and so you might be wondering what to do right it's like okay i'm in this horrible situation the first thing to ask yourself is what are the facts in your life what are the facts because you can't run away you can't ignore things you know if you are in an economic situation if you are in a bad relationship if you are whatever it doesn't matter if you are x fill in the blank you must audit and figure out what the cold hard facts are facts do not lie once you have the facts then we can break that down into steps to fix those facts because most people want an easy button in life right big green button bang easy everything's fixed life doesn't work that way you know people always want to jump to the end Joseph Campbell talks about is like life the process is the journey there is no end the end is the journey itself once you understand your facts we can break it down into tangible tidbits of actual steps and i would actually recommend reading jordan peterson book about this fantastic book and so most people try to bite too much they can chew and so i would recommend first auditing asking yourself what is the fact i'm in number two which one do i want to handle first and then how do i handle this right i made a video a long time ago about auditing your friends some people thought it was a joke and i was talking about auditing your friends but i wasn't kidding around i was literally speaking about that i'm not talking about kicking out in a violent way i'm not talking about telling them fuck off i'm talking about surrounding yourself with people who have the let's go back to here the empowerment dynamic and so you can't get out of your situation if you're around people who are in the victimhood mentality and if you start making excuses that you can't find people who are in the dynamic empowerment then you're in that delusional state you're back to your default state anytime you make any excuse you go back to your default state just remember that this is a litmus test that you can do any single time that you make excuses you are once again delusional there is a famous afobs fable it's called with the fox so there's a story about the fox and the grapes i don't know if you know about it but the fox forever is trying to get these grapes jumping jumping jumping and you can't get the grapes and finally one day he gives up he's like fuck those grapes and he makes up a story a narrative in his mind that these grapes are sour hence the phrase sour grapes and so he's made up the story right so he couldn't do it so he had to make up a narrative of why he couldn't do yeah the grapes are sour i don't need the grapes you know you know bullshit stuff the stories that we tell each to ourselves you know go back to this buddha said our life is a creation of our mind so if i'm telling myself that the grapes are sour the grapes are sour it's a cop out anytime that you catch yourself in this situation we're making excuses about well she's lucky well you know i can't do that oh lucky for you uh or you know i big one i don't have time for it um those are copouts you're in denial you're making once again delusions and you're back to your default and so your job is to once again i want to reiterate this is audit the facts of your life it's gonna hurt yeah man yeah it's gonna hurt but that's the path to growing if if life was easy everyone would do it this is why i find it hilarious when people talk about like you know it was easy for him what do you mean easy do you know his story or her story what do you mean easy you know you're out you're a home sitting never reading a book that guy over there is working 100 hours a week putting everything has into it and so you need to really audit your life and audit the facts that you have and then audit your friends and then really ask yourself are these friends putting me up in the empowerment dynamic or they're putting me down in the drama triangle and making me into a victim then once you audit your friends the third thing you need to do is create a very simple plan one thing at a time you know it could be for example victim hood mentality when it comes to money ah it's easy for you lucky for him you know blah blah blah ask yourself why in my whole life i've never been able to make wealth why other people make it so there is a formula it works it obviously works what are there what are they doing that i'm not doing what am i not accepting right remember what i said last video he who thinks he knows doesn't know he who knows he doesn't know knows it's about staying humble and it's about shattering your ego the ego you know people view ego as negative ego is not negative egos innate egos nothing egos not good egos not bad ego is a mechanism in your mind of self-defense the ego more or less is constituted from the age of like zero till eight give or take and so the way that you are your character how you behave is based on two things i mentioned before based on hardware that based on epigenetics and epigenetics meaning social structure family structure social economic structure etc and so the way that you express yourself these are masks you know the archetype archetype of the subconscious mind different masks and these masks aren't evil or good these masks were created to protect yourself when you're younger the way we behave is through trauma the mask that we have is protecting our trauma inside of us and these masks serve their purpose when you're younger but doesn't serve the purpose for you today if you look at most people who are in the victimhood mentality there's a common denominator it's them they've been the same their whole life it wasn't like overnight they become in a victimhood mentality it's not like oh tomorrow i'm the victim boo-hoo-hoo boo-hoo-hoo this is why if you look at statistics from million years ago broke they rebuild their wealth extremely fast because they have the model and they don't fall into the victimhood mentality they fall into the empowerment dynamic and so i'll leave you with this quote again buddha said our life is a creation of your mind and so don't fall into this victimhood mentality so here's a checklist go get victor franko's book out of your life ask yourself do you fall into 3d's a toxic 3d's and then take a day by day don't deny facts don't deny the pain suffering accept it as your teacher and take one step at a time thanks for watching and if you have any questions about this leave a comment below the video and by the way if you haven't already subscribe the link is somewhere talk to you guys soon peace